The Overwhelmed Brain
Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
Get to the root of emotional issues and learn the best way to relate to yourself and others by honoring your personal boundaries and making decisions that are in alignment with what's most important to you.
This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be.
Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others.
If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place.
This is not a "common-sense" personal growth and development show. You won't be told to think positively or create affirmations. The Overwhelmed Brain is about accessing that deeper mental and emotional strength inside you so that you can decrease or even eliminate old fears and evolve into the person you want to be.
Learn what your parents or caretakers never taught you about emotional wellness and creating strong, non-toxic bonds with others.
If you want the exact instructions that will help improve your life, you're in the right place.
Episodes
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Apr 3, 2022 • 55min
When is it time to wean your parents off of you?
There's a point where you've left the nest and started living your own life. But some parents haven't let you go. Some tell you how to live your life. Some are just toxic and won't leave you alone or stop telling you what to do. And some just don't want to let go of the parenting role because they think you can't handle life. There's a point you have to help them let you go.
Mar 27, 2022 • 1h 13min
To compromise, sacrifice, or support no matter what
When it comes to relationships, I think it's best to support the other person as much as possible. The trick is doing so while you disagree with what they're doing. Choosing to instead reject or deny what they want to do for themselves could lead to tension and changes of behavior you may not like. Is it best to sacrifice who you are for them? Or can you reach a compromise? Sometimes even supporting someone you love isn't enough.
Mar 20, 2022 • 1h 16min
Balancing your life with only those things and people that matter
Sometimes a friendship takes an unexpected turn. Who you thought was your bestie suddenly leaves you out of an important event in their life or doesn't share things they used to share with you. What's going on in that case? Have they changed? Are they suddenly unhappy with you? I talk about that and also read a message from someone who is looking for the mental fortitude to create forward momentum in his life. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes
Mar 13, 2022 • 1h 7min
The pressure that builds when you can't let go of the negative emotions
The pressure that builds inside you when you don't say or do what you really want to say or do has to come out. Holding on to negativity is like keeping your hand on the hot stove and expecting not to get burned. You can express and release the negativity on your terms, or it can surprise you by coming out around people you love later. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes
Mar 6, 2022 • 59min
Are you judgmental toward people that bother the heck out of you?
We can be so critical sometimes, especially toward people we love. Is it necessary to continue being judgmental or critical toward people that never change? Is it our job to change them? Judgments really have no place in relationships but when they are there, they almost always lead to disconnect and resentment. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes
Feb 27, 2022 • 1h 11min
When you want the greener grass on the other side - the life you want vs the life you have
When the life you have looks a lot less appealing than the life you could have, you may have lots of feelings about it. You may even obsess about it. What can you do about these thoughts? Is it time to give up and give in to a mundane life, or can you reconnect with the way you used to feel? Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes
Feb 20, 2022 • 1h 4min
Is there such thing as an instant soul mate or is that the first warning sign of a difficult relationship?
When you meet someone and instantly feel love at first sight, like they're your "soulmate" or "the one," it's possible that not only are they not the one, but they may actually be the one person you want to get away from in a few months. There are many caveats to meeting someone you have an instant connection with. I talk about that and more in this episode. For more episodes, visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/podcasts
Feb 13, 2022 • 1h 15min
Not everything is your fault
You might take the fall for a lot of things that happen when you probably don't need to. Sometimes, that's a kind thing to do. But when it happens more often than not, especially with certain people, you're probably in a toxic (tox-sick) situation that needs to be resolved. Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com for more episodes
Feb 6, 2022 • 1h 4min
Does bad behavior ever deserve a free pass?
Is saying "I didn't mean it," a good excuse for bad behavior? Some people can be out of control due to drugs or alcohol, so they might do stupid things when they don't really mean to do them. However, should you ever allow the stupid or hurtful things that people do slide? Should you ever give a free pass to someone for unintentional bad behavior? Visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ for more episodes.
Jan 30, 2022 • 1h 16min
The smile of denial that keeps you feeling miserable
If you tend to suppress your thoughts and repress your emotions, and put on a smile to show the world, you might be on your way to depression and anxiety. If that's your goal, don't change a thing! However, if you want to change that trajectory, it might be time to make different choices that empower you. For more episodes visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/podcasts
