Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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Aug 7, 2023 • 35min

13 | His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity

Triggers, what are they and how do they affect us? Triggers come without warning and without our permission. Today we’re going to dissect the ways we are triggered and how we should handle them, so they are not destructive, but rather an opportunity for healing, connection and growth. And good heavens, do they ever stop?   Grab your favorite beverage and buckle up as we talk about triggers.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) The Second Coming Tattoo Parlor, Fort Worth, Texas - ask for Felipe  RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review.     ✔️If you have a question for Johnny or Emily, you can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com  
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Jul 31, 2023 • 45min

12 | His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?

What actually happens to a person who has experienced betrayal? What happens in the mind of one who has their reality shattered in an instant?   Today we’re going to be discussing the effects of this type of mental and emotional injury when someone is betrayed. We’ll be sharing with you how this affected us after Johnny’s confession of adultery through pornography use and extra-marital relationships and how we sorted through the reality that our marriage was not what Emily thought it was. We’ll also share what we did to sift through the wreckage and find the nuggets of truth which then helped us to start building our new, more honest and beautiful, reality together.   So, grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we have a conversation about what is real and not real.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) The Aftermath of Betrayal by Michelle D. Mays LPC, CSAT-S   RELATED EPISODES:       Episode 8. I’m So Angry! How I Overcome Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review.     ✔️If you have a question or comment for Johnny or Emily, you can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com    
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Jul 24, 2023 • 38min

11 | Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal

Do you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply?   On our show today, we’re going to unpack 4 keys to unlocking forgiveness. This method is simple, but it’s definitely not easy. So how do we get through this difficult process? We will share with you how this approach played out in our marriage after porn-fueled infidelity and where we turned for help.   Grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we delve deeper into the topic of forgiveness.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) The Healing Apology (request .pdf at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review.     ✔️If you have a question for Johnny or Emily, you can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com    
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Jul 17, 2023 • 41min

10 | When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology

Do you appreciate getting an apology? Do you have a hard time extending one? Do you even know what a good apology looks like?   Join us today as we cover the 8 steps to a healing apology, which is so helpful in a marriage, especially when there has been some form of betrayal.   We have experienced the power of this healing apology in our own marriage after the discovery and disclosure of pornography use that escalated into infidelity. Giving an apology the wrong way can be even more hurtful than not doing it at all. But, done correctly, it can open the door to forgiveness, healing and hope.   So, grab something to take notes with and your favorite beverage and listen in for a step-by-step process to an amazing healing apology.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily       💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Center for Relational Care (CRC)             Austin/Dallas 512.492.6200    Atlanta 678.653.3272 Gary Smalley, Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships (Drive-Through Talking) How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Request the Healing Apology worksheet at support@beyondbrokenvows.com (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases..)                         Next Steps:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review.     ✔️If you have a question for Johnny or Emily, you can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com    
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Jul 10, 2023 • 42min

09 | I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps

Do you get angry while driving in traffic? Have you ever had or seen road rage? Are you the person that yells at everyone making stupid and even dangerous driving mistakes from inside your car with the windows up?     I can’t say I’ve never had a burst of anger when driving, but in recent years I have made it a practice to try and give other drivers the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have an emergency, maybe their kids are distracting them... And it also helps to remind myself that I have probably done the same stupid thing before myself and that I’m not the only one with important places to go. But, this isn’t the kind of anger we’re going to talk about today.     Anger can be a catalyst to create needed changes or to promote justice, but it can also become disastrous if not contained within some specific boundaries. Today we are going to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly aspects of anger and how to move through it so we are not trapped in this potentially destructive emotion.     We all struggle with anger at times, but we don't have to let it rule the day. So, grab your favorite beverage and stick around as we have an honest  conversation about Emily's anger caused by Johnny's betrayal and how she learned to overcome it with 3 simple (but not easy) steps.     We pray this blesses you,     Johnny and Emily       💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman   (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     D
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Jul 3, 2023 • 29min

08 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)

The hosts dive deep into the concept of rigorous honesty, exploring its critical role in recovery from betrayal. They discuss five types of lies and their personal experiences with truth-telling. Johnny shares the emotional weight of complete honesty, while Emily emphasizes the need for full disclosure to rebuild trust. The conversation highlights practical steps for achieving transparency, the challenges faced, and the role of faith in their journey. They inspire listeners to embrace honesty for freedom and healing in their own lives.
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Jun 26, 2023 • 33min

07 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1)

Discover the five surprising types of lies that can undermine even the strongest relationships, from direct untruths to gaslighting. The hosts share their own marriage struggles with honesty, revealing how omitted truths and justifications for poor choices can deeply impact partners. They emphasize the importance of prayer and scripture in overcoming dishonesty. Get ready for valuable insights on achieving rigorous honesty and healing from betrayal, promising a transformative journey towards complete truth-telling.
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Jun 19, 2023 • 47min

06 | Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in Marriage

Discover the crucial role of boundaries after betrayal in marriage. The hosts explore how infidelity shatters initial vows and the importance of setting new expectations. Personal stories reveal how boundaries foster communication and rebuild trust. They share practical strategies, like phone accountability and location sharing, to enhance safety and transparency. The discussion also includes spiritual insights on boundaries from scripture, demonstrating their transformative potential in relationships.
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Jun 12, 2023 • 29min

05 | The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal

The decision to stay married after sexual betrayal is a very difficult one to navigate. We understand this because the effects of infidelity shook each of us to our core. If you've been listening to our show you know we are still married, but we didn’t go through this on our own. We had an incredible amount of support and guidance along the way.   In this episode we're going to open up about the personal effects that infidelity had on each of us while shedding light on the reasons behind our mutual decision to preserve our marriage, despite the pain.   We also have a list of valuable resources to share with you—ones that truly made a difference as we navigated our new reality. But the most important thing we want to leave you with is the hope of redemption and the grace, mercy, and love of our amazing God!   So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable and get ready for a story of resilience and faith.    We pray this episode blesses you,   Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Centers for Relational Care (CRC) - 5 day marriage intensive The Aftermath of Betrayal by Michelle Dr. Mays LPC, CSAT-S Gary Smalley - Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships  Proverbs 15:22 Numbers 6:24-26 (The Priestly Blessing)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     D
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Jun 5, 2023 • 20min

04 | Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery

Hi Friend,    In today's episode we will be telling a quick version of our love story from how we met and got married up to the day of Johnny's confession of adultery that we call Discovery Day.   If you haven't heard our story as told by each of us from our own perspectives, you can listen to Emily's story in Episode 2 and Johnny's story in Episode 3.   We are telling our story together today to help you understand that we are ordinary people who love Jesus, but how the Enemy was able to wreak havoc in our lives. We also share the hope of redemption and the grace, mercy and love of our amazing God!    We pray this episode blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases.)  Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. Why Are We Talking About Betrayal? A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.   .    

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