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What happens to a marriage, shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, that doesn’t undertake a specific recovery process? What happens to the individuals in that marriage?     We believe, it’s likely that this marriage will be devoid of real connection and true intimacy. Sure, it is possible to stay married without recovery. Couples can sweep it under the rug denying it’s impact. Or, one spouse may be unwilling to do the hard work of recovery and leave the other feeling not seen and not secure in the marriage. Or, one spouse may want to work hard, but the other can’t find a way to forgive and move forward.   But, is this what you signed up for when you said, “I Do”?   Today we wrap up our series on the 12-Steps of Recovery from Sex Addicts Anonymous. It is our heartfelt desire that if you are in a marriage broken by adultery and betrayal, you will seek out a recovery program that can walk you step-by-step into freedom and peace. And a marriage better than you ever imagined possible.   So, grab a comfortable seat and join us as we share the hope of Jesus through our wrap up of the 12-steps.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                       RELATED EPISODES: Episode 39. Recovery Step 10: 4 Ways to Keep Your Relational Slate Clean & Stay Clear of Porn Addiction Episode 41. Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s Will Episode 42. Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex Addiction   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     D

Have you ever experienced a life-changing revelation that compelled you to share it with others and integrate it into your life? This is similar to the impact of embracing recovery and is at the very heart of what we felt when we surrendered to Jesus. Today, we will explore the 12th step of recovery, and how we can actively share our message while living out these steps in our daily lives.   So, grab a beverage and something to take notes with and join us as we discuss 7 ways we can share our message of hope with others.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Valentines Special – Sign up to get access to discounts on coaching in February.insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases)                     RELATED EPISODES: Episode 38. Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual Behavior Episode 39. Recovery Step 10: 4 Ways to Keep Your Relational Slate Clean & Stay Clear of Porn Addiction Episode 41. Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s Will   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Do you find it difficult to connect with God and know his will for your life?   If you said yes, you are not alone. Just like the recovery journey, it takes a lot of persistent and consistent effort to cultivate a close relationship with the Lord. It doesn’t come naturally to us mere humans, but there is a roadmap for discovering how to make connecting with God a priority. It’s found in the Bible. Today we are going to unpack Step 11 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program, which is all about this sometimes elusive yet always fulfilling practice of knowing God and his will for us.    So grab a drink, your Bible, and a pen and join us for this journey into seeking God’s will for our lives and his power to carry it out.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Valentines Special – Sign up to get access to discounts on coaching in February.insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. ( As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                       RELATED EPISODES: Episode 38. Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual Behavior Episode 39. Recovery Step 10: 4 Ways to Keep Your Relational Slate Clean & Stay Clear of Porn Addiction   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  

Let us be the first to wish you a happy Valentine’s Day! Okay, how did that make you feel? Did you smile? Did it make you cringe? Did it bring up a feeling of excitement, or anger or even dread?   We’ve found that Valentine’s Day is a tricky holiday. Well, it’s not a public holiday, but it is a recognized day on the calendar for celebrating love between sweethearts. We’re going to be talking today about the different ways people either love or hate this day that comes around every year with shocking regularity. We're also going to be sharing the nitty gritty of our first Valentine's Day after discovery and reminding you that you are not alone and there is hope for you and your marriage.   So, grab yourself a box of those sugar candy hearts and join us for a revealing look into Valentine’s Day.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! We have a special coaching discount for you in February! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Have questions or comments? Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe.   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                        RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 30. Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Do you have a daily practice of self-reflection? Do you ever stop to take stock in how you act, think, and feel when relating to others? Most of us have heard the phrase - wash, rinse, repeat. And no, we aren’t talking about the latest greatest shampoo. Today as we talk about the 10th Step in SSA Recovery we will peel back the layers of what a daily personal inventory can look like and why we should even do it?   From the Green Book of Recovery: “In the 10th step we embrace the discipline of regular spiritual house-cleaning. Just as we took action to repair the damage we caused in the past, so we continue taking inventory of our behavior, and making amends when needed, in our lives today. Working step 10 helps us deal with our shortcomings on a daily basis. Even with our best efforts, we make mistakes. We are human, and we fall short of the mark regularly, even when we are abstinent from our addictive sexual behavior. In taking the 10th step, we commit to keeping our house in order, whether old failings reappear, or new ones arise, as they inevitably will.”   So grab a pen and notepad and something refreshing to drink and join us for an illuminating conversation on the benefits of daily self-examination.     We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 37. Recovery Step 8: My Addiction To Porn Hurt Others. 4 Questions to Ask When Making it Right Episode 38. Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual Behavior   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  

Last week we asked the question: Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you hurt them but understood exactly how you hurt them?   This week we want to ask: Have you felt any fear or intimidation when making the choice to go back and right that wrong?   We have a special guest today who is going to share with us his experience with Step 9 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program.   So go ahead and pop in your ear bud and join us! It is time to take action toward those we have harmed through our behavioral choices by making amends.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: The Promises (From Sex Addicts Anonymous) (Discussed in Episode 27 - Step 2) If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations, which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.  Are these extravagant promises? We think not! They are being fulfilled among us sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.   Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 36. Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography Episode 37. Recovery Step 8: My Addiction To Porn Hurt Others. 4 Questions to Ask When Making it Right   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.  

Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you had hurt them, but understood exactly how you hurt them? Today as we cover the 8th step of recovery of Sex Addicts Anonymous, it is time to do the work of making a list of those we've harmed through our destructive sexual behaviors and become willing to make amends.   Working this step means finding the willingness to bring resolution to these relationships, regardless of whether or not those involved behaved rightly toward us. This process of becoming willing to make amends involves a deeper surrender to our higher powers’ will than we have known before.”   Grab a cup of coffee or wine and something to jot down notes with and join us as we explore the process of making amends.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe.com/BeyondBrokenVows   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 35. Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you Decide Episode 36. Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Have you come to a place in life where you have been humbled by your own actions and are ready to move forward with hope and integrity? It is time to approach God humbly and ask him do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.   From the Green Book of Recovery: "We may wonder why it is necessary to ask humbly. Many of us have confused humility with humiliation. We were more familiar with pleading for, or demanding what we wanted, than with asking. In fact, it takes humility to ask for help. It means admitting that we are not wholly strong and self-sufficient. It means that we are not too proud or ashamed to believe that we can be helped.   Change occurs in God’s time, not ours. As addicts, we are accustomed to seeking instant gratification. But in recovery, most of us experience gradual improvement rather than sudden transformation."   So, grab a cup of whatever you are telling yourself is healthier than what you did last year and get ready to explore humility before God with us.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 32. Recovery Step 5: What Have I Done? Admitting How My Porn Addiction Hurt Myself and Others Episode 35. Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you Decide   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Have you come to a place where you understand that some of the things that you do are not beneficial for you? Or are even hurtful to others?   What do you do once you’ve discovered this? Do you say, “Well, that’s just me.” Or, do you decide that you want to change these behaviors for your own good and the good of those you love? If so, how do you go about making these changes?   From the Green Book of Recovery: Character defects are undesirable traits, attitudes, and beliefs that make our lives unmanageable, cause pain to others, and block our spiritual growth. Our problems did not begin with our sex addiction, nor do they end when we get into recovery. Step 6 builds on the recognition that our malady has roots that run deeper than just our acting-out behavior. It requires the willingness to change. Today we will talk about how we take our moral inventory and walk it out in a very practical way.     So, pour out your expired eggnog, grab yourself a fresh Cup o’ Jo and get ready to ask yourself some important questions.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                        RELATED EPISODES: Episode 31. Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex Addiction Episode 32. Recovery Step 5: What Have I Done? Admitting How My Porn Addiction Hurt Myself and Others   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.    

Have you noticed that New Year’s resolutions don’t last much past January for most people? Statistically, 91% of Americans fail at New Year’s resolutions. That’s not very encouraging.   We were going to talk about the reasons why resolutions are so hard to keep in today’s episode, but then Holy Spirit intervened. So, we threw out our outline and just had a candid conversation about our first New Year after sexual betrayal shattered our marriage.   Today, on New Year's Day, we want you to know that resolving to stay in your marriage that has been broken by sexual betrayal is a personal decision and a difficult one. However, if both spouses are willing to surrender to God’s will, do the hard work, and extend lots of mercy and grace - it is very possible and so worth it!   Listen in as we remember what our first New Year’s after betrayal looked like and how we found hope for our future together.   Happy New Year!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Abide in Christ, by Andrew Murray (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 30. Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We strongly recommend consulting your physician or mental health provider for personalized advice, support, or treatment concerning your well-being. In the event of a crisis, please dial 911 for immediate assistance.