Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift

* We live in a very wounded... broken... and fallen world that's full of terrible pain. * Every person gets their share of this terrible pain. It looks different in every person's life... but everybody gets their share. There's sickness... disease... divorce... rape... murder... miscarriages... sexual abuse... physical abuse... car accidents... depression... mental illness... adultery... death... and the list goes on and on. These terrible things... and many more like them... happen in virtually every person's life in various combinations. * In the same way a person would instinctively yank their hand away if they accidentally touched a hot stove... virtually every person instinctively tries to minimize... numb... anesthetize... eliminate... or escape the pain that happens in their heart and life. Because of this... virtually every person... whether they consciously realize it or not... is in the pain management business. * People attempt to minimize and/or escape their pain in many different ways... and one of the primary ways that many men attempt to manage the pain in their life is through the power of their orgasm. A man's orgasm can allow him to escape what's making him feel bad... even if it's just for the several moments of intense pleasure and euphoria that his orgasm provides. Thus the title of this episode... Pain Management Through Orgasm In these episodes Tony explains how he used his orgasm... for many years... in a way God never intended a man's orgasm to be used... and then goes on to discuss an incredibly important question... If a man can no longer use his orgasm to manage the pain in his life... what should he do with his pain? In these episodes we discover why it's so important to have a proper THEOLOGY OF PAIN... and the 15 Principles of the Theology of Pain that will enable us to manage our pain in a much healthier way.

* We live in a very wounded... broken... and fallen world that's full of terrible pain. * Every person gets their share of this terrible pain. It looks different in every person's life... but everybody gets their share. There's sickness... disease... divorce... rape... murder... miscarriages... sexual abuse... physical abuse... car accidents... depression... mental illness... adultery... death... and the list goes on and on. These terrible things... and many more like them... happen in virtually every person's life in various combinations. * In the same way a person would instinctively yank their hand away if they accidentally touched a hot stove... virtually every person instinctively tries to minimize... numb... anesthetize... eliminate... or escape the pain that happens in their heart and life. Because of this... virtually every person... whether they consciously realize it or not... is in the pain management business. * People attempt to minimize and/or escape their pain in many different ways... and one of the primary ways that many men attempt to manage the pain in their life is through the power of their orgasm. A man's orgasm can allow him to escape what's making him feel bad... even if it's just for the several moments of intense pleasure and euphoria that his orgasm provides. Thus the title of this episode... and the next... Pain Management Through Orgasm In these episodes Tony explains how he used his orgasm... for many years... in a way God never intended a man's orgasm to be used... and then goes on to discuss an incredibly important question... If a man can no longer use his orgasm to manage the pain in his life... what should he do with his pain? In these episodes we discover why it's so important to have a proper THEOLOGY OF PAIN... and the 15 Principles of the Theology of Pain that will enable us to manage our pain in a much healthier way.

From the time William was just a young boy... he knew he was "different" from all the other boys. He felt like like he didn't fit in with the girls... and he didn't fit in with the boys. When he was in second grade the other kids began to make fun of him... and tell him that he was "gay"... even though he didn't know what that meant. Over the next several years William tried to like girls... because that's what he was supposed to do... but the girls rejected him over and over again... and it was so hurtful that he unconsciously began to put up a wall between him and "girls". For some reason William always felt more comfortable with other guys than he did with girls... and although he could have friendships with guys on a personal level... in public even his friends scorned him because they didn't want to be associated with William. When he eventually began attending college... William was lonely and almost desperate for connection with others... and he soon learned to find the attention... affection... and connection he was looking for... in exchange for the sexual intimacy so many other guys wanted from him. Williams story is amazing... because it's another story of God's ability to heal and redeem a deeply broken person... and it's a story that stands in contradiction of a very powerful lie that exists in our culture today. The lie that says things like this... * Once a person's gay... they have to always be gay... because it's impossible to resist or change your sexual orientation. * It's impossible for a person who has a gay orientation to not live as a gay person. * It would be impossible for a person who has lived as a gay man for 10 years to ever get married to a woman... and to be happily married... and to even have children. William is living proof that a gay person does not have to continue to live as a gay person after Christ comes into their heart and their life. 9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. I Corinthians 6:9-11

From the time William was just a young boy... he knew he was "different" from all the other boys. He felt like like he didn't fit in with the girls... and he didn't fit in with the boys. When he was in second grade the other kids began to make fun of him... and tell him that he was "gay"... even though he didn't know what that meant. Over the next several years William tried to like girls... because that's what he was supposed to do... but the girls rejected him over and over again... and it was so hurtful that he unconsciously began to put up a wall between him and "girls". For some reason William always felt more comfortable with other guys than he did with girls... and although he could have friendships with guys on a personal level... in public even his friends scorned him because they didn't want to be associated with William. When he eventually began attending college... William was lonely and almost desperate for connection with others... and he soon learned to find the attention... affection... and connection he was looking for... in exchange for the sexual intimacy so many other guys wanted from him. Williams story is amazing... because it's another story of God's ability to heal and redeem a deeply broken person... and it's a story that stands in contradiction of a very powerful lie that exists in our culture today. The lie that says things like this... * Once a person's gay... they have to always be gay... because it's impossible to resist or change your sexual orientation. * It's impossible for a person who has a gay orientation to not live as a gay person. * It would be impossible for a person who has lived as a gay man for 10 years to ever get married to a woman... and to be happily married... and to even have children. William is living proof that a gay person does not have to continue to live as a gay person after Christ comes into their heart and their life. 9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. I Corinthians 6:9-11

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology. From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God's design for intimacy. Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli", and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute. Dr. Juli's books include... (1) Rethinking Sexuality – God's Design And Why It Matters (2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making (3) Sex and The Single Girl (4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband (5) 25 Questions You're Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy (6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story (7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage (8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman's Heart (9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You (10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy. Among many other topics... Tony and Dr. Juli discuss the following quote from her website... We believe that God intentionally created us as sexual beings, that every sexual choice is a spiritual choice, that sexuality is a powerful metaphor, and that Satan intentionally works to destroy the holy expression of sexuality. Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio. www.authenticintimacy.com

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology. From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God's design for intimacy. Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli", and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute. Dr. Juli's books include... (1) Rethinking Sexuality – God's Design And Why It Matters (2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making (3) Sex and The Single Girl (4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband (5) 25 Questions You're Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy (6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story (7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage (8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman's Heart (9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You (10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy. Among many other topics... Tony and Dr. Juli discuss the following quote from her website... We believe that God intentionally created us as sexual beings, that every sexual choice is a spiritual choice, that sexuality is a powerful metaphor, and that Satan intentionally works to destroy the holy expression of sexuality. Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio. www.authenticintimacy.com

In this episode Tony shares an intriguing story from I Samuel chapters 4 & 5 in the bible... and then applies that story to the topic of SEX! In this story... the pagan Philistines defeated Israel in battle and captured the Ark of God. They brought the Ark into the temple of their pagan god... Dagon. The next morning their huge statue of Dagon had fallen over and was laying on his face... before the Ark of God. So they stood him back up. The next morning Dagon had fallen over again... and was laying on his face before the Ark of God... only this time his head was broken off... and his hands were broken off! Then a great plague broke out against the people of that city... so they moved the Ark of God to another city. When the plague broke out in that city... they moved the Ark of God. again... to a third city. When the plague broke out in that city... they finally sent the Ark of God back to Israel! What does this intriguing story in the bible teach us about SEX! Well... if you listen to this episode you'll find out Tony's application. Everyone who falls on that stone will be broken to pieces; anyone on whom it falls will be crushed. Luke 20:18

Episodes 153 & 154 of The Power of Purity Podcast were entitled... The Human Brain, Neuroplasticity & Porn Addiction. In those 2 episodes Tony did his best to explain the connection between a man's struggle with porn... and his own brain. As those episodes came to a close Tony promised to try to find a brain expert to interview further on this important subject... and todays episode... and the last... are the fulfillment of that promise. Dr. Leonard Matheson is a neurorehabilitation psychologist who helps people recover from devastating trauma. He's taught at major medical schools in North America and Europe – including 15 years as a professor and scientist at the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis Missouri. In addition... Dr. Matheson was most recently an adjunct professor of counseling at Covenant Theological Seminary. Dr. Matheson has been a consultant to several Fortune 500 companies, the Social Security Administration, the US Congress, and hundreds of rehabilitation centers and governmental agencies in the United States, Canada, and other countries. Dr. Matheson's has written more than 120 scientific papers… and textbook chapters in the American Medical Association's definitive textbook entitled… Disability Evaluation... and he has written a book entitled… Your Faithful Brain. In this fascinating interview Dr. Matheson helps us understand the powerful connection between porn addiction and the human brain... and the reality that when a man is struggling with porn... he's literally in the fight of his life... with his own brain! In addition... Dr. Matheson helps us to understand how the Apostle Paul himself actually understood and taught the concept of neuroplasticity! Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 Your Faithful Brain - Dr. Leonard Matheson Your Faithful Brain Ignited - Dondra Agovino and Gina Birkemeier

Episodes 153 & 154 of The Power of Purity Podcast were entitled... The Human Brain, Neuroplasticity & Porn Addiction. In those 2 episodes Tony did his best to explain the connection between a man's struggle with porn... and his own brain. As those episodes came to a close Tony promised to try to find a brain expert to interview further on this important subject... and todays episode... and the next... are the fulfillment of that promise. Dr. Leonard Matheson is a neurorehabilitation psychologist who helps people recover from devastating trauma. He's taught at major medical schools in North America and Europe – including 15 years as a professor and scientist at the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis Missouri. In addition... Dr. Matheson was most recently an adjunct professor of counseling at Covenant Theological Seminary. Dr. Matheson has been a consultant to several Fortune 500 companies, the Social Security Administration, the US Congress, and hundreds of rehabilitation centers and governmental agencies in the United States, Canada, and other countries. Dr. Matheson's has written more than 120 scientific papers… and textbook chapters in the American Medical Association's definitive textbook entitled… Disability Evaluation... and he has written a book entitled… Your Faithful Brain. In this fascinating interview Dr. Matheson helps us understand the powerful connection between porn addiction and the human brain... and the reality that when a man is struggling with porn... he's literally in the fight of his life... with his own brain! In addition... Dr. Matheson helps us to understand how the Apostle Paul himself actually understood and taught the concept of neuroplasticity! Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 Your Faithful Brain - Dr. Leonard Matheson Your Faithful Brain Ignited - Dondra Agovino and Gina Birkemeier

Belah Rose is a wife... a mom... an author... an intimacy coach... and the producer of the Delight Your Marriage Podcast! Through the Delight Your Marriage Podcast... Blah interviews guests... and shares information and wisdom on a variety of topics including... relationships... marriage... intimacy... sensuality... sexuality... femininity... self-image... and self-improvement. Belah's heart to help women in the areas that so many women struggle with... was born from the deepest hurt... pain... and failures of her own life. * A first marriage that included emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse * A divorce * Doubts and disappointments in God * A period of significant promiscuity * An unexpected pregnancy out of wedlock * A husband who wasn't interested in spiritual things * Guilt * Regret * Loneliness * Shame Belah is an amazing example that reveals God's incredible ability to heal and redeem deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages! By God's IMMENSE grace, I transformed my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I see them feel powerful and sexy and become fully whole in their marriage and honor their divinely feminine essence to witness their husband transform into the man they have wished and prayed that he would become. Belah Rose In this episode... among other things... Tony and Belah talk about "Masculine Sex" and "Feminine Sex"... and how these two aspects of sex complete God's design for sex within marriage.