

The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast
Jack Shitama
The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast uses a family systems theory approach to increase your spiritual, emotional and physical well-being so you can be the best leader possible. Each episode explores research and practical tips to help you be a personal and professional non-anxious presence.
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Mar 28, 2022 • 13min
Episode 168: Self-Compassion is Essential to Self-Differentiation
Learn how self-compassion fosters self-differentiation, the impact of the inner critic on relationships, the importance of self-compassion in dealing with negative emotions and maintaining compassion for others, and practical steps to cultivate self-compassion for overcoming challenges and maintaining emotional connections.

Mar 21, 2022 • 16min
Episode 167: Interlocking Triangles - A Case Study
Every system has interlocking triangles. This episode uses a case study from Edwin Friedman's Generation to Generation to explain how they work and how to unlock them.
Show Notes:
Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman
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Mar 14, 2022 • 19min
Episode 166: Paradox and Playfulness - A Case Study
In this episode I break down a case study from Generation to Generation that highlights how paradox and playfulness can lead to lasting change.
Show Notes:
Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman
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Mar 7, 2022 • 15min
Episode 165: A Family Systems Take on Burnout
Explore the concept of burnout through a humorous fable about fish in a tank. Learn about unusual behaviors in the tank, the impact of over-functioning and burnout on self-differentiation, and strategies to lead through self-differentiation and avoid burnout.

Feb 28, 2022 • 15min
Episode 164: Balancing the Tension between Desire and Fear
This podcast explores the upsides of acting without fear and the importance of self-differentiation in leadership. It discusses the concept of a magic ring that allows individuals to freely follow their desires without fear of failure. The tension between desire and fear in leadership is also examined, highlighting the need for vulnerability and deeper connections.

Feb 21, 2022 • 18min
Episode 163: Attachment - The Pros and Cons of Emotional Connection
The Friedman's Fable, "Attachment," uses a mythical culture to describe attachment in the extreme. Listen to the fable and my take on how it applies to leadership.
Show Notes:
Friedman's Fables by Edwin Friedman
Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman
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Feb 14, 2022 • 11min
Episode 162: Non-Anxious Leaders Nurture Disciples, Not Clones
Leadership through self-differentiation creates the conditions for people to speak their minds. This leads to a healthier system and a better chance to lead positive change.
Show Notes:
Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman
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Feb 7, 2022 • 12min
Episode 161: Five Steps to Leading with Compassion
Empathy is important but has its downsides. Leadership through self-differentiation sees empathy as a step toward compassion, which can help others learn and grow.
Show Notes:
Connect with Empathy, But Lead with Compassion by Rasmus Hougaard, Jacqueline Carter, and Marissa Afton
Episode 48: Envy, Empathy and Emotional Connection
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Jan 31, 2022 • 13min
Episode 160: Four Steps to Using Emotional Intelligence to Self-Differentiate
Reactivity and adaptivity are automatic responses like software. This episode will help you reprogram your behavior so you can exercise integrity in the moment of choice.
Show Notes:
This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research by Eric Barker
The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns by by Matthew McKay PhD, Patrick Fanning, Avigail Lev PsyD, Michelle Skeen PsyD
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Jan 24, 2022 • 18min
Episode 159: Edwin Friedman's 11 Tensions in Leadership
Discover the intriguing concept of Edwin Friedman’s 11 tensions in leadership. It explores the balance between self-differentiation and connection, essential for effective leadership. The discussion provides practical insights on managing emotions and maintaining composure during tough times. Learn how to navigate these tensions to enhance your leadership approach and foster a more resilient team.


