

The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast
Jack Shitama
The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast uses a family systems theory approach to increase your spiritual, emotional and physical well-being so you can be the best leader possible. Each episode explores research and practical tips to help you be a personal and professional non-anxious presence.
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Oct 2, 2023 • 13min
Episode 247: Five Science Insights that Show Why Leadership through Self-Differentiation Works (Rebroadcast)
Leadership through self-differentiation is counterintuitive. Here are five evidence-based reasons why it’s effective.
Show Notes:
5 insights from behavioral science that can make you better at influencing others from Fast Company
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
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Sep 25, 2023 • 9min
Episode 246: Non-Anxious Leaders Understand They Are Not in Control
A paradox in leadership is that we think we can control more than we actually can. This leads to micromanaging, which is more damaging than helpful. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation is different and more effective.
Show Notes:
How to Solve the Leadership Paradox | Inc.com by David Finkel
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Sep 18, 2023 • 14min
Episode 245: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System - Part 2 of 2
The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.
Show Notes:
Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.
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Sep 11, 2023 • 12min
Episode 244: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System - Part 1 of 2
In this episode, the host discusses the importance of self-differentiation in relationship systems. They explore the traits and characteristics of non-anxious leaders who prioritize emotional connection and resourcefulness. The concept of resourcefulness in leadership and family health is also discussed, along with the importance of tolerance for difference and healthy relationships.

Sep 4, 2023 • 10min
Episode 243: 5 Phrases that Hold You Back as a Non-Anxious Leader (and How to Change Them)
Learn how to change five phrases that can hold you back as a non-anxious leader. Discover the power of language and mindset in empowering leaders. Explore strategies to overcome limiting phrases and embrace acceptance.

Aug 28, 2023 • 13min
Episode 242: Self-Differentiation Is NOT Independence
This podcast explores the concept of self-differentiation and the importance of interdependence over independence. It discusses decision-making, emotional connection, and teaching kids about healthy relationships. The speaker shares personal experiences and offers tips on modeling interdependence as parents and leaders. The importance of celebrating and embracing interdependence is also highlighted.

Aug 21, 2023 • 16min
Episode 241: The Give and Take of Self-Differentiation
There is a sweet spot in self-differentiation between defining self and staying emotionally connected. When we go astray, we end up trying to change others or letting others change us. This episode shows you how you can do better.
Show Notes:
The Space Between Changing Each Other by Kathleen Smith
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Aug 14, 2023 • 12min
Episode 240: Non-Anxious Leaders Encourage Challenge Not Comfort
Our movement toward "therapeutic culture" has made people less resilient. This episode explains how that happened and what you can do about it as a leader.
Show Notes:
Hey, America, Grow Up! by David Brooks
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Aug 7, 2023 • 13min
Episode 239: 5 Ways that Mindfulness Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence
Self-differentiation requires the ability to self-regulate, then act in accordance with your goals and values. Here's how mindfulness can help you do this.
Show Notes:
5 Rituals To Keep You Happy All The Time by Eric Barker
Why I Invited Myself to a Wedding by Jack Shitama
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Jul 31, 2023 • 14min
Episode 238: Five Steps to Deeper Emotional Connection (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiation is more than just being a non-anxious presence in anxious situations. It’s about building deeper, healthier relationships. This episode shows you how.
Show Notes:
The conversational habits that build better connections by David Robson
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