Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Episodes
Mentioned books
Oct 13, 2020 • 23min
Why Bribes and Threats Aren't Helpful (and What to Do Instead)
A parent's struggle with using bribes and threats to manage behavior highlights the pitfalls of such tactics. It explores how these methods can damage intrinsic motivation and relationships. Instead, the conversation emphasizes the power of setting loving boundaries to create security and trust. By shifting focus to honest communication, parents can foster cooperation and emotional healing. It's a journey of moving away from fear-based approaches towards more respectful and effective parenting strategies.
Oct 8, 2020 • 21min
Don't Miss the Secrets Your Children Share
Exploring the dynamics of sibling relationships, the discussion highlights how to foster open communication when toddlers express aggressive thoughts about their younger siblings. Strategies for empathetic parenting are shared, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging feelings and promoting emotional expression. The conversation also delves into the significance of listening to children's inner thoughts during challenging emotional phases, helping parents understand their child's needs without judgment.
Sep 22, 2020 • 20min
When Kids Say Shocking or Rude Things – What’s a Parent To Do?
A parent grapples with his child's alarming comments about Black individuals, feeling helpless and compelled to respond. The discussion reveals the importance of nurturing open dialogue to address developmental behaviors. Strategies for enriching playtime with educational toys are explored, underscoring the value of audiobooks in sparking imagination. The conversation balances addressing sensitive topics with fostering respect and understanding, guiding parents through complex emotional landscapes.
Sep 8, 2020 • 26min
Sibling Strife - When Your Child Keeps Hating On Her Little Brother
A parent struggles with her 5-year-old's aggression towards her younger brother since his birth. The podcast dives into sibling rivalry, detailing the emotional turmoil both children face. Insights on fostering empathy and reducing conflict are shared, offering parents valuable strategies to navigate these complex family dynamics. It highlights the importance of understanding emotional development in siblings and provides actionable tips for improving their relationship.
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Aug 25, 2020 • 21min
Calming Our Reactivity to Children's Irritating, Demanding Behaviors
Addressing a parent's struggle with constant demands for attention from their children, offering strategies to respond without amplifying the behaviors. Exploring the significance of self-compassion for parents, challenging perfect parenting and discussing how self-judgment contributes to anger and frustration. Sharing experiences in observing and engaging with young children, emphasizing the importance of recognizing them as individuals and staying calm amidst disruptions. Discussing the importance of finding a balance in parenting, attuning to children's needs while maintaining one's own separateness, and providing practical tips for buffering oneself.
Aug 12, 2020 • 44min
Abuse Prevention Strategies to Keep Our Kids Safe (with Rosalia Rivera)
Rosalia Rivera, an abuse prevention specialist and consent educator, shares vital strategies for parents to protect children from sexual abuse. She stresses the importance of teaching body safety, boundaries, and consent from an early age. Rivera discusses the role of open communication in creating a safe space for children to express themselves. Key topics include recognizing grooming behaviors and empowering children through respect for their autonomy. Her insights aim to foster a culture of safety, enabling kids to navigate relationships with confidence.
Aug 5, 2020 • 27min
3 Hints for Parents Working at Home
Janet, an expert in respectful parenting, shares invaluable strategies for parents working from home. She addresses the common struggles of balancing work and family life, particularly the emotional toll on children. Janet emphasizes the importance of establishing routines and validating children's feelings to reduce tantrums. She also highlights the power of acceptance in helping kids express their emotions, fostering stronger bonds. With practical tips and insights, she guides parents toward a more harmonious work-from-home experience.
Jul 22, 2020 • 24min
Engaging in Your Child's Play Without Interrupting
Janet, an expert in child development, offers insightful advice on nurturing children's play. She discusses the importance of fostering imaginative play without interrupting their creative flow. Parents can encourage self-directed play in toddlers while maintaining an appropriate level of engagement. Janet emphasizes the delicate balance between allowing kids to lead their play and being responsive to their needs, enhancing their emotional and cognitive growth.
Jul 15, 2020 • 43min
The Power of Bias and How to Disrupt It in Our Children (with Dr. Jennifer Eberhardt)
Dr. Jennifer Eberhardt, a Stanford professor and MacArthur Fellow, dives into the intricacies of racial bias and its effects on children. She explains how biases form and their impact on schools and justice systems. As a mother, she shares personal insights on helping kids navigate societal perceptions of race. The discussion highlights the need for open conversations about bias and offers practical strategies for parents. Jennifer emphasizes that early experiences shape children's views, making parental guidance essential in fostering equity.
Jul 1, 2020 • 18min
How to Make No Mean No
In this engaging conversation, parenting expert Janet offers invaluable insights for frustrated parents grappling with their child's relentless requests. She emphasizes the importance of establishing firm boundaries while recognizing children's emotional needs. Janet discusses how allowing kids to express disappointment can be a crucial part of their growth. By sharing personal anecdotes and strategies, she guides parents toward fostering healthy dynamics where assertiveness meets empathy.
