Your Body Remembers Pleasure

What if belonging wasn’t something you had to earn… but something you could feel in your body?Explore erotic embodiment and conscious community:https://rahichun.com/podcast/ecstatic-belonging-caffyn-jesseIn this return conversation, I welcome Caffyn Jesse back to the podcast two years after retiring from the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, the pioneering training program they co-founded.Instead of slowing down, Caffyn’s life force has only expanded.With fewer roles, fewer responsibilities, and more spacious mornings, their work has distilled into something even more potent: ecstatic belonging, peer intimacy, and community-based erotic healing.Through their new platform EcstaticBelonging.com and the online Intimacy Educator training, Kain has curated decades of somatic sex education, trauma-aware touch, nervous system science, and sacred sexuality into a living, accessible body of work.This episode explores what becomes possible when we move beyond hierarchy, beyond performance, and into authentic, peer-to-peer connection.We talk about:• Life after “retirement” — and why stepping down created more creativity • From teacher/student to peer intimacy and co-creation • Distilling 12+ years of teaching into the Intimacy Educator online course • Erotic embodiment as belonging — to self, community, and Earth • The window of tolerance & neural learning zone in sexual healing • Why safety alone isn’t enough (we also need bravery) • Reclaiming voice, choice, and authentic consent • The “Outlaw’s Journey” — trusting your inner truth over cultural norms • Creating conscious erotic community with friends and lovers • Touch as neuroplastic re-patterning and trauma integration • Office hours, accessibility, and making this work available to everyone • Psychedelic-supported bodywork — potential, caution, and ethical boundaries • Integration, power dynamics, and the pace of trustThis conversation feels like sitting with an elder by the fire — honest, grounded, and deeply human.Not about technique.Not about performance.But about learning how to belong — in your body, in your truth, and with each other.Explore Caffyn’s work: Ecstatic Belonging + free resources: https://ecstaticbelonging.com Intimacy Educator training: https://intimacyeducator.comMore somatic sexual healing resources about touch and being touched: rahichun.com/turnedonbytouchIf this episode supports you, leaving a 5-star rating or short review helps this work reach more people.

What if the doorway to healing trauma isn’t just through talk or touch… but through expanded states of consciousness?Explore plant medicine and sexual trauma healing:https://rahichun.com/podcast/plant-medicine-sexual-trauma-healingPsychedelics aren’t just “altered states” — they can be powerful tools for trauma healing, embodiment, and reconnecting with the body’s life force.In this episode, plant medicine integration therapist and clinical counselor Salimeh Tabrizi shares how intentional work with ayahuasca, psilocybin, and cannabis can help metabolize stored trauma, release sexual wounding, and restore trust in the body.We explore the intersection of psychedelic therapy, somatic healing, and sexual embodiment — and why safe set, setting, and integration are everything.Salimeh opens up about her own journey through early childhood sexual trauma, autoimmune illness, and how plant medicines helped her access grief, reclaim sensation, and reconnect with her life force.This is a grounded, trauma-informed conversation about using plant medicines with reverence, responsibility, and deep therapeutic support.We talk about:• How ayahuasca unlocked repressed trauma memories • Psilocybin for nervous system regulation & emotional release • Why integration matters more than the ceremony itself • Healing sexual trauma through the body (not just talk therapy) • Cannabis as an embodiment & intimacy ally • Somatic processing during psychedelic journeys • Set, setting, safety & working with trained guides • Reclaiming pleasure, sensation & life force energy • Non-duality, consciousness & spiritual awakening through plant medicines • How psychedelics support deeper connection to self, sexuality & natureIf you’re curious about psychedelic healing, trauma integration, or reconnecting with your body in a more conscious, empowered way — this episode offers a mature, responsible perspective.Important: Plant medicines are traditionally used in sacred, guided settings. Always research carefully and work with experienced, trained professionals.ResourcesSalimeh Tabrizi – Vibrant Life Counseling https://vibrantlifecounseling.comMore about somatic sexual healing and reclaiming pleasure:  rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasureIf this episode supported you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more bodies.

What if erectile dysfunction isn’t a failure of performance… but a signal from your nervous system?Explore somatic healing for erectile dysfunction and male sexuality:https://rahichun.com/podcast/erectile-dysfunction-somatic-healing-menMore than half of men over 40 experience erectile dysfunction.Yet almost no one talks about it.Instead, many suffer in silence — carrying shame, anxiety, and a quiet sense that something is “wrong” with their body.But what if erectile challenges aren’t just medical…What if they’re somatic, emotional, and learned patterns that can be rewired?In this grounded and deeply compassionate conversation, I’m joined by somatic sex educators and sexological bodyworkers Ron & Pono Stewart to explore sexual health, pleasure, and erotic wholeness for cock owners.Together we unpack the real roots of:erectile dysfunctionpremature ejaculationporn conditioningperformance anxietyshame around pleasureand the lack of sexual education for menRather than quick fixes or pills, Ron and Pono guide men back to something more foundational:Breath.Touch.Safety.Slowness.Full-body pleasure.Because an erection is a parasympathetic response.It happens when the body feels safe.And many men have never actually learned how to feel safe inside their own erotic body.Through somatic practices, erotic massage, self-pleasuring rituals, and trauma-informed touch, they help clients literally recondition their nervous systems — moving from goal-oriented ejaculation toward sustained arousal, confidence, and deeper intimacy.This episode is practical, honest, and refreshingly shame-free.If you (or someone you love) has ever struggled with erections, staying present, or feeling disconnected from pleasure… this conversation is for you.More resources for Somatic Sexual Healing: rahichun.com

Olivia Naomi Bryant, cervical educator and founder of Self Cervix, guides a journey from numbness to reclaiming the cervix as pleasure anatomy. She explains cervical de-armoring, gentle somatic practices, locating and safely exploring the cervix, working with ligaments, and the energetic, heart-connected side of cervical sensation. Practical first steps and healing after interventions are also discussed.

Explore integrating shadow aspects of sexuality with Light/Dark Institute, emphasizing personal growth, empowerment, and deeper connections in relationships. Delve into the transformative power of embracing darkness, creating safe spaces for exploring primal tendencies, and achieving liberation through dark awakening.

What if pleasure isn’t just something you feel… but something that can actively heal the body?Explore pelvic healing and pleasure as medicine:https://rahichun.com/podcast/pleasure-as-medicine-pelvic-healingYour pelvic floor, fascia, and pleasure pathways hold far more healing potential than most of us were ever taught.In this episode, bodyworker and international teacher Martin Beaudoin shares how hands-on fascial work, pelvic floor release, and therapeutic pleasure techniques can help resolve incontinence, menstrual pain, trauma patterns, and uterine imbalance—issues many people are told are “normal” but absolutely aren’t.Drawing from craniosacral therapy, myofascial release, neurokinetic work, tantric bodywork, and Compassionate Inquiry, Martin explains how restoring blood flow, freeing nerves, and balancing the pelvic bowl can create profound, lasting change.We talk about:• Why incontinence, prolapse, and cramps are often treatable (not inevitable) • How fascia and the deep front line shape pelvic health • Pelvic floor “stripping” and tension release techniques • Using pleasure safely and consensually as a healing tool • The often-overlooked K-spot and its role in circulation + hormone balance • Trauma resolution through somatic bodywork • Partner-involved healing approaches • What most doctors never address about pelvic healthIf you’ve ever felt disconnected from your pelvis, struggled with pain, numbness, or shame—or simply want a more alive, responsive body—this conversation offers practical, body-based pathways back to wholeness.ResourcesMartin Beaudoin – beaudoinbodywork.comTo learn The Art of Genital De-armoring: rahichun.com/the3keysIf this episode supports you, please follow, share, or leave a 5-star review. It helps this work reach more bodies.

What does it actually mean to be supported in your sexuality… not just psychologically, but relationally and physically?Explore sexual surrogacy and sacred intimacy:https://rahichun.com/podcast/sexual-surrogate-sacred-intimacyAnd how can touch, presence, and embodied connection help heal shame, trauma, and sexual wounding?In this honest and illuminating conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Andre Lazarus — somatic intimacy coach, certified Somatica practitioner, sexual surrogate partner, and sacred intimate — to demystify three of the most misunderstood professions in the world of sexual healing.Together, they explore what it truly means to hold space for someone’s erotic awakening.Andre shares his personal journey — from early experiences of loving across genders, to surviving sexual violation, to discovering his calling in somatic sexual healing work — and how those experiences shaped his capacity to guide others through intimacy, trauma repair, and authentic expression.Inside this episode:• The difference between Somatica coaching, sexual surrogacy, and sacred intimacy • Scope of practice and boundaries for each modality • How surrogate partner therapy works (the therapist–client–surrogate triangle) • What sacred intimacy sessions actually look like • Screening, consent, and emotional safety • Healing sexual trauma through embodied experiences • Navigating intimacy without shame • Holding presence without attachment or performance • BDSM, bondage, and conscious power dynamics as healing tools • What a healthy sexual society could look likeThis is a rare, behind-the-scenes look at professions that quietly change lives every day.If you’ve ever been curious about receiving intimate therapeutic support — or feel called to this work yourself — this conversation opens the door with clarity, integrity, and heart.Learn more about Andre:coming-closer.comMore resources from Rahi:rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star review helps this work reach more people reclaiming their bodies and pleasure.

What if intimacy doesn’t fade with time… but deepens when you learn how to meet each other in new ways?Explore intimacy, aging, and lifelong passion:https://rahichun.com/podcast/intimacy-after-60-lifelong-passionIn this special episode, I’m joined by Judith Claire and Frank Weigers—two beloved humans I’ve known for 25 years, and the celebrated co-authors of The Magical Sex Book and So That’s Why They Do That: Men, Women & Hormones.What I love most: they’re living what they teach. Judith and Frank share what it takes to keep intimacy alive, honest, and erotic—not only in the early years, but through life’s challenges and into their 70s and 80s.We explore:Why chemistry isn’t enough—and what actually creates lasting erotic connectionThe “90-day commitment” that set their relationship on a deeper trackHow daily rituals build trust, safety, and desire over timeTheir simple practices: “Morning worship,” “Evening news,” gratitude, and weekly erotic devotionThe 4 stages of love-making they teach: pre-play, foreplay, play, and after-playHow desire changes over time, and why desire often comes after arousalAging, health challenges, and how to keep Eros alive without pressure or obligationResources:TopGunLove.comBooks: The Magical Sex Book + So That’s Why They Do That (Amazon)For relational skills and erotic practices: divineunionforlovers.com/courseIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or a brief review helps it reach more people.

What if trauma isn’t just something you remember… but something your body is still responding to—moment by moment?Explore preverbal trauma and nervous system healing:https://rahichun.com/podcast/trauma-lives-in-the-bodyLong before we have words, the nervous system records everything — touch, safety, fear, abandonment, violation, belonging.So what happens when trauma occurs preverbally… in infancy… in utero… or across generations?How do we heal experiences we can’t consciously remember?In this episode, I’m joined by Becky Carter, a somatic experiencing therapist and trauma specialist with over 20 years of clinical work supporting survivors of sexual abuse, adoptees, men healing from sexual trauma, and individuals navigating racial and transgenerational trauma.Together we explore how the body holds these early wounds — and how gentle, somatic therapy can help release them.This conversation is grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical for anyone seeking true nervous system healing.We discuss:• What “preverbal trauma” actually means • How trauma is stored in the nervous system and tissues • Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough • Somatic Experiencing & Transformative Touch Therapy • Healing trauma that happened before memory • Recognizing sexual trauma patterns in the body • Dissociation, shutdown & pelvic constriction • Male sexual abuse — the hidden epidemic • Shame, performance pressure & men’s intimacy struggles • The fawn response and people-pleasing for survival • Racial trauma and microaggressions as chronic nervous system stress • How sexual and racial trauma compound in the body • Adoption, attachment wounds & the “primal wound” • Learning to feel your body’s authentic yes and no • Rebuilding safety through co-regulation and touchIf you’ve ever felt:– disconnected from your body – confused by your reactions in intimacy – stuck in shame or shutdown – or like “something happened” but you can’t explain itThis episode offers language, understanding, and hope.Because healing isn’t about forcing the story.It’s about helping the body finally feel safe enough to release it.Resources:Becky Carter – Family Resilience Group https://familyresilience.orgOrganizations supporting male survivors: • https://menhealing.org • https://1in6.org • https://malesurvivor.orgMore somatic sexual healing resources https://rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, follow the show and leave a 5-star review — it helps this work reach more people.

Stine Krage, a midwife and sexologist, and Asim SacredFire, a holistic bodyworker, co-created The Prostatic Portal to explore the healing potential of prostate massage. They discuss how creating a safe space can release emotional shadows and enhance energy flow, transforming pleasure into spiritual experiences. Stine reveals insights from her clients, while Asim highlights the connection between stored trauma and prostate health. They advocate for separating orgasm from ejaculation, empowering men to embrace a deeper, more fulfilling connection with their sexuality.