The Brian Buffini Show

“Empathy is part of our human nature. It's the capacity to feel what other people are feeling. It's what separates animals from human beings. It's part of our nature; but it also has to be nurtured.” – Joe Ehrmann If we don't address the wounds that we experience in life, we will go on to similarly wound others. In this episode, the third in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann discuss why developing empathy for ourselves and others is a crucial step in helping us to understand and move forward from the hurts of the past. Topics discussed include why we often build rigid defense mechanisms and destructive life patterns to cover our wounds, how we can transform these patterns and become wounded healers and what role faith takes in this journey.   READ FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT   YOU WILL LEARN: How a lack of empathy manifests in society. The differences between positive and negative empathy. Why journaling helps to make sense of the journey to healing.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: InSideOut Initiative   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If we don't enter into the woundedness of ourselves; if we don't identify and name our own life patterns; if we don't see the destructive behaviors that come out of that woundedness, we become the wounders.” – Joe Ehrmann “We take the people we love, the people we want to be invested in and that we care about, and we can't help but wound them because we haven't addressed our own woundedness.” – Joe Ehrmann “You have to take that first step of entering those wounds with a sense of empathy.” – Joe Ehrmann “One of the missing pieces in America is a lack of empathy. We do victim blaming, we have apathy and indifference. But we've got to learn how to develop positive empathy for people, their situations and, particularly, for ourselves.” – Joe Ehrmann “They always say the most competitive sport in America is parenting.” – Joe Ehrmann “You've got to take those wounds from your past and heal them so you can move forward.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“No matter what you've lost, you can rebound.” – Brian Buffini We all experience loss in life, but getting back up after a fall is the most powerful thing we can do. In this episode, Brian shares timeless principles for recovering after loss. He describes how he experienced failure on his own journey to success, how he rebounded and came back stronger than ever and how it’s possible for everyone to do the same. Click below for your copy of The 10 Ancient Scrolls for Success. DOWNLOAD FREE RESOURCE   YOU WILL LEARN: The value of the ‘I did it before, I can do it again’ mindset. The power of reserves. The importance of investing in the future.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “The Greatest Salesman in the World,” by Og Mandino “Miracle” movie President Jimmy Carter’s speech “Man's Search for Meaning,” by Viktor E. Frankl “The Richest Man in Babylon,” by George S. Clason   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl “Do you have to experience a loss to learn? No, it just turns out that failure is the greatest teacher of all.” – Brian Buffini “I never lose. I either win or learn.” – Nelson Mandela “I'm the only person I know that's lost a quarter of a billion dollars in one year. It's very character-building.” – Steve Jobs “Mostly it is loss which teaches us about the worth of things.” – Arthur Schopenhauer “The lessons we learn in sadness and from loss are those that abide. Sorrow clarifies the mind, steadies it and forces it to weigh things correctly. The soil moist with tears best feeds the seeds of truth.” – Theodore T. Munger “Blaming others and shaming yourself is going to do nothing for you; but you can learn from loss.” – Brian Buffini “If you neglect to recharge your battery, it dies. And if you run full speed ahead without stopping for water, you'll lose momentum to finish the race.” – Oprah Winfrey “We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise, we harden.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “And that's what I'm going to tell you the biggest lesson is about loss. It either makes you better, or it makes you bitter.” – Brian Buffini “Worry is a waste of an emotional reserve.” – Ayn Rand “You have the power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius “The first copper you save is the seed for which your tree of wealth shall grow.” – George S. Clason “Only buy something that you'd be perfectly happy to hold if the entire market shut down for 10 years.” – Warren Buffett   “The single greatest edge an investor can have is a long-term orientation.” – Seth Klarman “It was never my thinking that made the big money for me. It was always my sitting.” – Jesse Livermore “Never invest in a business you can't understand.”  – Warren Buffet “No stock, no bond, no business has ever produced bigger results than myself.” – Brian Buffini “You gotta know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em.” – Kenny Rogers “It's not how hard you fall. It's how high you bounce.” – Tom Kelly     https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“We've got to name these wounds. We've got to enter into them, touch them, heal them, verbalize and then release them so that we can be the people that we were created to be.” – Joe Ehrmann   Wounds from your past can have a devastating impact on the way you feel about yourself and others. In this episode, the second in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann teach how to identify and heal those wounds that make it difficult for you to truly love and be loved. Topics discussed include how a deeply personal experience with his young son led Joe to reflect on his own relationship with his father; how an incident in Brian’s childhood inspired his motivation to succeed in life; and why healing is not about affixing blame, but about understanding what shaped you.   YOU WILL LEARN: The three basic questions we all have about identity, intimacy and industry. How we can be wounded by our nature, our nurture and our culture. Why the number one wound in our society is the father wound.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: InSideOut Initiative   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “I think all of us come into this world with three basic questions. And the first is a question of identity: Who am I? The second is a question of intimacy: Who will love me? And the third is one of industry: What can I do with my life?” – Joe Ehrmann “Most people want to change their circumstances, but they don't want to change themselves. The challenge is, if you change yourself, circumstances will change also.” – Brian Buffini “If you have a pebble in your shoe and you leave it there, you're eventually going to develop a limp. And you can learn to walk through life with a limp, but it's better to go back, take it out, then learn to walk properly and then maybe help others get this pebble out of their shoe.” – Brian Buffini “We share our woundedness with others to offer that as a hope for healing.” – Joe Ehrmann “A wound is some unresolved issue. And it's not the fact that we're wounded in life. It's a decision we make as adults to deal with them.” – Joe Ehrmann “All of us have woven into us this deep need for satisfaction. To be unconditionally loved, to be known for who and what we are and to be accepted for that.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“If you give with an open hand, you'll see an abundance that you never imagined.” – Brian Buffini The Law of the Harvest is an age-old principle of success with a very modern application in today’s world.  In this episode, recorded live at the Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit, Brian explains why you reap what you sow, how the three elements of the law work together and why this powerful formula for success can transform not only your business, but your life too.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why you must first give if you want to receive. Why giving earns you the right to ask. How to grow your business, your influence and yourself.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit “Boundaries,” by Henry Cloud   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Humility is the soil that's required for every growth.” – Brian Buffini “Here's the formula: It's 80 percent give, it's 10 percent ask and it's 10 percent grow.” – Brian Buffini “You need to be able to have value and communicate your value. And, if you can do that, you'll have all the customers you can handle.” – Brian Buffini “Can you put your name to that?” – Harry Buffini “Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value.” – Albert Einstein “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” – Cicero “You become more influential the more you grow yourself.” – Brian Buffini “Confront your inadequacies and push your personal boundaries. It's the surest way to grow, improve and expand the scope of your influence.” – John C. Maxwell “If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.” Zig Ziglar    https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“All of life is about relationships. It has to do with the capacity to love and to be loved.” – Joe Ehrmann   All of us long to love and be loved, but giving and receiving love is also one of the most difficult challenges we face in life. In this episode, the first in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann teach why we must better understand and love ourselves so that we can love other people and receive love in return. Topics discussed include how damaging ideals of masculinity and femininity are passed from generation to generation; how we can recognize and reject these false concepts of who and what we are; and how we can correct and redefine our models for humanity, improve our relationships and discover our true purpose.   YOU WILL LEARN: Three lies of the false self for men. Three lies of the false self for women. Two criteria to measure success as a human being.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Season of Life,” by Jeffrey Marx InSideOut Initiative   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “All of us have been wounded on life's journey, and we've got to find some kind of healing so that we can be connected to people at our deepest levels, intimately with our souls and with care and compassion and with empathy.” – Joe Ehrmann “We've got all these young boys and girls looking for all the wrong things in each other and none of them feeling good about who and what they are, because there's this tremendous sense that ‘I don't measure up’.” – Joe Ehrmann “If you don't come to grips with your own woundedness and your own pain, your own false concepts and false self-identity, then these problems are going to go from generation to generation.” – Joe Ehrmann “If you haven't been relationally successful, life ends up becoming extremely unfulfilling. You can only measure success in terms of relationships.” – Joe Ehrmann “At the end of your life, you ought to be able to look back over and know that the world is a different place, a better place because you lived, you loved and you were involved, and you live that as some kind of other centered purpose.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Instead of a cancel culture, we need a kindness culture.  Instead of engaging in conflict, we have to engage in discourse.” – Brian Buffini   Division is everywhere in our world today. In this episode, Brian reflects on why people have become separated and teaches how we can come together to be more unified. He explains why this is one of the most unusual times in our history, shares some observations about where we are in our cultural dialogue and outlines proactive steps everyone can take to heal and reunite.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why respect for others is so important. How to have grace. Why we shouldn’t conform.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “The Third Option: Hope for a Racially Divided Nation,” by Miles McPherson “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie “Dead Poets Society,” movie How to Love and Be Loved, podcast series with Joe Ehrmann   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” – Winston Churchill "All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent." – Thomas Jefferson “Nothing great has ever happened from hate.” – Brian Buffini “Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.” – Dale Carnegie “If there's any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.” – Henry Ford “You never really understand a person until you consider things from their point of view.” – Harper Lee “The smallest change in perspective can change a life.” – Oprah Winfrey "Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth." – Marcus Aurelius "It's not what you look at that matters. It's what you see." – Henry David Thoreau “In diversity, there is beauty and there is strength.” – Maya Angelou "The whole is greater than the sum of the parts."– Aristotle "None of us is as smart as all of us." – Kenneth Blanchard "Diversity: the art of thinking independently together." – Malcolm Forbes “If we find ourselves becoming critical of other people, we should stop examining them and start examining ourselves.” – William Barclay “I do not understand the mystery of grace, only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us.” – Anne Lamott "Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." – Mark Twain “Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” – Eleanor Roosevelt "Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth." – President John F. Kennedy "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." – Ralph Waldo Emerson "Conformity is the last refuge of the unimaginative." – Oscar Wilde “I still believe America’s best days are yet to come.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Heroes are not ordinary people who do extraordinary things. They are, in fact, extraordinary people who choose not to be ordinary.” – Kevin Brown   The world needs heroes - people who lead, love and serve at a higher level. In this episode, Brian interviews author and speaker Kevin Brown about what it really means to be a hero. Kevin describes how he spiraled out of control as a teenager, how a special mentor helped to change the course of his life and how his son Josh’s diagnosis of autism and his wife’s resultant refusal to simply accept the storyline that life had given their child have inspired and influenced him immeasurably.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why we all need coaches to improve. Why the best sales principles never change. Why our understanding of heroism should be redefined.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit “The Hero Effect,” by Kevin Brown www.kevinbrownspeaks.com “The Strangest Secret,” by Earl Nightingale “Biscuits, Fleas & Pump Handles,” by Zig Ziglar “The Greatest Salesman in the World,” by Og Mandino “The Spellbinder’s Gift,” by Og Mandino   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “There’s a lot of role models that show up in our lives. Some good, some bad. Some teach us just what not to be like, and others teach us exactly what we should be like.” – Kevin Brown “The skill sets of selling and being able to communicate profoundly changed my life financially and professionally.” – Kevin Brown “Your past is a place of reference, not a place of residence.” – Kevin Brown “We all need coaches. We all need people that will pour into us and make us better than we could have ever been on our own.” – Kevin Brown “I believe that we were created with talents, gifts and abilities as unique as our fingerprints. And the truth of the matter is, the definition of a hero has been redefined in my life over the last decade to be not ordinary people doing extraordinary things, but to be extraordinary people who choose not to be ordinary.” – Kevin Brown “Ordinary is a choice.” – Kevin Brown “It's amazing to me when you've got a compelling vision for your life and for your business the resources start to show up.” – Kevin Brown “So many people get up every day and they accept the storyline that life gives them. They accept it as their truth and they walk it out every single day and they never give one single thought to the fact that the pen is in their hands, always.” – Kevin Brown “Never stop searching for the gifts that you were given.” – Kevin Brown   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Leadership is not discovered; leadership is uncovered.” – Brian Buffini   We are all required to be leaders in many areas of our lives, whether that’s in our families, our careers or our businesses. In this episode, recorded live at Buffini & Company’s most elite event, The Peak Experience, Brian explains why great leadership starts with you and why you should embrace your unique gifts, styles and opportunities as you lead in life and in business.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why you must uncover your own leadership style. Seven chaotic leadership styles. Five qualities of an exceptional leader.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  The Peak Experience “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey “Graceland,” by Paul Simon   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “I cannot give you a formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: try to please everybody.” – Herbert Swope “Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” – Stephen R. Covey “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw “None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Ken Blanchard “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” – Albert Schweitzer “You set a goal, and you hit the goal, and you beat the goal – and winning becomes who you are.” – Brian Buffini “Bear in mind your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing.” – Brian Buffini “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more you are a leader.” – John Quincy Adams   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The American Dream has always been classified as an aspiration to own your own piece of real estate.” – Brian Buffini Homeownership is the cornerstone of the American Dream. In this episode, Brian explains why real estate has been the making of him in his career, as a provider for his family and as a primary source of investment. Topics discussed include why people’s homes were their refuge during the COVID-19 pandemic, why owning is better than renting and why, for many people, the mortgage interest write-off could be the difference between being a renter and being an owner.Use the button below to download this week’s resource and follow along with the episode.READ FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT DOWNLOAD FREE RESOURCE YOU WILL LEARN:Why homeownership increases personal wealth and well-being.Why homeownership promotes stronger families and neighborhoods.Why homeownership is good for the economy. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Episode 124, “Getting the Mortgage Monkey Off Your Back” INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:“Food, shelter and clothing are the three predominant needs of humanity – and owning a home answers one of those.” – Brian Buffini“The house of everyone is to him as his castle and fortress.” – Edward Coke“Home should be an anchor, a port in a storm, a refuge, a happy place in which to dwell, a place where we are all loved, and where we can love.” – Marvin J. Ashton“As an immigrant, I didn't feel like I belonged in America until I owned a home.” – Brian Buffini“A house is made with walls and beams. A home is made with love and dreams.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson“Real estate cannot be lost or stolen, nor can it be carried away. Purchased with common sense, paid for in full and managed with reasonable care, it is about the safest investment in the world.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt“Having a home and buying real estate, even buying investment real estate, is a phenomenal goal to set your mind on, and a great set of goals to have as the end to which all your efforts are directed.” – Brian Buffini“There’s something permanent, and something extremely profound in owning a home.” – Kenny Guinn“90 percent of all millionaires become so through owning real estate.” – Andrew Carnegie“Buy real estate; they stopped making it.” – Mark Twain“Can a home buy you happiness? No, it can't. But can it contribute to your happiness? Absolutely.” – Brian Buffini“Owning a home is a keystone of wealth – both financial affluence and emotional security.” – Suze Orman“The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home.” – Confucius“Buy real estate, hold it and then buy some more.” – Brian Buffini“If you don’t own a home, buy one. If you own a home, buy another one. And if you own two homes, buy a third, and lend your relatives the money to buy a home.” – John Paulson“Owning a home is a magical thing. And it's the magic I hope that you currently are participating in.” – Brian Buffini“Real estate has provided me with the income to go pursue the gifts God's given me to go help as many people as I can. I owe that to real estate.” – Brian Buffini Connect with Brian Buffinihttps://www.Itsagoodlife.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“As we heal our soul, from there, everything else starts to work a whole lot better.” – Jon Gordon   With world events causing so much stress and anxiety, we must remember to take some time to feed our soul. In this episode, Brian interviews positivity master and eight-time bestselling author Jon Gordon about his new spiritual fable, “The Garden.” Different from Jon’s past writings, “The Garden” follows two teenagers struggling with mental health and an elderly neighbor who teaches them to overcome fear, stress and anxiety through his beautiful garden. Jon explains the Five D’s that hold us back and the strategies you need to counter each one to find peace and joy.  They also discuss the key to staying positive during tough times.   YOU WILL LEARN: The role faith plays in beating stress and anxiety. How to overcome the Five D’s that hold us back. How to stay positive during tough times. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “The Garden,” by Jon Gordon “Training Camp,” by Jon Gordon Jongordon.com   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “I’m sharing a framework and tips and strategies to overcome the anxiety, the fear the stress that can actually paralyze you, debilitate you and really sabotage you.” – Jon Gordon “When I lost my job and almost went bankrupt, I found my faith through that time and it prepared me for this time right now to be a light for others.” – Jon Gordon “When you have clarity, that drives focused action.” – Jon Gordon “Stars shine the brightest in the dark. Positive people shine the most in adversity.” — Brian Buffini “We need spiritual answers to matters of the heart and matters of the soul.” – Brian Buffini “I’ve learned to talk to myself, instead of listen to myself.” — Dr. James Gills “People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.” — Zig Ziglar “How do you know if someone needs encouragement? If they are breathing.” – Truett Cathy   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.