The Brian Buffini Show

“Don't tell me I can't do it. Tell me what I have to do so I can do it.” – Dick Hoyt It’s possible to achieve incredible things in life simply by making up your mind. In this special episode from the Buffini & Company vaults, Brian interviews trailblazing athlete Dick Hoyt, who recently passed away. Dick shares how his son, Rick, born a quadriplegic and unable to speak or control his limbs, told him he wanted to participate in a 5-mile benefit run for a lacrosse player who had been paralyzed in an accident. From that first race, when Dick pushed Rick in his wheelchair and his son confided how he didn’t feel disabled when they ran together, they went on to complete over 1,000 races, including marathons, duathlons and triathlons. Topics discussed include: How their running journey evolved, how they broke new ground and barriers together and how they overcame the criticism and negativity they encountered.   YOU WILL LEARN: How Dick always maintained a positive mindset. How Dick managed and prioritized his time. Why short and long-term goals were vital to the success of Team Hoyt.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dick & Rick Hoyt Team Hoyt MasterMind Summit Boston Marathon Ironman Interview   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “I made up my mind that we're not going to be discouraged. And we're not going to take no for an answer. And we're going to go out there and do the things we want to do.” – Dick Hoyt “We've come a long way and we've been able to break down a lot of barriers along the way and that’s because we never gave up and we never take no for an answer.” – Dick Hoyt “If don't have your mind made up and set, you're not going to be able to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish.” – Dick Hoyt “You can’t get discouraged. You’ve got to be very, very brave.” – Dick Hoyt “I look forward to every day and the challenges that may come ahead.” – Dick Hoyt   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The secret to managing our self-talk well is using combinations of tools.” – Ethan Kross Some of the most important conversations we ever have are with ourselves. In this episode, Brian interviews Ethan Kross about his book, “Chatter.” Ethan explains why we all have an inner voice and how we can learn to harness it to live a healthier, more satisfying and more productive life. Topics discussed include: distance self-talk, temporal distancing, the power and peril of other people, invisible support and the Nadal Principle.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why we can lose perspective when trying to solve a problem. Why small shifts in how we think can make a huge difference. Which tools we can use to rein in our mental chatter.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Chatter,” By Ethan Kross Episode 40, Getting Caught Talking to Yourself “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” by Shad Helmstetter “Man’s Search for Meaning,” Viktor E. Frankl “The Energy Bus,” by Jon Gordon   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Language can be our friend.” – Ethan Kross “Sometimes it's just a gentle nudge to think differently that can make a difference.” – Ethan Kross “We can often give advice to others better than we can follow that advice ourselves. So other people are in a prime position to help us work through our chatter.” – Ethan Kross “When you're struggling with chatter, be very deliberate about who you seek out support from.” – Ethan Kross “There are things we can do in the world around us that influence the things happening between our ears.” – Ethan Kross   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“When you're in a funk, it's time to go back to the fundamentals of personal growth and development, because I believe the greatest way to get out of a funk is to grow.” – Brian Buffini Life is designed to have peaks and valleys. We all have highs and lows along the way – that just means we’re human. In this episode, Brian explains why everyone experiences a funk sometimes and how to best get past it. Topics discussed include: the three kinds of funks that exist; why positive self-talk matters; the difference between isolation and solitude; and why you must be careful what you read, watch and listen to.     YOU WILL LEARN: Reasons why you can get into a funk. How to navigate a funk when there is no instant fix. Steps to take to get out of a funk.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Chatter,” by Ethan Kross “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” by Shad Helmstetter Episode 40, Getting Caught Talking to Yourself “Boundaries,” by Henry Cloud Episode 61, The Strangest Secret – by Earl Nightingale Episode 200, As a Man Thinketh Episode 220, Napoleon Hill’s Powerful Principles for Perilous Times   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “We have highs, we have lows, we have times we're fired up, we have times when we're just at the bottom. There's nothing wrong with you, you're human.” – Brian Buffini “It takes grit to be relentlessly positive.” – Brian Buffini “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” – Brené Brown “We all need people. And we all do better with people.” – Brian Buffini “One of the most life-giving things in the world is to serve somebody else.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The question is, can you figure out your engine, your vehicle, so you can start doing better in your own environment?” – Rich Diviney What are the key attributes for success in even the toughest situation? In this episode, Brian interviews retired Navy SEAL Commander Rich Diviney about his book, “The Attributes.” Rich explains how, through close observation of the most elite optimal performers, he learned to identify the hidden drivers of performance that explain how someone will succeed, both as an individual and as part of a team. Topics discussed include: the unique SEAL mindset, the difference between skills and attributes and the defining qualities of real leadership. YOU WILL LEARN: The five attributes of optimal performance. How everyone possesses these attributes to varying degrees. Why you must understand and cultivate your own attributes.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Attributes Draper Kauffman “The Shawshank Redemption” movie “Key to Yourself,” by Venice Bloodworth   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Courage cannot exist without fear.” – Rich Diviney “There's a distinct difference between being in charge and being a leader. Being in charge is a noun, and being a leader is a verb.” – Rich Diviney “One of the most important jobs of leadership is oftentimes not to be in the front at all, it’s to push your people up front.” – Rich Diviney “Humility is a difficult thing. Because as soon as you think you have it, you've lost it.” – Rich Diviney “Laughter is a binding element that hacks into courage and allows us to keep going.” – Rich Diviney “Be resolute in the outcome, but don't dictate the pathway. You have to be adaptable - the pathway is going to change.” – Rich Diviney   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’ve never met an Irishman who didn’t hope for more.” – Brian Buffini   Ireland might be a small country, but it’s one of the most influential in the world. In this episode, recorded as a special Facebook Live on St. Patrick’s Day, Brian shares three reasons why so many Irish people achieve phenomenal success worldwide and explains how these unique principles can help you win, no matter where you’re from. This episode also features a bonus Q&A session in which Brian discusses topics including how to deal with a hot market, how to get clients to refer you and why it’s important to keep connecting with customers who move out of state.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why it’s vital to have a wishbone. How to develop a backbone. Why everyone needs a funny bone.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: EPIC, The Irish Emigration Museum “The Commitments” movie “The Shawshank Redemption” movie Episode 201, This Too Shall Pass – an Interview with Dr. Lawrence Yun The Peak Experience   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” – Oscar Wilde “You’ve got to have a backbone. You’ve got to have some toughness. If you want to succeed in life, you’ve got to be tough enough to do it.” – Brian Buffini “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” – Samuel Beckett “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” – Confucius “We need a bit of laughter. We need a bit of life.” – Brian Buffini “Laughter is the best medicine. And the best medicine is in short supply in today’s world.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“If you have the right heart and the right motives, and you go about this the right way, you will be a person of influence. You will become a master of influence.” – Brian Buffini The art of persuasion can be a powerful force for good, but it must be done for the right reasons and in the right way. In this episode, inspired by Robert Cialdini’s classic bestseller “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” Brian shares three more principles of influence and persuasion. Topics discussed include: why it’s important to slow down and break bread with people, why actions speak louder than words and why you must lead yourself before you can lead others.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why the likeability factor is so important. How to be an effective leader. Why the principle of scarcity must be authentic.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” by Robert Cialdini Episode 267, The Power of WHO – an Interview with Bob Beaudine Episode 227, The Leader’s Edge “Love is the Killer App,” by Tim Sanders “Emotional Intelligence 2.0,” by Travis Bradberry The Peak Experience MasterMind Summit   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “To positively influence people, you have to really make a deep impression on how you make them feel.” – Brian Buffini “We want to do business with people we like.” – Brian Buffini “It's amazing how interesting people find you when you're interested in them.” – Brian Buffini “I find that if I'm kind to myself and gracious to myself, I can be kind and gracious to others.” – Brian Buffini “The power of doing the right things, in the right way, with the right intent - and maintaining that standard for yourself - is a deposit in your own mind and your own heart that will be the making of you.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Great persuasion is getting people to do what they need to do.”– Brian Buffini When done for the right reasons and in the right way, the art of persuasion is very powerful. In this episode, inspired by Robert Cialdini’s classic bestseller “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” Brian shares the first three of six principles of influence and persuasion. He explains how, when they coincide with the right intent, motivation and desire to help, these techniques can be used for the common good and to serve others.   YOU WILL LEARN: How the law of reciprocity works. Why commitment is a key ingredient in influence. Why social proof is such a powerful phenomenon.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” by Robert Cialdini Episode 267, The Power of WHO – an Interview with Bob Beaudine “The Power of WHO,” by Bob Beaudine Episode 231, The Law of the Harvest National Association of REALTORS® Episode 199, No Plan B Episode 164, The Best Interview of My Life with Neil Armstrong Solomon Asch   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If you give and give and give, eventually you will be seen, you will be acknowledged and you will reap the harvest.” – Brian Buffini “Help your friends in every way possible.” – Bob Beaudine “You will find your tribe, you will find the right people, you will find the right reward. But don't give up.”– Brian Buffini “If you want to have influence you’ve got to be committed, have no plan B and be all in.” – Brian Buffini “If they can do it, I can do it.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The power of WHO starts first with a premise that friends and business aren't taboo.” – Bob Beaudine   We all have key relationships in our lives that can help us in ways we never imagined. In this episode, Brian interviews Bob Beaudine, the top sports and entertainment executive recruiter in the United States. Bob explains why your friends are your conduits and resources to success, why you must humble yourself enough to ask for help and how you can deal with life’s speedbumps and still achieve your dreams. YOU WILL LEARN: Why you already know everyone you need to. How the 100/40 strategy works. The five clues that provide the feedback to get you back on track.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: https://www.bobbeaudine.com/ “The Power of WHO,” by Bob Beaudine “2 Chairs,” by Bob Beaudine “Arnie,” Golf Channel documentary “It's a Wonderful Life,” movie   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If you want your dreams to come true, you have to help other people get their dream.” – Bob Beaudine “You can never get what you can't see.” – Bob Beaudine “People don't care how interesting you are, they care how interested you are.” – Bob Beaudine “Everyone comes to a realization that we're all a cup short of greatness … you need other people.” – Bob Beaudine “Friends are different than acquaintances. Friends help you now; acquaintances wish you well.” – Bob Beaudine “You should go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated.” – Bob Beaudine   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You're in total control of the skill set you have and the skill set you can have.” – Brian Buffini We might not be able to control much in today’s uncertain world, but one dynamic we can control is the ability to develop our own skills. In this episode, Brian teaches how we can take charge of our attitude, efforts and self-development to become more skilled and professional and stand out from the crowd. Topics discussed include: how to develop emotional intelligence, how to listen well and why actions speak louder than words.   YOU WILL LEARN: How to connect with your clients. How to serve your clients. How to hone your skills.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Emotional Intelligence,” by Daniel Goleman Episode 14, An Interview with Daniel Goleman   Episode 26, Mastering the Art of Listening Episode 87, The Unexpected Extras Episode 161, Never Split the Difference with Chris Voss Chester L. Karrass “Takin’ Care of Business,” by Brian Buffini and Joe Niego Buffini & Company training solutions   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “It is easier to succeed right now than any time I've seen in the last 40 years.” – Brian Buffini “We're not in control of very much. But we can control our attitude, we can control our efforts and we definitely can control our own self-development.” – Brian Buffini “Gifts are given. Skills are acquired and honed.” – Brian Buffini “Human beings want to feel heard, and they want to be connected.” – Brian Buffini “Every time you fulfill a promise, you build trust. Every time you break a promise, you break trust.” – Brian Buffini “There's a joy in serving, there's a purpose in serving, there's a beauty in giving.” – Brian Buffini Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The vast majority of people who fail in business didn't have to fail in business.” – Michael E. GerberMany small businesses needlessly fail in this country every year. In this episode, Brian interviews bestselling author Michael E. Gerber, a small business guru who has impacted the lives of millions of entrepreneurs worldwide for over 40 years. Michael explains how small businesses can be transformed. He also discusses the fatal assumptions people make when they open their own business and the core differences between an entrepreneur, a manager and a technician. YOU WILL LEARN:What the e-myth is.How the eightfold path works.Why systems are vital to success. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:“The E-Myth Revisited,” by Michael Gerberhttps://emythstrategies.com/https://www.michaelegerbercompanies.com/Ray KrocJoan Kroc“I Am That,” by Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:“Most people who go into business aren't entrepreneurs, they're what I've come to call technicians suffering from an entrepreneurial seizure. In short, they don't start a business to create something great. They start a business to get rid of the boss.” – Michael E. Gerber“Every life is a legacy.” – Michael E. Gerber“Systems are the promise keepers, systems are the trust builders, systems are the foundation.” – Brian Buffini“Systems enable you to keep your word.” – Michael E. Gerber“Business is the economic side of life. But it's not the life of life.” – Michael E. Gerber Connect with Brian Buffinihttps://www.Itsagoodlife.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffiniInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffiniYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@itsagoodlifepodcastLove what you heard? Share it with your friends! It’s a Good Life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.