Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

The podcast discusses the importance of being intentional in marriage and reprogramming thoughts about sex and marriage. It explores challenges in maintaining a fulfilling sex life, the tendency to blame and change one's spouse, understanding first-person experiences, shifting mindset for busy moms, and the importance of a good relationship for sexual satisfaction.

Learn how to make sex fun again by injecting playfulness into your relationship and sexual encounters. Discover the reasons couples struggle with play and foreplay, and explore seven actionable ways to add relaxed playfulness, newness, and excitement into your marriage and sex life. Get tips on incorporating exercises, games, blindfolds, strip games, minute-to-win-it games, and apps to make sex more fun and playful. Address the root causes of a sexual rut and keep your sex life fresh and enjoyable.

Relationship expert Christa Hardin discusses the influence of the Enneagram personality types on sex life and marriage. They explore how different personality types affect marriages, analyze the traits of type seven, and reflect on style differences in relationships. The importance of self-discovery and coaching in maintaining successful relationships is also emphasized.

This podcast covers a range of intriguing topics, including fetishes, shame, anal play, and overcoming awkwardness in a marriage. It explores unconventional sexual acts, discusses the controversy surrounding prostate stimulation, and offers advice on maintaining a vibrant sex life. Additionally, it delves into understanding your partner's perspective, prioritizing their pleasure, and navigating differences in sexual desires within a relationship.

I strongly believe one of the paths to a stronger marriage is by doing the work necessary to have a great sex life as a couple. Why start with sex? It's because there's such a strong link between pleasure and connection. When you increase and broaden the pleasure you experience as a couple, you'll find your emotional and spiritual connection deepen as well. Besides, doing the work necessary to have great sex forces individuals to learn how to deeply love their spouse like they've never loved before; it requires trust, self-confidence, and an open heart. In short, developing your sexual relationship leads to more personal growth than anything else. Unfortunately, there's an orgasm gap in many marriages. Although orgasm isn't the only measure of a great sex life, it's a good enough proxy measure for the pleasure a couple enjoys in sex. I believe women are just as capable of sexual pleasure than men, if not more capable than men. And even though just about every person on the planet is capable of experiencing the pleasure of orgasm in sex, in far too many marriages women aren't experience orgasm as frequently as men do. Today my guest is my friend Amanda Louder. Amanda is a fellow marriage and intimacy coach. She is the host of the podcast, Sex For Saints. We're going to talk about practical strategies to help you overcome your orgasm gaps in your marriage today. We're also going to talk about sex toys that are used as an aid for pleasure as a couple. Did you know that over 70% of those that responded to my poll on Instagram say that they have used or currently use a vibrator? Many people are curious about trying a vibrator but don't know where to go to buy one without feeling weird about it. If that's you, open the Intimately Us app and go to the Learn Section, then Products We Love for my personal recommendations from trusted companies and brands.

RETREAT FLASH SALE: We've sold out of the main hotel (Hotel Lucy), but we're offering some spots at an overflow hotel next door at a discounted rate! It's $300 off right now through Sunday, September 24. PLUS, if you send us a DM on Instagram @getyourmarriageon, we'll send you a code to get another $100 off! This is the best price you'll get, so don't delay! Get the details here. *** We're going back in time a couple years today as I'm bringing back an episode from our archives. I'm doing this for a few reasons: We have acquired many new listeners on this podcast. Related to number 1, many of you may not have heard my origin story and the background to Get Your Marriage On! and our app Intimately Us. The biggest reason this episode is really special to me is my wonderful wife, Emily, who is as introverted as they come, was willing to be a guest on this podcast with me, so you get to hear her voice and her side of the story as well. We were interviewed by a friend, Ariel Finlanson, who hosts the podcast Ladies Talking Love. I do the Get Your Marriage On! podcast because I want to share what I'm learning with everyone. The reality is I'm not that different from many of you. I am on this journey and I'm just so excited that you can come along with me for the ride as I share the things that I'm learning alongside with you.

Discover the value and role of sexual fantasies in deepening intimacy and enhancing relationships. Learn about the enjoyment and arousal that can come from exploring fantasies and the importance of communication and compromise in sexual preferences. Embrace and value each other's fantasies within marriage while creating a judgment-free environment for expression.

Any of you with children are quite familiar with stages of child development. However, less talked about and less understood until recently are stages of adult development. As adults, our bodies may have grown, but our mind and spirits still continue to grow. I love this interview you're about to hear with my friend Tammy. It's an inspiring and relatable story about Tammy and her husband, Jake, and how they grew and progressed in their relationship. Tammy talks about her journey to break out of a limiting mindset and to embrace her own sexual desires and needs. She mentions that a turning point was when her husband enrolled them in a course related to sexual development and introduced her to a couple's retreat. These experiences opened her eyes to the possibility of change and growth in this area. We also discuss how curiosity, open-mindedness, and gradual steps were key components of Tammy's journey. She describes a process of shedding her need for external validation, which allowed her to change and grow without being dependent on other people's opinions. She also emphasizes the importance of self reflection learning how to love herself. I hope this episode also inspires and gives hopes to listeners who wish their spouse would step up more in the sexual arena in their marriage. Listen closely to what Jake did that gave room for Tammy to grow and try new things. If you're looking for support in your growth and intimacy in your marriage like Tammy and Jake did, I highly recommend you get on our website and book a spot at our upcoming couples retreat in Texas at the end of October. Our retreats are romantic, they're fun, as well as really in depth. They're a perfect balance of instruction and unstructured downtime to really enjoy a getaway with your lover. It's right around the corner, and spots are filling up quickly, so please register today.

In this episode, the speakers share the best black belt sex tips they've learned from guests over the past 50 episodes. They discuss the importance of open communication, vulnerability, and trust in a marriage, as well as the power of gratitude. They also provide tips on improving intimacy, overcoming anxiety, and incorporating vibrators for added pleasure.

What popular media has taught us The media and stereotypical culture norms show that men are the ones usually sexually pursuing while the women are seducing and being pursued. Our culture is saturated with these tropes and themes: think James Bond, Indiana Jones, or many other shows that show this theme. But what happens if you're in a marriage where you, as the wife, find yourself often pursuing him? And he's the one withdrawing, needing to be wooed? Or you're the one with more acceptance and freedom about your sexuality, eager to explore and pursue novelty and sexual fun while he's not so sure about his sexuality or has a lot of hangups? Is it because you're not attractive enough? It's common for women in these marriages to feel like they must not be attractive enough. You might have gone through a lot of effort to look and dress pretty (or undress) for the occasion and his rejection can really hurt. It's disregulating to feel rejected, and you wonder what's wrong with you. It's easy to get reactive in these situations, and start a downward spiral. You may even be wondering what you can do to get him interested in you sexually, or wonder why he withdraws, encouraging you to pursue even more. Let's ask a therapist AND higher desire wife My guest today is Dr. Laurie Watson. She's a sex therapist and marriage therapist and also a married woman who is the one with more sexual desire and the pursuer in her own marriage. I figured she's uniquely qualified to answer questions I've had about higher desire wives. I've found this conversation enlightening and refreshing. Laurie even gives very specific step-by-step suggestions on how to approach the subject with your spouse and how to build a better sexual relationship. Get Help If you're in a marriage where there's hard feelings because of a gap between the pursuer or distancer, or find differences in sexual desire levels to be a sore topic, don't stay there in misery. Get help. Check out Next Level, my coaching program for couples. You can meet with me and my team. It's really affordable, flexible, has TONS of value, and geared towards busy couples. Another option is our in-person intensive in Dallas Forth Worth Texas area this October. Our retreats are 4 days, 3 nights and are in-depth and challenging in a good way. They're also really fun and romantic too! We have a few spots left. You can reserve your spot here! Free Coaching Come experience what coaching is like with my free marriage coaching hour on September 1. Register here!