Sons of Patriarchy
Peter Bell & Sarah Bader
What happens when biblical patriarchy, christian nationalism, and a theology of authority and submission become the pillars of a movement? Scores of abuse stories in marriages, schools, churches, families, and more. Though these ideas have filtered throughout the United States for decades, they found a home in Moscow, Idaho, through the ministry and work of Doug Wilson. From there, they have influenced churches across the United States, and across the world.
In this series, you'll hear from experts on all aspects of these movements, and the stories of abuse from those who survived. Some are Christian, some are not, but one thing they've got in common?
They're finally speaking out.
This is their story.
In this series, you'll hear from experts on all aspects of these movements, and the stories of abuse from those who survived. Some are Christian, some are not, but one thing they've got in common?
They're finally speaking out.
This is their story.
Episodes
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Jan 20, 2025 • 1h 1min
It's Only a Matter of Rank
Zach Wagner, Director at the Center for Pastor Theologians and author of Non-Toxic Masculinity, discusses the dangers of patriarchal frameworks and the pressure they place on men to perform masculinity. An anonymous woman from Oklahoma shares her harrowing experience with the toxic teachings of a Doug Wilson-influenced church, detailing how patriarchal doctrines wrecked her marriage. Together, they explore how patriarchy not only harms women but also entraps men in a performance-based identity, all while Wagner advocates for a gospel-centered view of masculinity.
Jan 16, 2025 • 1h 40min
Silenced No More: Abuse in the OPC, Part 5
Rachel Curtiss, a former member of Cities Church, shares her harrowing tale of spiritual abuse after being excommunicated for confronting her husband’s misconduct. Cait West, author of the memoir Rift, reflects on her upbringing in a patriarchal environment, exposing the damaging beliefs surrounding women's roles. Both women emphasize the trauma of their experiences, urging others to seek help and accountability. They bring to light the hidden perils of authoritarian church cultures that stifle individual agency and perpetuate harm.
Jan 13, 2025 • 1h 28min
The Trinity and Gender Roles
Join Jeff Moss, a former CREC minister with over a decade in ecclesiastical circles, as he critiques the implications of Trinitarian formulations on gender roles. The duo delves into the controversy surrounding the Father-Son dynamic, exploring how it can be misinterpreted to justify patriarchal structures. They also discuss the eternal obedience of the Son and its theological ramifications, challenging common metaphors and doctrines that underpin gender hierarchies. Ultimately, they propose a more equitable understanding of the Trinity that promotes healthy relationships.
Jan 9, 2025 • 1h 28min
Can't Trespass the Garden: Abuse in the OPC, Part 4
In this intriguing discussion, an anonymous couple, former members of a CREC church, share their experiences with spiritual abuse and confusing theological practices. Their testimony reveals the heavy pressures within church leadership dynamics that pushed them to leave. An anonymous woman from Harvest OPC recounts her own harrowing journey, detailing how harmful pastoral responses exacerbated domestic abuse within her family. Both guests highlight the damaging influence of patriarchal teachings in church cultures, urging accountability and a deeper understanding of justice and healing for survivors.
Jan 6, 2025 • 1h 28min
Reformed is (Not) Enough
R. Scott Clark, a church historian and theology professor at Westminster Seminary California, dives deep into the complexities of Federal Vision theology. He traces its origins and critiques its reinterpretation of Reformed confessions, revealing concerns about works-based Christianity. The discussion explores the distinction between factions within Federal Vision, the implications of infant communion, and the risk of a legalistic approach to faith. Clark highlights how this theological perspective can lead to pastoral abuse and a loss of assurance, ultimately urging a return to grace.
Jan 2, 2025 • 2h 14min
Let's Get Spiritual: Abuse in the OPC, Part 3
In a powerful discussion, Aimee Byrd, an author known for her critiques of spiritual abuse, shares her own harrowing experiences, including a two-year campaign of harassment and church leadership's complicity in online attacks. Former OPC member Ali LeReaux recounts alarming instances of racism and a church culture that endorsed corporal punishment, leading to her family's eventual departure. Heather Nadreau sheds light on her experience of marital abuse within the church, emphasizing the urgent need for communities to support survivors and reconsider harmful traditions.
Dec 30, 2024 • 1h 9min
Marketing, or, Why the Ends Justify the Means
Nathan Wells, a local of Moscow, Idaho, shares his experiences living in a community shaped by Christ Church and its influential figures. He and his wife discuss the aggressive marketing tactics of organizations like Canon Press, revealing how such boldness can polarize a community. They reflect on their initial attraction to the area and later concerns about social division and religious branding. The conversation touches on the ethics of marketing in faith contexts and the potential dangers of an 'us versus them' mentality in evangelism.
Dec 28, 2024 • 50min
2 or 3 Witnesses: A Conversation with Rachael Denhollander
Rachael Denhollander, an attorney and survivor-advocate, dives into critical discussions on abuse dynamics and church accountability. She sheds light on the complexities of mandatory reporting, emphasizing the need for trained investigators and trauma-informed responses. Rachael addresses the misapplication of the 'two or three witnesses' argument and explains how this can undermine victims. With a firm grasp on legal and biblical standards, she encourages transparent communication while advocating for survivor agency, dignity, and support in healing processes.
Dec 26, 2024 • 1h 40min
Never Good Enough: Abuse in the OPC, Part 2
Chelsea Gondrez, a former member of the OPC/PCA, shares her harrowing journey of spiritual and sexual abuse in a reformed church, shedding light on a culture of subservience and shame imposed on women. An anonymous long-time observer, voiced by Helen Shores Peters, offers insights on Doug Wilson’s influence and the high-control environment of Christchurch. Chelsea's parents, Elaine and Fred Hoffland, discuss their family's struggle to support her, emphasizing the vital role of institutional responses in healing for survivors. They call for a community to amplify survivors' voices.
Dec 23, 2024 • 1h 12min
The Anti-Denomination
Join former CREC minister Jeff Moss as he reveals the intricacies of the CREC's structure and culture. With over a decade of insider experience, he explains their mixed polity, the influence of Doug Wilson, and how the denomination navigates theological diversity. Jeff discusses its unique ordination practices, sacramental administration, and the unusual rise in membership during COVID due to a strong stance against lockdowns. Delve into the competitive visions within the CREC, where cultural activism and liturgical revival clash.
