The Chris Harder Show

Do you know why you haven't chased down that radical wealth and abundance that you KNOW you're entitled to and capable of earning? Get ready, it's time for a deep-dive into your mind! I can tell you from personal experience, that it's one of the worst feelings to know that you can do something, but you're not doing it! But the good news is that you can begin to eliminate these feelings by asking ONE question that can help unlock the answers as to why you haven't followed through on your pursuit of this abundance wealth. "Who/what is it serving by you holding back on your quest for wealth and abundance?" Are your wheels turning? We've all been stuck before (yes, me too) because we're serving someone or something instead of rising to the occasion, going out and getting that abundance. Stop playing SMALL! For instance, you're not serving your business when you don't make those sales calls that take your business to another level – you're serving fear. Same goes for people… You don't DARE make more money than those in your group of friends, because that would make them uncomfortable, right? Guess who you're serving? Hint, it's not you! Take responsibility for you and get after it. "You are entitled – not guaranteed – to make the choices to be abundant and wealthy." You must become unapologetic when it comes to your abundance and wealth. Until you do, you're not going to realize what you're capable of earning, doing or creating. Trust me, I KNOW this can be extremely uncomfortable, but it's more uncomfortable to know that you're capable of doing something so much bigger, but you're anchored because you're afraid of making someone or something different than it is today. Know that you're not the only one who feels that way, and if you have to, borrow some faith from a friend and make it into your own. I promise that once you're able to move past this who or what isn't serving, that's when everything starts coming together and abundance appears. In This Episode You Will Learn: About ridding your life of things or people that aren't serving you About why it's dangerous to choose temporary safe zones over abundance How to become unapologetic when it comes to wealth and abundance About the importance of accepting change and getting comfortable with the uncomfortable Entrepreneurship Resources: For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

Everyone, meet Amber Lilyestrom, a fellow entrepreneur and passionate soul who left a successful career to make a bigger impact and fulfill her soul's higher calling, which has since allowed her to pour more of her time and soul into her family. She now enjoys pushing herself beyond her human limits and mindset roadblocks that inevitably pop up along the way – all to be the BEST version of who she was born to be. What I love the most about this mompreneur's mission and story is that she's done all of this to help others create businesses that align more with who they are. Amber wants everyone to lead the happiest and most fulfilling life through "coming home to their truth." And she loves to facilitate that process. "I've always wanted to empower people to embrace and accept themselves because I never did." Of course, the above is rarely a straight path, and that's why Amber is so transparent about the challenges she's faced and continues to face (mostly her own limiting beliefs that made her question her personal value). Through her own experiences, she is able to whole-heartedly encourage others to take that leap and use what they have (or don't have) to their advantage. "Action builds belief." This podcast is a must-listen for all those who feel that pull on their souls to do something bigger and more true to themselves. It is my hope that by the end of this episode that your soul is fueled, ready to make an impact in your own unique way. "When I invest in me, it is the greatest investment I will ever make in this lifetime because it pays in dividends exponentially." Question Highlights: How were you taught to view money? What actions are you taking right now to overcome challenges? When did you start your business? How did you make the transition from your existing career to your own business? What has changed since your business started that has allowed your business to grow so quickly? What has been the best investment you've made so far? What role has generosity played in your life/business? What are some of the BS reasons that hold other mom's back from pursuing their calling? In This Episode You Will Learn: How Amber overcame her limiting money mindset beliefs. Why there is more than enough time in your day to fulfill your soul's purpose. Why it's so important to teach what you've already went through. How the role of generosity plays in Amber's life and business. Why you are good enough RIGHT NOW to go after your soul's calling. How stepping into your own truth and doing the work that's in alignment with your soul's purpose can make the world a better place. And so much more… Amber's Thoughts… "Our bank accounts and our bodies are really truly these beautiful mirrors for where we are at with our relationships and ourselves." "We must operate at a higher level and clear the space and clutter that's not making us feel good in order to become the master visionaries, creators and leaders that we are." "The more I honor what I feel called to and what I am the very best at, the more abundance and goodness there is in my business, bank account, how my body feels and relationships." "I will always bet on myself." "Give people permission to be who they are." "By you stepping into your truth and doing the work that's in alignment with your soul's purpose and calling, you are making the world a better place. When you don't do that, and shut the door out of fear, then you shut the door on the expansion and growth of mankind." -- Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding & business strategist, writer and speaker. She is the host of The Soul Fueled CEO™ Podcast and helps entrepreneurs turn their passions in to heart-centered brands and thriving businesses. From idea conception to the construction of the business and its digital landscape, Amber supports visionaries, leaders and disruptivators in changing the world and their lives. Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing, managing the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, as well as teaching sports marketing and mentoring student interns. She was recognized as one of the top sports marketing professionals in the nation. Resources: Amberlilyestrom.com IG: @amberlilyestrom Soul Fueled CEO Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soul-fueled-ceo-amber-lilyestrom/id1102196253?mt=2 You can find my interview with Amber here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/chris-harder-on-when-good-people-make-good-money-they/id1102196253?i=1000389790980&mt=2 For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

First off, pardon my French, but I really felt the need for an emphasis, a real punch-in-the-gut phrase to drive this episode's message home. One of my recent pet peeves (that completely blows my mind) is when people say they don't know how to do something or how to get started. I politely call BS! "We live in the easiest time to start a business and thrive that there has ever been." Information is abundant and it's at our fingertips – you just have to effing Google it! If you want to learn how to launch an eCourse – Google it! You will no doubt find tons of information – videos, step-by-step tutorials – you name it. "There's not a single thing you can't learn on Google." Now I'm not saying all of the things you find are going to be your best answer (perhaps leave surgery for a REAL surgeon?), however it is so FREEING! You no longer have to let this notion stop you in your tracks. And let's be honest, in this day and age, if you're not making progress in your business because you don't know how, you're just letting fear win. "You're driving that fear train to victimhood." Stop being a victim and letting fear win. Don't be afraid to take that step forward. Give up the comfort of playing the victim and asking for someone to help you. Again, I'm not saying any of this to be mean – I simply care about my listeners and want them to wake up! Three takeaways from this episode: Wake up and realize that you can do ANYTHING! If you didn't know before, all of the answers are on Google. Take action. Don't allow limiting beliefs or fear to slow you down. Don't live behind the shield of "I don't know how" or "I couldn't find the help." Sure, it's comfortable and that's because most of society goes along with that mentality, but it's NOT the truth. The truth is if you want to do something…you can fuc#*ing Google it. In This Episode You Will Learn: Taking action Finding answers on Google Information abundance Entrepreneur Resources: For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

Even though my guest today, Ryan Blair, is known for being one of the most successful entrepreneurs out there, you wouldn't know it by his humble, surprised attitude with that title. Ryan's success story alone will have you believing that you too can do anything if your mind is wired right. Oh, and you'll likely discover that you're already a mathematician – you just don't know it yet. Early on in his life, the cards were stacked against Ryan. Coming from a broken home with an abusive father, he never finished high school, and at the age of 14 he was witness to the tragic murder of the girl who gave him his first kiss. Soon after, he was forced into a gang. And while this could have been the move that led to his demise, it instead taught him the essential survival skills needed to succeed as an entrepreneur on the streets. Some years later with a successful street career in motion, Ryan realized that he now had a choice – he could be successful either on the streets – or off. He chose to apply his entrepreneurial success off the streets. With the ability to experience both sides and looking back, he is truly grateful that he was "wired right." Ryan attributes that to stating what he wanted and using reverse engineering (math) to get to where he is today. "You can do your programming and wiring to get exactly where you want to be – you just have to figure it out and reverse engineer it." See, I told you you'd get to do some math! For example, Ryan raised money, he borrowed money, asked for investments – he did what it took to get him where he wanted to be. After listening to this podcast you'll hear the passion in his voice when he talks about these very actions as he believes EVERYONE can become a successful entrepreneur (yes, you too) and it's just a matter of figuring out the formula so you can use math to do it. "The path is the math. There is a mathematical formula. You just have to put in the work to do it." Ryan stresses that you always have a choice. Even if you feel like you can't go into medicine because you're not a doctor, you CAN! But first, make a decision and become self-aware. Then align yourself with the right people to get you there and have an appetite for learning. Absorb everything you can from the people who you want to emulate. Take their best qualities and implement them in your life. What's even better is if you can also find the sweet spot of living your dreams and also creating wealth. "If you have a great life-work integration, you can have a great, happy life." Don't let the societal norms tell you what you can and can't do. A software engineer by training, Ryan knows he's not a conventionally trained mathematician, but he's made himself into one. He personally thrives on the challenge of people telling him he can't do things. You just need to not care what other people think. I dare you to challenge him and see what happens! ;) It's just another example of his passion and drive to do more good things in this world through his success. I love Ryan's take on money as he equates it to the amount of projects he's able to take on. The more money he makes, the more projects he can start and the more people he can help. This is the exact mentality that my podcast encourages… the more we have, the more we can GIVE to others. And that's exactly what Ryan is setting out to do. He is passionate about supporting, serving and building up a family of entrepreneurs who he can do business with for the rest of his life (be sure to check out is entrepreneur in residence training at hashtagone.com). This includes all different varieties of people, businesses etc. Ryan is out to transform billions of peoples' lives and make a massive impact. And I have no doubt that his actions will leave a lasting legacy for years to come. -- Ryan Blair is a New York Times bestselling author, self-made multimillionaire and serial entrepreneur who established his first company when he was twenty-one years old and has since created and actively invested in multiple start-ups. Now at age of 38, he has founded and sold numerous businesses for hundreds of millions of dollars, is the founder of global healthy lifestyle company, ViSalus, and is a venture capitalist. In This Episode You Will Learn: Reverse engineering your way to success Having a great life-work integration Supporting middle class and entrepreneurs Using math to find your path Resources: ryanblair.com HashtagOne.com Books: Rock Bottom to Rock Star Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain: How I Went from Gang Member to Multimillionaire Entrepreneur For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

For the last handful of years or so, I've had a phrase/mantra that I've repeated to myself over and over: "Ego is our greatest overhead." I attribute a large part of my wife and I's financial abundance to this very phrase (it will be my next tattoo – hold me to it). There was a time not that long ago that my ego drove a lot of my decisions, in turn costing me…I don't even want to know how much money and potential partnerships. There were so many missed opportunities because my ego sensed fear. Yep, when we feel any type of fear – judgment, failure, not being accepted or success – ego slams on the brakes and "saves the day" before we do something really stupid and embarrass ourselves. But here's the thing… "Your ego isn't programmed to choose the types of risks and decisions that are needed to achieve massive financial abundance." Speaking of finances, your ego will also encourage you to make bad decisions so you look successful instead of being successful. And who will want to help you if you already look like you know what you're doing? "You'll never get ahead while you're pretending to be ahead." So what do you do to calm your ego? Good news, it's simple really (albeit challenging now and then). Recognize it (or often someone points it out to you). Once you're aware, it's just a matter of catching it in the act, recognizing it and reframing it. Once you're free of your ego, you'll find that everything flows faster – relationships, income, happiness, opportunities, sales etc. And we could use a little more abundance and little less ego, right? In This Episode You Will Hear About: How your ego is keeping you from abundance Fear Entrepreneurship Resources: For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

Marshall Morris – Episode 34 – Getting Past FEAR: From Broke in the Desert to a $30 Million Business I must say that this interview is one of my favorite interviews to date because internet marketing ninja, Marshall Morris, kept surprising me with his down to earth, get-it-done attitude, generosity and life and business insights. Did I mention that when he started out, the only internet skill he knew was checking his email? More on that later… First let's talk about how his career began. As the son of a hard-working, humble pastor, Marshall was taught early on the value of a hard day's work. In fact, at a young age, his father would "loan" him out for the weekend to different farmers he did business with to help out (for very little pay). This weekend help wasn't about making money, however, his father really just wanted to instill in him the value of working hard. And it's with this same mentality that his dad encouraged Marshall to attend college, but also informed him that it would be his responsibility to pay his own way – as that's the way he did it. Growing up in an impoverished family, his dad worked hard to pay for his college while attending so he'd never have to take out a loan. Not deterred by this, Marshall joined the military so his schooling could be paid for as he went. He never thought he would be deployed, but then 9/11 happened. Obviously, while deployed Marshall couldn't attend college so instead he read a lot of books (12 hours a night for a year) so he could continue at least some type of education. Among those books, he found that those focused on business resonated with him the most, and upon returning from his deployment he took it from there. Admittedly having more of a sales mindset from the beginning, he dabbled in real estate but gradually got out of it when the market took a turn. After returning from being deployed, Marshall was presented with the opportunity to help a friend of a friend with advertising sales on an automotive site that was struggling. Knowing very little about the internet, but feeling that this business could go somewhere, he offered to partner with this person. Their goal was to just make some money, make it a success and figure out the sales and marketing along the way with "Google university." Eventually the company started doing well, and they sold it to a bigger automotive company. It was through networking that he met his now business partner, Justin, who was in internet marketing. Having only a Facebook page, he enlisted the help of Marshall. Both found that their strengths and weaknesses balanced each other and they created the business I Heart Dogs. And the rest is history with other businesses such as I Heart Cats, I Heart Birds (and many more). Marshall and business partner, Justin, excel at building business models and then using those models anywhere. For them and their current niche, they've found that the more they do, the more they find opportunity (and who wouldn't want that?). But how did they build this brand/model to be so successful in the first place? Marshall states that it comes down to authenticity. "People want something that's authentic. We crave authenticity in a world that's so fake." That's why Marshall's business makes it a point to give back to the communities they serve. Particularly with the I Heart Dogs mission, they built a program that would help feed dogs without homes or in shelters (so far they've fed 8 million dogs in 24 months). They aim to be as transparent and as authentic as possible. "We see numbers, but they're people like us with needs and desires." Marshall attributes more of their success to the fact that people want to feel good about their purchases AND who they're buying from. The more authentic you can be, the more you're going to attract people. And when you do this you're giving context to your conversation with your customer. To Marshall, it's more than just selling a product, it's about showing customers opportunities and making them feel like they're part of a movement. When you're talking openly and not just about revenue-oriented topics you build the communities/followers to go with it. And when you get people to be a part of something and feel good about it becomes a part of their identity, too. That's why Marshall and his business are so passionate about encouraging others to free themselves and achieve their dreams as well. Naming fear as the biggest limiter, he acknowledges that fear is always going to be around. "You never get rid of your fear, you just battle it." The more complicated life and business gets, the more things come at you and the more people break down. You can't escape it, so you need people to support you. "Fear isn't a fact, it's an emotion." Marshall is grateful to have his wife as his rock and main support person along with his family. Often times, when things get stressful, it's a matter of taking a few days off to reboot and spend time with them. One crucial time in Marshall and his wife's lives is what they like to call their "time in the desert." He had hit rock bottom… going from making hundreds of thousands of dollars to $7 an hour building garages. He had become complacent, not understanding how to balance an abundance of money and lost control of his financial situation. While building these garages and going through this "drought," Marshall realized he needed to be around people who were going places, growing etc. in order to change his mindset. Having formerly undervalued his worth, he suffered from what a friend called the "poor boy mindset." This is someone who feels bad asking for a return on the value they provide, assuming that their value isn't as high as another. Marshall had to go through a major value SHIFT. "The whole point of building anything is to create value and capitalize on it. Period. Whatever that looks like. And you've got to be able to ask for as much as you create." So, Marshall started to rebuild, and a large part of that was again surrounding himself with good people who were going somewhere and who helped him survive and grow. But that was only one part of it. He still had to make the effort to make the connections. Whatever you build manifests outside of you. "What's down in the well will come up in the bucket." If you're having trouble finding these people, Marshall suggests to keep things simple. Don't overcomplicate it – just ask someone to have a cup of coffee with you. Have 3-4 really good questions ready. And then, make it a part of your weekly schedule. You may be investing $5 in a cup of coffee, but he guarantees that you're receiving a heck of a lot more in value. I love that Marshall offers this simple advice. It's just one more way that he GIVES back. And likely it's because he's always been motivated to solve a problem and loves a challenge (he's a bit competitive). ;) Both Marshall and his wife both love being able to do things for people as well… They've been through so many similar situations and because of this, they can feel the emotions and have soft spots for anyone experiencing the same or something similar. "The world needs more generous people with money." Marshall is committed to building more profitable businesses that make an impact. He loves seeing businesses that have mastered the balance between giving and business. And it's amazing when a business can be both genuine and generous while changing people's lives. After all, Marshall clarifies… it's not about him or his company. It's a mission to GIVE back, and if you give, that value will come back to you. For example, when Marshall and his wife have felt called to give, every time they have received MORE back. It was never the plan, but that's what tends to happen. Marshall goes on to say that he believes money is a great tool when it's used genuinely to make positive change in the world. "The world needs people who are ruthlessly unafraid to step out and do what it takes to make change where they feel like they need to make change." We all make impacts and help in different ways whether you're a craftsman, a musician etc. – so own it! Even if that skillset is making and managing money. "If you're in a place where you're genuine about what you do and how you operate, there's no reason to apologize for that skillset." You've been put on this earth with a set of unique gifts, so PLEASE follow Marshall's advice and don't let anyone keep you from YOUR vision. Money is a GOOD thing there's good intention behind its use. Never, never apologize for the gifts you were born with. In This Episode You Will Learn: Internet marketing Acknowledging and battling fear Authenticity Hitting rock bottom and coming back from it Following your passion Entrepreneurship Resources: Email: mm@homelifemedia.com iheartdogs.com For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

The title kind of makes you think, doesn't it? Maybe you think I've completely lost it, but it makes perfect sense. Often times our desire to stay comfortable is why we haven't reached goals or the abundance we long for. So many of us are addicted to that feeling that place of being comfortable and it keeps us treading water in the same spot. "That comfort drives every single decision we make…or don't make." Think about that… The comfort that you think is so great is keeping you at a certain level. As the famous saying goes from Jim Collins goes, "Good is the enemy of great." How often do we just do things to "get by?" Or if we are taking massive action, it's usually to avoid pain. But how often does that drive to do more last once that threat of that pain is gone? (Hint: not long!) Take your workouts… How often are you pushing yourself when you've already put in a "good enough" workout? How about your pay? Are you making enough to just pay the bills, but not so much to create an abundance? You've likely hit the comfort zone. You're not taking risks because there's fear you may fail, lose money or injure yourself. They're all excuses that you've fooled yourself into believing. But I've got news for you… "If you work hard to protect what you currently have, then that's all you'll ever get." Ask most successful people and you'll find that they gave up the "good enough" mentality long ago. They've failed time and time again, but they continued on. They worked when they didn't feel like it. They invested when they didn't have the money to invest. They sold their "comforts" so they could achieve their dreams and they constantly walk that fine line between success and failure. There are no guarantees, but we all have to make our peace with that. So how do you change this mindset? Simply put, change what you consider to be comfortable. Don't seek comfort in the same places. If that means associating with different people do it. If you know certain people are going to sabotage your efforts, steer clear. But never doubt your capacity for abundance. When the pain is too great, you will choose to seek a different destination of comfortable. "You were put here with a certain set of gifts to do something incredible enough to be abundantly wealthy." Never forget it. You never know who needs those gifts. In This Episode You Will Learn: Abundance How comfort is keeping you from abundance Changing your mindset Entrepreneur Resources: For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

It's not often that you hear of successful entrepreneurs who never actually planned to be an entrepreneur. And that's just one of the reasons why I'm so excited to share with you my conversation with YouTube star and "accidental entrepreneur," Amanda Bucci. It all began as Amanda was finishing up her nursing degree in college. With an ongoing interest and passion for fitness, she decided to track her fitness progress by creating an Instagram account. Without any expectations of a following, out of nowhere she had 15,000 followers. So how did she attract these people? Through GIVING! As many of you know, when you post progress pictures, your workout routine, your thoughts etc., you're going to get questions about how you were able to achieve your results. And with her spirit of generosity, Amanda felt called to respond back (paragraphs at a time) because she genuinely wanted to help. There was no money being made at this point, but that soon changed. Building a reputation as a coach, Amanda soon started taking one-on-one clients in addition to waitressing. Add studying for nursing exams and Amanda was maxed out. To free up time, Amanda decided to ditch the waitressing and create and sell an ebook. There wasn't a plan, just a vision and the desire to help others (and help herself as well if she could). Her first ebook, The Ins and Outs of Tracking Your Macros was a huge success and she found in addition to her coaching clients, she was making enough money to cover her living expenses with a little extra. With a nursing career still in sight, Amanda struggled. She didn't have the desire or extra time to study. Her passion for nursing had transitioned to fitness. Nonetheless, Amanda followed through, took the registered nurse exams and…didn't pass. A common occurrence, Amanda scheduled to take the test again, but when the time came take it again, she decided against it. It was time to take her fitness career to the next level (at this point she had already made $50,000 in just six short months!). Amanda took on more clients, started providing more content and kept sharing on Instagram and YouTube. So how did she do it in a world FULL of social media fitness stars? Amanda advises to not get discouraged by the amount of people who are doing something similar. There are so many people who need YOUR special message and guidance. "People want to connect with people. It's not just the information that people are seeking." Amanda feels that people buy things because they like the person they're buying a particular product/program from. "You can still shine your personality through your content in a way that makes you stand out and makes you unique." If someone else is doing something similar…great! But know that you have the power to make it better, different and MORE valuable. A game-changer for Amanda has been her practice of being transparent in so many areas of her life. It's about giving people a first-hand look into your life… Share your struggles, what you're feeling and what you're doing. The more you share, the more successful your community/following will be. Being so new to entrepreneurship, throughout her recent experiences, Amanda had never really thought about her long-term financial and impact goals. "I was focused on growth. I was focused on being better every single day and providing valuable content." Realizing she needed to seek outside help for her business, she joined Lewis Howe's Mastermind group (where we actually first met). Amanda has learned so much from him and other fellow entrepreneurs about what she wants the future of her business to look like. And one thing that was inevitable, she needed to offer more products and unapologetically charge for them. While this was difficult at first, Amanda realized that charging someone often guarantees more success, because people are held more accountable. She also reflects that it's refreshing to know the value of what you're offering. For example, her new high-ticket coaching services are offered at a higher price point than she's ever done before. And while fear and doubt creep, in she had the a-ha moment of: "I was able to give so much more because I didn't feel resentful toward the price that I charged." And guess what, the coaching services were a success! This doesn't mean you're not going to have nay-sayers who accuse you of manipulating or "scamming" people, but at the heart of your business, you know what you're providing. And don't forget, there's always the block and delete buttons, which Amanda has become more comfortable using. ;) As long as you're providing (aka giving!) value to your audience (and some free content, too), you have just as good of a chance as anyone to build a successful business. In This Episode You Will Learn: Transparency Giving free but valuable content Following your passion Entrepreneurship Resources: FB: facebook.com/AmandaBucciFit IG: @amandabuccifit YouTube: AmandaBucciFit Website: AmandaBucci.com Podcast: Bucci Radio For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

My Two Cents – Ep. 31 – Abundance Hack – Are You Confusing the Universe? Have you ever wanted something, thought about it incessantly, only to proclaim at a later time that you don't? What if I told you that that action alone could be preventing you from multiple things – from a car to a successful business? "Everything you do, say and think is manifesting something physical. It's creating a result." Any hands up in agreement? I'm guessing I have a few skeptics. So before you think I'm getting all "woo-woo" on you, let me frame it from two different perspectives. No. 1 – If you're a believer in the Law of Attraction, you understand and likely support this theory. Your energy attracts other like energy. No. 2 – You either don't believe in this theory or you're just unsure of it – and that's OK! What I have to say will still resonate because what you think and say directly affects your subconscious and what you do (and how it affects your financial results). When your thoughts and statements are contradicting one another – you are ultimately holding yourself back. Let me give you an example… In your heart, you like nice things, but when you're talking to your friends, you tell them that you don't. Or you would love a new luxurious car, but again, you downplay it by saying it doesn't matter, you just want to have a car that "gets you from point A to point B." If this sounds familiar to you, you're not alone! Everyone, at one time or another, has done this very thing. We do it to fit in or justify where we're at in life in this very moment. But ultimately, your mixed messages are confusing the hell out of the Universe. "When you tell these little lies to feel happy for 30 seconds, they're actually robbing you of lasting happiness for years to come." And you may be turning away future success, too. I mean, what successful person is going to want to partner or help someone who doesn't welcome/attract success themselves? It's not until we start to live more unapologetically and make a habit of being honest with ourselves (and those around us) that we will start manifesting what we want in our financial picture. Let's start getting you what you really want by giving the Universe a clear message. In This Episode You Will Learn: Abundance Law of Attraction Financial Success Thinking one thing, doing another Living unapologetically Resources: For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.

One would never know that the highly successful leadership expert and author, Steve Farber once dreamed of becoming a musician – playing guitar, writing songs – the whole bit. Those dreams, however, were put to the side when he soon realized that supporting a family and music didn't mesh well together at the time. So, he gave up the idea of a career in music and began his search for a job. Fortunately, he had a friend who had an investment business and he offered to take him on and show him the ropes. A few successful years later, Steve opened his own company – and found that he had become an entrepreneur. He soon realized though that despite running a thriving business, he hated it. Witnessing people inevitably lose money took a toll on his heart, because he genuinely cared about people – he wanted to help them. Realizing he could do more, he got out. Instead, Steve decided to take his business background, along with his passion for human beings, and combine them to start doing training, facilitation and consulting work. Along the way, Steve also discovered that he was also passionate about leadership. He made it his mission to help people grow into their own extreme leadership. While an expert in the field of leadership, Steve still has his checks and balances when it comes to either speaking at events or other training courses. Years ago, an attendee at one of his events about authenticity questioned if Steve was actually modeling what he was speaking about. That hit him hard. Was he truly speaking from his heart or just doing all the "right" things? Reeling from this comment, he sought out the advice from a mentor, Terry Pierce, and he had some simple but valuable advice. First, you're never going to connect with everybody. But specifically with the man who questioned Steve's authenticity, it was important to "Assume he was right and go from there." Take a moment to see if there's some truth. Whatever the answer, know that you can only learn and grow into a better leader. So what makes a great leader? Steve strongly feels that leadership has nothing to do with your position or title. It's not just about looking out for yourself and stepping on other people as you go. "The greatest leaders are the ones who invest themselves in other people's success. There's a generosity of spirit and in what they give." Not limited to money, this includes sharing time, energy, contacts and so much more. Extreme leaders, as Steve likes to call them, do it because it's the right thing to do. It's about implementing a spirit of inclusiveness in addition to the structure of it. You can still have that hierarchy within a company and still function in an inclusive way. Real leaders are committed to changing at least their piece of the world for the better and making radical leaps (not coincidentally the name of one of his books) in love, energy, audacity and proof. As you likely guessed, this isn't the status quo way of thinking (but Steve and I would love it to be). So what do you do when there's opposition? What if you're the minority in a situation? Steve coaches that it's all about finding your center of gravity. What do you love about the work you're doing? Where's your heart in this? Your values? "If your heart's not in it, you're not likely to take a stand." Whether you're against the status quo or right alongside it, Steve advises that you must make the decision to LEAD. Keep in mind that it's OK to say no. It's perfectly acceptable as long as you're making the decision consciously and being aware of the "oh shit! moments (OS!M). "If the only reason you're not doing something is because the idea scares you, that's the reason to do it." Let fear be your guide. Sometimes that fear actual means, "I should proceed, not retreat." Pretty soon, you'll be seeking out those OS!Ms, and that's ideal because it means you're always growing! Because sometimes, "It's the love that gets us to step up and take action, and the OS!M is often the experience of taking the action." Steve acknowledges that there are several different types of leaders/entrepreneurs out there and along with that different works styles. Some people work the standard 40+ hours a week and others boast a 4-hour workday. His take on it? "To each their own." At the end of the day, if you're creating and accomplishing what YOU intend to do, it doesn't matter how you do it. On the flip side, however, if you're not reaching your goals, you may have to adjust. When it comes to "work" in general, be it as an entrepreneur or in corporate America, Steve believes that all of it's good. Not everyone is wired to be an entrepreneur, just like not everyone is wired to work for someone else. To Steve, the problem lies in the work atmosphere. "We should be changing the nature of what it means to go to work – wherever it is." Even if it's mundane work, if you love the people and the company you work for, why shouldn't it be a joyful experience? Extending on that point a bit further, Steve firmly believes that it's not unreasonable to make money, be happy and change the world – simultaneously. "You don't have to be an ass to make money. You don't have to sacrifice money for joy. And you don't have to be a martyr to change the world." "Be totally unapologetic for the money you're making. Be totally unapologetic for the joy your achieving in your life. Be totally unapologetic for how you're having an impact to change the world for the better." With words like that, it's no wonder that Steve has such a generous and giving spirit. His natural impulse is to figure out a way, no matter the situation to help. It's not to say it always works out, but just the intent ensures that when he needs help, he'll have a line out the door offering to help. With an unapologetic personality like that, I don't think I'm alone in thinking, "thank goodness his music career didn't work out." In This Episode You Will Learn: Leadership Authenticity The link between leadership and generosity Entrepreneurship Resources: FB: facebook.com/stevefarber IG: @stevefarber SteveFarber.com Free audio training series, videos and blogs Extreme Leadership Workshop – Aug. 16, 2017, San Diego stevefarber.com/workshops-training/ Books: The Radical Leap The Radical Edge Greater than Yourself All can be found at stevefarber.com/books/ For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.