The Three Month Vacation Podcast

When I was 13 years old, my parents got involved in a court battle. I was past 40 when the issue was finally resolved. We don't see ourselves wanting to engage in high conflict. Yet, there seems to be no way to avoid the tectonic forces of our world. No matter where you look online or offline, someone is continuously bashing the other side. And often, that chaos spills over into our world. Like it did with my parents. They had no intention of being sieged for over 25 years, and yet that's what happened. Tensions escalate beyond a point, original facts disappear, and conflict becomes a reality. Yet, all conflict isn't destructive. There's a difference between High Conflict and Healthy Conflict. The dangerous kind is when it's "us" vs "them", "good" vs "evil". That kind of conflict bestows arrogance and superiority. It layers on the rage, sometimes even dread. It's a state where almost everyone loses, unlike in Healthy Conflict, where disagreement doesn't soar and serves more as a way to understand each other and improve. "High Conflict" is a book by Amanda Ripley, which kept me reading late at night. Typically, my eyes are on self-shut mode by 10 pm (since I wake up at 4 am), but this book was fascinating. Plus, it tackles a topic that seems to swarm around us both on a personal and a societal level. Is there a way around High Conflict? That's what I set to find out.

The toughest part about creating bonuses is how time-consuming they can be, especially when you want to make them desirable. Yet there is a method of creating extremely desirable bonuses without doing much at all. This is what this episode on " creating bonuses out of thin air" is all about.

It may sound odd, but the bonus is often the tipping point for a client to buy your product or service. And yet, by the time we are done with creating the product or service, we are too tired to work out what the bonus should be. n this episode we look at two methods. —One is a more traditional method called "bundling", well the other is quite unexpected and requires very little work. —A method called "Unbundling". Let's find out how we can use both of these methods, or just one, to create bonuses that are extremely yummy.

We tend to think all is well with the world when no one complains. Yet, most customers rarely complain. Instead, they just walk out of the door, without saying a word. A silent customer is not necessarily an asset. How can you get your customer to be a little more 'noisy'—and why you should start now.

What was the trigger for the Three-Month Vacation?Why do we have workshops at random locations? This is it—the second part in the two-part series of "how all these traditions started".

How did the gold star show up in Psychotactics courses? How did we start sending chocolate across the world? Here is a two-part series on how all of these traditions started.

It's rare that we don't learn lessons from a child. Even so, I think we don't always pay closer attention to what they're saying. My two nieces have taught me a lot. Here are a few nuggets of simple, yet intense wisdom.

Are you pro or anti-vaccine? Are you pro this or anti-that? We seem to be pushed into one camp or the other and we end up getting ourselves in a tight corner. Is there a way to be part of a conversation and still neatly sidestep the argument?

When starting up, it's almost impossible to get clients. Yet, there's a method that's almost fail-proof and gets the client interested in you, right away. What's more, this method not only gets you one job, but has the potential to get you back repeatedly. The big surprise is that it doesn't work just when dealing with new clients, but it works amazingly well with current clients too. Want to get going? Well, here's what the checklist is all about.

The biggest problem with perfection is we feel we have to keep to the job until it's done. As logical as the idea sounds, it's always—yes, always—counterproductive. Instead, there's a method that's far superior, and quicker. Which allows you to reach even higher levels of satisfaction than you'd expect. All of this "perfection" can be achieved by understanding the "coats of paint" system. Ready for a quicker, faster road to "perfection?"