Belonging: Conversations about rites of passage, meaningful community, and seasonal living

What does it mean to be a millennial right now - at this exact moment of institutional collapse, climate crisis, and collective upheaval? In this conversation, I sit down with my dear friend and neighbor Sarah Davidson for a wide-ranging talk about generational identity, community resilience, and why millennials might be more prepared for this moment than we think. Drawing on generational theory, Sarah reframes the millennial story: rather than a generation defined by what was taken from us, we are the "hero generation" - the same archetypal cohort as the Greatest Generation - born into crisis and uniquely suited to build what comes next. We explore what that actually looks like on the ground: local currencies, bioregional financing, community-led economies, and the radical act of turning toward each other rather than away. This is a conversation about collapse - and how to meet it with clarity, creativity, and even joy.Resources + LinksBooks mentioned: Generation We: How Millennial Youth Are Taking Over America and Changing Our World Forever by Eric Greenberg with Karl WeberMillennial Momentum: How a New Generation is Remaking America by Morley Winograd and Michael D. HaisBioregional Financing Facilities: Reimagining Finance to Regenerate Our Planet by Samantha Power & Leon SeefeldSarah mentions Kathleen Finlay and Glynwood Center for Regional Food and FarmingSubscribe to my newsletter and check out my Substack, How We Come BackMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps [0:00] Introduction[7:14] How We Met and Our Similar Dharmic paths[12:41] The Millenial Generation and Generational Theory[21:07] The Astrology of these Times[26:07] The Greatest Wealth Transfer in History[35:17] Decentralising through the Unraveling and Midwifing the New World[39:45] The Intentionality of the 40s Portal[46:43] Fostering Healthy Regenerative Ecosystems through Bioregional Financing [53:31] The New Generation is Right on Time

What does it actually take to feel less lonely — even in a room full of people? In this rich, wide-ranging conversation, Becca welcomes back relationship coach Ginny Muir for her second appearance on the Belonging Podcast. Calling in from her jungle home in Costa Rica, Ginny brings her signature blend of warmth, rigor, and humor to a topic that sits at the heart of every relationship we have: the courage to reveal our truest selves. Together, we explore the fascinating world of child consciousness, relational intimacy, and how understanding our child strategies can transform our relationships and inner life. Ginny shares profound insights on recognizing and including our childhood selves to foster greater connection and authenticity.Key topics include:Why loneliness is a symptom of emotional hiding , and how most of us learned to hide earlyThe difference between child consciousness and adult consciousness, and why most conflict, avoidance, and resentment lives in the gap between themWhy "healing your inner child" is a dead end, and what to do instead (notice, include, redirect)How our survival strategies are as unique as our thumbprints, and why attachment theory alone doesn't capture the full pictureA real-life example from Ginny’s community: what it looked like to tell the truth in community, and why it was terrifying even for someone who teaches this workWhat happens when someone else's child part gets activated mid-conflict, and how to stay in adult without shutting down or cavingWhy doing this work in community is different (and more powerful) than one-on-one therapyThe connection between personal relationality and collective resilience - why the adults in the room matter more than ever right nowResources + LinksGinny’s 'The Lover's Collective'The Lover’s Collective Pop Up & Open House on 3/21/26My previous episode with Ginny, #125: Turning Circle Conflict into Deeper IntimacySubscribe to my newsletter and check out my Substack, How We Come BackMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps:[0:00] Introduction[7:16] Craving & Moving to a Particular Type of Land[13:10] The Baseline of Emotional Disconnection[18:18] Embracing Otherness and Intimacy of Self[22:14] Child Consciousness and Strategies[31:11] Examples of Child Strategies as an Adult[37:19] Noticing and Including your Strategies[48:01] Breaking the Cycle by Expressing your Truth[56:36] Repatterning to Adult Competency[59:45] Relational Work in Community as Revolution[01:04:43] Consuming Media and Observing Relationality

This episode is a conversation with my dear friend Catherine Zack, which we initially recorded for her podcast "The 40 Portal". Catherine is the owner of Village Yoga in Kinderhook, NY, an executive coach, speaker, writer and collector of women’s wisdom. This past summer, on her own 40th birthday - only 2 days apart to my own - she invited a group of close female friends to participate in what she calls The 40 Portal, a book in which everyone of 40 and under was invited to write a question, and everyone of over 40 was invited to share their wisdom. This book turned into the podcast The 40 Portal, on which Catherine invites 40 women to have conversations around their path towards 40, and beyond.In this conversation, Catherine and I discuss midlife and what it brings up for us to move into our 40s. I talk about what this portal means to me, and how I’m experiencing this non-linear space of self discovery. We discuss the liberation that can be found in midlife and a sense of shedding the pressure of the societal gaze. We share about embracing a sense of invisibility, the reclaiming of personal magic, erotic awakenings, re-villaging and being seen by the people we actually want to be seen by.Resources + LinksCath’s ‘The 40s Portal Project’Cath’s podcast ‘The 40 Portal’We mention these books: Terry Tempest Williams, “When Women Were Birds” and Miranda July, “All Fours”Sign up for my newsletter, How We Come BackMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[00:00] Introducing Catherine & her project ‘The 40 Portal’ [08:25] The start of our friendship and the origin of the 40 Portal project [12:16] The personal definition and visual of portal and midlife [16:10] Exploration of identity through name, life phases and self definition [21:41] The myths and blessings of midlife [29:34] Seeking examples of women in their femininity and agency as a mother and as a daughter [34:47] Feeling seen, safe and at home in spaces with other women [38:23] Erotic awakening in midlife [46:29] Releasing patterns and self discovery in your 40s and beyond [50:00] Disappearing from the aggressive societal gaze and feeling seen in the community we knit [54:54] Life as a portfolio with many projects of many seasons and receiving your life’s assignment

My essay, Practicing repair in a post-village worldSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Was the Village Really Better?Subscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Gossip was sacred until they made it dangerousSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Loving a Man in a Patriarchal WorldSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay What It Means to be Ready NowSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

In this solo episode, I reflect on this past year and look forward at what's ahead through the lens of the seasons. I muse on my experience of the second full year on our farm and how we have expanded, moved through challenges and triumphs throughout the growing season. I also talk about my upcoming winter plans and what I’m generally looking forward to during the darker months. Also…I’m pregnant! Surprise!Tune in to hear more from me on:Hyperlocal and bioregional involvement with the farm standHow and why I’ve been refining friendships and connections this yearDialing down the people pleasing and rooting into my own valuesHouses as living entities and the sign about my pregnancyHow winter is the season of gathering and how it impacts community buildingPicking up writing again and considering self publishing after multiple rejections of a book ideaMy passion for women’s circles and gearing up to share my Circle Craft training again this winterResources + LinksSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackMy essay The Summer I Got Stung A LotMy essay about the loss of our pregnant cow The First Big LossMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[03:19] How Farm Life is Going[14:18] An Update on Community-Building[24:25] What I’m Looking Forward to this Winter

On this episode, I am joined by Béa Victoria Albina, a trained nurse practitioner, master certified life coach, somatic experiencing practitioner and author of “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits.” Béa coined the term ‘Emotional Outsourcing’, which describes our co-dependent, people pleasing and perfectionistic habits and how these behaviors cost us our joy, authenticity and true connection to self and others. In this episode, we talk about the cost of chronically and habitually outsourcing our sense of safety, belonging and worth. We dive into the root of these behaviours from a cultural and historical perspective and Bea shines a light on how we were trained up to be disconnected from the earth, magic and our own inner wisdom. Tune in to hear more from us on:How emotional outsourcing can influence all aspects of our lives and sense of selfThe true cost of people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency, and its root causesHow shifting to a place of trust is a liberating experience, and how to do thisTrad-wife culture and how to explore femininity as a gateway to empowermentEmotional outsourcing in a facilitator role and finding acceptance and surrender in the process of facilitationHow to learn the body’s language through somatic experience and understanding where survival patterns come fromManaging text message overwhelm as a recovering people pleaserResources + LinksBéa Victoria Albina’s book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’Béa’s website beatrizalbina.com and Instagram @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpBéa’s podcast ‘The Feminist Wellness podcast’My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] What is Emotional Outsourcing [10:55] The Origin of Codependency and Emotional Outsourcing [14:39] Weaponized Femininity and Glorified Codependency [22:04] Facilitating without Emotional Outsourcing [29:28] Practicing and Embodying Self Trust [39:38] Navigating Boundaries and Intimacy [49:00] Managing Text Message Overwhelm as a Recovering People Pleaser [45:20] Bea’s Book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’