Mindful Mama: Raising Kind, Confident Kids Without Losing Your Cool | Parenting Strategies For Big Emotions & More

Did you know that many of the most common things we say to our kids actually makes things worse? Today's Mindful Mama guest will help you know what to say and what not to say to your kids to create close, connected relationships for life.We talk about: Common communication barriers What to do when you are wracked with guilt How kids are not logical, they are emotional, reactional What to say instead of ordering Lori Petro is a parent educator and child advocate at Teach Through Love.com. She’s on a mission to transform the way parents communicate with their children.Find out more about Lori's Conscious Communication Cards here.Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> on iTunes or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!)ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course.Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that highly stressed western children looked just like war refugee children in terms of stress? In this episode, I talk to Kim Payne, author of Simplicity Parenting. We talk about "the undeclared war on childhood,” and how our culture of too much too fast, too young, is overwhelming our kids. Learn how simplifying you and your child's stuff and environment will bring more ease to your lives. Take back your kid's childhood from the “molded plastic tsunami” of toys and too much screen time. Did you know that brothers and sisters often play together better with fewer toys - why? Find out how to activate their innate neurology to foster more cooperation and collaboration. Kim Payne offers a very different image of screen time than our recent guest, Deborah Heitner. He points out that studies show screens damage brains. Instead, Kim is pro nature, pro family connection, pro REAL friends -- and these take time and are slow. I really connected to our discussion of "connection to self" - feeling comfortable in your own skin, and knowing your own values as opposed to pop values. About Kim: Kim John Payne, M.ED has been passionately working to thousands of people give voice to the feeling that something is not okay about the new normal of overwhelm that so many people are now experiencing. He offers do-able ways to build deep connections with our children that gives families resiliency and simple joy. Find out more about Simplicity Parenting and Kim here at SimplicityParenting.com.ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course.Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com.Did you benefit from this episode? If so, it helps enormously to share it with your friends and to subscribe and leave a review and comments on iTunes or Stitcher. Thank you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is vacation mind? In this episode of the podcast, I discuss this idea as presented by Leo Babuta in his Zen Habits post, The Practice of Work Mind & Vacation Mind, Simultaneously. He defines it: "Vacation mind lets that anxiety go, and is just present in the current moment. Time is less important, enjoying yourself is the priority."So how do we do that in parenting? In everyday life?I'd love to know your takeaways from this solo episode. How can you practice more vacation mind in your life? Start the conversation in the comments. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> on iTunes or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!)ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course.Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How are you handling the onslaught of screen technology with your kids? In today's podcast episode I talk to Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World.How do you answer these questions with your child? When do they watch a show independently? When do they make their own media choices?  When can they do some creating? When to interact with other people? Minecraft with a friend?  When should my child get an email account? We discuss all of these big milestones and more. Here are some of the things we mentioned:Devorah's Cell Phone Bootcamp. Blog post: first cell phoneBlog post: screen time battlesDevorah Heitner Ph.D., is an experienced speaker, workshop leader, and consultant, and a professional development resource for organizations wishing to cultivate a culture of responsible digital citizenship. Her book, Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World helps readers become tech-positive parents and educators and gives adults new insights into kids’ digital world. Hunter Clarke-Fields is a Mindfulness Mama Mentor. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com.Thank you so much for listening! To support the podcast, please be sure to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it or not, your attachment style is probably influencing your parenting. In this episode, Carla Naumburg and Hunter Clarke-Fields discuss Attachment Theory - what is it, and how does it relate to your parenting? Does attachment theory even matter? Plus, Carla and Hunter share their current parenting wins and fails. Find out more about Carla Naumburg - her books, Parenting In the Present Moment and Ready, Set, Breathe, more of her writing, and how to work with her at CarlaNaumburg.com.Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review ----->http://apple.co/2s5kjBM ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches over-stressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the 90s Oprah had a life coach on who said something that shocked her studio audience of suburban moms.She had asked the audience to make a list of all the priorities in their lives. Then she asked, “Where are you on that list?” Lots of the audience did not have themselves on the list at all.Then she made her outrageous suggestion: “You should be the #1 priority on your list.”The audience booed. Oprah said, “Hold on,” and asked them why they booed. Oprah said, “It doesn’t mean that others are kicked off your list when you put yourself first.”We’ve come a long way since then. Or have we?If you made a list of priorities, who would be on your list? Where would you be on your list?Many moms tell me that taking care of themselves is not a priority. If you are really honest with yourself, is that you?The thing is, if you are not #1 on your list, you’re realizing a fundamental truth:You cannot give what you do not have. If you are not taking care of you, you are gyping your children and your family. You are offering them a second-rate version of you. And you are role-modeling a life of “not worthy.”Making yourself a priority isn’t selfish. In fact, it’s the opposite. It’s called taking responsibility.Find the shownotes for this podcast here on MindfulMamaPodcast.com Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review----->http://apple.co/2s5kjBMABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches over-stressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com.Don't miss a single episode! Every Wednesday I share an exclusive email newsletter with blog posts and podcast episodes to inspire you. Sign up now and get "5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

School ends soon and summer will officially begin around here. In the past, this triggered anxiety for me. What would we do all day? How do we get through the long days of summer?This is the same feeling that leads many to put their kids into camp after camp, activity after activity. Downtime is like an enemy to be conquered.In my house, we aren’t worried about hearing “I’m bored” anymore. In fact, I don’t hear it very often because my girls are so used to having unstructured time to follow their own imagination.Now, I’m not afraid of “I’m bored,” but I used to be.My anxiety over my daughter’s outbursts and volatile emotions used to make me really worry about the long days of summer.My fear led me to follow my habitual reaction of trying to control things more. I needed to shape and structure the day so that I could keep my anxiety at bay. It was a struggle.Do we suffer from our circumstances, or from wanting it to be otherwise?The Buddha taught that most of our suffering is caused by grasping at things in an impermanent world. Both the Buddha and Patanjali’s yoga sutra’s teach that the path to liberation involves letting go of our grasping - letting go of wanting things to be other than they are.This podcast shares 6 tips on how to get through the long days of summer - in a deeper way.  Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review----->http://apple.co/2s5kjBMABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches over-stressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hunter and Carla come together again to discuss the need for moms to get away from it all for a little while and how this can benefit families.Moms need a break too. Head over to this weekend retreat for rest and relaxation, insight, grounding, and humor. There are a few spots left!Find more from Carla – books, articles, etc. – at CarlaNaumburg.com.Thank you so very much for listening, my friend! The best way to support the podcast is to subscribe, and tell a friend about it today.Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review----->http://apple.co/2s5kjBMABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches over-stressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elizabeth Dialto is known for her raw, honest and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality, Elizabeth is also the founder of Wild Soul Movement, author of Untame Yourself, and host of the Untame The Wild Soul Woman podcast.“Women who are connected to and trust their bodies hold the keys to a life of infinite joy, love, possibility and freedom.” - Elizabeth Dialto Her website: http://untameyourself.com/ My takeaways: We are often consumed by the identity of mother. We live in the role rather than be ourselves. Women are cyclical in nature, not linear. We can honor our intuitiveness. Dove into listening to, and loving and accepting our bodies. Learn how to bring back your sensuality. Thank you! The audio for this is with Srdan, and will be on it's way to you in a few days. Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review----->http://apple.co/2s5kjBMABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches over-stressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a mama martyr? Find out in this podcast episode. You may have been infected by the martyrdom disease, which detrimentally effects not only you, but your family too! Listen for signs that you may be putting yourself last too much and how (and why) to stop it. Thanks so much for listening my friend! If you got something out of this episode, please share it with a friend or leave a review on iTunes. P.S. Don't miss a single episode! Every Wednesday I share an exclusive email newsletter with blog posts and podcast episodes to inspire you. Sign up now and get "5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child."Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review----->http://apple.co/2s5kjBMABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches over-stressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter is a certified Parent Effectiveness Training teacher and has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Hunter is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Find her free guide, 5 Simple Things You Can Do Today To Be Less Irritable With Your Child, more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at HunterClarkeFields.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices