On Attachment

Discover a personal healing journey from anxious attachment to self-confidence. The host shares insights on recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns and the importance of therapy. Learn about six transformative changes that foster self-trust and rebuild self-worth. Hear about a physical challenge that served as proof of resilience and the decision to pursue passion over a corporate career. Ultimately, the journey leads to meaningful work and a loving family, inspiring hope for others on their healing paths.

James ‘Fish’ Gill, a relationship coach and author, shares insights on navigating conflict and enhancing communication. He discusses the importance of recognizing unmet needs in relationships and how unresolved pain can linger even after conflicts are addressed. Fish highlights techniques for expressing feelings without blame and emphasizes the value of mutual skill-building to address disputes. He also addresses the complexities of dating with kids, offering strategies to harmonize parenting differences while strengthening connections.

Join a heartfelt discussion on the transition to parenthood as a couple reflects on their journey with their 18-month-old son. Hear about their initial hesitations, the surprises of newfound love, and how they manage household responsibilities without scorekeeping. They share valuable insights on preserving individual time and keeping the relationship strong through support and communication. Plus, listen for essential advice for couples navigating this transformative phase of life!

Explore the impact of anxious attachment on our sensitivity to others' opinions. Discover the cost of outsourcing self-worth and how it disconnects us from our true selves. Learn about building an internal compass and the importance of self-trust over external validation. Stephanie discusses the trade-offs between authenticity and connection, the paralysis from trying to please everyone, and practical steps to prioritize your values. Gain insights on tolerating disapproval and making choices aligned with your integrity.

Navigating the world of dating after a breakup can be tricky. There’s no fixed timeline for when you're ready; it’s a personal journey influenced by your feelings and healing. Learn to recognize signs that indicate you might not be ready yet, like lingering grief or fixation on your ex. Discover the importance of clarity in your values and intentions before jumping back in. Plus, understand that it’s normal for dating to stir up new emotions and grief. It’s all about approaching it with self-compassion and awareness.

They unpack why unanswered questions after a breakup feel so compelling and how anxious attachment intensifies the pain. They explore common post-breakup behaviors like rumination and stalking. They explain why those who caused hurt often will not provide tidy answers. They focus on creating internal closure, tolerating discomfort, and practical steps to reclaim agency and heal.

So often, we’re drawn to the work of healing our relational wounds because of challenges in our relationship. A partner’s behaviour, or the dynamic between us, shines a light on our pain points and shows us where our work might be. But this can raise a difficult question: if we’re still being triggered or activated within that very relationship, is healing actually possible?In this episode, I explore the nuance of this dilemma. We’ll cover:Why triggers aren’t necessarily a bad thing — and how they can point us toward the deeper wounds that need healing.The difference between growth edges that stretch us and dynamics that keep us constantly dysregulated.Signs you can do the work of healing within a relationship, and when the relationship itself may be keeping you stuck.How to find the middle ground: using relational challenges as invitations into greater self-awareness, without normalising constant pain or struggle.Relationships will always bring moments of discomfort — that’s the nature of intimacy and vulnerability. But there’s an important distinction between the kind of challenge that supports healing, and the kind that prevents it. This episode will help you reflect on where your relationship sits, and what you need in order to move forward in your healing journey.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Focus on green flags in dating can transform your experience. Paying attention to how you feel around someone can reveal deeper truths than mere analysis. Remembering shared details shows genuine interest and presence. Feeling relaxed signals a safe connection, while healthy self-disclosure indicates openness. Consistency in actions and words is essential for building trust, and mutual effort ensures both partners are invested. Embrace these positive signs to foster potential and meaningful connections!

Explore the intense fear of infidelity experienced by those with anxious attachment. Discover how past betrayals and core wounds contribute to anxiety, leading to hypervigilance and destructive behaviors. Learn about the impact of anxious-avoidant dynamics that escalate these fears. Understand why control doesn’t foster trust and how to build self-worth to mitigate anxiety. Gain practical tools to create a more secure and trusting relationship.

Ever wondered why you feel secure when single but anxious when dating? The podcast explores how attachment styles lay dormant until relationships trigger them. It discusses the vulnerability that comes with caring for someone and offers reassurance that feeling anxious is a normal part of the process. Tips on how to recognize and respond to this anxiety without judgment provide valuable insights. Healing attachment patterns can happen, but only in the context of relationships, making this a compelling listen for anyone navigating love.