The Sexual Wellness Sessions

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about erectile dysfunction, why and how it happens and the impact that it can have on men's mental health, sex lives, relationships and wellbeing. My guests, Xander and Angus are cousins who started Mojo Men after a fortuitously long car journey where they opened up to each other about their personal struggles with sex, even though it was something that they had never talked about before. Encouraged by the fact that they were able to have that conversation, and both feeling like they had broken through a barrier, they wanted to create a platform to make sure that more men weren't feeling isolated and alone with their experiences of struggling with erections. Difficulty getting or maintaining erections is a common presentation in psychosexual therapy, and there is such a strong theme to those discussions. Men can often struggle with how they feel about themselves as a man and a sexual person, but also as a partner. Challenges with sex can stop people wanting to date to avoid the risk of trying to having sex and it not going to plan, and the impact of this can have a huge knock on effect on how men and sometimes their partner's feel about themselves. One of the biggest challenges that those struggling with any kind of sexual dysfunction fight is the invisibility of these conditions, and also the lack of mainstream education and discussion about them. The normality of struggling with erections at some point across the lifespan is more expected, than to have full uninterrupted functioning always, and across all situations; but this isn't the message that we are taught; which leaves those struggling with symptoms feeling even more stressed, anxious and confused by what they are going through. There are numerous reasons that someone may be struggling to get or maintain an erection, some health conditions and medications are linked to an increase in occurrence; but our headspace and mental health also plays a huge part and performance anxiety about sexual functioning is a common presentation in psychosexual therapy. Mojo Men want to help change this, and have created a platform that offers expert advice and exercises, a chance to connect with experts like psychosexual therapists, psychologists and men's health physiotherapists, and a forum for men to connect and help each other. Follow Mojo Men on Instagram at @mojo.men Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy  Find out more about Mojo Men on their website https://mojomen.com/  

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, I’m talking to Emma and Gabby from Big Fat Negative Podcast about how trying to conceive, IVF, infertility and miscarriage can impact sex lives and relationships.   After both experiencing their own struggles with infertility Emma and Gabby set up Big Fat Negative to break down the stigma, silence, and taboo around the subject of infertility; and to host conversations and offer advice and information that would help support those who are struggling, whatever their route to becoming a parent.    According to the NHS website as many as 1 in 7 couples may have difficulty conceiving, but it’s uncommon to hear it discussed or see it represented; and many couples suffer in silence and struggle with feeling isolated in their experiences. This conversation is about how sex lives can change over the process of trying to conceive. How sex can move from fun to functional, and from sensual to stressful; and how our definition of sex can change impacting our sexuality, intimacy and relationships.     This episode was sponsored by Love Sleep by This Works. This Works understand the connection between sex, sleep and well-being and as experts in the field of sleep and circadian rhythms, have introduced the Love Sleep range, a series of bedroom solutions with a 100% natural Superblend with Ylang Ylang and Patchouli, designed to enhance levels of relaxation in your evening space and promote intimacy – the antidote to digital hyper connectivity and over stimulation, paving the way for better sleep and better relationships. After using the love sleep pillow spray 1 in 3 users had more intimate moments. Follow Big Fat Negative on Instagram at @bigfatnegative Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy  Follow This Works on Instagram at @thisworks or to find out more about the Love Sleep range head to the This Works website https://www.thisworks.com/search?q=Love+sleep  

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing changing our sexual mindset. For my guest this week Ben Bidwell, this change in thinking about sex came from his own experience of struggling with aspects of sex. Through his difficulties with orgasm, Ben has been through a shift in the way that he thinks about sex, breaking away from the linear model of sex that we all so often assume; and challenging how he used to think and feel about sex as a concept. This conversation is about his relationship with sex, how it's changed and how he is taking this forward into his sexual and relationship future. Ben is a mindset coach, writer, public speaker and prominent voice in the mens mental health space encouraging men to connect with their authentic masculinity. As a part of opening up this conversation Ben has been very honest about his personal challenges with sex, and famously took this conversation to the This Morning Couch. This conversation was brought to you by Beducated Online Courses. With expert-backed methods and easy to follow instructions, Beducated streams video classes and sexpert advice directly to your bedroom. As a part of sponsoring this episode, Beducated are offering a free Communication Tools Video Training which you can access at http://beducate.me/km202008-cot-vt  Follow Ben Bidwell on Instagram at @thenakedprofessor Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy  Follow Beducated on Instagram at @Beducated or to find out more about Beducated head to their website https://beducated.com/

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing sexual health with Dr Naomi Sutton, Consultant Physician working at the Integrated Sexual Health Service at The Rotherham NHS Foundation Trust, and Doctor on E4's series 'The Sex Clinic'.   This conversation is about how safe sex is great sex, myth-busting, sex education, and helping people to make informed decisions about their sexual health. We talk about sexual health testing, updates to sexual medicine, and what someone can expect from attending a sexual health screening. Many people feel anxious about attending sexual health screenings and check ups, and this is something that Naomi wants to change by reassuring people that it's a judgement-free space and that it's important to attend check-ups, even if you don't have symptoms.    Naomi is also proud to be a Trustee for the UK Charity Saving Lives; a charity which exists to raise awareness of HIV and STI testing, and reduce associated stigma; and she is also an Eve Appeal Ambassador; a charity which raises awareness of the 5 gynaecological cancers.   This episode was brought to you by MyHixel the new and revolutionary methodology, combining the MyHixel pleasure device with their play app to help men to feel more in control.   Follow Dr Naomi Sutton on Instagram at @drnaomisutton Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy  Follow MyHixel on Instagram at @MyHixel or to find out more about their products go to https://myhixel.com/        

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're exploring the theme of sexual fantasies and our erotic imagination with Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, The Science Of Sexual Desire And How It Can Help You To Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. This conversation is about unpacking our erotic imaginations and understanding the science of sexual fantasies. We talk about what the most common sexual fantasies are, people's responses to their desires; and why for many people it's not just about the fantasy itself, but also what it means about them that impacts how they feel about it. Justin also discusses what his research has shown, and how our historical messages and understanding of fantasising have changed over time. To find out more about Justin and his work head to his blog Sex & Psychology at  https://www.lehmiller.com/and on his instagram  Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy

Join Dr. Karen Gurney, a clinical psychologist and sexologist known for her groundbreaking book, as she unpacks the complexities of sexual desire. She challenges the conventional notions of desire, presenting it as a motivational force shaped by societal influences and personal histories. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intimacy, communication, and intentional connection in enhancing sexual relationships. Dr. Gurney also explores the idea of 'sexual currency' and how everyday interactions can deepen intimacy between partners.

The Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast is a series of interviews hosted by Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle. So many of these conversations about sex and relationships are happening behind the therapy room door; and Kate wants to bring them into the mainstream so that sexual wellbeing can get the attention it deserves. This series of interviews is about changing narratives, challenging beliefs and helping people to normalise talking about sex and relationships, and break away from feelings of shame; all of which can get in the way of them having the sex lives and relationships that they want, and getting to a better place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing. These discussions hope to open up the conversation, and show the normality of an imperfect sex life and to explore themes such as desire, fantasies, sexual difficulties, relationship models, mindful sex and more, with a series of guests and experts from the sexual wellness space. Follow Kate on Instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy