Finding Brave

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "The goal of the conversation is not to convince. It's not to compel, and it's not to control. It's not to try to get the other person to think something different. As soon as we believe somebody is trying to control us in that kind of way, we resist. So the very effort to convince, it makes you less convincing." – Joseph Grenny Contrary to how many people feel in our world today, it is possible to tell the truth and avoid alienating a friend or colleague or engendering terrible and painful conflict. With so much distrust among family, friends, colleagues and our leaders, it's vital to not to take the two standard approaches – being silent or violent — on core issues but instead, we need to learn the essential skills behind expressing yourself candidly yet cordially. Today's Finding Brave expert guest reveals how it's not having different opinions that's the problem in our conflicts, rather it's how and why we express those opinions, and the approach we take before even entering the conversation. Joseph Grenny is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, dynamic keynote speaker, and leading social scientist for business performance. Joseph has spoken at some of the world's premier leadership conferences. His books have been translated into 28 languages, are available in 36 countries, and have generated results for 300 of the Fortune 500. I had the honor of interviewing Joseph and David Maxfield in my Forbes blog in 2015 in a piece on Gender Bias Is Real: Women's Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged as Being Forceful, on their groundbreaking research on gender bias, and I've often quoted the information that their research uncovered that proved gender bias is not imagined, it's real – and their research showed on how women's perceived competency and perceived worth drops exponentially more than men's when they are are perceived as forceful or assertive. I've featured their work in my TEDx talk Time to Brave Up, and in my new book The Most Powerful You and my Most Powerful You Course which is why I'm so excited to speak with Joseph today and bring you his expert insights and perspectives on navigating crucial conversations. This episode is part of our "Summer Pick series" which features a selection of the most popular and downloaded shows we've aired in the past several years. Highlights from this Episode: Why Joseph was first drawn to topics around communication and crucial conversations [5:36] The real reasons he feels that many of the conversations happening today are so volatile [9:01] Why your internal and external approach to a conversation will often be the key to achieving a successful outcome with the other person [12:57] The way that our fears, or the threats that we perceive, will impact how a conversation unfolds [15:22] A technique he recommends to disarm perceived threats by both parties [16:06] The 3 different types of stories we tell ourselves, and how to begin mastering them today [20:30] A time that Joseph made a stand to have his voice heard, and the role that setting ground rules beforehand had in doing this [23:44] What the goal of every conversation should be, and what we shouldn't be trying to do [27:24] How I was able to diffuse a difficult situation that I faced in my professional career [32:18] For More Information: https://josephgrenny.com/ www.vitalsmarts.com https://www.linkedin.com/company/vitalsmarts/ https://twitter.com/vitalsmarts https://www.instagram.com/vitalsmarts/ Resources Mentioned: Ready to become more confident, powerful and successful in work you love? CHECK OUT MY "MOST POWERFUL YOU" VIDEO COURSE! If you're tired of working so hard in a career that just isn't working for you, this is the course for you! This transformative 8-module training course, based on my bestselling book The Most Powerful You, will help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps that keep 98% of professional women from thriving at the highest level, and reaching their most thrilling potential. In the course, you'll be taught transformative actions, strategies and mindsets that will help you experience exponentially more positive power, self-mastery, confidence, communication skill, leadership, and influence over what transpires in your life, career and relationships (both at work and at home). Based on 16 years of coaching with thousands of women around the world, and from my own personal learnings in transitioning from unhappy corporate VP to therapist, to now globally-recognized career coach, speaker, writer and speaker, and with amazing strategies from over 30 of the nation's top experts in fields essential to our success, this course gives you a clear roadmap for the exact steps to take to become more confident and influential in work you'll love and feel proud of, with inspiring leaders, colleagues, and mentors who will help you thrive and keep growing for the duration of your professional life. If you're ready to close your power gaps and become the MOST POWERFUL version of you, CLICK HERE to learn more and register! Order Kathy's book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we'd so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! ___________________________________________________________ Other resources mentioned: Joseph's Book, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High & His Other Works Untangling the Mind: Why We Behave the Way We Do by Theodore George, M.D. Kathy's Forbes Blog with Joseph Grenny and David Maxfield, Gender Bias Is Real: Women's Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged As Being Forceful Kathy's Forbes Post, What Is Feminism, And Why Do So Many Women And Men Hate It? Kathy's Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Her TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy's Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are now sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer QUOTES: "The only way norms get reset, and the only way that biases become apparent and addressable, is through conversation. That's the only mechanism that gives us any hope." [4:00] "Time and time again, we've found that almost any area of pain within an organization, what kept those problems chronic and turned them from an incident into a pattern, is peoples' inability to confront, discuss and resolve [the issues]." [6:02] "All of us are really hardwired for failure around complex social dynamics. However, we have the software to learn. We have the capacity to rise above our thinking and our patterns, and to create new ones." [10:25] "The words that come out of your mouth will have part of an effect, but if there's a contradiction between what I read from your face and what I read from your mouth, I'll trust the face." [14:15] "There's a huge opportunity for us to de-escalate our own emotions, if we recognize that this is just a perceived threat, and not a real threat." [16:03] "When you behave in a way that's inconsistent with their story, you help them dismantle it." [34:41] Watch video versions of my interviews on Finding Brave! Don't forget – you can experience each Finding Brave interview episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my Youtube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show! Please share your positive ratings and reviews! If you love the show, we'd be so very grateful for a positive rating and review on Apple Podcasts! These great ratings help us reach more and more people who are interested in boosting their careers, businesses, and their leadership, and keep in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts in countries around the world. Thank you!

What brings you joy? What makes you feel energized? What makes you, you? Loving yourself starts with understanding yourself and learning to accept yourself for who you are, rather than fixating on who you think you "should" be. Self-love is one of the most powerful things that we, as human beings, can do to enhance our lives. Today's guest is Kate Northrup; entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother who has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband which supports hundreds of thousands of ambitious women to light up the world without burning out! When it comes to work, less is more! According to research, working 49 hours+ per week is linked to a decline in mental health. This negatively impacts productivity because happier people are more productive. During this episode, Kate explains the personal experiences that led her to discover how to do less to live better. Nobody is lying on their deathbed wishing they had more money; give yourself permission to be happier! Key Points From This Episode: Kate shares the personal experiences that motivated her to do less. [04:32] Self-sourced scheduling; a brief overview of the system that Kate created. [08:30] How tracking her cycle catalyzed Kate's journey of reconnecting with herself. [10:23] You are what you are, love yourself for that. [13:04] Advice for figuring out what to let go of. [15:22] Exploring the hyper-productivity trauma response. [18:37] What research shows about the impact of working hours on women's mental health. [23:47] The benefits of shorter working hours, and how to take radical responsibility for your life (even if you work in a corporate environment). [24:23] The three most important lessons that Kate has learned during her life so far (and the number one thing she has learned from being a mother). [27:25] For More Information: Kate Northrup Kate on Instagram Kate on Facebook Kate on Youtube Kate on Twitter Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Kate's Latest Book, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms & Do Less Planner Kate's First Book, Money: A Love Story & The Money Love Course Kate's Books on Audible Her Membership Site, Origin® Collective The Kate & Mike Show Podcast Kathy's Amazing Career Project & Blog Post, The Top 5 Regrets of Midlife Professionals The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware Ready to Take Your Professional Life and Leadership to the Next Level? Become The Most Powerful You! In reading a great deal about leadership today, and interviewing top leadership experts, I'm recognizing a disappointing trend - that the general concept and understanding of leadership has become so vague and watered down that most of it isn't helpful at all, and it's not suited to a majority of women who want to lead differently. The Most Powerful You training goes deeper. It helps you recognize and understand more about yourself as a person and the leader you want to be, then take empowering, transformative actions to operate in your role in a way that takes your leadership and your career higher, making the impact you dream to. If you truly want to help your team, staff and organization become "The Most Powerful We," this is the right training for you. Take this course individually or bring it to your workforce and teams today! Click here for more information. ——————— Order Kathy's book The Most Powerful You today! In Australia and New Zealand, click here to order, elsewhere outside North America, click here, and in the UK, click here. If you enjoy the book, we'd so appreciate your giving the book a positive rating and review on Amazon! And check out Kathy's digital companion course The Most Powerful You, to help you close the 7 most damaging power gaps in the most effective way possible. Kathy's Power Gaps Survey, Support To Build Your LinkedIn Profile To Great Success & Other Free Resources Kathy's TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up & Free Career Path Self-Assessment Kathy's Amazing Career Project video training course & 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz ——————— Sponsor Highlight I'm thrilled that both Audible.com and Amazon Music are sponsors of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offers and free trials today! Audible Offer Amazon Music Offer Quotes: "We have a tendency to live outside ourselves. When we are outside ourselves we don't make the best decisions for ourselves because we are operating in essentially a separate universe where we are completely other-focused versus self-focused." — @katenorthrup [0:08:11] "Tracking my cycle and noticing how I felt was one of the most profoundly loving things I could do because instead of trying to be different, I was noticing how I am." — @katenorthrup [0:11:51] "It needs to bring you results or it needs to bring you joy." — @katenorthrup [0:16:45] "When said with love, the truth heals." — @katenorthrup [0:28:55] Watch the video of this episode! Don't forget - you can experience each Finding Brave episode in both audio and video formats! Check out new and recent episodes on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/kathycaprino. And please leave us a comment and a thumbs up if you like the show!

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "Whether you're on an athletic team, a sales force, or a symphony orchestra, you better be honest about what you think about yourself. What you think about yourself and what you think about all the things that happen day by day, that's what constitutes your confidence." - Dr. Nate Zinsser This Summer, I'm delighted to offer you our "Summer Pick" series which brings you a selection of the most popular listener favorites from the past few years of shows. Today's episode originally aired as a two-part installment on January 27th and February 3rd, 2022. Hope you enjoy them! Confidence is a character trait that has relatively little to do with what happens to you, but rather it's a function of how you think. Today's Finding Brave guest reveals how you can change your level of confidence, but first you must be aware of certain things. You absolutely can develop confidence for any situation that you care to, and our guest shares the ways that confident performers think differently from the average person in order to do this. ​​Dr. Nate Zinsser is an expert in the psychology of human performance who consults for individuals and organizations seeking a competitive edge. Nate's latest book, The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide for Unshakable Performance, hit shelves January 2022, and has been endorsed by two-time Super Bowl Champion and MVP Eli Manning, bestselling authors Jon Krakauer and Steven Pressfield, and US Olympic Bobsled Head Coach Mike Kohn. Nate was a regular consultant to the Philadelphia Flyers and New York Giants for twelve seasons and has been a keynote speaker for General Electric, Facebook, McDonald's, Staples, UBS, Major League Baseball, the NBA, and many more, as well as a consultant for the FBI Academy, the U.S. Army World Class Athlete Program, (mentoring four Olympic medalists), the U.S. Army Recruiting Command, and the U.S. Army Marksmanship Unit. Since 1992, he has directed a cutting-edge applied sport psychology program at the United States Military Academy's Center for Enhanced Performance, personally conducting over seventeen thousand individual training sessions and seven hundred team training sessions for cadets seeking the mental edge for athletic, academic, and military performance. He also helped launch the highly successful magazine Sports Illustrated for Kids and was presented with an American Library Association award for his 1991 children's book Dear Dr. Psych: A Kid's Guide to Handling Sports Problems. I'm happy to re-air this important mini-series on confidence, to give you the action steps and mindset shifts needed to overcome obstacles that often get in the way of building our self-confidence. To learn more about today's guest, visit: https://natezinsser.com/

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "You are like a thumbprint. You are absolutely unique. Now you have to understand how, and leverage it and be strong enough to be powerful." - Kathy Caprino This Summer, I'm delighted to offer you our "Summer Pick" series which brings you a selection of the most popular listener favorites from the past few years of shows. Today's solo episode originally aired on November 15th, 2018. Hope you enjoy them! In this episode, I share key findings from my in-depth research, interviews and client and course work with thousands of professional women around the world about the 7 most damaging power gaps that block 98% of women (and 90% of men) from reaching their highest potential and most thrilling, rewarding goals in their work and careers. Here, I outline how these 7 gaps steal away our power, confidence, energy, vision, connection and influence, and I explain how these gaps derail us from achieving what we want most, no matter how we try. You'll hear me share some specific, actionable tips and new approaches to help you recognize the gaps that are impacting your life today, and move forward to address these destructive gaps once and for all. I also wanted to share that we have now moved to a biweekly schedule, continuing to bring you great episodes that I hope you find instrumental but also giving you a bit more time to check out and digest each episode and take action on the powerful strategies and tips that are shared. Thank you so much and wishing you a great summer! Enjoy the show!

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "Being in this type of life, in this career trajectory, we are faced with decisions. Whether it's for branding, or for aspects of your career or professional life, it's all about the choices that you make. Are you in fact making the brave choices?" - Robert Friedman Last week, we featured the first of a fascinating 2-part series with Robert Friedman around building a fearless brand for your business. In the first episode, Robert shared his expertise, best tips and effective strategies for standing out from others in your industry. Today, he takes a deeper dive by not only revealing the specific questions we need to be asking when doing the internal work of the branding process, but how we can also begin to understand our market and engage in a helpful competitive analysis. Robert Friedman is the owner and Founder of Fearless Branding, a branding consultancy that focuses on creating powerful brands for experts and the firms they own. He works with consultants, law firms, executive coaches and other professionals who are paid for their ideas and expertise. I am so grateful to Robert for joining me and being willing to answer the specific, probing questions I had. I encourage you to take Robert's Brand Strength Assessment that he mentions today, and if you have a question for him, Robert has generously provided his email address, robert@fearlessbranding.com, where he can be reached. To learn more about today's guest, visit: https://fearlessbranding.com/

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "When I screen a [small business] client prospect, I ask them this question - if their best clients couldn't hire them and they had to hire one of their competitors, what would be the value that they would lose or be missing?" - Robert Friedman I'm so excited to dig into the essential steps entrepreneurs and small business owners need to take to build a powerful, compelling brand that stands out and attracts ideal clients we love to support. Today's Finding Brave guest was deeply instrumental in helping me brand my own coaching business when I first started out. He is an expert at helping small business owners define what differentiates them from their competitors so that they can have the true impact that they long to, working with rewarding clients who they find meaningful to serve. Robert Friedman is the owner and Founder of Fearless Branding, a branding consultancy that focuses on creating powerful brands for experts and the firms they own. He works with consultants, law firms, executive coaches and other professionals who are paid for their ideas and expertise. In this first part of our 2-part series, Robert shares his expertise, best tips and effective strategies for standing out from others in your industry, and he helps me right on the show by providing an impromptu branding session for my own coaching business. This conversation with Robert was so rich and useful, and the topic of branding such a key one for small businesses, that we decided to make this a special 2-part mini-series with him. Please join us next week for Part 2 as well, and always, please let us know the biggest takeaways you take from our interview. To learn more about today's guest, visit: https://fearlessbranding.com/

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "With writing, somebody is holding up a mirror and you're getting to look into the mirror and see yourself. When someone is vulnerable, they're holding up that mirror and the light is bright, and I think you're putting skin in the game in a way that is courageous." - Bruce Gelfand Today's Finding Brave is the second of my two-part conversation with Bruce Gelfand, as we go so much deeper into the power of writing and how vulnerability is a superpower that should be celebrated. In this episode, Bruce also reveals the incredible transformation that will happen when you truly write from your heart and have the courage to delve into your story. Based in Santa Monica, CA, Bruce has over 30 years of experience in theater, film, television, and publishing in both New York and Hollywood. His plays have won national playwriting awards, and been produced Off-Broadway and in theaters around the country. He has written numerous feature films and movies for television, and has written and directed the feature-length documentary, "The Family Safe." He is also a writer of fiction, non-fiction, songs, and award-winning poetry. His book, Brighter the Light, Deeper the Shadow was published in 2004. His many screenplays include "Rainbow Man." Bashert," "Touched," "The House at Otowi Bridge" and, most recently, "Refugee," an adaptation of the award-winning Holocaust memoir "Choices." Bruce is also a renowned writing teacher and coach. He has taught at Emerson College in Boston, and in the M.F.A. program at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco and taught hundreds of writing workshops and seminars in venues around the world—from gang members in LA to patients in the Mind-Body Institute at Brigham and Women's Hospital at Harvard. He has worked with tens of thousands of writing students – from masters in the field to absolute beginners. His current online course, A WRITERS' HOUR, is being used by writers all over the world. Bruce has a list of private coaching clients that range from age 10 to age 95, and includes CEOs, corporate trainers, Academy and Emmy-Award winning writers, directors, actors, and leaders in the worlds of politics, health, and spirituality. I encourage you to do the powerful exercise on uncovering the superpower that Bruce talks about in this episode, and let us know what you discover by doing so. We're looking forward to helping you bring into being in a fuller way who you really are. To learn more about today's guest, visit: http://brucegelfand.com/

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "It's a miracle what happens when people are invited into a safe space and invited to speak their hearts and speak their minds. There's no wrong way to do it, you just drop onto the page and you go." - Bruce Gelfand I'm so excited to bring today's amazing guest back to Finding Brave to share his expertise with you. Not only has Bruce Gelfand been my own writing coach, but he has been so instrumental in my life in many ways beyond writing. In this episode, he dives deeper into the tremendous impact that writing your own story, and sharing it with others, will have on your life. Based in Santa Monica, CA, Bruce has over 30 years of experience in theater, film, television, and publishing in both New York and Hollywood. His plays have won national playwriting awards, and been produced Off-Broadway and in theaters around the country. He has written numerous feature films and movies for television, and has written and directed the feature-length documentary, "The Family Safe." He is also a writer of fiction, non-fiction, songs, and award-winning poetry. His book, Brighter the Light, Deeper the Shadow was published in 2004. His many screenplays include "Rainbow Man." Bashert," "Touched," "The House at Otowi Bridge" and, most recently, "Refugee," an adaptation of the award-winning Holocaust memoir "Choices." Bruce is also a renowned writing teacher and coach. He has taught at Emerson College in Boston, and in the M.F.A. program at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco and taught hundreds of writing workshops and seminars in venues around the world—from gang members in LA to patients in the Mind-Body Institute at Brigham and Women's Hospital at Harvard. He has worked with tens of thousands of writing students – from masters in the field to absolute beginners. His current online course, A WRITERS' HOUR, is being used by writers all over the world. Bruce has a list of private coaching clients that range from age 10 to age 95, and includes CEOs, corporate trainers, Academy and Emmy-Award winning writers, directors, actors, and leaders in the worlds of politics, health, and spirituality. Today's conversation with Bruce is deeply inspiring as he shares how everyone has a riveting story to tell, and the process of giving yourself permission to find and hone your voice – and use it to contribute to the world – can be learned, and is a transformational experience when you do. Enjoy this, and don't miss next week's Part 2 of this uplifting conversation. To learn more about today's guest, visit: http://brucegelfand.com/

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "You have a lot of knowledge and expertise, but if you continually doubt the strength of your opinions, or the importance of sharing your ideas, you are going to lose the ability to shape where your career is going." - Kathy Caprino Confidence is key as you step into being the most powerful version of you, and this is something I feel compelled to talk about ​given my particular lens as a former corporate VP, therapist (focused on systems and communication), researcher, and now in coaching and training with thousands of executives and professionals across 6 continents. I know too from working with teams that new managers and high-potential managers at startups and organizations that are growing exponentially, also fear they don't know nearly enough to do their jobs well, and their confidence is lacking. This is why today I want to focus on the 5 ways that your lack of confidence is hurting you, and what you can do to overcome this challenge and build your confidence and self-trust now so that it doesn't impact your success and professional fulfillment in the future. In this episode, I reference my recent Forbes blog post, 5 Ways Your Lack Of Confidence Is Apparent And Hurting You, which I encourage you to read. If you find the information helpful in identifying and overcoming a lack of confidence in yourself, I would be so happy if you would share the Forbes post and this episode with your teams, organizations and friends who could benefit as well.

Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts! "I show them a work of art, something they have never seen before, and get them to tell me what they see. I then pull it together in a way that they can take that back to their work with them." - Amy E. HermanWhen the subject of problem-solving comes to mind, fine art may not be the first thing that you think of. However, today's Finding Brave guest works with leaders around the globe and across many professions using the analysis of works of art to help them solve problems they are facing, from minor annoyances to intractable dilemmas. Amy E. Herman is President and Founder of the Art of Perception, a world-renowned speaker, and the author of Fixed: How to Perfect The Fine Art of Problem Solving. She is a recovering lawyer and art historian who combined the practical aspects of each of those disciplines—legal analysis and visual analysis--to create her company, the Art of Perception, over 20 years ago. She has trained individuals in all branches of the military, the FBI, the New York Police Department, intelligence officers, officials at NATO, and Fortune 500 companies to look at works of art to become better observers, communicators, and problem solvers. Her program has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The CBS Evening News, and Smithsonian Magazine, among others. Her TED talk, A Lesson On Looking, has over 840,000 views to date. Her first book, Visual Intelligence, published May 2016 was featured on both the New York Times and Washington Post bestsellers' lists and her upcoming (young adult) book, smART: Use Your Eyes to Boost Your Brain, is due out September 2022. I'm so excited for you to learn, alongside me, from Amy about how analyzing works of art can improve observation, perception, and communication skills and facilitate better problem-solving. If you take the opportunity to use art to see things in different ways using different perspectives and it helps you to address problems in your own life differently, please do let us know! We would love to hear about your experience. To learn more about today's guest, visit: https://artfulperception.com/