Psychologists Off the Clock

Join Diana for a short but sweet Soothing Rhythm Breathing break!   Soothing Rhythm Breathing is an exercise from Compassion Focused Therapy. It is particularly helpful when you feel anxiety, anger, or other emotional dysregulation. Soothing Rhythm Breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, increases heart rate variability, and activates the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Soothing Rhythm Breathing shifts your body/brain systems from drive and threat toward safeness and compassion.     131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges81. A Gift For You: 10 Min Breathing Meditation70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness MeditationA Gift For You: Pranayama Breathing Meditation   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Microaggressions. These small, often unintentional acts of racism are probably affecting you more than you know! In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Monnica Williams, author of Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces and co-author of Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings, and our co-host Debbie discuss microaggressions in therapy spaces, race-based mental health disparities, and racial trauma. Join us for an informative episode, where we can grow and learn together! "Good people can and do commit acts of racism."Dr. Monnica Williams Listen and Learn: What microaggressions are and why they’re so pervasiveThe different categories of microaggressions How microaggressions have affected Debbie and Dr. Williams personally How self-identity impacts the occurrence and aftermath of microaggressionsHow subtle, covert microaggressions impact race-based Mental Health treatment disparityThe psychological impact of microaggressions and racial traumaDr. Monnica Williams’s recommendations for the mistakes therapists make in therapyDr. Monnica-approved methods for pointing out, apologizing for, and validating the experience of microaggressions if you commit one (as we all do sometimes!)  Resources Mentioned on the Podcast: Link to our sponsorship pageFollow Dr. Monnica on Twitter: @DrMonnica Visit Dr. Monnica’s website: http://www.monnicawilliams.com Dr. Monnica’s blog on psychology today: Culturally SpeakingDr. Monnica’s book: Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings Dr. Monnica’s book: Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces About Monnica Williams:  Dr. Monnica Williams is a board-certified, licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapies. She is an Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada Research Chair in Mental Health Disparities, and Director of the Laboratory for Culture and Mental Health Disparities. She is also the Clinical Director of the Behavioral Wellness Clinic, LLC in Tolland, Connecticut, and she has founded clinics in Kentucky, Virginia, and Pennsylvania. Dr. Williams completed her undergraduate studies at MIT and UCLA. She received her doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. She was an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine in the Department of Psychiatry for four years, where she worked with Dr. Edna Foa who is a world renowned expert on OCD and PTSD. She was also a director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities at the University of Louisville.  Dr. Williams has published over 100 peer reviewed articles, books, chapters, and scientific reports with a focus on anxiety related conditions and cultural considerations. She was named one of the top 25 thought leaders in PTSD by PTSD Journal, and she frequently contributes to the public scientific discourse as a media expert. She is frequently featured on PBS, NPR, and the New York times, and she has a fantastic blog on psychology today called Culturally Speaking. Along with Daniel Rosen and Johnathan Kanter, Dr. Monnica co-authored the book Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings. In this episode, we discussed her most recent book, Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces. You can learn more about all of Dr. Williams’ work here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today’s world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to remedy word-inflicted wounds is of utmost importance. In this timely episode, Dr. Deborah Tannen talks with Jill about how communication styles affect our everyday relationships. Join us to learn more on the ‘best’ way to talk in different contexts, gender differences in communication styles, saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and much more! Listen and Learn: Dr. Tannen’s definition of conversational styleWhy communication style is important in various domains including intimate relationships, workplace relations, and difficult conversations Saying what you mean and meaning what you sayJill and Dr. Tannen’s account of gender differences in communication stylesDr. Tannen’s wisdom on the ‘best way to talk’What a double bind is and how it affects women Questions and phrases you can use to improve your communication style right nowHow different communication platforms change the intent of your words Resources Link to our sponsorship pageGary Chapman’s five love languagesVisit Yael’s website to find out more on her work with couples Dr. Tannen’s memoir and where you can purchase itInformation on Dr. Arlie Hochschild Dr. Tannen’s books, That's Not What I Meant! and Talking from 9 to 5Alicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Dr. Tannen’s training video on women’s language in the workplace The New York Times’ article, It's Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can't Get a Word In About Dr. Deborah Tannen Dr. Tannen is a University Professor and Professor Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, a book that has brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness as a New York Times best seller. Her collected works include eight books for general audiences as well as sixteen books and over one hundred articles for scholarly audiences. Dr. Tannen is one of only six in Georgetown University’s College of Arts and Sciences who hold the distinguished rank of University Professor. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and spent a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, New Jersey. She has twice been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford in Palo Alto, California. The recipient of five honorary doctorates, she is a member of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation Board of Directors. Read her recent essays in The New York Times and The Forward or view a full list of her articles for general audiences here. To learn more about what Dr. Tannen is up to, visit her website at deborahtannen.com. Related episodes Episode 163: The Likeability Trap with Alicia MenendezEpisode 165: How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine KinzlerEpisode 62: Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu VillatteEpisode 104: You’re Doing it Wrong with Professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret QuinlanEpisode 121: Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 28: Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With R... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We all have unhelpful habits, and whether you overeat, use substances, or worry, you may have noticed these habits have gotten worse lately. In this episode, Diana joins Dr. Judson Brewer (Dr. Jud), neuroscientist and author of The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits, for a fascinating conversation about why stress makes our habits and addictions worse. Additionally, they talk about what’s happening in your brain when you’re caught in these habits, and how to unhook from even the trickiest ones using mindfulness and curiosity. Listen and Learn: Diana’s and Debbie’s pandemic habitsHow Diana’s shifting unhelpful habits to values-based ones (get her free download here!)The three core elements of a habitWhat’s happening in your brain when you are cravingWhy uncertainty and stress makes it harder to break unhealthy habitsHow anxiety and rumination are similar to smoking and eating Dr. Jud’s groundbreaking brain research on mindfulness and the Default Mode NetworkHow curiosity changes your brain and why it is key to unhooking from habit loopsWhy it doesn’t work to “think your way out of a craving” or “think your way out of anxiety”Mindfulness tools you can use right now with yourself and your kids to get groundedWhy swapping choosing kindness and generosity over self-righteous rumination is “so much sweeter”The personal values that underlie Dr. Jud’s work Resources Five Finger Breathing with Dr. Jud BrewerWatch Dr. Jud study Anderson Cooper’s brain in an fMRIThe Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How we can Break Bad Habits, by Dr. Judson BrewerDr. Jud’s Ted Talk: A Simple Way To Break a Bad HabitDr. Jud’s App-based behavior change programs: Unwinding Anxiety®, Eat Right Now®, and To Quit®.  Get 20% off with coupon code OFFTHECLOCKChange unhealthy habits into values-rich ones with this handoutDr. Yotam Heinberg on “growing roots” practice Listen to Diana’s interviews with Paul Gilbert here and here to learn more about threat, drive, and compassion systems in the brain Dr. Jud Brewer About Dr. Judson Brewer Dr. Judson Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at MIT. Before that, he held research and teaching positions at Yale University and the University of Massachusetts’ Center for Mindfulness. Read more about his research here. As an addiction psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for treating addictions, Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety (Eat Right Now, Unwinding Anxiety and Craving to Quit). Based on the success of these programs in the lab, he co-founded MindSciences, Inc. to create app-based digital therapeutic versions of these programs for a wider audience, working with individuals, corporations, and hospital systems to put effective, evidence-based behavior change guidance in the hands of people struggling with unwanted behaviors and “everyday addictions.” 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran103. Healthy Habits with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert46. Altruism And The Flow Of Compassion With Dr. Yotam Heineberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Seuss told us, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” But what do you do when you’re in charge of many brains in many heads? What happens when you’re in charge of steering many feet (some of which have tiny shoes) traveling in many different directions? Is there any room left to choose? In this week’s episode, Sarah Argenal, author of The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, discusses her framework to escape survival mode, find balance, and defeat burnout. She explains that we often find ourselves working from problem-solving mode, moving from problem to problem and finding the quickest solution for each. As we get caught up in solving problem after problem, we experience burnout and find ourselves trapped in survival mode. Unless we get more strategic in how we approach our many life roles, life can become small and lose its vitality. Sarah provides a strategic framework for working from the inside-out so that we can allow our many purposes to better serve us, and to bring back a vitality that guide us in each of our many life roles. Listen and Learn: How survival mode might be affecting you right nowFour steps you can take toward creating a more vital lifeTips and tricks for escaping survival modeStrategies for including more self-care into your routinesMethods for discovering what areas of your life are most important to you (and which are less important)What gets in the way of working from the inside-out, and how you can approach this work (even if you are too busy and tired!)How to make your purposes better serve you (instead of you serving them!)How to defeat burnout, find balance, and escape survival mode About Sarah Argenal: Sarah Argenal attained her masters in counseling psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy and adult development from the University of San Francisco. She is the founder of the The Argenal Institute LLC based in Austin, TX, host and executive producer of Working Parent Resource Podcast, and author of the book The Whole Self Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode For Good. Sarah uses twenty years of experience and her signature program, the Whole SELF Lifestyle™, to help working parents escape survival mode and enjoy their lives. Resources: The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, by Sarah Argenal For more from Sarah’s work, check out the resources at The Argenal Institute. Yael’s essay on working parenthood in the Wall Street Journal. 24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 83. Tao of Work and Family Balance 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. Like what you’re hearing? Support us on Patreon. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How you talk informs who you are, who you group up with, and how you perceive others. But while language is a profoundly powerful influencer of how we engage in the social world, we seldom acknowledge its impact on social injustice. In this episode, Yael talks with professor and psychologist Katherine Kinzler about the role of language and accent in prejudice, empathy, identity, morality, and ingroup/outgroup formation. In Katherine’s book, How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, she describes how language and accent are an often overlooked contributor in cultural affiliation and discrimination. Katherine offers evidence for their critical role in perpetuating injustice, and shows us why increasing awareness of linguistic biases can empower us to pave the way towards a more just and compassionate future. Listen and Learn: The surprising ways that language influences who we are and our cultural affiliationThe power of language in perpetuating prejudice and stereotypingHow media and film perpetuate stigma related to language and accentWhy the evolution of language can predispose humans towards prejudiceHow recent events demonstrate the overlooked role of linguistic discriminationThat language is not just about communication, but rather is about social lifeWhy common myths about monolingualism are wrongHow we can use language as a tool to increase compassion and empathy, and reduce prejudice About Katherine Kinzler Dr. Katherine Kinzler is a psychology professor at the University of Chicago. Her research sits at the intersection of developmental and social psychology where she focuses on the origins of prejudice and ingroup outgroup thinking with an emphasis on understanding how language and accent mark social groups. Katherine’s writing has appeared in the New York times and other media outlets and the world economic forum named her as one of the 50 scientists under 40 working to shape our future. Resources: How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, by Katherine Kinzler NPR Interview with Katherine Kinzler NYT Book Review on How You Say It Katherine’s University of Chicago webpage Other Resources: Article showcasing the work of Dr. Deborah Tannen Link to Duolingo, a fun, game-based app that helps adults and children learn new languages Psychologists Off the Clock 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you are experiencing Pandemic Stress, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help! This is a stressful time for most of us; the mental health aftermath of a pandemic is sometimes called a "second pandemic" because of the rise of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And in addition to fear of the coronavirus itself, we are currently facing other major, global stressors like climate change, forest fires, systemic racism, economic uncertainty, and political divisiveness. No wonder so many of us are exhausted! In this podcast episode, co-hosts Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen discuss Pandemic Stress and give examples of how they use ACT practices themselves, as they experience emotional ups and downs. Whether you are anxious, depressed, lonely, or irritable, Diana and Debbie have some strategies from ACT that might help you be more flexible and accepting in the face of the pandemic. As Diana says in the episode, "it's almost like ACT was made for Pandemic Stress!" Listen and Learn About Pandemic Stress and the "second pandemic" of mental health concerns. Diana and Debbie's own experiences with Pandemic Stress. The difference between threat, fear, and anxiety.How Psychological Flexibility and ACT offer the key to navigating pandemic stress.Why practicing acceptance is more helpful than experiential avoidance. Shifting your perspective when "doom and gloom" thoughts arise.Letting go of unrealistic personal expectations, and finding a healthy routine that supports your wellbeing. Loneliness, moral distress, and loss during COVID.How we can reconnect to our values, do the next right thing, and have a sense of common humanity.Building social connection and effectively working from home. Resources Diana’s 6 ACT Strategies for Transforming Anxiety & Increasing Psychological FlexibilityDebbie’s Pandemic Stress Blog PostsIf you need a good cry, here’s a link to the song The Next Right Thing from Frozen 2Diana's friend Gwendolyn's beautiful song and you can sign up for Gwendolyn's community singing newsletter Pandemic Stress Articles "How I used ACT to cope with COVID"Article on Pandemic-Related DistressUncertainty and Psychological FlexibilityFamily systems and Psychological Flexibility The Moderating Roles of Psychological Flexibility and Inflexibility on the Mental Health Impacts of COVID-19 Pandemic and Lockdown in ItalyResponding to Moral Dilemmas in the age of COVID Older Adults and Social Connection while Social Distancing 4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1)5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2)7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse37. Post-Traumatic Growth42. Strategies to Increase Focus and Work More Effectively43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard (now our fabulous co-hosts!)116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore118. Moral Injury and Shame with Dr. Lauren Borges and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne149. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Women are told to be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Join Jill for her interview with award-winning journalist and author of the book The Likeability Trap, Alicia Menendez, as they examine the impossible bind women find themselves in: to succeed, women must be competent and likeable; but the more women are seen as competent, and the more they achieve, the less likeable they become. Alicia discusses how women can let go of old rules and reimagine leadership rather than reinventing themselves. Listen and Learn What likeability traps areWhat the "Goldilocks Conundrum" isThe problem with focusing on women as the solutionThe need for systemic changeIdeas for where to start moving the conversation forwardHow to think about ambition during a pandemic and how to juggle the challenges of today’s difficult times About Alicia Menendez Alicia Menendez Alicia Menendez is an MSNBC anchor and host of the Latina to Latina podcast. Dubbed “Ms. Millennial” by The Washington Post, “journalism’s new gladiator” by Elle, and a “content queen” by Marie Claire, her interviews and reporting have appeared on ABC News, Bustle, FusionTV, PBS and Vice News. Her first book, “The Likeability Trap” was published in November 2019. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters. Resources Visit Alicia's webpage Buy the book The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You Are 49. Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Karen Suyemoto, the chair of the APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology. Race and culture are present in all of our interactions. As mental health professionals, it is our ethical responsibility to understand the ways in which race and ethnicity impact us personally, our interactions with clients, and the communities we serve. Everyone is also caught in the system of racism and oppression. It is our responsibility as mental health providers to strive towards understanding the complexities of this system and how we can contribute to systemic change. Listen and Learn How do race and ethnicity interact, and how are they definedWhy understanding the influences of race and ethnicity is so central to psychologyThe role personal inquiry plays in the guidelinesWhy practicing cultural humility and understanding positionality is important in the work of a psychologistHow racism and privilege has impacted the field of psychologyHow the therapy room can be a reenactment of racial traumaWhat it means to be an activist in psychologyHow we can carry out a deep commitment to changeHow to hold both race and the individual authentic relationship in our inter-racial interactions About Karen Suyemoto  Karen Suyemoto has a joint appointment with the Psychology Department and the Asian American Studies Program and Critical Ethnic and Community Studies graduate program at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. Their research interests focus generally on Asian American psychology and issues related to social justice and anti-racist therapy/ practice/education. Their research addresses fostering awareness and advocacy for social justice through examining relations of race and racism to mental health; investigating effects of resistance and coping with racism, and exploring the complexity of relative and ascribed power and intersectional discrimination. Additional research addresses how cultural responsiveness and racial social justice can be developed through and integrated into education, training, research methods, and practice. Their current research projects include a quantitative study examining the effects of racism for people of color and how taking action to challenge racism may moderate negative psychological effects and a two-book project focused on transformative teaming and learning about oppression and privilege (with Grace Kim and Roxanne Donovan).   Professor Suyemoto was the Chair of the recently released Guidelines for Race and Ethnicity for the American Psychological Association. They served as the past president of the Asian American Psychological Association and as the AAPA delegate to the American Psychological Association Council of Representatives. In 2013, they were recognized as a White House Champion of Change: Asian American Pacific Islander Woman Leader and also awarded the Asian American Psychological Association’s Distinguished Contributions Award. Resources: APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyDr. Suyemoto's Web site 150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr. Sandra Mattar156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Modern parenting is high stakes, leaving parents terrified of failure in their parenting and in their children. But it turns out that the overprotective behaviors driven by our fears undermine our children’s—and our own—successes throughout life. Join Yael for a conversation with best-selling author, teacher, podcaster, and parent Jessica Lahey for a thought-provoking conversation about how parents can learn to relate to failure differently for themselves and their children. And why we should. Listen and Learn: How overprotective parenting can undermine competence, independence, academic potential, and emotional healthWhy failure gets a bad rap and how to reframe itHow autonomy, competence, and relatedness can help our kids learn to learn betterThe importance of intrinsic motivation and how to help children build itWhat external motivators are and why they are problematicHow to “parent in place” with greater ease (what we can do less of and what we can focus on while our children are learning at home)Why it’s important to focus on process over product About Jessica Lahey: Jessica Lahey Jessica Lahey is a teacher, writer, and mom. Over twenty years, she’s taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, The Washington Post and the New York Times and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons. Her second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, will be released in April 2021. Resources from Jess: Jessica’s WebsiteThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, by Jessica Lahey #AmWriting Podcast with Jessica Lahey, KJ Dell’Antonia, and Sarina BowenParenting in Place Masterclass From The Atlantic, Why back-to-school night made me feel like a bad mom, by Jessica Lahey Other Resources: Yael’s essay in Rick Hanson’s Wise Brain Bulletin, How to Be a Happier Parent Under Quarantine Jessica's bibliography containing the books referenced during this episode (and many others Jess refers to in various speaking engagements and writing).The Stinky and Dirty Show on Amazon Prime 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.