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Judson Brewer MD PhD is widely considered an expert in the areas of habit change, the "science of self-mastery" and mindfulness training for addiction. He has published a number of peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, he has trained US Olympic coaches, and his work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TEDMED, Time, Forbes, BBC, NPR, Businessweek and others. So - you get the idea...this guy knows what he's talking about and what he's talking about is fascinating. It's a very different approach to ridding yourself of addiction and it works. it works much better than even currently accepted "gold standard programs" and it's something you can learn how to do today. In fact, you can learn how to do it by listening to this episode.Please Support The Show with a DonationVisit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Sanebox Biggest time waster at work - automatically filters out the emails that don't need your focus. Get your email under control free 2 week trial and get a $25 credit www.sanebox.com/wolfThe Great Courses Plus app streaming service where you can learn anything that interests you. iRest research based form of deep meditation 10 step meditation practice Feed your curiosity. Feed your good wolf. thousands of lectures and lessons on human behavior, history, science, cooking, photography, drawing Get a full month of unlimited access for free www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Want to feel like you're sleeping in a 5-star hotel? Try a Casper mattress at no hassle to you and get $50 off select mattresses Go to www.casper.com/oneyoufeed promo code oneyoufeed  In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss... His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits Trigger, Behavior, Result Rewards and Punishments Habit Loop Subjective Bias Addiction: Continued use despite adverse consequences Addiction: a way to avoid something Every time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loop Cravings are like stray cats If you don't feed a craving it will burn itself out Surfing a craving The way cravings feel like they're going to crush us and last forever - cognitive distortion Craving Wave: come - crest - go away\ Awareness helps us surf these craving waves What does this feel like in my body right now? Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go away RAIN This method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation program Substitute behavior In their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happiness Investigate the craving and the reward Excitement brings contraction Get curious about your experiences - it helps you remain open Default mode network Conceptual vs Experiential Self The contraction of ego How we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the difference Jusdon Brewer LinksHomepageTwitterPlease Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Josh Korda is the guiding teacher of Dharma Punx in NYC and a fully empowered Buddhist teacher in the Against the Stream lineage. He has led numerous online and residential retreats and is also widely known for his podcast and as an author. His new book is called Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth. In this conversation with Eric, he talks about how to make changes in your life and he bases much of what he has to say on this topic on his Buddhist principals and own life experience. It's a comprehensive look at how we as humans can experience the impermanence of life. Since we all face this impermanence, it's a pretty important thing to grow more skillful in the way we interact with it.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Please Support The Show with a Donation The Great Courses Plus app streaming service where you can learn anything that interests you. Feed your curiosity. Feed your good wolf. thousands of lectures and lessons on human behavior, history, science, cooking, photography, drawing Get a full month of unlimited access for free www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf LinkedIn worlds largest professional network 70% of the workforce is already there - not just those looking for jobs. A new hire is made every 10 seconds using LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 off first job post Blinkist read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your free trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan In This Interview, Josh Korda and I Discuss... His book, Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth How he deals with his depression Western mindfulness practice How it's not about always accepting or settling for toxic circumstances How it's not about always running away from healthy yet difficult circumstances The wisdom to know what to do with difficulty in the moment How to make significant life changes (based on his experience doing just that) Being willing to set boundaries Making change by talking harshly oneself only creates stress and you then associate the stress with the goal itself and you begin to procrastinate How our inner critic makes us want to avoid the very things we want to grow into Thought arrives after feeling and impulses Ways to change behavior without relying on thought "Corrective emotional response" The importance of an empathetic, safe therapist in effective therapy Josh Korda LinksHomepageTwitter Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anne Bogel is an author, podcast host, avid reader and personality assessment expert. That's what you'll see when you read her new book, How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. In this interview, Eric and Anne cover a lot of ground; from book recommendations to the value and application of personality tests. If you are at all interested in personal growth, this episode will excite and inspire you to use valid personality tests as a tool to fuel that endeavor. If you've written off personality tests in the past, we encourage you to revisit the topic with an open mind as you listen to this episode. You may think differently 45 minutes from now.Please Support The Show with a DonationVisit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Bombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF In This Interview, Anne Bogel and I Discuss... Her book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything Recent fiction books that she's read that she loved How we all have pain during the course of our lives The joy of reading literary fiction What is personality? The coping strategies we learn vs fundamental personality changes How our mind is inclined to work The way we see things Taking a personality test and answering questions based on how we want to be vs how we really are That if you don't know how you're really like, you can't move forward and grow as a person Common thoughts, feelings and behavior = our personality type Our character and our behavior are two things we can impact and change within ourselves with a lot of effort Personality tests not being a limiting thing Putting your strengths to work for you Putting effort towards things we can change vs things we can't change I'm the kind of person who _____ being a powerful phrase Fixed vs Growth mindset Highly sensitive people The emotional bank account Introverts vs Extroverts What you do consistently over time matters the 5:1 ratio when it comes to positive and negative experiences The Enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Anne Bogel LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterInstagram Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Sanebox helps organize your email inbox for a www.sanebox.com/wolf free trial for 2 weeks and a $25 creditEric just replaced his entire sock drawer with all Bombas socks because of how much he loves them get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF  In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss... His book, The Mind Illuminated The power of setting an intention for meditation Getting all of the mind on board for meditating Accepting whatever comes up Trying to enjoy your meditation, celebrating the times you come back to the present moment vs scolding yourself Roadmap of the stages of meditation over time How knowing the developmental nature of things over time can be problematic The difficulties of being a beginner at anything Looking for the pleasure and joy in wherever you are  The 4 step process of settling in to meditate Feeling your breath at the nose The Mindful Review Being aware of the motivation behind your thoughts and speech What could I have done differently? Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.New science and research has changed the formula of improving hair and stopping hair loss 1st months supply with a subscription for $10 www.nutrafol.com promo code WOLF Read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your free trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss... His book, The Mind Illuminated How the mind and the brain works The basic distinction between attention and awareness How when we give labels to something we can know and understand it better The moments of consciousness model Non-perceiving moments of consciousness The dullness of meditation Sleepiness in meditation The goal of vipassana is to increase the total power of our cognitive abilities The mind system model (how the mind works) The conscious and unconscious mind Sensory sub-mind (taking in info through senses) Discriminating sub-mind (cognitive thinking/feeling) These sub-minds are competing for attention The conscious mind is a place that the sub-minds project into The power of setting intentions on the sub-minds The role of the narrating sub-mind We are a collection of the processes of the sub-minds Making intellectual sense of the experience of not-self See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amoda Maa is a contemporary spiritual teacher and author. You may recognize the titles of some of her books: How to Find God in Everything, Change Your Life Change Your World and Radical Awakening. Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment, is a powerful look at what awakening means, looks like and feels in your everyday life. She stresses that you can't think your way into awakening but that rather you feel your way into it. During this interview she talks about what that means and how to do it.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Casper mattress 4th of July offer July 9th www.casper.com/savings up to $225 off your order Quip electric toothbrush fraction of the cost of other electric toothbrushes www.getquip.com/wolf and get first refill packet free In This Interview, Amoda Maa and I Discuss... Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment Awakening Waking up out of the dream of separation Waking up out of the dream of thinking that we are our thoughts and feelings Awakening not dependant on or a precursor to one's psychological health Surrendering the need to uphold oneself Surrendering the psychological self The need for psychological safety giving rise to egoic tendencies The defense and attack found in righteousness The verticality of being Not having an agenda of the outcome when opening ourselves to our experience and meeting it as it is How to be free from suffering The strength of life's intelligence The ripening that happens within oneself when you've finally had enough of running away from pain No real relief from pain and no final freedom from pain when all you're doing is running away from it Am I willing to meet this exactly as it is? Trying not to try True fulfillment is the emptying of the spiritual shopping basket The paradox of trying not to try Accumulating agendas = committing to a particular spiritual path and expecting that you'll feel worthy and good enough Love is seeking to know itself Silence is ever present in everything   Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Johann Hari is an author and a journalist. His previous book was a New York Times Best Seller and his newest, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions, is no doubt on its way to share the same status. It proposes a more holistic, societal look at the causes and treatment of depression - more than the singular chemical imbalance explanation we traditionally consider. The core principal of getting our needs met is a thread that runs throughout this discussion and the deep dive that Johann Hari does on the subject will fascinate you and cause you to stop and think very differently than you have before on this topic that affects so many people in this world. Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Madison Reed - affordable, salon quality at home hair color kit get color matched www.madison-reed.com 10% off plus free shipping on first kit promo code WOLF In This Interview, Johann Hari and I Discuss... His new book, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions The two kinds of human connection Intrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivations "Junk" values The more you're driven by extrinsic values, the more likely you'll suffer from anxiety and depression in your life Our society drives us to live in this extrinsic way The whole point of advertising is to make us feel inadequate and our problems can be solved by buying Extrinsic motives can crowd out the more fulfilling intrinsic motives The 9 causes of depression and anxiety The need to look more holistically at anxiety and depression than just a chemical imbalance That the book is NOT saying not to take medications that help with anxiety and depression The loneliest culture that has ever been The importance of addressing the deep environmental factors/reasons why we're so depressed and anxious Our sense of home and sense of belonging The problems manifested by being isolated and alone The benefit of being part of a "tribe" Realizing that you're not the only one who struggles and feels the way you do Grief and the diagnosis of depression Just having a chemical imbalance means your pain doesn't have meaning Depression and not having your needs met Following the pain to its source Pathologizing Depression Johann Hari LinksLost Connections HomepageTwitterFacebook  Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on The One You Feed we have Andrew Solomon.Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology.Solomon’s recent book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, published on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.”Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages. The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.” In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable. Using work to make the world a better place. The urgent business of living a moral life. How to decide what we should change and what we should accept. How hope can become the cornerstone of misery. The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children. The perfectionism of privilege. The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different. How we can grow through difficult circumstances. The poison of comparison. The idea of the “psychological supermodel”. Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is. Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences. A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression. How critical humor is in dealing with depression New approaches to treating depression. His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety. The shame of mental illness. If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes. A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty. How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea. The choices we face. How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Please Support The Show with a Donation Quip toothbrush "brush better" on Oprah's list of good things, new brush heads every 3 months (dentist recommended) for $5 including free shipping worldwide! First replacement brush heads free www.getquip.com/wolf LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 credit towards your first job post - a better way to find talent for your organizationIn This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss... Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships The emotions underneath fear, hatred and greed Depression being a calcified sadness Turning towards sadness The four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of this Feeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment? The difference between anger and irritation in the body The enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happy Look at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one another The threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyond The role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationships Good manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your words Opening to the other person as they are in a relationship Intimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover more In a relationship, commit to intimacy over love Addiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship! How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the space Passion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problem Wishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, however Relax with what is and a space will open up Her take on suffering Her beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachment A spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it is Your life IS the spiritual path In meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhere Meditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment  Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices