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Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss… Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety The positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a person That the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathy The neuroscience of social anxiety How if you face your fears you can change your brain The problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety  Overt avoidance Covert avoidance Thinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusion Avoidance means we never see what actually happens The inner critic The buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire Personality Social Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______ The tool, Replace Anxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of? 4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do? The tool, Embrace The role of mindfulness in anxiety Making your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environment Self-compassion Creating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goal Dr. Ellen Hendrisken Links:ellenhendriksen.comtwitterNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off your first custom sampler set.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann HariMatthew QuickEric MaiselSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sister Joan Chittister is a Benedictine Sister of Erie, Pennsylvania. She is the author of over 50 books and is the winner of 14 Catholic Press Association Awards. Sister Joan is an international speaker who inspires both her audience and readers with her passion for justice, equality, and peace – especially for women, in both society and the church. In this episode, Eric and Sister Joan discuss her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sister Joan Chittister and I Discuss… Her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life How words matter That experiences matter Humility as the cornerstone of spirituality The sanctification of the humble spirit Self-superiority in American culture Be who you are, know who you are, respect others around you and take your place in the human race Humility is having an accurate picture of who you are Her take on AA How holiness is the same everywhere That narcissism is a disease in our culture Being willing to face yourself How self-deprecation and self-aggrandizement are really the same things Not thinking about yourself all the time The burden of self That we’re looking for freedom Obedience as she defines it – it doesn’t mean we submit our souls to an authority figure. It’s grounded in the Latin word which means “to listen” How each of us grows into the ability to listen Endurance and Stability That you can’t rush your own development We become to be of service to others How nothing of value spiritually comes overnight The role of community in one’s great breakdowns in life Sister Joan Chittister Links:joanchittister.orgCapterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free todayFor Hers makes convenient, affordable access to birth control available for all women. You get access to licensed doctors online who can evaluate you and if appropriate, prescribe you birth control that can be delivered directly to your door. The One You Feed listeners get their first month of For Hers birth control for just $5 (see website for full details) www.forhers.com/wolfTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code WOLF to get your first week freeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result. **Spiritual Habits Workshop – Enrollment ends 4/21/19! There’s still time to discover how spiritual habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Click here for more information: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss… Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You That incivility is contagious That kindness is contagious Listening for the missed note instead of the music Playing “Gotcha” in the way you look at life The negativity bias The power of kindness The difference between nice and kind Her year of living kindly and blogging about it Quantifying the benefits of kindness Being indifferent and still being nice How you can’t be indifferent and still be kind That it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be nice Extending yourself beyond what is comfortable Caring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in return The chasm between kindness and unkindness Not being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kind Keeping score and being kind That when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something else The health business of kindness How kindness alleviates social anxiety Employing curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?” Various kindness practices Practicing a pause Asking yourself “What is the kind response here?” Receiving graciously as an act of kindness Donna Cameron Links:ayearoflivingkindly.comFacebookTwitterRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for freeThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a FREE trial and lock into their lowest price of $10 per month (50% off the regular price!) when you sign up for a 3-month plan thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann BerlinBarbara BonnerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is the co-founder of the Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles and is the creator of the 6-month Coaching and Mentorship Program: A Course in Mindful Living. He's a psychologist and international speaker and mindfulness educator. He's written many books and in this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion. There are so many practical approaches and new perspectives in this episode. We think you'll get a lot of useful information out of the conversation.Spiritual Habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Learn more here: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Elisha Goldstein and I Discuss… His book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion That what you practice and repeat is what you get Depression Triggers and Depression Cures Thoughts, Emotions, Sensations, and Behaviors The triangle of awareness Procedural memory The habit loop being like a traffic circle with 4 entry points The way our brain associates things The way our nervous system is overwhelmed when we’re experiencing depression Avoidance and depression How naming something gives us a little space and perspective How naming something actually changes the activity in our brain Perspective-making tools The way journaling objectifies your experiences Natural anti-depressants Mindfulness: a state of engaged curiosity Relating to your experience differently through mindfulness, self-compassion, play, compassion, purpose, and mastery The growth mindset and the fixed mindset Practicing being curious in your daily life to cultivate a growth mindset How a learning mindset is related to a growth mindset The importance of play How to discover what kind of play you might enjoy as an adult Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Links:Mindful Living CollectiveFacebookTwitterYouTube ChannelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States.  He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss… His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication That we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to moment The three steps to create effective conversation Lead with Presence Come from Curiosity and Care Focus on What Matters How most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another person That you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or not Bringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment) Bodily sensations happen in the present moment The power of pausing How our rate of speech is connected to our nervous system That when we are present, we have a lot more choices That our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communications The intention to understand The intention of kindness and care How you can practice kindness to someone you don’t like Kindness can be about protecting your own heart The phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…” Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need? The difference between needs and strategies The Nonviolent Communication Model Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests Communicating in the workplace Oren Jay Sofer LinksOrenJaySofer.comFacebookTwitterInstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Tererai Trent is an inspiring and dynamic scholar, educator, humanitarian, motivational speaker, author and the founder of Tererai International. Dr. Trent is one of the most internationally acclaimed voices for women's empowerment and quality education. Named by Oprah Winfrey as her all-time favorite guest, Dr. Trent's latest book is called The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams. She tells her incredible story in this episode and you will be so deeply moved, so deeply touched, and so deeply inspired by it. We'ver never heard anything like it and are honored that she would tell us about her astounding life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Tererai Trent and I Discuss... Her book, The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams The two hungers in our life - the little hunger and the great hunger The hunger for a meaningful life Asking yourself, "what breaks my heart?" The rural community she grew up in The wisdom of her grandmother That her grandmother was defined by her wisdom Her answer to the question she was asked - what are your dreams? The moment she was told that her dreams were achievable When her mother said to write down her dreams and bury (i.e. plant) them in the ground. How she broke the cycle of poverty The baton of poverty, illiteracy, early marriage, and abuse that she redefined The baton of wisdom, that she received The four dreams she wrote down When her mother said, "your goals in life will be more achievable when connected to the greater good of your community" The difference between culture and customs The 8 years it took for her to graduate high school Getting into Oklahoma State University but not having enough money to fly to America Feeding the deep hunger that says - you can achieve your dreams When she reconnected with the woman who first believed in her When she finally earned her PhD She worked 3 jobs and took 18 hours of coursework and took care of 5 kids getting her food from trashcans How she is not a victim, she is part of the solution Where her kids are now "It is acheivable" How many girls her work has now impacted See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Oliver Burkeman is an award-winning writer for The Guardian and his book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking explores the upsides of failure, difficulty, and imperfection – which we discussed in our first interview with Oliver several hundred episodes ago. Each week in his column in The Guardian, “This Column Will Change Your Life”, he writes about social psychology, self-help culture, productivity, and the science of happiness. In this interview, he discusses his take on time management in today’s world.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss… His take on the modern time management world That technologies of efficiency don’t seem to bring peace of mind How your to-do list is never going to go away That having emails in your inbox is not necessarily a problem Time management whispers of the possibility of true peace of mind Thinking of “a simpler time” How processing through your inbox is like climbing up an infinitely long ladder That tough choices have to be made when deciding what to do with your time – no matter how many productivity assists you have How it’s often easier to spend time on trivial stuff than the big projects David Allen’s book, Getting Things Done How no one beats them self up for not being able to jump a mile in the air because they never thought they could in the first place Similarly, accepting the real limitations in how much time you have and how much you can get done is incredibly liberating  Productivity advice from Warren Buffet The role social media plays in our expectations about how productive we could or should be How digital distractions help us numb out Oliver Burkeman LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eli Jaxon-Bear founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization. Eli is also the author of many books, including the one we discuss in this episode, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary. In this episode, he talks to Eric about accessing and experiencing your true self and things that get in the way of that. Also, he hits on a perspective of the Enneagram that we bet you’ve never considered before. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eli Jaxon-Bear and I Discuss… His book, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary Discovering who is feeding the wolves within That to know your true self you have to turn away from your false self – the self you construct in your mind NLP, the Enneagram and hypnosis integrated into his therapy His lasting enlightenment  Knowing what you really want and staying true to it in each moment The journey from “me” to “I”  Symptom cure and habit control His book, Sudden Awakening How your heart is already intelligent and alive That the Enneagram Personality Types is actually the Enneagram of Character Fixation Asking, does this bring me freedom, true love, happiness? Go deeper than the character fixation and find your character Waking up from the act, from the show, and stop taking it personally having to prove things The character fixation of an Enneagram type 9 The “Chief Feature” All of our experience has a Mental, Emotional and Physical component and the ego encapsulates all three of those The history of the origins of the Enneagram His book on the Enneagram Eli Jaxon-Bear LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterThe Great Courses Plus thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere get a full month for FREE thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Belinda GoreAmoda MaaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This mini episode is about the importance of taking small steps and how being consistent is not about being perfect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices