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Steve Hagen was ordained a Zen priest in 1979 and in 1989 he received Dharma Transmission (formal endorsement to teach) from Jikai Dainin Katagiri Roshi. He is the author of several books on Buddhism, science, and philosophy. These include Buddhism Plain and Simple, his most popular book. In his most recent book, The Grand Delusion, he applies breakthrough Eastern insights to seemingly indelible problems in Western science and philosophy. In 1997, he founded Dharma Field Meditation and Learning Center in Minneapolis, where he continues to serve as senior teacher.In this episode, Eric and Steve Hagen discuss his book, The Grand Delusion: What We Know But Don’t BelieveBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Steve Hagen and I Discuss What We Know but Don’t Believe… His book, The Grand Delusion: What We Know But Don’t Believe Defining grand delusion: our belief in non-emptiness or substantiality The dichotomy of understanding that if there is something, there must not be nothing How there are two truths that coexist Understanding that it’s in the mind where reality occurs Realizing that we can’t actually hold anything is the beginning of awakening Why understanding this concept is important in our day to day life Peace and present mind comes by seeing that the questions are misunderstanding the experience of life How we can’t resolve or answer the question of what’s the meaning of life We don’t need to answer the questions to bring freedom Trying to find a logical answer to meaning of life isn’t possible How we are acting and seeing things in terms of wholeness Perception is what we process through our senses Conception is the meaning we give to what we perceive Our suffering is tied up in the way we conceptualize the world The freedom of knowing that what we are grasping for isn’t possible Conceptualizing things isn’t bad, but it can also bring suffering Sudden and gradual awakening His work and practice with koans Great doubt comes with the question of why is there something rather than nothing Steve Hagen Links:Steve’s WebsiteJohann’s WebsiteWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Steve Hagen you might also enjoy these other episodes:Steve Hagen on Perception and Conception (2018)Original Buddhist Psychology with Beth JacobsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of 6 books that have, between them, sold more than a million copies. He’s perhaps best known for his self-published book, The Coaching Habit, which is the best-selling book on coaching this century and is already recognized as a classic. He founded the training and development company, Box of Crayons, which has taught coaching skills to hundreds of thousands of people around the world and he created a book in partnership with Seth Godin which raised $400,000 for Malaria No More. In this episode, Eric and Michael Bungay Stanier discuss his new book, How to Begin.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Michael Bungay Stanier and I Discuss Starting Well to Finish Well and… His book, How to Begin Tools to deal with fear and anxiety when they arise Sitting with the tension of ambition and contentment The secret is, once you have a goal, the key is to stop worrying about the goal That we unlock our greatness by working on the hard things The three steps that make up the foundation of actually beginning The key of beginning well that helps you stick with a project How to set a Worthy Goal The ways Worthy Goals can evolve How to the prizes and punishments of various commitments Michael Bungay Stanier Links:MBS WorksHow to BeginTwitterFacebookInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Michael Bungay Stanier you might also enjoy these other episodes:Michael Bungay Stanier (Interview from 2016)How to Get Things Done with Charlie GilkeySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taylor Jacobson is the CEO and Founder of Focusmate (www.focusmate.com), a virtual coworking community with a mission to help everyone do their best work. Thousands of people in 193 countries worldwide sit side-by-side, via video, to keep each other company, cheer each other on, and hold one another accountable. Taylor is a passionate voice on creating soulful work and workplaces and has been featured in The New Yorker, CNN, The Guardian, NPR, Fast Company, Bloomberg Businessweek, and more.In this episode, Eric and Taylor discuss his company, Focusmate, along with many useful ideas for designing the life you want to live.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Taylor Jacobson and I Discuss Tools to Find Focus and Accountability and… His company, Focusmate, that he started to help himself and others to become more productive The importance of feeling safe in a community in helping to accomplish your goals Procrastination is an expression of feeling unsafe How it’s difficult to focus when you’re feeling stressed or anxious How having a morning routine is grounding and signals our body we’re safe and able to get started Designing a life that demands what you want to give Noticing when you need to make a shift and reinvent yourself The ability to focus and the correlation to our nervous system Fight or flight impulses  Learning to experience and release these energy forces His choice to find the optimal environment to do the important inner work he desired Spiritual practices and choosing and trusting your inner truth Understanding that our experiences inform the gifts that we can give to the world  How living in fear limits our ability to share our unique gifts Taylor Jacobson Links:Taylor’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Taylor Jacobson you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Focus and Accomplish Goals with Emily BalcetisChris Bailey on Focus, Productivity, and MeditationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Veronica Valli is a former psychotherapist who now works as a sobriety coach. With almost 20 years of experience, Veronica has helped thousands of people live happy, healthy lives and reach their full potential by being alcohol-free. She is the co-host of the popular Soberful podcast and has been the keynote speaker at annual conferences including Women for Sobriety and Soberistas.In this episode, Eric and Veronica discuss her book, Soberful: Uncover a Sustainable, Fulfilling Life Free of Alchohol.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Veronica Valli and I Discuss The Freedom of Sobriety and… Her book, Soberful: Uncover a Sustainable, Fulfilling Life Free of Alcohol That alcoholism is just a symptom of a deeper malaise Her history with drugs and alcohol and how she got sober The experience she had with drug-induced psychosis Believing she had a very rare problem when everyone else was fine How and when she discovered that she wasn’t alone in how she felt Emotional unmanageability vs. emotional mastery That behavior is the truest manifestation of how someone feels – we behave how we feel The way our culture has normalized abnormal drinking The question, “would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?” When you’re spending most of your time arguing with yourself about whether or not you have a problem with drinking, you’re missing out on the real and good stuff of life, including your own growth and discovery Toxic positivity Feeling comfortable in our own skin and having appropriate emotional responses to events Emotional sobriety The value of consistently having a framework in life What to do if sobriety meetings feel overwhelming Veronica Valli Links:Veronica’s WebsiteFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Veronica Valli you might also enjoy these other episodes:The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowenThe Joy of Being Sober with Catherine GraySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator, and children’s book author. She is a Professor Emeritus at the University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut.  In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several of her poems and the inspiration and meaning behind themBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss her Beautiful and Powerful Poetry and… Her book, How I Discovered Poetry “Mississippi” poem Her book, A Wreath for Emmett Till Her use of the unique poetry form of heroic crown of sonnets “Rosemary for Remembrance” poem “Let Me Gather Spring Flowers for a Wreath” poem “Like His Gouged Eye” poem How poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silence A life well lived includes the gifts of silence, contemplation, and self knowledge  How we need to make an effort to find silence in a noisy world Her book, Carver “Professor Carver’s Bible Class” poem Her book, Snook Alone, the story of a dog Marilyn Nelson Links:Marilyn’s WebsiteFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Marilyn Nelson you might also enjoy these other episodes:Roger HousdenEllen BassSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Johann Hari is a writer and journalist. He has written for the New York Times, Le Monde, the Guardian, and other newspapers and his TED talks have been viewed over seventy million times. His work has been praised by a broad range of people, from Oprah Winfrey to Noam Chomsky to Joe Rogan.Eric and Johann discuss his book, Stolen Focus Why You Can’t Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply AgainBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Johann Hari and I Discuss Stolen Focus and Attention and… His book, Stolen Focus Why You Can’t Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply Again His experience of spending 3 months with no internet or smartphone The negative effects of consuming too much of social media How the evidence is showing we are in an attention crisis The deep forces at work that are damaging our attention Understanding the two levels of response to the attention crisis; individual and collective Cruel optimism is offering a simple solution to complex problems that may not work The alternative to cruel optimism is bringing awareness to the many layers of the problem How the human brain can only think about one thing at a time The negative effects of multitasking, or the switch cost-effect  The debate between being “pro” tech and “anti” tech The damaging effects of the current business models of social media designed to steal people’s attention How technology could be used to heal and aid your attention rather than steal it How the current model of economic growth contributes to dwindling attention His thoughts on the need for an attention movement to resist the forces invading our attention Johann Hari Links:Stolen Focus Book WebsiteJohann’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Johann Hari you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann Hari (2015 Interview)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joanna Macy is an environmental activist, author, a scholar of Buddhism, general systems theory, and deep ecology. She has written and co-authored many books, including translating much of Rilke’s workEric and Joanna discuss her translations of Rilke along with her important “Work That Reconnects”.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Joanna Macy and I Discuss her Work That Reconnects and… Her book translation, Letters to a Young Poet by Rilke The joy she experienced translating the work of Rilke with her coauthor Anita Barrows Having patience, curiosity and learning "to live the questions now"  Asking ourselves how can we trust and be trusted Her important work called "The Work That Reconnects" Her three visions of living "Business as Usual" refers to the growth economy and capitalism "The Great Unraveling" refers to the world losing its coherence "The Great Turning" is the slowing down the destruction of the world and building new ways of doing things Her important activist work Knowing what we can control, but still caring about what we can't control How this work is a "celebration of the awareness of the great reciprocity at the heart of the universe" Joanna Macy Links:Joanna’s WebsiteWork That ReconnectsWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Joanna Macy you might also enjoy these other episodes:Curiosity and Activism with Sophia BushThe Questioning Mind with Stephen MitchellSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emma Gannon is a bestselling author, speaker, novelist, and the host of the number 1 creative careers podcast in the UK called “Ctrl Alt Delete”.  Eric and Emma discuss her latest book, Disconnected: How to Stay Human in an Online WorldBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Emma Gannon and I Discuss Community and Connection in an Online World and… Her book, Disconnected: How to Stay Human in an Online World The belief that everyone is creative and need to feed their creativity The joy and challenge when your creative work becomes your paid work How our online and offline behaviors and interactions are often not aligned Connection and how she compares humans to trees The power of community and connection, both online and in-person Noticing when spending too much time online leads to emotional disconnection Understanding self-sabotage and noticing the feelings associated with that behavior Finding the balance of striving to be successful and happiness Her thoughts on cancel culture Her first novel, Olive The shame and guilt that women often feel for their life choices Emma Gannon Links:Emma’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Emma Gannon, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Become Unlonely with Jillian RichardsonHow to Find Joy and Community with Radha AgrawalSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Catherine Gray is a Sunday Times Bestselling author of five books, including debut smash hit The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. She’s sold well over a quarter of a million books and her books have now been translated into nine languages. She’s been sober since 2013. Catherine has also written about being single later in life and learning to appreciate the ordinary.  Eric and Catherine discuss her latest book, Sunshine Warm: Unexpected Sober Joy That LastsBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Catherine Gray and I Discuss The Lasting Joy of Being Sober and… Her book, Sunshine Warm: Unexpected Sober Joy That Lasts The power of getting more specific with your gratitude lists Being several years removed from addiction and in the advanced stages of recovery Understanding that addiction doesn’t have to define you, but that it’s always there No longer defining herself as an alcoholic after several years of sobriety Addiction can be the difference between what you intend to do and what you actually do How addiction is a spectrum and not black or white The issues with labeling yourself as an addict What matters most is asking yourself if your life would be better without the substance or behavior The challenge with addictions that are considered socially acceptable  How most experts agree there isn’t such a thing as an addictive personality Some people may have addictive tendencies based on various traits Understanding that our perception of ourselves is what shapes our reality Catherine Gray Links:Catherine GrayTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Catherine Gray, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Catherine Gray (2018 Interview)Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy (2019 Interview)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emily Balcetis is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University. She is the author of more than 70 scientific publications and her work has been covered in Forbes, Newsweek, Time, National Public Radio, Cosmopolitan, GQ, and many others. She has also received numerous awards for her work.  Eric and Emily discuss her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the WorldBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Emily Balcetis and I Discuss How to Focus and Accomplish Goals and… Her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the World Her decision to tackle learning to play drums The four tools of accomplishing a goal What it means to materialize a goal How our brains can’t be trusted to accurately assess our progress toward our goal The importance of writing down and tracking progress  Figuring out what we want to accomplish AND creating a plan of action Foreshadowing obstacles that might get in our way and how you’ll deal with them increases your chances of success The value of narrowing your focus of attention How time is a big determinant of what goals we set and whether we reach those goals Finding ways to connect your current self with your future self can make it easier to make tougher choices that lead to better outcomes later How it sometimes makes sense to have a “wide bracket” or broader perspective The power of framing and how what we see predicts what we do Emily Balcetis Links:Emily BalcetisTwitterWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Emily Balcetis, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Change with Katy MilkmanBehavior Change with John NorcrossSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices