The You Project

Hi Team, I’m tied up today, so we’re going to revisit a fun chat I had with the amazing Gorgi Coghlan. *Gorgi Coghlan is a ripper. Real, vulnerable, philosophical, smart, driven, compassionate, perfectionistic (self-admitted) and great to talk with. She has worked as a successful TV Host, Presenter, Journalist, Reporter, Singer and before all the famous stuff, she was a passionate and dedicated school teacher. I love it when people I’ve watched on the telly for years turn out to be ace in real life. So, Coggers (as I now call her) and I spoke about her anxiety journey, her philosophy on maintaining a healthy marriage, the Untethered Soul (her fave book), seeking external validation, attaching to thoughts, interviewing famous people from around the world, recovering from perfectionism, hanging out with Will Ferrell, life on her farm, responding vs. reacting, the science of self-regulation and lots more. Enjoy.  @gorgicoghlanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

F**K BALANCE Admittedly, it doesn't sound like great advice (and over the long term, it isn't) but it's been my experience (in my own business and academic endeavours) and my observation (working with others) that sometimes success, high-performance and creating something amazing and exceptional requires a period of time immersed in the middle of something resembling obsession, hyperfocus, and imbalance. With an occasional smattering of exhaustion. Like I said, I wouldn't recommend it as a general practice but it seems to be a common denominator among high performers. This is a conversation about that and other interesting things. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For the most part, failure is a subjective interpretation of an objective outcome. For example... you run 10km in fifty-two minutes and interpret it as a failure because your goal was to run sub fifty minutes and you didn't. Your story is "I failed" and accordingly you ‘feel' like a failure. Your feeling is real and as a result, your literal experience is disappointment, sadness, frustration and maybe even, anger. Conversely, I run the exact same time (52 minutes) and I feel like an absolute rockstar because it's my best ever time. And while I'm feeling great, you're feeling rubbish, despite our identical result. We each have different stories and subsequently, we each have a different emotional, psychological and experiential outcome. Me, positive. You, negative. Same time, different thinking. Same time, different story. Same time, different self-created experiences. Failure. Winner. When it gets super interesting is when I tell you about the girl who also ran fifty-two minutes while aiming for sub fifty, but didn't feel like a failure because she learned a lot through the experience, and subsequently saw the outcome as a valuable lesson, which would serve her well in future events.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do we create connection, rapport and trust with an audience; be it an audience of one or a thousand? And for the guy who talks to humans for a living (me), it won't surprise you to know that this question is never far from my mind. Be it a corporate group, a sporting team, a bunch of students, a flock of academics (not sure about the collective noun for academics) or a bloke called Kevin sitting a metre away, my primary objective is to understand the person or persons in front of me, in order to create a meaningful interpersonal experience. This episode is a chat about all that, and a bit more.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is exactly what the title says. Specifically, it's me sharing and unpacking a small collection of practical coaching questions that I have used thousands of times over the years, with everyone from elite athletes, corporate highfliers and first responders to the general public, university students and even, blokes in prison. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

People-pleasing is a psychological and emotional disease of low self-esteem, insecurity, self-doubt, perceived inadequacy and unworthy-ness. And it's rampant. I encounter it every day and as much as it might surprise you, there was a period of my life when I was a world-class people-pleaser. Driven by a need for approval, social acceptance, popularity, security and group respect, I found myself complying, obliging and conforming out of fear, weakness and insecurity. This episode is a starting point for a bigger conversation, but I think you'll find some valuable stories, insights and strategies. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's been a wild ride. Kind of like a tempestuous affair. A relationship of peaks and troughs. Love and hate. Secret eating. Body dysmorphia. Self-loathing. Obsessive behaviour. Guilt. Shame. Lies. Breakdowns, break-ups and thankfully, breakthroughs. In my quest for optimal health, high performance and (let's be real) looking good, food has been my biggest challenge. Specifically, my mindset, choices, habits, behaviours and rituals around food. If you and food also have (or had) an 'interesting' relationship, this episode might be of interest. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My definition of 'Intentional Living' is living on purpose, and in purpose. And for me, living 'on purpose’ means that I am conscious, intentional and strategic about the way I live. It means that my life is not an unintended, unplanned, unconscious or accidental journey, process or outcome. And for me, living 'in purpose' means that the way I live my life is a reflection of my values, morals, ethics, beliefs and goals. These key ideas are the stepping-off point for this conversation with Tiff. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

According to David Gillespie, the Australian education system has never been in a worse state. And this is not some unsubstantiated claim; he walks us through the current reality of education in, not only Australia, but also around the world, and some of the data will fascinate you. We also talk about the charity he created to support and empower Aussie kids to better academic experiences and outcomes. It's called freeschool.org.au and as the name suggests, it's a totally free resource for Australian students, complete with 8,500 (plus) videos of Australian teachers, teaching current Australian curriculums. Oh, and he also tells us how to spot a Psychopathic School Principal (not even kidding). Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are" (Anias Nin). I love this chat about the human condition with Blake Eastman and I love him. Such a great down-to-earth science communicator, with a gift to de-jargon-ise (my new word) and distil, what can be complicated concepts and topics, into relatable and easy-to-understanding stories and language. Like me, he's a Pracademic (an a real Academic). **Blake Eastman is the founder of The Nonverbal Group, his life has been dedicated to the study of Psychology and Nonverbal Behaviour and he has built several companies fuelled by a passion to better understand human behaviour. Blake was an adjunct Psychology Professor at the City University of New York for six years where he taught General Psychology, Developmental Psychology, and Group Dynamics. His academic roots are in forensic psychology with an emphasis on psychological testing. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.