Sexual Addiction:Strength/Hope/Recovery

Anger is one of the more difficult emotions to experience productively. Many sex addicts deal with trauma, loss and anger in their family of origin and that follows them in their present day life. And although anger is a natural reaction to these experiences, children are not taught how to manage it so that it can motivate change in a positive way. Listen as Jon Taylor talks about the tools he has availble to help clients deal with anger.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Kristin Cary who is a CPSAS and is currently being trained by APSATS. She realizes that the church, therapists and family or friends can be well meaning but hurtful when it comes to partner trauma. She will talk about what churches can do to be safe places for women to talk about partner betrayal and she will talk about a program that she has developed in her church which has made a huge difference in her community.

Anger is natural, normal and necessary emotion but expressing it can be destructive and damaging to your self and others. Listen as Carol the Coach helps you to find other ways of using this helpful emotion to change and mobilize your life in a different way. Learn how to be friends with your anger.

Rob Weise just released a new book this week- specific to helping men regain intimate relationship trust after betraying a loving female partner or wife. It is called: Out of the Doghouse: A Step by Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating and can be found here both in ebook and hard copy here The metaphor of having ‘harmed your home” and thus being “Sent to ‘the Doghouse” is used throughout the book to explain both the concept of betrayal-trauma (in women) to help the cheater realize where their behavior has put them (into the Doghouse) and what they need to do in their relationship to get out - IE: showing integrity, showing up for your family, deference to the pain they have caused, rigorous honesty, taking right actions, respecting their spouse and all the rest. Although this book is not specific to sex addicts, but more broadly - 'Doghouse employs and integrates of betrayal-trauma (in women) to help the cheater realize where their behavior has put them (into the Doghouse) and what they need to do in their relationship to get out - IE: showing integrity, showing up for your family, deference to the pain they have caused, rigorous honesty, taking right actions, respecting their spouse and all the rest. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Rob about what you can do if there are betrayal trauma in your home.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jonathan Taylor and Jackie Pack who have started a new podcast called Thanks for Sharing which shares personal stories on recovery from sexual addiction and partner trauma. Carol believes that the more resources you have .... the healthier you can be so listen up as these professionals talk about  their own recovery and the resources available to you!

This is a repeat of a great show talking about multiplle addictions and sexual addiction...specifically workaholism.

Richard Blankenship who is a consultant for Relational Trauma at Capstone Center wieghs in with Carol the Coach on the importance of disclosures in helping clients heal from relational trauma and sex addiction. Get the highlights of what to look for in finding a sex addiction specialist or partner sensitve therapist when doing a thorough disclosure to minimize the collateral damage of sex addiction.

This is a replay of a 2012 show where Carol discusses how love avoidance is a common result of trauma in childhood and how true recovery can change that maladaptive response to childhood wounds.

Carol the Coach met author Johnnie Callloway who wrote Dragons to Butterflies The Metamorphosis of a Man at a Hayhouse Conference. In his memoir, he shares his recovery from the guilt that came as a result of thinking that he had killed his mother at the age of 5 while growing up with an angry, alcoholic, sexuually confused father. As you might expect, this childhood trauma impacted his life. He describes his drug addiction and alscoholism  and how it contributed to his mentall illnesses. This story is about how he used the spiritual principles of the twelve step program and A Course of Miracles to forgive, recover and to heal. If you have had trauma in your past, this interview will surely inspire you to work on your own personal recovery to heal from your demons.

Tonight Carol will be talking about Trauma which plagues over 1/2 of the sex addicts and their partners. Listen as Carol has some advice for how to heal from the trauma of your past!