REALIFE Conversations for Christian Coaches

What is discernment and how is it different than decision making?  Discernment is a practice that "opens us up to listen to and recognize the voice and patterns of God's direction in our lives." –Adele Calhoun As you're moving into this final quarter of the year, it's no small thing to consider what you value, the necessary action to move forward in your areas of focus, how you'll allocate your time and ways of building in rest and renewal to sustain it all.  Taking time to listen, asking for help, and paying attention to the desires deep within you can make such a difference. Behind the Modern Day Rule of Life, we call the REALIFE Process®, are tools and practices that strengthen the foundation of the framework. In this four-part series, we'll explore the practices of discernment, solitude and silence, prayer, and the Examen.  In this episode, we'll discover:  The difference between discernment and decision-making How discernment can bring your head, heart, and gut into alignment with God's will Ways to apply and practice discernment as a rhythm While you can reactively make decisions along the way and survive, building in the practice of discernment can help you connect more deeply with what's most authentic about who you are created to be and connect your values to your action steps. REALIFE Resources: If you're ready to go and grow deeper as you build your Modern Day Rule of Life in community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles Community! Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more!  Have a question for the podcast?  Email us at podcast@therealifeprocess.com and we'll address your question on air!  Connect further with the REALIFE Process®: Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Do you need space to breathe? Creating margin or white space in your day can make all the difference.  Unfortunately, there's no indicator light that flashes when you've almost had enough and need breath, but there are ways to lean into paying attention to your head, heart, and body that will give you a signal that you need some space! What difference would it make in the midst of Time Blocking your calendar to build in some white space and margin ahead of time before it's too late and you lose it?  On this episode, we'll talk about:  The benefits of creating headspace and margin in your day What you're really craving when you need white space Practical ways to build in margin on your calendar So, what are you waiting for? Pull up a chair and let's take a moment together to pre-decide and block some time to give yourself some much-needed margin in your week!  REALIFE Resources If you're desiring further personal growth and community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles Community! Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more!  Have a question for the podcast?  Email us at podcast@therealifeprocess.com and we'll address your question on air!  Connect further with the REALIFE Process®: Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!  

Time is one of our most valuable resources! How are you engaging the moments you have to take action and connect with those life-giving relationships in your circle?  One of the most unique of the four Time Blocks we apply through the REALIFE Process® is People Blocks.  In this episode, we'll explore: 5 Circles of Relationships to consider for these 90 days How your Enneagram Stance influences your approach to Time and Relationships Practically adding People Blocks to your calendar What difference would it make to take action toward spending intentional time with the people who matter in your life? REALIFE Resources If you're desiring further personal growth and community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles! Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more!  Have a question for the podcast?  Email us at podcast@therealifeprocess.com and we'll address your question on air!  Connect further with the REALIFE Process®: Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Connect with REALIFE Circles Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Who's in your circle? There's nothing quite like being in life-giving community with others! As you think about spending time with others in this season, what comes up for you?  Whether you're going all in, carefully engaging with others, or feeling resistance, there's something to notice and much to gain by reframing the way you embrace community.  On this week's episode we'll talk about:  Finding and living into true community Creating time blocks on your calendar for community 3 practical ways to apply the benefits of giving and receiving in community You'll walk away from the conversation with a simple acronym to start embracing community in fresh ways through your REALIFE.  REALIFE Resources If you're desiring further personal growth and community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles! Have a question for the podcast?  Email us at podcast@therealifeprocess.com and we'll address your question on air!  Connect further with the REALIFE Process®: Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Connect with REALIFE Circles Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Do you know what you really value? Take a look at how you're spending your time and you'll catch a glimpse of what you're currently valuing.  Are the things that are consuming your time, truly what you value? If not, it's time to take a pause and refocus your attention toward what matters most. On this week's episode of the podcast, we'll explore: The true definition of values  The relationship between values and needs How connecting your Enneagram type with your values leads to more intentional action Practical ways to live out your values in REALIFE  Knowing your needs and living out your values changes everything! Click here to download the FREE REALIFE Needs and Values Worksheet and start your exploration today!  REALIFE Resources If you're just getting started with discovering your Needs and Values, go back and listen to Episode 090: What Are Your Needs? REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreats If you're ready to do some deeper work with your Needs and Values and begin to apply that wisdom to your REALIFE, join us for the next REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreat this weekend on September 18 & 19. We'll use an extensive Needs and Values Profile to help you gain greater awareness of your REALSELF and help you build in your Needs and Values to your own sustainable REALIFE Process® Modern Day Rule of Life! Have a question for the podcast?  Email us at podcast@therealifeprocess.com and we'll address your question on air!  Connect with the REALIFE Process®: Through the new podcast, we have opportunities for you to interact with our REALIFE Process® Team through–  Community Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Stay tuned for more info on REALIFE Circles–coming in October 2020 Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Content Watch for worksheets, handouts, and amazing guests Coaching Submit a question you'd like to receive coaching around and we'll be in touch with you at podcast@therealifeprocess.com Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

No matter how organized your calendar is or whether you have it color-coded, if you're not living out your needs and values, you're still going to feel unfulfilled!  Often we trivialize the things that really matter to us–dismissing our needs and values to keep the peace and avoid conflict in our work and home relationships.  Knowing and naming your needs is such an important way of living FULL CIRCLE!  On this week's episode, we'll start our exploration with needs and discover together: What are needs? How can identifying your needs and understanding others improve your communication and connection in personal and professional relationships?  How can resistance be an indicator of unmet needs? Once you've named your needs, how can you live them out in your REALIFE? Make sure to CLICK HERE to download the FREE REALIFE Needs and Values Worksheet to begin naming your needs.  REALIFE Resources REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreats If you're ready to do some deeper work with your Needs and Values and begin to apply that wisdom to your REALIFE, join us for the next REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreat on September 18 & 19. We'll use an extensive Needs and Values Profile to help you gain greater awareness of your REALSELF and help you build in your Needs and Values to your own sustainable REALIFE Process® Modern Day Rule of Life! Have a question for the podcast?  Email us at podcast@therealifeprocess.com and we'll address your question on air!  REALIFE Process® Episodes - Modern Day Rule of Life 085: A Modern Day Rule of Life 086: Commit to It! - A Modern Day Rule of Life 087: Craft It! - A Modern Day Rule of Life 088: It Serves You! - A Modern Day Rule of Life Connect with the REALIFE Process®: Through the new podcast, we have opportunities for you to interact with our REALIFE Process® Team through–  Community Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Stay tuned for more info on REALIFE Circles–coming in October 2020 Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Content Watch for worksheets, handouts, and amazing guests Coaching Submit a question you'd like to receive coaching around and we'll be in touch with you at podcast@therealifeprocess.com Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Welcome to the REALIFE Process® Podcast! You may be thinking, wait, what? I thought this was an Enneagram Podcast!  What we've discovered over the past 88 weeks is that we LOVE the tool of the Enneagram, but to bring you the best of all we've got, we've got to repackage it to bring you the FULL CIRCLE, complete experience! And who doesn't want that?  In order to bring greater congruency and help you live out the wisdom of the Enneagram in your everyday, ordinary life, we've got to share the REALIFE Process® Framework with you! It's about building a Modern Day Rule of Life to bring the best of who you are as you create areas of focus and projects that tie to your values and needs and then direct your energy and time to be productive with the things that really matter.  Are you tired of living life with your hair on fire? There is another way and it is sustainable when you accompany it with practices and rhythms of rest and renewal! Through the new podcast, we have opportunities for you to interact with our REALIFE Process® Team through:  Community Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews Stay tuned for more info on REALIFE Circles–coming in October 2020 Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator Content Watch for worksheets, handouts, and amazing guests Coaching Submit a question you'd like to receive coaching around and we'll be in touch with you at podcast@therealifeprocess.com Are you ready to live out what truly matters in your life and put it into actionable projects and sustainable practices? Our team of coaches and facilitators are ready to support you! REALIFE Resources:  064: Exploring the REALIFE Process® 066: Exploring the REALIFE Process® - REALIFE View 067: Exploring the REALIFE Process® - REALIFE Action 068: Exploring the REALIFE Process® - REALIFE Time 069: Exploring the REALIFE Process® - REALIFE Living Visit our website to download the FREE Resource, "5 Things to STOP Doing in Your Workday."  We believe that the work to recognize and respond to our patterns of behavior, both authentic and adaptive is rich when done in community with others. That's why we've created rhythms of REALIFE Process® Retreats.  We're so excited to be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreat on September 18 & 19. There's still time to register and a few spots remaining! Are you just getting started with discovering the FULL CIRCLE harmony of the Enneagram?  Download our FREE Enneagram in Your REALIFE Typing Guide. Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Your life is unique. So, it only makes sense that your plan for living is different from that of everyone else! Over the past few episodes, we've been exploring the difference a Modern Day Rule of Life can make in living out your values and needs in sustainable ways.  We've considered what it means to COMMIT to a Rule of Life and CRAFT a Rule of Life and on this episode, we'll discover ways your Rule of Life can actually SERVE you!  The first part of crafting your Modern Day Rule of Life really is about how you're going to "BE" and show up in the world and the final part is really focusing in now on how you're going to structure your life to "DO" the things that really matter. Your Modern Day Rule of Life can serve you to:  Leverage the power of pre-decision Respond confidently to opportunities based on your values Move forward with actionable steps in 90-day timeframes Re-evaluate and reconnect with your authentic traits and talents, values and needs weekly, monthly and quarterly The REALIFE Process® is unique because it's crafted around your individual life and that's what makes it sustainable. After listening to this episode, block out some time to begin crafting your Modern Day Rule of Life and allow it to serve you as you live your best REALIFE!  REALIFE Resources:  086: Commit to It! - A Modern Day Rule of Life 087: Craft It! - A Modern Day Rule of Life Visit our website to download the FREE Resource, "5 Things to STOP Doing in Your Workday."  We believe that the work to recognize and respond to our patterns of behavior, both authentic and adaptive is rich when done in community with others. That's why we've created rhythms of REALIFE Process® Retreats.  We're so excited to be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreat on September 18 & 19. There's still time to register and a few spots remaining! Are you just getting started with discovering the FULL CIRCLE harmony of the Enneagram?  Download our FREE Enneagram in Your REALIFE Typing Guide. Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Are you tired of reading self-help books and striving to find the next great method or plan to organize your life? It can be exhausting and nothing seems to fit perfectly. I've been there and the struggle is REAL!  In order for a method or framework to be sustainable, it has to be crafted around your story.  The REALIFE Process® is a framework that gives a foundation or scaffolding for you to build your best REALIFE and REALWORK around.  This week on the podcast, we'll continue our discovery with the difference it can make to have a Modern Day Rule of Life. Last week we started the journey with COMMITTING to live within a healthy pattern of behaviors, rhythms, and routines.  This week we're moving forward from DISCOVERY to DISCERNMENT around what's working well and what needs to shift in our REALIFE.  Discernment is different than decision making! It's a deeper way of moving forward intentionally with intelligence from all 3 Centers–our head, heart, and gut. As we unpack that practice of discernment, we'll consider these three questions together: Who am I?  Where am I right now in life?  What do I want to grow into?  Make sure to download the FREE Discernment Guide Resource as you begin practicing this deeper way of making decisions with FULL CIRCLE wisdom. REALIFE Resources:  061: Using the N.O.W. Method with the Enneagram 086: Commit to It! - A Modern Day Rule of Life We believe that the work to recognize and respond to our patterns of behavior, both authentic and adaptive is rich when done in community with others. That's why we've created rhythms of REALIFE Process® Retreats.  We're so excited to be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Virtual Retreat on September 18 & 19. There's still time to register and a few spots remaining! Are you just getting started with discovering the FULL CIRCLE harmony of the Enneagram?  Visit therealifeprocess.com and download our FREE Typing Guide.   Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

The Enneagram is a valuable tool for self-discovery and when coupled with REALIFE application, it becomes more than just informational–it's transformational! This week on the podcast we're going to continue to broaden our exploration and look at how whole self awareness can be used to produce sustainable changes! Together we'll explore:  What is a Modern Day Rule of Life? How does behavior shape our actions or reactions? How does recognizing behavior patterns open space to create new rhythms and routines?  In addition to the FULL CIRCLE wisdom of the Enneagram, our REALIFE Process® Team loves a resource called the 'FASTER Scale.' It's an incredible tool to help you bring awareness to how you're 'doing' and the state of your 'being' in order to take steps toward wholeness and recovery.   Learning to recognize and respond to our whole self allows you the opportunity to lean into change–to develop and commit to new patterns and pathways that lead to greater freedom. And that's what a Modern Day Rule of Life is all about!  REALIFE Resources:  Download the FREE FASTER Scale Resource The Genesis Process We believe that the work to recognize and respond to our patterns of behavior, both authentic and adaptive is rich when done in community with others. That's why we've created rhythms of REALIFE Process® Retreats.  Click here for all the details about our upcoming retreat and make sure to use the code: RETREAT100 to receive $100 off your registration investment.  Are you just getting started with discovering the FULL CIRCLE harmony of the Enneagram?  Visit therealifeprocess.com and download our FREE Typing Guide.   Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on: Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy Instagram- teresa.mccloy LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach About Teresa McCloy: Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!