Havilah's Podcast

We’re jumping into episode three of our Nourish Series! We’ve been talking about how to experience a satisfied soul so that we don’t just live with hunger but we know how to fulfill that need and live satisfied. This week we are talking about our hunger to BECOME. Once we start to understand our hunger to be loved and to belong, we are propelled forward to actually become something, to grow! What does it mean to become all we were meant to be? Let’s start to walk in the purpose of God and understand what it means to become who He created us to be. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

In today’s podcast, I get to have a chat with my great friend Bianca Olthoff. She’s a like-minded bold woman, a wife, mother, preacher, author, and pastor. We reminisce a bit about how we met, connected and have stayed friends over the years. She’s written a brand new book called “How to Have Your Life Not Suck: Become today who you want to be tomorrow. In the book, Bianca unpacks lessons she’s learned from her own mistakes and heartache, this field guide will help you avoid unnecessary detours on the path to your best self. With her signature wit, engaging stories, and brilliant insights from a counselor friend, Bianca gives spot-on advice for adulting, career, relationships, and faith. Following the biblical story of Ruth and Naomi, Bianca's humorous and honest anecdotes will empower you to create a successful life and discover all you can be. To learn more and order Bianca’s new book visit: https://www.biancaolthoff.com/notsuck You can also learn more about Bianca and follow here: https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ Instagram: @biancaolthoff

This week we are going to look at another God-created need that allows us to connect with Him. All throughout our lives, we have moments of belonging or not belonging. We all have a deep need and desire to belong. That hunger to belong is actually God-given! The question “Where do I belong and who do I belong to?” is a big deal! This question can haunt us if we listen to what the world is saying about what it means to belong. But this hunger also has core truths that God wants to nourish you with. First and foremost you were made to belong to your Creator. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

In this week’s episode, we are going to talk about some of the cravings and desire we all have in our lives and how our hunger can give us insight into what’s going on in our soul. We want to lean into the fact that we all have needs and that God created various ways to nourish those needs. But we have to be aware of them and be able to recognize them. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

All the information we hold onto is limited. Your brain can only hold onto so much. The best way to store memory is to put it into a habit such as automatic behavior. In this week’s episode we’ll be discussing how to automate the small stuff.  Decision fatigue means when you’re making decisions over and over to the point where you actually wear out your deliberate system. It’s important to automate basic things so you can use your brain energy on more important things. Are there things or behaviors that you do every single day that you can automate? Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

When we don’t follow through with the commitment we have made to ourselves and we continue to violate that part of us that says “I’m going to do this”, it actually creates less confidence in us and it really matters. In this week’s episode we’ll be discussing the power of pre-commitment. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

In this week’s episode we’ll be discussing two techniques that will help beat procrastination; Picture the Benefits and Tie the First Step to a Treat. What is that one thing you don’t want to do? Link a reward to that one thing that will help you not only accomplish it but find yourself looking forward to doing when there is a reward/ treat attached to it. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

We all procrastinate. What we often do is jam the things we don’t want to do for tomorrow. We find ourselves putting things that are important to the side for the things that we want to do. In this episode we’ll be discussing how to beat procrastination. Present bias means what’s happening in the present has more weight than what is happening in the future. Sometimes it’s hard to sacrifice for the now for the benefit of the later. It’s helpful to make healthy decisions by considering how you are going to feel about yourself in a year from now. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

Today Havilah is joined by special guest, Rachel Cruze. Research shows that our relationships, health, decision-making skills, kindness, and even sleep improve with gratitude. In this episode, they talk about Rachel’s new journal, The Contentment Journal, and how it was created to grow and change you in ways you can’t imagine. Learn more about Rachel: + rachelcruze.com Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com

How do we give feedback without putting the other person’s brain into defense mode? Our brain often goes into fight, flight or freeze and the goal in all of this is to keep our brain in discovery mode for us to actually implement changes. When we say “yes, but” your brain tends to focus on the “but” part and believes that the person is standing opposed from you.  In this week’s episode, we’ll be discussing how to give feedback that is brain friendly by using the “Yes And” technique. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + havilahcunnington.com  + truthtotable.com  + theinfluencertable.com