

Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
Adult Child dives deep into the lasting effects of growing up in dysfunctional families—unpacking complex and relational trauma, codependency, toxic shame, and addiction patterns with raw vulnerability and unapologetic authenticity.Hosted by Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years sober, each episode shares unfiltered insights, expert conversations, and practical tools to heal your nervous system and break free from the cycles that hold you back.Whether you’re an adult child of alcoholics or from a dysfunctional family, navigating toxic relationships, or healing your inner child, this is your no-BS space for healing. New episodes every Wednesday & Saturday.And damn the join The Shitshow Healing Community for live support groups and connection with fellow cycle breakers.
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May 25, 2022 • 1h 16min
63 - Breakdowns & Breakthroughs w/ Ms. Star Monroe
Today we are joined by Ms. Star Monroe - Psychotherapist and Master Life Coach. She shows women how to unleash their true selves that have been hidden away and buried for their entire lives. Star shares about her struggles with drugs, alcohol, disordered eating & codependency - the guilt & self-compassion of being a parent in active addiction - and how life is a series of fuck-ups and self-discovery.@msstarmonroe⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5MIOCdbiOI (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 21, 2022 • 37min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #4 - Fear (Patreon Group)
Today's episode is a recent Patreon peer support group on fear.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/nellydeep/lionel-richie-all-night-long (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 18, 2022 • 1h 18min
62 - Intergenerational Trauma & Post Traumatic Growth w/ David Lindell
David Lindell is an artist, spiritual coach, recovery coach, and a member of the Tulalip & Suquamish Native tribes. David shares his story of suffering to healing - growing up in extreme poverty in an alcoholic abusive home, getting locked up in a psychiatric facility at the age of 18, meth addiction, bank robberies, and what finally motivated him to turn his life around. He also discusses the rampant intergenerational trauma amongst the Native American population and how he has integrated Native cultural and spiritual practices into his recovery journey.https://www.facebook.com/lindells.nativeartThe Red Road to Wellbriety: In The Native American Way⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUWXe37CSaA (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 14, 2022 • 27min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #3 - Rick B.
Today we are joined by Shitshow Rick, who shares about his upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 11, 2022 • 1h 21min
61 - Trauma, Cancer & Radical Self-Love w/ Saskia Lightstar
On today's episode, Saskia Lightstar shares her survival story and how stage 3 breast cancer was the catalyst to her adult child healing journey. Saskia is a spiritual teacher, a wellbeing coach, energy healer and the author of The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment. It took a lot of mistakes, failed businesses, divorces and being diagnosed with cancer, for her to find the willingness to venture down a spiritual path and become the happiest and greatest version of herself she has ever known. Plagued by self-hate and low self-esteem for most of her life, Saskia has now become a happiness and self-love ninja, and guides others on how to be happier than they ever dreamt possible. She is a testament to the fact you can feel lost or ‘less than’ your whole life and still find your way to a place of confidence, happiness and peace.instagram.com/saskia.lightstarWhy Do I Act Like This in Relationships - An Attachment Theory Workshop⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 7, 2022 • 34min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #2 - Laurie H.
Today we are joined by Shitshow Laurie, who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 4, 2022 • 56min
60 - Turning Our Pain Into Purpose w/ Lucy Turchin (Part 2)
In today's episode we are joined by singer, songwriter, recovering addict, and former sex worker Lucy Turchin. In part 2 of our interview, Lucy opens up about her 10+ years of heroin addiction and escorting (TRIGGER WARNING), finding sobriety, and finally walking away a long-term abusive relationship. She also shares about rediscovering herself through music and her intentions in turning the pain of the past into a life of depth and meaning.Lucy's YouTube Channelinstagram.com/blakeandlucymusicSno White YouTube Channel (this is some good shit y'all)Why Do I Act Like This in Relationships - An Attachment Theory Workshop⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 30, 2022 • 36min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #1 - Scott M.
In today's premier episode of SHITSHOW SATURDAY, we are joined by Shitshow Scott, who shares about his upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery.Resources referencedBooks -- Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma Paperback by Pete Walker- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.- It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn- Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One by Joe Dispenza- Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness by Jon Kabat-Zinn- I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence RealPodcasts -- Traumatized Motherfuckers- 10 Percent Happier⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 27, 2022 • 1h 7min
59 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers w/ Lucy Turchin
We are joined today by former classmate Lucy Turchin for a super RAW and VULNERABLE conversation. Lucy is a singer, songwriter, recovering addict, and former sex worker. Lucy shares about her dysfunctional upbringing, her struggles with body image as a child, being sex trafficked at the age of 15 (TRIGGER WARNING), and the deep fear of abandonment that resulted from having a physically and emotionally unavailable father. We also reminisce about the "good old days" at a cult-like "character building" boarding school. Lucy's YouTube Channelinstagram.com/blakeandlucymusicLeaving Crazy Town workshop⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 20, 2022 • 1h 2min
58 - ACA Step 4 - Why Our Past is Our Greatest Asset
In today's episode, Andrea dives deep into Step 4 of the ACA program - "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." We discuss (and by we, I mean ME!) the purpose, the process, the key areas of focus (shame, abandonment, resentment, harm, and trauma) and what it means to take a blameless inventory. We also discuss how an ACA 4th step differs from a 4th step in AA/NA, as well as the limitations of the 12-steps in addressing unprocessed trauma.ACA Step WorkbookTrauma and 12 StepsLeaving Crazy Town workshop⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://m.soundcloud.com/spiritkind76/bill-withers-lovely-day-karizma-remix (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


