

Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
Adult Child dives deep into the lasting effects of growing up in dysfunctional families—unpacking complex and relational trauma, codependency, toxic shame, and addiction patterns with raw vulnerability and unapologetic authenticity.Hosted by Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years sober, each episode shares unfiltered insights, expert conversations, and practical tools to heal your nervous system and break free from the cycles that hold you back.Whether you’re an adult child of alcoholics or from a dysfunctional family, navigating toxic relationships, or healing your inner child, this is your no-BS space for healing. New episodes every Wednesday & Saturday.And damn the join The Shitshow Healing Community for live support groups and connection with fellow cycle breakers.
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Jan 4, 2023 • 1h 20min
94 - Self-Sabotage & Procrastination w/ Laura K. Connell
Today we are joined by trauma-informed Laura K. Connell to discuss self-sabotage, procrastination, reparenting, and her own journey to heal the wounds of her childhood.Laura K. Connell is a trauma-informed author and coach who helps women uncover blind spots that hold them back. She blogs weekly about healing self-sabotage and dysfunctional family dynamics at her website laurakconnell.com. Her articles have reached millions at Life Hack, Pick the Brain, Dumb Little Man, Thought Catalog, Highly Sensitive Refuge, Chicken Soup for the Soul, The Globe and Mail, Toronto Star, and more. She has hosted an online reparenting retreat with over 2,000 attendees and appeared on podcasts such as Date with Darkness and Savvy Broadcasting. Her first book, It’s Not Your Fault, will be published by HCI Books and distributed by Simon and Schuster in September 2023.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2BWAe0IDx4 (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)-----------------------------🎙️ EPISODE SPONSOREleanor Health provides flexible, accessible, comprehensive approach to addiction and mental health recovery with locations in Massachusetts, Texas, Louisiana, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio & Washington. They believe that in order to achieve long-term recovery, the whole person must be treated - rather than just one's addiction - including one's mental, physical, and social health.Services Provided:- Medical assisted treatment- Psychiatry- Counselling & support groups- Recovery coaching- Help for loved onesContact Information:🌍 www.eleanorhealth.com☎️ 866-511-2601Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 31, 2022 • 30min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #34 - Sara (Just Listenin')
Today we are joined by Shitshow Sara, who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcMsUdeL8hQ (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 28, 2022 • 38min
93 - What Adult Children Learned This Year
In honor of the final episode of the year, Andrea and fellow shitshows reflect upon the most valuable lessons they've learned during 2022.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/djericfaria/eric-faria-rmx-george-benson-give-me-the-night (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)-----------------------------EPISODE SPONSOREleanor Health provides flexible, accessible, comprehensive approach to addiction and mental health recovery with locations in Massachusetts, Texas, Louisiana, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio & Washington. They believe that in order to achieve long-term recovery, the whole person must be treated - rather than just one's addiction - including one's mental, physical, and social health.Services Provided:- Medical assisted treatment- Psychiatry- Counselling & support groups- Recovery coaching- Help for loved onesContact Information:🌍 www.eleanorhealth.com☎️ 866-511-2601Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 24, 2022 • 1h 5min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #33 - Amie Dawn
Today we are joined by Shitshow Amie, who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lBFxlbZvx4M (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 21, 2022 • 1h 11min
92 - Road To Forgiveness w/ Peter Tompkins
Peter Tomkins is an award winning documentary film director, fine artist, author of over 150 songs with over thirty years of experience as a guitar player and performer. We discuss his recently released documentary "Road to Forgiveness - Addiction Spares No-One", which is an introspective view of his childhood experiences living with alcoholic parents.The Laundry List: The ACoA Expereince by Tony AThe Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame by Pete Walker⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod-----------------------------🎙️ EPISODE SPONSOREleanor Health provides flexible, accessible, comprehensive approach to addiction and mental health recovery with locations in Massachusetts, Texas, Louisiana, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio & Washington. They believe that in order to achieve long-term recovery, the whole person must be treated - rather than just one's addiction - including one's mental, physical, and social health.Services Provided:- Medical assisted treatment- Psychiatry- Counselling & support groups- Recovery coaching- Help for loved onesContact Information:🌍 www.eleanorhealth.com☎️ 866-511-2601Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 17, 2022 • 31min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #32 - Livin' La Vida Shitshow
Today's episode Andrea shares about the shitshow known as her life, followed by a portion of a recent Patreon group. If you haven't joined the Patreon... WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU WAITING FOR?!?!? Seriously.... damn the join the SHITSHOW, like now. For realz.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod-----------------------------------🎙️ EPISODE SPONSOR 🎙️Eleanor Health provides flexible, accessible, comprehensive approach to addiction and mental health recovery with locations in Massachusetts, Texas, Louisiana, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio & Washington. They believe that in order to achieve long-term recovery, the whole person must be treated - rather than just one's addiction - including one's mental, physical, and social health.Services Provided:- Medical assisted treatment- Psychiatry- Counselling & support groups- Recovery coaching- Help for loved onesOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 10, 2022 • 43min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #31 - Kelley
Today we are joined by Shitshow Kelley, who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nITuHzF4ryk (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 7, 2022 • 1h 25min
91 - Complex Trauma, Dating & Setting Boundaries w/ Joe Ryan
Returning guest, Joe Ryan, is on the pod to discuss navigating dating with CPTSD, attraction vs. attachment, the importance of developing an unshakable sense of self., setting boundaries with family members and the importance of sitting with our feelings.Joe Ryan knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it. Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Now Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast (“It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma“) and one-on-one coaching.https://joeryan.com/⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/djericfaria/eric-faria-rmx-george-benson-give-me-the-night (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)-----------------------------EPISODE SPONSOREleanor Health provides flexible, accessible, comprehensive approach to addiction and mental health recovery with locations in Massachusetts, Texas, Louisiana, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio & Washington. They believe that in order to achieve long-term recovery, the whole person must be treated - rather than just one's addiction - including one's mental, physical, and social health.Services Provided:- Medical assisted treatment- Psychiatry- Counselling & support groups- Recovery coaching- Help for loved onesContact Information 🌍 www.eleanorhealth.com☎️ 866-511-2601Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 30, 2022 • 1h 16min
90 - Family Scapegoat Abuse w/ Rebecca Mandeville
Rebecca C. Mandeville is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Certified Complex Trauma Professional, and an internationally recognized expert in Family Systems. She began conducting her research on what she later named family scapegoating abuse (FSA) while serving as Core Faculty at the world-renowned Institute of Transpersonal Psychology (now known as Sofia University). Rebecca has dedicated her 20-year career in Mental Health to advocating for those whose voices are not heard due to being systemically disempowered. She is also the author of a best-selling book on FSA, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role'.FSA, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role''Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse' YouTube Channelscapegoatrecovery.com⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y7dse8t4VDE&list=RDy7dse8t4VDE&start_radio=1 (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 23, 2022 • 1h 8min
89 - Emotional Flashbacks, Boundaries & Synchronicities
Today's episode is smorgasbord of topics.... We discuss yacht rock, divinely inspired interactions with strangers, and emotional flashbacks (what they are, what triggers them, how to identify if you're experiencing one, and what to do pull yourself out of it. And then we are joined boundaries coach, Barb Nangle, who provides her top tips for surviving the holidays as an adult child.ADULT CHILD MERCHDiscount Codes (valid 11/24-11/28) -SHITSHOW5 for 5% off any order, SHITSHOW 10 for 10% orders over $75http://www.pete-walker.com/13 Strategies for Managing Emotional Flashbacks14 Common Inner Critic Thought Substitution ScriptsBarb's Free Holiday Boundary WorkshopsEp 17 Love or Trauma Bond w/ Alan Kaufman⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JyLUDmLBV2M (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


