

Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
Adult Child dives deep into the lasting effects of growing up in dysfunctional families—unpacking complex and relational trauma, codependency, toxic shame, and addiction patterns with raw vulnerability and unapologetic authenticity.Hosted by Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years sober, each episode shares unfiltered insights, expert conversations, and practical tools to heal your nervous system and break free from the cycles that hold you back.Whether you’re an adult child of alcoholics or from a dysfunctional family, navigating toxic relationships, or healing your inner child, this is your no-BS space for healing. New episodes every Wednesday & Saturday.And damn the join The Shitshow Healing Community for live support groups and connection with fellow cycle breakers.
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Sep 16, 2023 • 33min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #71 - Kathi L.
Today we are joined by Shitshow Jessie who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAm47ynHhts (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 13, 2023 • 1h 8min
129 - Internal Family Systems, Parts Work & Procrastination w/ Terry Baranski
Terry Baranski is a trauma-informed Internal Family Systems practitioner who focuses on root causes rather than symptoms. In today's episode, we dive deep into the IFS modality - what it is and why it works - and even do a mini-IFS session with yours truly (Andrea) as the client.Terry BaranskiNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Dick Schwartz⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 9, 2023 • 54min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #70 - Jessie H.
Today we are joined by Shitshow Jessie who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE&pp=ygUuYSBsaXR0bGUgaGVscCBmcm9tIG15IGZyaWVuZHMgam9lIGNvY2tlciByZW1peA%3D%3D (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 6, 2023 • 1h 9min
128 - Fear of Abandonment, People Pleasing and Inner Child Wounds with Energy Healing Practitioner John Steen
John Steen is an energy healing practitioner and fellow adult child of an alcoholic. He grew up in Boston with an alcoholic mother and emotionally unavailable father in a volatile and chaotic household.John hit an emotional bottom in October 2020, which made him realize that despite his years of therapy and 12-step programs - he still had not addressed his fear of abandonment, people-pleasing tendencies and inner child wounds. His subsequent recovery journey led him to Field Dynamics - an energy healing modality created by Keith Parker. He is now a Field Dynamics practitioner helping others clear their energetic blocks that are keeping them from living in their highest potential.Johnergy Healing⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE&pp=ygUuYSBsaXR0bGUgaGVscCBmcm9tIG15IGZyaWVuZHMgam9lIGNvY2tlciByZW1peA%3D%3D (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 2, 2023 • 34min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #69 - Diana W.
Today we are joined by Shitshow Diana who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE&pp=ygUuYSBsaXR0bGUgaGVscCBmcm9tIG15IGZyaWVuZHMgam9lIGNvY2tlciByZW1peA%3D%3D (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 30, 2023 • 58min
127 - Can a Narcissist Change with Ben Taylor
Ben Taylor is a "self-aware narcissist" who educates the public on narcissistic personality disorder, and coach helping individuals navigate relationships with narcissists.Lhttps://www.instagram.com/rawmotivationshttps://www.youtube.com/rawmotivations⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE&pp=ygUuYSBsaXR0bGUgaGVscCBmcm9tIG15IGZyaWVuZHMgam9lIGNvY2tlciByZW1peA%3D%3D (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 26, 2023 • 38min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #68 - The Power of Healing Communities
The podcast explores the power of healing communities for adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families. Topics include support groups and resources, reflections on self and parenting, navigating judgment and self-worth, grieving and jealousy, and reflections on a dangerous past.

Aug 23, 2023 • 1h 18min
126 - Healing Trauma Caused by Cults and Escaping NXIVM w/ Sarah Edmondson
Sarah Edmondson joins the show to share her experience of escaping the NXIVM cult, her childhood experiences that made her susceptible to joining the organization, and how to heal trauma caused by high-control organizations. Sarah was featured in HBO's NXIVM documentary, spent over a decade in the cult before eventually breaking free, is the host of the podcast A Little Bit Culty, and the author of Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult That Bound My Life.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE&pp=ygUuYSBsaXR0bGUgaGVscCBmcm9tIG15IGZyaWVuZHMgam9lIGNvY2tlciByZW1peA%3D%3D (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 19, 2023 • 30min
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #67 - Adela Q.
Today we are joined by Shitshow Adela who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source:https://www.youtube.com/watch?pp=ygUbbm9haCBrYWhhbiBncm93aW5nIHNpZGV3YXlz&v=GCltopmLlWA (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 16, 2023 • 1h 13min
125 - Healing From Toxic & Narcissistic Parents w/ Jerry Wise
Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a marriage and family therapist, addictions therapist, ACOA expert, and codependency expert with over 40 years of professional experience. As a self-differentiation and relationship systems coach, he uses his knowledge in family systems theory to help clients get unstuck from family dysfunction and find a true sense of Self.Jerry's YouTube ChannelKey takeaways:What are the unique challenges that adult children of narcissistic parents faceWhat to consider when going no-contact with toxic family membersHow Jerry came to realize the true impact of his childhood trauma on his life as an adult and his personal journey of recoveryHow the Bowen Family Systems Approach can aid in the adult child healing processThe difference between being a victim and victimhood⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE&pp=ygUuYSBsaXR0bGUgaGVscCBmcm9tIG15IGZyaWVuZHMgam9lIGNvY2tlciByZW1peA%3D%3D (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


