

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Sep 16, 2024 • 36min
Why Can't I Find Someone? Is it Me?
In a candid session, Esther speaks with a woman in her thirties, who is navigating the complexities of modern dating. Despite her enthusiasm for dates, she finds herself frustrated as relationships fizzle out after a few encounters. They discuss the importance of authenticity and reframing negative self-perceptions while exploring how shared interests can lead to deeper connections. Esther offers insights on balancing optimism and exhaustion in the pursuit of love, transforming her approach to dating.

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Sep 9, 2024 • 1h 3min
We Had Boundaries and He Crossed Them
Explore the rollercoaster of emotions in a consensual non-monogamous relationship rocked by an unplanned pregnancy. The couple grapples with boundaries and trust while balancing their love and family dynamics. They confront societal expectations and personal fears surrounding infidelity and parenting. With open communication, they navigate the complexities of step-parenting and redefining familial roles. This heartfelt discussion reveals how vulnerability and sincere apologies can fortify their bond amidst chaos.

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Jun 24, 2024 • 52min
You Keep Planning A Future Without Me
A woman in her first heterosexual relationship, having transitioned from a long-term marriage with a woman, finds herself navigating new emotional landscapes. Her partner, grappling with feelings of restlessness, struggles to articulate his desires. Together, they discuss their contrasting sexual backgrounds, the challenge of intimacy, and the psychological weight of past relationships. With insights from their journey, they explore vulnerabilities, the tension between longing for freedom and facing emotional connection, all while seeking honest communication to bridge their evolving relationship.

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Jun 17, 2024 • 52min
Four Affairs, Four Divorces. Why Do I Keep Doing This?
In this thought-provoking conversation, a caller grapples with the aftermath of four affairs and four divorces, searching for patterns that lead to her cycle of self-sabotage. Esther Perel guides her through the complexities of love, highlighting the push and pull between longing for connection and the desire for freedom. They explore the impact of past experiences on current relationships, the nuances of intimacy, and the burdens of unfulfilled expectations. Together, they seek paths to healthier relationships and the importance of communication.

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Jun 3, 2024 • 50min
What If I Break Up With My Dad?
A young woman grapples with her father's infidelity and its impact on their relationship. Emotional neglect and familial expectations stir feelings of anger and betrayal, challenging her desire for connection. The discussion reveals the intricate dynamics of father-child bonds, identity, and forgiveness. Themes of empathy surface as they explore the difficulty of breaking free from harmful patterns while striving for personal autonomy. The conversation highlights the complexity of love amidst the quest for healthier boundaries.

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May 20, 2024 • 38min
It Feels Like My Siblings Abandoned Me
A young woman shares her struggle with the burden of caring for aging parents while feeling abandoned by her older siblings. The conversation dives into complex family dynamics, exploring resentment, unexplored emotions, and the evolving roles each sibling plays. Issues of favoritism and the toll of caregiving during crises are unpacked, revealing deeper feelings of loneliness and longing for connection. The importance of empathy and heartfelt communication in nurturing familial bonds is also emphasized.

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May 13, 2024 • 1h 3min
Does Growing Up Mean Growing Apart?
Joining the conversation are three co-founders of a production company who have navigated the shift from childhood friends to business partners. They share intriguing insights on balancing individuality with collaboration, exploring how their unique roles shape their dynamics. The guests candidly discuss the emotional challenges of growing up, maintaining trust, and addressing unresolved issues within their creative partnerships. With Esther's guidance, they uncover the beauty of evolving relationships amidst the complexities of adulthood.

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May 6, 2024 • 43min
My Mom Should Have Set a Different Example
A woman grapples with resentment towards her mother, reflecting on the childhood feelings of abandonment that shape her current choices in relationships. Esther unpacks the double narrative of seeking safety in love while dealing with the lingering impact of family dynamics. They explore emotional dependency, the quest for independence, and how past experiences influence present connections. This journey reveals the complexities of intimacy, the healing needed to move forward, and the delicate balance between vulnerability and self-worth.

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Apr 22, 2024 • 40min
Love is a Trap
In this enlightening conversation, a caller explores his struggles with obsessive thoughts about ex-boyfriends while in new relationships. Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist known for her insights on modern love, guides him through the emotional traps stemming from childhood experiences. They unravel the complexities of attachment patterns, desire fluctuations, and the impact of familial dynamics on personal connections. This engaging dialogue encourages listeners to reflect on their own relational narratives and the importance of self-awareness in fostering healthier relationships.

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Apr 15, 2024 • 55min
I Think I Married the Wrong Person
A couple grapples with their marital challenges, seeking guidance from Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist known for her work on relationships. They uncover how anger stems from feelings of devaluation and explore communication barriers that hinder connection. Esther helps them recognize ingrained patterns that protect them but also keep them stuck. Their conversation delves into emotional dynamics, the impact of upbringing on relationship struggles, and the critical need for empathy and understanding to break the cycle of frustration.


