

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Global Media
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
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Mar 31, 2025 • 47min
To Forgive My Ex-Husband I Need to Forgive Myself First
A young divorcée grapples with anger and frustration as she navigates co-parenting with her ex-husband. They discuss the emotional challenges stemming from past traumas and the intricacies of communication that strain their relationship. Self-forgiveness emerges as a critical theme in healing and fostering healthier connections. The conversation delves into the cycle of blame and personal responsibility, emphasizing the need for reflection to break negative patterns. Ultimately, it's about evolving communication to support their children's well-being.

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Mar 24, 2025 • 1h
You are Vocal on the Criticism But Silent on the Compliments
In this insightful discussion, a couple grapples with feelings of abandonment and isolation while raising their family. The wife feels neglected, while the husband struggles to meet both familial and personal demands. They share the emotional turmoil arising from their disconnect, highlighting the importance of appreciation, communication, and mutual understanding. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care to nurture both the couple's relationship and their children's well-being, as they seek to rewrite their family narrative.

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Mar 17, 2025 • 55min
Esther Perel Invites Us to Imagine Our Preferred Future
In a thought-provoking conversation, Amy Webb, CEO of the Future Today Institute and renowned futurist, teams up with former Google executive Frederik Pferdt, an innovation expert. They discuss how today's technological trends shape our relationships for tomorrow. The pair explores the tension between excitement for AI advancements and anxiety about job displacement. They also emphasize the importance of storytelling, emotional engagement, and cultivating empathy to navigate uncertainty, all while envisioning a balanced, preferred future.

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Mar 3, 2025 • 44min
No Longer Daddy's Little Girl
A woman grapples with the pain of being estranged from her father for two years while trying to navigate her own identity and future family plans. The conversation dives deep into the emotional complexities of familial estrangement, highlighting the influence of parental relationships on personal growth. Financial dynamics and the weight of past conflicts surface, revealing how childhood experiences shape adult perspectives. This heartfelt discussion encourages self-discovery and the importance of chosen family in the healing journey.

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Feb 24, 2025 • 36min
I Can Break up with Him But I'm Still Stuck With Myself
A woman grapples with the complexities of her long-distance relationship, contemplating whether to end it. Esther helps her explore fears of intimacy, rejection, and deep-seated family dynamics. The conversation reveals the struggle between seeking emotional safety and desiring connection. They discuss the impact of loneliness, emotional vulnerability, and the importance of articulating personal needs. Ultimately, they focus on self-acceptance and breaking free from guilt, empowering her to seek closer relationships and embrace her true self.

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Feb 10, 2025 • 59min
When the Turn On Becomes a Turn Off
A couple opens up about their shifting sexual preferences after 15 years of marriage. Explore how trust, intimacy, and vulnerability fuel their fantasies. Disturbingly, one partner’s fetish has become a turn-off for the other. The discussion underscores the emotional needs tied to sexual desires and the importance of mutual understanding. Learn how to deepen emotional connections while navigating complex dynamics in long-term relationships, emphasizing curiosity and openness for a more fulfilling intimate life.

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Feb 3, 2025 • 42min
I'm Keeping the Baby...Now What?
A woman grapples with the profound complexities of an unexpected pregnancy following a whirlwind romance and a breakup. As she seeks guidance from Esther Perel, they explore the emotional turmoil of choosing to keep the baby despite feeling rejected. The conversation navigates the dynamics of control and manipulation, the importance of communication in co-parenting, and the personal growth that can emerge from such turbulent experiences. Together, they illuminate paths forward in the face of uncertainty and conflicting emotions.

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Jan 27, 2025 • 1h
Is This Worth a Second Chance?
Exploring the complexities of rekindled romances, the podcast dives into a couple's journey after an eight-year relationship. They grapple with whether to try again and how to break free from their old patterns. Themes of intimacy and emotional needs are examined, revealing the impact of childhood experiences on current dynamics. The importance of open communication and mutual commitment shines through as they navigate feelings of vulnerability and the fear of falling back into past mistakes.

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Jan 20, 2025 • 53min
Are We Just Not Sexually Compatible? Part Two
A young Black American woman shares her experiences with sexual intimacy and trauma alongside her partner. They explore the challenges that arise when one partner initiates but the other freezes. The conversation navigates the intricacies of sexual compatibility, emphasizing the need for emotional connection and open communication. They discuss how trauma impacts their relationship dynamics and the importance of non-sexual touch. Practical strategies, like keeping a shared notebook for thoughts, are introduced to enhance connection and intimacy.

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Jan 13, 2025 • 43min
Are We Just Not Sexually Compatible?
A caller grapples with her sexual compatibility with a partner, exploring underlying trauma shaping her anxiety. The discussion dives into desire dynamics, emphasizing the importance of communication and self-awareness in intimacy. Strategies for maintaining a sexual mindset and understanding triggers are shared, alongside playful approaches to redefine connection. The conversation also highlights the significance of emotional safety after trauma, urging partners to foster a secure environment for rekindling intimacy and trust.


