Think Differently with Dr. Theresa Haskins

Send a textWe say we value difference. But when someone works differently than we do, we often treat it as a problem.In this episode, Dr. Theresa Haskins explores why “different” so quickly becomes “deficient” in the workplace — especially when we over-index on process, presence, and personality instead of outcomes. Autism isn’t ADHD. ADHD isn’t PTSD. Yet the leadership practices that support people are often the same: clarity, structure, written expectations, and psychological safety.The real issue isn’t diagnosis. It’s design.When we wait for disclosure before improving systems, we reveal how narrow those systems are. Inclusive leadership isn’t about lowering standards — it’s about widening the path so more than one way of working can lead to excellence.Because there is more than one way to be effective.

Send a textThe word neurodivergent is everywhere — in research, in workplaces, in identity conversations. But what do we actually mean when we use it?In this episode, Dr. Theresa Haskins explores the tension between umbrella language and lived experience. While neurodivergence connects many cognitive profiles, shared divergence does not automatically mean shared needs, accommodations, or stigma.From dissertation design and workplace policy to personal disclosure, this conversation asks a critical question: When does the umbrella help — and when does precision matter more?Clarity doesn’t weaken inclusion. It makes it more effective.

Send a textMost people don’t ask questions when expectations are unclear. They pretend they understand.In this episode of Think Differently, Dr. Theresa Haskins explores pretending — or masking — as a rational response to ambiguity in workplaces, schools, families, and relationships. Rather than framing silence and assimilation as personal shortcomings, she examines how systems reward appearing competent while quietly penalizing honesty and clarity-seeking.Drawing on neurodivergent perspectives and well-established patterns from research on psychological safety, cognitive load, and masking, this episode unpacks why pretending works — until it doesn’t — and why the cost is almost always carried by the individual, not the system.

Send a textWhen something goes wrong, the focus often shifts quickly to the individual — their judgment, their awareness, their ability to “read the room.” But what happens when expectations were never made clear in the first place?In this episode, Dr. Theresa Haskins names “you should have known” culture—the unwritten rules and implicit expectations that quietly shift responsibility to individuals while shielding the system itself from scrutiny.Through familiar workplace examples, she explores how this pattern shows up in leadership, education, and everyday interactions — and why neurodivergent people often encounter these breakdowns first and can signal needed change before incidents occur.This episode asks us all to move away from debate and blame and to focus on clarity, accountability, and what helps people succeed, instead of guessing our way through.

Send a textWe often look forward to time off — especially during the holidays — expecting rest and relief. But for many people, unstructured time doesn’t feel restorative at all. It feels disorienting. In this episode, Dr. Theresa Haskins explores why holiday downtime can trigger anxiety, low mood, and a sense of drift, particularly for neurodivergent individuals and those with executive functioning differences. Drawing on behavioral psychology, executive function research, and lived experience, she explains how the sudden loss of routine disrupts nervous system regulation — and why this reaction is not a personal failure. If time feels heavier or harder to hold during the holidays, this episode offers language, validation, and a more compassionate way to understand what’s happening.

Gifted kids often face misconceptions about their abilities, with many thinking they simply learn faster. This can lead to emotional strain for those who are profoundly gifted or twice-exceptional. Unique stories illustrate the challenges they face, such as the idea that talent can 'appear' suddenly without traditional effort. Delving into real-life examples, the discussion highlights how common narratives miss the mark and why we need to support these individuals with a more honest and accurate understanding of their experiences.

What happens when being extraordinary feels like pressure? The discussion dives into the weight of expectations on gifted individuals, who often feel reduced to mere output. Illustrating the dangers of the 'gifted' label, the conversation highlights how it can erase personal identity and lead to burnout. Insightful reflections reveal that true support involves fostering curiosity and allowing rest. Ultimately, it's vital to appreciate exceptional individuals for who they are, not just for their achievements.

What if intelligence isn’t the effortless advantage we think? Dive into the hidden struggles of gifted individuals, from burnout to perfectionism. Discover how early success can mask uneven skills and how being smart might hide deeper challenges. Explore the concept of twice-exceptionality and the emotional toll of social isolation. Learn why grit and resilience, not just IQ, lead to true success. This thought-provoking discussion sheds light on the importance of support over pedestalizing brilliance.

Explore the critical role of psychological safety in neuroinclusion efforts. Discover why many well-meaning strategies fall short, often overlooking the need for care over compliance. Learn how team management influences retention and why environments must prioritize readiness for neurodivergent employees. Delve into practical changes, like clear communication and flexible roles, that enhance inclusion. Find out how fostering a safe environment can benefit everyone, creating a more engaged and cohesive workplace.

Receiving an autism or ADHD diagnosis can lead to a wave of confusion and conflicting opinions from various sources. Dr. Theresa Haskins explores the emotional aftermath, highlighting the weight of labeling and the unsolicited advice often given. She shares her personal story, emphasizing the challenges and strengths of neurodivergent individuals. Listeners are reminded that it's okay to take a step back, grieve, and trust their own decisions amid the noise. This insightful narrative offers validation and support for anyone navigating this journey.