Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Christian Couples: Secrets of Happily Ever After
Monica Tanner - Marriage and Intimacy Coach for Christian Couples
Have you ever wondered what makes the difference between those couples who absolutely LOVE to be together and the ones who merely tolorate each other in their old age? I always want to run up to the cute old couples who still hold hands while walking down the street and ask them all their secrets to relationship success. This podcast gives me the opportunity to do just that!I'm Monica Tanner, wife to a super hunky man, mom to 4 kids, weekly podcaster and relationship and intimacy expert/enthusiast. I help couples ditch the resentment and roommate syndrome and increase communication, connection and commitment, so they can write and live out their happily ever after love story. If that sounds like something you want, this podcast is absolutely for YOU! Each week, I'm teasing out the principles that keep couples hopelessly devoted and intoxicatingly in love with each other for a lifetime and beyond. I'm searching high and low for the secrets of happily ever after and sharing those secrets with you right here. Sound marriage advice for Christian couples who want to live happily ever after and achieve a truly intimate friendship and passionate partnership, because an awesome marriage makes life so much sweeter. Let's get to it!
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Dec 14, 2022 • 25min
Ep 209 The Best Gift You Could Give Your Kids This Holiday Season
In this week's episode, I'm talking about the BEST gift you could ever give your children on this holiday or any other time of the year. That gift is a blueprint of a healthy, thriving marriage and a glimpse at your happily ever after. I go over 4 ways you can give that gift to your children, your grandchildren and their children for generations. This episode is a step by step guide to creating that blueprint and a wonderful way to check the progress you are making as you strive to give your children the best possible chance for a happy, healthy relationship in the future. If you are struggling with any of the concepts we talked about in this episode, please sign up for a complementary relationship breakthrough by going to https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/apply.Send us Fan Mail
Dec 7, 2022 • 15min
Ep 208 Sacrificing What You Want Will NOT Bring You More Happiness
In today's episode, I'm debunking the myth that sacrificing more of what you want will eventually bring you happiness. In fact, the opposite is true. If you keep sacrificing for the sake of your marriage or your family, you will just get resentful and that kills any chance you have of ever being happy. If you want to know what to do when you have sacrificed too much and you feel resentful, be sure to register for the Ditch Decades of Resentment Webclass I'm hosting on Thursday, December 8th. Get all the details and sign up here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/resentmentwebclass.Send us Fan Mail
Nov 30, 2022 • 19min
Ep 207 Stop Compromising! It's Destroying Your Intimacy and Connection
In today's episode, I'm talking about how compromise is holding you back and destroying your intimacy and connection. Everytime you compromise, you are giving away a small piece of yourself or something that is important to you. Compromise doesn't honor you or your partner. Nobody wins and the result is resentment, the number one killer of all intimacy and connection. So, what do we do instead of compromise when we are dealing with a disagreement or conflict? I'm teaching you what to do instead and exactly how to do it. Tune in for a step by step process where everyone wins. Join us on Thursday, December 8th for a live webclass on Ditching Decades of Resentment and Get Busy Writing Your Happily Ever After. Register here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/resentmentwebclassSend us Fan Mail
Nov 23, 2022 • 19min
Ep 206 The Power of Gratitude in Our Relationships
In today's episode, I'm talking about the power gratitude has to change the way we feel about another person. We don't even need to share our gratitude with that person in order to benefit from feeling it and looking for ways that person is blessing our life. My favorite quote from this episode is to imagine if we could only have tomorrow the things we were grateful for today. That one sentament would forever change the way we thought about our blessings. I challenge you to think about all the ways in which your partner is blessing your life and share that list with them this Thanksgiving. Check out my new YouTube channel for more great, FREE tips and trainings and interviews on how to improve the intimacy and connection in your marriage. https://www.youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafterSend us Fan Mail
Nov 16, 2022 • 16min
Ep 205 3 Tips for a More Blissful Holiday Season
In today's episode, I'm sharing 3 ways you can make sure you have more pease and joy rather than stress and overwhelm this holiday season. You can start by setting your intentions. Ask yourself how you really want to feel. Then planning with your spouse around traditions, budget and schedules ensures that you are both on the same page. Finally maintaining your regular routines and rythms such as working out and date nights will help ease the tention between you. If you haven't already, you can save $500 by grabbing your tickets to the Valentine's Day Power Couple Retreat in McCall, Idaho by December 1st. Spots are filling up fast. https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat. Apply for your FREE Relationship Breakthrough by going to https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/apply.Send us Fan Mail
Nov 9, 2022 • 15min
Ep 204 What To Do When You Feel Too Busy For Your Marriage
In today's episode, I'm helping couples who feel too busy for their marriage. Most of the time when I ask couples if they are taking the time to date and connect intimately on a regular basis, they will say that they are too busy. People think that when the kids get older or they reach some level of success or financial milestone, then they will make time for their relationship. The problem with this kind of thinking is that if you haven't properly invested your time, energy and financial resources into your marriage, when challenges come and you need the strength that comes from an intimate friendship forged over time, your relationship will not be able to weather those storms. Here's what to do instead. Husbands! Join us for the Connection is Possible Through Communication Challenge starting on November 14th. Learn how to be the hero of this holiday season and get more attention, affection and appreciation from your wife. Register here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/husband-challenge. Join us for our Power Couples Valentine's Day Romantic Retreat in McCall, Idaho on February 8th-12th. Save your Spot here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.Send us Fan Mail
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Nov 2, 2022 • 15min
Ep 203 Don't Jump in the Pool - A Relationship Tool You Need in Your Toolbelt
In today's episode, I'm sharing one of my most popular relationship tools that helps couples reduce the amount of arguing in their relationship significantly. I call this tool - Don't Jump in the Pool, because it conjures up an image that can be called upon when people in your life are having big emotions. When someone close to you is feeling big emotions and you are in the crosshairs, you always have options. You can choose to participate in those big emotions, usually making the situation worse, or you can stay calm and collected and wait for those big emotions to subside. Either choice is fine, but one will almost always give you a better outcome. Join us for our Valentine's Day Romantic Couple's Retreat in McCall, Idaho in February 2023. Get all the details by going to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.Send us Fan Mail
Oct 26, 2022 • 23min
Ep 202 - 3 Thought Patterns That Are Keeping You Stuck and Miserable
In this week's episode, I'm uncovering 3 different thought patterns that I like to call Stinking Thinking that are keeping you stuck and miserable. I hear people say these phrases all the time and without realizing it, they are secretly sabotaging any chance of being happy. Once you start to recognize these thought patterns, you will have the power to change these sneaky sentences inside your brain to something far more productive. I show you how to recognize these thoughts and what to do to change them. I promise you will learn something mind-blowing in this episode. Be sure to check out our Valentine's Day Romantic Retreat in McCall, Idaho February 8th-12th and be the hero of Valentine's Day in 2023 by going to https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.Send us Fan Mail
Oct 19, 2022 • 17min
Ep 201 - What to Do When You Feel Like Friends Without Benefits in Your Marriage
In this week's episode, I'm talking about some of the couples I've worked with who came to me feeling like friends without benefits before we started working together. I'm sharing their stories of how they learned frameworks to help them change from living like roommates to developing an intimate friendship. You'll hear about Jon and Julie, Josh and Emily and Bill and Marsha. Each of them struggled to connect and communicate until they learned certain skills and committed to doing things differently than they were doing before. They needed a neutral third party to point out the dynamics in their relationship they couldn't see themselves. For more information on coaching with me, book a call at: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/apply. For details about the Valentine's Day Romantic Retreat in McCall, Idaho, check out: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.Send us Fan Mail
Oct 5, 2022 • 29min
Ep 199 You are Not Broken and Other Sexual Intimacy Truths with Dr. Kelly Casperson
Today's episode is an interview with my friend, Dr. Kelly Casperson about her new book, You Are Not Broken. We talk about common misconceptions about sexual intimacy and female anatomy and why it is so important to get to know yourself and your body and how you experience pleasure. No one, including your spouse is going to do this for you. Enjoy this straight talk no BS approach to improving your sex life. You can sign up for the next 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge and learn how to powerfully attract your partner by going to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/sysSend us Fan Mail
