Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Such a great conversation with Marcille Smith Boyle!! Solving problems with our kids is no joke and such an important way to teach life skills. Marcille breaks down the task in a way that gets parents excited to practice!! She is full of information and real life stories that I know will be inspiring and helpful to you – Enjoy!Marcille studied the work of Ross Green –Lost at School The Explosive ChildHe writes and teaches about Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) – involving kids in solving their own behavior challengesParents tend to think it’s our job to solve our children’s behavior challenges… Truth is, our kids can be awesome problem solvers – yay!The brain likes it’s own ideas best!!David Rock – Neuro Leadership Group  CPS has 3 main steps –- Empathize gather info from child – from their point of view- Define the problem- Brainstorm solutions together with your child.Most powerful part --- not necessarily the process, but how we shift perspective about how we look and think and feel about behavior challenges….Recognizing that behavior is a sign of something deeper that is going on.“Most helpful when we can focus that deeper thing, rather than just the behavior itself.”Your child’s behavior is not the problem – What’s the problem, THE PROBLEM! (I love that)The problem is always underneath the surface…“Kids do well if they can.” – Ross GreenExample:Child won’t turn in his homework.What’s the problem? Lacking organization skills and some auditory challenges… The solution is brainstormed with child and addresses these problems and the homework situation shifts (solutions arehelpful)Consequences don't necessarily teach skills…What are the lacking skills behind the behavior?P.E.S.O.S. (Marcille's Problem Solving Recipe)Combines principles of Ross Green’s work, with Positive Discipline  and How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk Prerequisite: You and your child must be level headed - calm, in a good place emotionallyWhen intensity is high, communication and problem-solving skills are low…P – Permission… Giving yourself permission to engage and getting child’s permissionE – Empathize… Understanding problem from child’s perspective –stay neutral and specific – “Tell me about…. (the problem)” then validate their concernS – State your concern… Short and sweet “My concern is…”O – Options… Brainstorm options for solutions that are a win/win for you bothS – Select and idea to try…  Must be realistic and mutually satisfactoryTry it out, make a date to review and see how it’s going… Seeing our kids as a person who wants to do well, but have something in their way towards that success….Watch the video below --Click here for Marcille's handout on the steps of P.E.S.O.S.Marcille Smith BoyleWebsite - www.workingparenting.com – blog, free gift, newsletterFacebook – Working ParentingEmail - marcillesmithboyle@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a GIFT to have the opportunity to interview Amy Lang of Birds+Bees+Kids! We had a great time discussing what to be talking about with our kdis when it comes to bodies and sex and staying safe... Nothing is off limits here - from where babies come from to blow jobs to birth control --- listen in and get informed and then TALK TO YOUR KIDS!Like Amy says, being INFORMED is being EMPOWERED to make smart choices!LISTEN IN NOW!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in on this great conversation that I had with Molly Knight Forde about the journey to meditation and how it can change everything when it comes to the parenting journey... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Podcast with Kim Estes Intro – music feedback? Mention speakpipe Kim Into with Family – two daughters, middle/high schoolers Savvy Parents Safe Kidswww.savvyparentssafekids.com Patty Fitzgerald - Safely Ever After  Lots of strategies… not just “this is what you do in the moment” Being home alone… 2 tips: Don't open the door, acknowledge the door –In a strong voice: “Who is it?” followed by, “I can’t help you…” and walk away. Know what to do if there is a fire –Get out of the house and use a neighbors phone to call 911 Practice!! Talking about having an “out” for sticky situations… Teach your kids language to use and practice the language… Free range in the world is safer than free range online.The internet is a place, not a thing….Safety radar isn’t quite as tuned in…. PDF of Super 10 Rules For Safety Don’t scare them, it's not helpful“Family” safety ruleCheck in – make it a family thingLead by example    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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This was such a fun conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Julietta Skoog. She is such a powerful model for what it looks like to parent small children with Positive Discipline - I love watching her in action!PLUS, she has been doing Family Meetings with her girls since the youngest was in a highchair!!!Listen in and let me know what you think!You can find more information on Julietta at www.juliettaskoog.comYou can find more about the Family Meeting Ecourse I mention at the end of the course by clicking here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a solo show, meaning, it's just me. Listen in as I share what my purpose is and how I want to make a difference in YOUR world! Get an inside look at why I am passionate about this work and what fuels me to keep sharing it with you.... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a gift it was to spend time talking to Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting Connection! We dug into how making agreements with our kids helps them to develop a sense of trust and capability - while strengthening our relationship with them along the way. Ariadne has some great ideas around how to bring more ease to mealtimes and shares some resources for parents for teaching and modeling self regulation.Resources for listeners:Check out Ariadne's book on Amazon - Twelve alternatives to time outFrom Positive Parenting Connection - A post about creating a Chill-Out Corner with your childThe latest Joyful Courage post around making agreements - What was our agreement?Find Positive Parenting Connection on Facebook,Pinterest, and Twitter  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices