Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

I am so excited to offer a monthly podcast episode that is dedicated to answering questions from the community. Today, I speak about situations that were shared by April and Sarah, both members of the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Community... From April:My 7 year old is the youngest of three girls. She gets plenty of attention but seems to constantly be begging for more. What is a healthy amount of attention and how I do I limit it? She constantly interrupts her dad and I whenever we are talking to her other sisters. It's as if she can't handle them getting any attention. I don't know how to phrase a question. She is the youngest child who has gotten spoiled with attention because she was the only one home with me while the other girls were at school. Now she expects all the attention all the time and it isn't fun for anyone.From Sarah:Ok, here is a hot topic at our house! How can I help my kids get along (or many how can I help my son deal with jealousy)? I have an almost 8 yo son who is much more introverted and independent and a 5 yo daughter who is a bubbly, outgoing people person. She gets lots more attention from people in general just because she is outgoing and comfortable talking to people. But my son is also in school all day and she is not yet so we are having some struggles with jealousy (being purposefully mean to his sis) and defiance. It will still be one more year before she is in school all day like he is. I give him 1-1 time but there just aren't enough hours in the day to give him the same amount of time.I have a feeling that their stories, their challenges will resonate with the whole community. Please listen in and let me know what you think!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, who wrote an article recently that caught my attention. Her blog is www.imperfectfamilies.com, and the article was about Helping Kids Deal with Negative Self-Talk. Nicole is the mother of three daughters, and is a parent coach with a license in family therapy. She now devotes her work to online coaching and writing her blog. She loves working with families on positive, respectful parenting techniques.What you’ll hear in this episode: The two things in kids’ lives that bring the most negative self-doubt How two kids can be doing the same thing, but one will have negative self-doubt and one will be fine How you may think you are supporting your kids in their negative self-doubt, but you may be doing THREE KEY THINGS wrong! All parents face the question of how much to push them and how much to support them. Nicole has tips to help you connect with your kids in moments of frustration; the key is to find ways to connect with them.As a parent, you have opportunities to help your kids through their negative self-doubt; the key is to help them with important life skills.Links and Resources:Connect with Nicole: Website | Facebook | TwitterThe blog post that started it all... How to Respond to Your Child's Negative Self Talk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dina Emser is on the podcast today digging into what encouragement is really all about… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so so excited to share this conversation with listeners!! Dr. Laura Markham is one of the leading voices in the parenting arena and full of easy to digest tips and tools for parents with kids of all ages! I was beyond honored when she agreed to come on my show...Listen in as we talk all about how to create space for our kids to get along, explore what keeps kids from connecting, and dig into how one on one time with each of our kids actually helps the sibling bond grow.Dr. Laura's bio from her website:Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want.The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine.Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 20 and 24! Resources mentioned:Peaceful Parents, Happy KidsPeaceful Parents, Happy SiblingsJohn Gottman's work with couples and marriageWhere to find/follow Dr. Laura's work:www.ahaparenting.comFacebookTwitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so excited to have Margit Crane on the podcast today! She is fun and hopeful and full of really helpful information for ADD/ADHD children and the grown ups who love and work with them.From Margit's bio:Confused and frustrated, people are drawn to Margit’s bright-eyed optimism, her natural communication style, and her no-nonsense, real-world solutions. They fall in love with her humor and compassion, realizing that she is their strongest advocate and biggest fan. Clients feel heard and understood, and they trust her to support each of them, together as a family and, separately, as individuals. She blends an uncanny and authentic understanding of children and teens with adult wisdom and experience, and a long career as a trailblazer in the field of Attention Deficit Disorder, school success, and child-parent dynamics.Margit and I spend time discussion what ADD/ADHD is and what it isn't, when to consider if our child is a ADD/ADHD, and what the steps are to connect and hold space for these special kids. Resources mentioned:Getting Schooled - a free ebook from Margit that helps parents navigate their child's school experiencewww.wrightslaw.com - articles, legal resources. supportHow to find and follow Margit:http://margitcrane.com/Facebook - Gifted with ADDTwitter - BrilliantADHDPinterest - Gifted with ADD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

 So excited to share today's show with you!Dr. Jen O’Ryan provides guidance for parents to help them navigate their child’s coming out process, as well as questions about sexuality and gender. She completed her doctorate in Human Behavior with a focus on environmental factors during childhood and adolescence for sexual minorities.Dr. Jen also works closely with other caring adults on developing more inclusive, safe spaces for LGBTQ individuals in the workplace and community. Through years of research and advocacy, Jen brings an extensive background on factors contributing to healthy development during childhood and adolescence for LGBTQ youth.Jen and I talk about the experience kids are having as they come to understand gender and sexual orientation. We discuss the biggest challenges for the kids and their parents, and how we can all be a part in supporting all kids, in celebration of differences, being advocates and allies.Resources mentioned:Jen's website My Kid Came OutJen's local workshop So your kids came out, now what?     - listeners will get $5 off with promo code "joyful"Recent posts on sexuality and supporting LGBTQ youthPFLAG - Parents, Families and Allies of LGBTQWhere to find Jen:Her website - www.mykidcameout.comTwitter - @pagingdrjenFacebook - Paging Dr. Jen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am super excited about this BONUS episode!! I have the privilege of being in conversation with Brandie Weikle from thenewfamily.com and host of The New Family Podcast.Part of my mission for creating this podcast is to expose listeners to parenting resources that I find inspirational and valuable, and Brandie is in total alignment with that mission.We spend time today talking about The New Family, the 1,000 Family Project, and Brandie's experience with podcasting.Mentioned:The New Family WebsiteThe 1,000 Families ProjectThe New Family PodcastPositive CoParenting After Divorce Facebook GroupMentioned New Family Podcast Episodes:Eps 50: The Ex Next Door Eps 20: Seizing the Day With Your FamilyEps9: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward ThomasEps 3: Parenting a Transgendered ChildWhere to find Brandie and The New Family:www.thenewfamily.comTwitterFacebookInstagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Knobler is on the podcast! Amy is a personal chef, mama and Positive Discipline Parent Educator from Pasadena, California. In candid conversation, she shares her passion for bringing kids into the kitchen…Do you love dinner preparation? Are you like me, feeling annoyed and resentful each day when it comes time to create a meal for your family?Listen in as Amy spins a new perspective around meal prep and how it can be a relationship builder AND a time for life skill development.From young kids to our teens, the kitchen can be a place for connection… A place where we can all increase our sense of belonging and significance.::::::::::Resources:Click here to get your own pack of Positive Discipline Parenting ToolcardsSeven Easy Ways to Include Your Kids in the Kitchen by Sarah RemmerCheck out the PDF from Amy with concepts and a yummy kid friendly recipe on the Joyful Courage website! Where to find and follow Amy:www.cooktoconnect.netamy@cooktoconnect.netCook to Connect Facebook Group::::::::::Also - be sure to check out the Calm and Connected Parenting Program through Mazlo.Click here for more information!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So grateful to have Kelly Bos on the show today! Kelly is a psychotherapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others.Today we are talking about navigating parenting styles in our family. As I say on a regular basis, parenting is a journey, right? Have you started to notice that when we say "yes! I want to be with you forever!" we are also saying yes to the journey of relationship???And it's not always easy.We show up with baggage - we show up with our own lens that has been developed through the experiences of our life... AND we sometimes forget that we aren't all looking through the same lens...Listen in as I talk with Kelly about how to be more proactive and forwarding in our conversations with our partners, and build stronger connections with them in the process!!Where to find Kelly:Her website: http://www.kellybos.com/And on FacebookArticles for further reading:What to do When Your Parenting Styles Don't Mesh by Kelly BosWhen Parents Disagree on Discipline by Amy McCreedy  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I love Emily Roberts!! There is a good reason she is called "Guidance Girl" - this woman has so many gifts and wisdom to share... She knows tweens and teens - she has an inside perspective and sharing it on the show.Listen in and broaden your perspective around the online social life of your children.Emily and I have a candid conversation about what parents should be thinking about and how we can be building relationship through navigating this online social world with our kids....This is a looooooong podcast because I just can't stop talking to Emily!!Resources mentioned:American Girls: How Social Media is Disrupting the Lives of TeenagersExpress Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking up and Being Who You AreOther articles and interview with Emily:An interview about social media addictionWhat Every Parent Needs to Know about CyberbullyingFollow Emily's work:One her websiteOn FacebookOn TwitterOn PinterestOn InstagramOn YouTubeLet me know what you are thinking!! Join the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook group - a crowd of like minded parents do the best they can to be their best on the parenting journey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices