Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Melissa Esposito, and we’re talking about the power of nature & the power of building a parent community. We discuss expanding the relationships that our adolescents have and the benefits of other adults in your children’s lives. Melissa shares about how and where to find a parent and family community so our youth have other adults in their life to support them. We talk about when you just don’t understand your kid. We wrap up this episode with some suggestions for places & opportunities to volunteer & connect with youth.Melissa Esposito is cofounder and lead mentor of Feather and Frond forest school, an outdoor wilderness school in Bellingham, WA.Takeaways: BUILD a village for your kid and BE the village for other kids in your community  What is wilderness school?  The overlap between toddler & adolescent years The auntie revolution We’re not meant to parent alone There’s capacity for community everywhere Showing up for kids that aren’t yours  There are many opportunities and places are available to volunteer & connect with children in your community  We’ve got to be in it for all of us and not just ourselves  The connection between nature & community For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's solo show addresses a parent’s question about engaging a teen who resists meaningful conversations. The parent felt stuck, balancing curiosity and respect with their teen’s avoidance, and wondered how to foster responsibility without resorting to punitive measures. I emphasized the importance of understanding what’s holding teens back, shifting from “won’t” to “can’t,” and focusing on respectful, patient communication. Teens often need space to process emotions and build trust. I encouraged reframing expectations, staying kind and firm, and prioritizing long-term connection. Parenting teens is messy but rewarding, and the key lies in intentionality, patience, and self-awareness. You’re not alone in this journey!Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-542-communicating-beyond-i-dont-know-with-our-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Karen Collins, and we’re talking about creating rituals, especially at the new year. We discuss what rituals are and how to use the near year’s energy as a reset. Karen shares some practices from a recent retreat, including an embodiment exercise, then shares her own new year’s ritual. We talk about setting intention for the year with anchoring words and wrap up on sustaining the work of ritual in chaotic, day-to-day life.Takeaways from the show What are rituals?   What’s the difference between a ritual versus something you just do sometimes?  Using the new year as a reset  The human experience versus the spiritual experience  Setting intention with anchor words  Falling off is part of the practice  Rejuvenation days  Keeping your non-negotiables simple  Make 2025 a year of self compassion For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy New Year! I’m embracing the energy of being a deliberate creator, focusing on growth and learning. A listener shared a challenge about their 13-year-old son lying about screen time. While the lie was minor, the parents were troubled by how easily it was told. I encouraged them to approach this with curiosity and love, not punishment. Share disappointment without shaming, revisit agreements, and emphasize that mistakes are opportunities to learn. Trust and honesty grow through connection and communication, not fear or control. Parenting is messy, but every challenge is a chance to grow together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is our early childhood lead, Julietta Skoog, and we’re wrapping up the year talking about screentime & tech. Julietta shares the screen agreements she’s created with her children. We discuss how to help our teens develop a sense of self-awareness around their screen use & why they need opportunities to practice. We talk about how to know when screentime is getting problematic & building trust with your adolescent around screen usage. See more show notes, resources and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/539-talking-about-screens-again-with-julietta-skoog/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I dig into a parent's struggle with their 16-year-old son's "know-it-all" behavior, which disrupts communication and creates tension. I encourage the parent to reframe their challenge, offer tools and strategies for generating more compassion, curiosity, and emotional honesty and remind them that building connection, using humor, and fostering mutual respect can improve the relationship while navigating this challenging developmental phase. Listen in and let me know what you think!Find more show notes and more about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ eps-538-decoding-the-know-it-all-teen-connection-compassion-curiosity/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Lori Baudino and we’re talking about youth mental health. We chat about teaming up with your child - it’s you & your teen against a challenge, not each other. Dr. Baudino shares ways to find predictability in the bumpy teen years and her “Person, Place, Plan” strategy. We talk about toddler/teen parallels and share some ways to connect with your adolescent.  Takeaways from the show The interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit  Observing how your adolescent moves through the world and knowing their coping mechanisms & sensory profile  DANCE = differentiate, attach, narrate, consciousness, empathic engagement  Thoughtfully bringing lightness to your relationship  “Person, Place, & Plan” strategy  Your teen wants to be in relationship with you  When coping skills are (or seem) destructive  Teen years are messy for all families - it’s the terrain  Introducing some gray to an adolescent stuck in a black & white mindset  Dr. Baudino’s new book: Moving Moments in Childhood For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This insightful conversation dives into the challenges of parenting teens and navigating seasonal pressures. Self-care takes center stage as listeners learn to prioritize health check-ups, movement, and nourishing foods. Personal reflections on coping habits create a deeper understanding of emotional well-being. Tips on mindfulness and community support inspire a proactive approach to life's ebbs and flows. Humor and gratitude wrap up the discussion, reminding everyone that taking care of oneself is essential for enjoying life's journey.

My guests today are Julietta Skoog and Dr. Shefali, and we’re talking about presence and connection during the holiday season. My focus is on identifying the feelings & emotions that come up during the holidays, and I share several breathing & grounding exercises. Julietta shares how she stays connected to & involves her children during the holidays, modeling life skills, & tips around play and pre-teaching. Dr. Shefali speaks on why she doesn’t add the traditional “holiday season” to her plate and why to choose simplicity & minimalism. Takeaways from the show Presence and connection with ourselves, our kids, and other relationships this holiday season Identifying the feelings, emotions, & physical sensations that come up for you during the holidays  Identifying the qualities you want during the holidays  E (events & experiences) + R (responses & reactions) = O (affect the outcome)  Reframing the intensity of the season as opportunities to model & connect - “I have to” versus “we get to”  3 P’s of the holiday season = play, practice, & pre-teaching Leaning on routines during the holidays  The good & bad of holiday traditions and creating new traditions  “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou  Holidays are optional; you have choices around what you do  “It’s about the moment, not about the holiday”  Choosing simplicity, calmness, & mindfulness over traditions & extras For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I address a common frustration among parents: feeling disconnected from teens who seem unwilling to engage. I guide listeners to reframe their approach, shifting from “Why won’t my teen connect?” to “What’s blocking our connection?” By owning our actions, reflecting on how we show up, and dismantling barriers, we open new possibilities for nurturing relationships. I suggest tools like vulnerability, authentic apologies, and building proximity to our teens’ lives. Letting go of hurt and resentment, while embracing personal growth, fosters patience and trust. Connection takes time, but showing up consistently with curiosity and compassion makes a difference.For more show notes and to get more info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-534-creating-special-time-with-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices