

Not For Everyone
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Apr 4, 2024 • 1h 6min
67. Not for Breakup Texts + The Part of Female Friendships We Don’t Talk About
Topics include platonic physical affection among friends, crazy dating and breakup stories, encountering misogyny in the wild, and updates on hauntings. The hosts discuss navigating friendships, relationships, and scary experiences, all with humor and relatability.

Mar 28, 2024 • 1h 7min
66. For You: How to Start Showing Up for Yourself
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone/ to get 10% off your first month.
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This episode is for you, dawgs! Jess and Caroline set the stage with an Uber debacle and a few linguistic complaints and then move straight into this week’s theme: showing up for yourself. They dive deep into codependence, how we abandon ourselves, and how to generate real connection.
Plus, it wouldn’t be an episode about *self* without some inner child work! Learn how to quit feeling so bad all the time by simply getting to know yourself and how you function in different scenarios. Your baby self will thank you for listening to these magic bullet ideas.
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Mar 21, 2024 • 60min
65. Not for Being a Prisoner to Your Job + We’re All Baby Sometimes
Anyone else feeling strangely… “baby” this week? Jess and Caroline coddle each other’s thoughts as they discuss imaginary friends, creepy children, and celebrities they can see themselves being friends with.
They grow up a little (sigh) to talk through how to quit a job where you genuinely love your coworkers, answer a haunting would-you-rather, and cry loving tears over the sweetest review known to man. Curl up in a blanket for this one and let Caroline’s imaginary nanny take care of you as you listen. __
This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Mar 14, 2024 • 1h 19min
64. Hot Takes Only: Staying Friends with Your Ex, Period Sex, and Shrek
Get ready for a sizzling conversation on staying friends with your ex and the juicy details of period sex! The hosts hilariously debate the mispronunciation of 'espresso' and dive into the emotional weight of Instagram likes. Nostalgia hits as they reflect on the charm of 'Shrek' while balancing it with amusing foot care discussions. From astrology to hygiene habits, this lively exchange mixes humor with relatable insights. Plus, get tips on handling internet feedback like a pro!

Mar 7, 2024 • 1h 4min
63. Not For People Pleasing + Other Obvious Realizations That Changed Our Lives
This podcast delves into adult friendships, people pleasing breakthroughs, and the struggle of putting on a show in social situations. Are you really an introvert or just draining your social battery? Plus, giggles about bell pepper dilemmas, corporate lingo, and a life-changing weekend hack. Let's hang, dawgs!

Feb 29, 2024 • 1h 12min
62. Not for Botox + A Snail Story You’ll Never Forget
Not For Everyone is basically a beauty podcast now. Jess and Caroline discuss venturing into the Botox world, witnessing the aging process, and parents' chaotic relationship to their children’s acne-ridden faces. They also consider life’s deepest questions, like how did we learn to do makeup without YouTube?
Caroline is weirdly obsessed with smell this episode, so get ready for some sweaty takes that might involve snails. Plus, the kooks were correct: Caroline admits she may, in fact, look a bit like Tom Hiddleston. Help Jess and Caroline figure out who Jess’ doppelganger is — and also how Jess can bring a boombox successfully to a party. It’s not easy work being DJs, but sighhhhh…..someone has to do it.__
This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Feb 22, 2024 • 1h 6min
61. Hater Hour: How to Survive Your Anxiety + WHATADO One-Sided Friendships
In a solo recording, Caroline opens up about the big thing she has been avoiding talking about on the podcast - including the tips and tools for surviving the worst of your anxiety.
She also responds to a listener WHATADO about what to do when you find yourself stuck in a one-sided friendship, with major boundary violations and messy complications.
Various Trader Joes reflections included.
Kisses!
RESOURCES
[Book] The Emotionally Exhausted Woman
[Book] The Power of Off: The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World
[Event] ]Workshop at the Integral Yoga Institute
[Article] Being in A Relationship Without Abandoning Yourself
[Book] Radical Acceptance
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This episode was produced by your one and only hater, Caroline Winkler.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Feb 15, 2024 • 1h 16min
60. WHATADO: Friends with Benefits, Boundaries with Your Boss, and Wedding Season
In this podcast, the hosts give non-expert advice on friends with benefits, workplace boundaries, and wedding invitations. They also discuss topics like the softness of butts, going to therapy, and why we wash our towels. The podcast offers entertaining insights and relatable stories on various life situations.

Feb 8, 2024 • 1h 1min
59. Not for the Luteal Phase + Feeling Stuck After Years of Therapy
Another episode full of lukewarm takes, cyclical insights, and "that's so funny" reactions, this week Jess and Caroline show up with nothing to give but complaints and bad jokes.
First, Jess is no impressionist - and also apparently no standup - as she *corporate gulps* her way through a series of failed jokes that forced her to quit her comedy class. Meanwhile, Caroline be lutin' (scientific term for in the luteal phase of her menstrual cycle), leaving little room for laughter but a lot of room for spiraling about therapy.
This deadly combo concludes with the reveal of an upcoming surprise, an analysis of gifts as a love language, and a referral to a new form of therapy that both of our hosts desperately need.
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This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Feb 1, 2024 • 1h 9min
58. Not for Codependent Patterns + The Problem with Imposter Syndrome
Jess and Caroline are just two sporty girls who are too busy collecting baby teeth and committing to unnecessary extracurriculars to keep a busy schedule. But here they gather on a Sunday morning ready to repeat to you exactly what their therapists said this week.
First, Jess is thinking about quitting a hobby that no one told her to pick up. Who know that was even possible?! Caroline talks her through it and then offers deeper context and examples on a hard hitting truth shared in last episode: Peace is letting people be wrong about you. The two go back and forth on when and how this can apply, even diving into one of the hardest areas to put this advice into practice: with family.
A hot take on imposter syndrome, affirming tarot card reading, and idiotic musings on time zones, middle age, and more round out the episode. Pee break!
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This episode was produced by NFE's #1 hater, Caroline Winkler.
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Share with a friend!
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@thegoodsitter
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!


