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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 4:38 - What Dr. Sarah says about assertiveness skills that causes Dr. Rebecca to have a major eye-roll moment. 6:08 - The assertiveness skills that you can expect to see at different stages of your child's development - and how to allow these things to shift, change, and be fluid. 7:02 - Understanding what is happening in your toddler and young child's brain as they grow, so you can be mindful of leaning into patterns that create neural connections that can serve them best throughout their life. 11:15 - Exactly when and how to step in when you observe an interpersonal conflict that supports your child while still allowing them to build their own problem-solving skills. 16:15 - How to build assertiveness skills outside the heat of the moment. And why these can also impact skills related to sharing, flexibility, and resilience. 22:43 - Strategies for parenting in a world where we have so much access to always be monitoring our kids - when it's helpful and when it becomes a hindrance for us and for them. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 📚 All Mine by Terrific Toddlers WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SIMILAR TOPICS? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your toddler learn to share 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your toddler feel seen, validated, and understood with the co-authors of the Terrific Toddlers series 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about having a healthy relationship with technology with Emily Cherkin WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Are you feeling overwhelmed with all the conflicting parenting advice out there? In this episode, I'm joined by Raised Good's Tracy Gillett to discuss how one simple guiding principle can serve as your parenting compass. In this episode, we explore: - How the attachment relationship comes into play when our kids are "pushing our buttons" and what we can do to decrease how often they test the limits. - What rupture and repair is and how this can be an underrated and incredibly impactful strategy to utilize in to strengthen your connection with your child. - The empowering mindset shift you need to start "breaking the rules" and trusting your gut, plus how to get past the anxiety that can come with making these decisions. - The single overarching question you can use as your guiding compass (spoiler alert: it's all about connection) to inform every single parenting question and choice you're faced with throughout your child's life. - The trap we can find ourselves in between authenticity and attachment, and how to help our kids avoid those same pitfalls we may have experienced in our own childhoods. - The misconception that you must choose between connection and discipline, and exactly how we can effectively discipline our kids. - Practical strategies for building your parenting toolbox, like how and when to "bank connection," where to incorporate playfulness, and much more! Whether you're new to parenting or looking to deepen your connection with your kids, this conversation will offer valuable insights and practical tips on how to parent with intention and authenticity. LEARN MORE ABOUT TRACY GILLETT: https://raisedgood.com/ REGISTER FOR THE FREE RAISED GOOD ONLINE SUMMIT: The 2024 Raised Good Online Summit LEARN MORE ABOUT TIMEOUTS AND EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE: 📚 READ Tracy's blog post 🤳 DOWNLOAD my free effective discipline guide 🎧 LISTEN to my podcast interview with Sarah R. Moore CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 How to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with it with Dr. Miriam Steele 🎧 How nurturing shapes our child's brain and sets them up for lifelong mental health with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum 🎧 How to use the attachment relationship to help your toddler fall and stay asleep with Eileen Henry

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, me, and and a very special guest talk about... 2:48 - The changes a 5th grader, Henry, is expecting are in store for him before the start of a new school year and how he feels about them. 4:22 - What it feels like to meet new people and how a kid views making new friends. 5:13 - The one thing Henry thinks would help him feel ready for the start of school, and what he thinks all parents should know would help your own kids. 8:04 - The most helpful tools and strategies he uses that help him stay focused in the classroom and how he talks to his teachers to get them to understand why these things are useful for him. 11:05 - How he calms his nerves during the summer before he knows who his teacher is, the other kids who will be in his class, and what he can expect in the fall. 13:38 - What makes him feel supported most by his parents when a kid at school is mean to him and what Henry thinks are the best thing other parents can do with their own kids. 19:26 - Managing technology, navigating group texts, and what his group of friends do during their in-person hang outs. WANT TO LISTEN TO SIMILAR PODCAST EPISODES: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping our kids form strong friendships with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about handling peer rejection in early adolescence with Dr. Emily Upshur 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about talking to your child, tween, and teen in a way that helps them truly hear you with Elizabeth Bennett WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Is potty training causing your stress or anxiety? I'm unpacking everything you need to know to help your child learn to use the potty with more confidence and ease. In this episode, we explore: - Readiness Signs: What to look for physically, behaviorally, and emotionally to know if your child is ready to start potty training. - Setting the Stage: What to do before you start potty training to create a supportive environment that encourages independence and reduces pressure around the potty. - How to Potty Train: Practical tips and personal stories of how to actually start potty learning once you've determined your child is ready. - Navigating Accidents and Setbacks: How to stay calm and empathetic during the inevitable ups and downs, and when taking a break might be the best next step. - Avoiding Common Pitfalls: Why reward systems might not be the best approach, and what to do to foster intrinsic motivation instead. Whether you're just starting or already in the thick of it, this episode offers you a compassionate and realistic approach to getting your child to start using the bathroom. CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 A conversation about pediatric pelvic health with Quiara Smith 🎧 How to use the attachment relationship to help your toddler fall and stay asleep with Eileen Henry

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 3:40 - As a culture, we don't often talk about the way the body works and it can be shocking for parents when we see our young child have an erection or explore what feels good to them. 4:50 - Finding that in-between space between understanding that this isn't sexual at this age and also acknowledging that this feels good. 7:38 - When, where, and how it's best to have these conversations with your child. 9:22 - Understanding that kids sometimes touch their private parts as a way for self-soothing can help you identify if they are doing that in public as a means to regulate and how you can support that need in a more appropriate manner. 13:55 - We don't want to infuse shame in exploring your body, but hand-in-hand with that comes addressing safe and healthy boundaries. 17:58 - Understanding the nuances of privacy. WANT TO LEARN MORE THIS TOPIC? 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about sexual abuse prevention and teaching body safety to children with Feather Berkower 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about raising your child to be sex positive with Dr. Holly Richmond WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

What if the key to unlocking your full potential lies in a part of your body that's often overlooked and misunderstood? This week we're diving into the transformative world of holistic pelvic care with Tami Lynn Kent. In this episode, we explore: Integrating Eastern and Western Approaches: The importance of integrating both physical therapy for the pelvic floor as well as energetic practices, like breath work and meditation to help women connect with their pelvic regions. Addressing Gaps in Female Healthcare: Highlighting significant gaps in female healthcare and the importance of understanding the anatomy of the pelvic bowl to empower women. Supporting Mothers: What it means to "mother from your center" and how to tap into this in your parenting. Feminine versus Masculine Energy: The importance of understanding and balancing feminine and masculine energy within ourselves. Practical Tips for Pelvic Health: Practical advice for integrating holistic pelvic care into your daily life, emphasizing the importance of tuning into your body and harnessing your innate wisdom. Join us for this enlightening episode as we delve into the vital topic of pelvic health and discover how to better support and honor our bodies. LEARN MORE ABOUT TAMI LYNN KENT: https://www.wildfeminine.com/ PICK UP A COPY OF TAMI'S BOOKS: 📚 Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body 📚 Wild Creative: Igniting Your Passion and Potential in Work, Home, and Life 📚 Wild Mothering: Finding Power, Spirit, and Joy in Birth and a Creative Motherhood CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 Cycle syncing, restorative practices, and natural rhythms with Dr. Jessica Plancich Shinners 🎧 The neuroscience of mindfulness with Dr. Dan Siegel 🎧 Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole Katz

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... 3:02 - The combination of a child who loves eating and a mom's anxiety about how much she is eating can be tricky. 4:04 - Strategies for slowing down mealtimes to build your child's ability for "tuning into their belly" versus just enjoying the taste of the food. 5:29 - What types and methods of restrictions are appropriate and which ones do you want to try to avoid. 10:42 - Understanding what is your job as a parent and what is your child's job, from the division of responsibility principles from Ellyn Satter's work. 12:14 - Limiting foods that are highly enhanced to make the flavors so rewarding that hunger/fullness cues are easily drowned out by the desire for more dopamine hits. 16:51 - Zoom out and look at meals of the week versus each individual meal. 17:44 - If your child does eat too much and feels uncomfortable from being too full, that can help them learn too. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 📚 Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense, Revised and Updated Edition by Ellyn Satter WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MEALTIMES AND FOSTERING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS TO FOOD: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about cultivating your child's healthy relationship with food with registered dietician & nutritionist Katie Thomson 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about picky eating and ARFID with Dr. Yaara Shimshoni 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about diet culture with Amelia Sherry WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Are you worried about your child's lack of motivation or their constant struggle to keep up? This week I'm diving into the complexities of child motivation with Dr. Ellen Braaten. In this episode we explore: 👉🏻 Impact of COVID-19: The pandemic's role in exacerbating motivational challenges and what we can do to combat it. 👉🏻 Attachment Myths: Common misconceptions about attachment and the importance of separating parental anxieties from a child's development. 👉🏻 Fostering Responsibility: Practical strategies for helping children develop a sense of responsibility and self-efficacy without excessive pressure. 👉🏻 Balancing External and Intrinsic Motivation: How to encourage intrinsic motivation in children while appropriately using external rewards. 👉🏻 Rediscovering Pleasure: The importance of integrating pleasure into daily tasks for both parents and children, and how it influences motivation. Join us for this enlightening and practical episode as we uncover the keys to unlocking motivation and supporting the well-being of our children! LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. ELLEN BRAATEN https://www.ellenbraatenphd.com/ GET DR. ELLEN BRAATEN'S NEWEST BOOK: Bright Kids Who Couldn't Care Less: How to Rekindle Your Child's Motivation CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 The hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny Wallace 🎧 Debunking the myth of learning styles with Dr. Dan Willingham 🎧 Is fun the antidote to burnout with Dr. Mike Rucker

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... 1:40 - A mental health professional can help you determine whether you should start with parenting support or individual therapy for your young child. 3:05 - Understanding the therapeutic support options available for young kids. 6:05 - Having a parent present during the beginning of sessions can help facilitate and strengthen a therapeutic alliance between the child and the therapist more quickly. 10:32 - What you can expect from parent-child dyadic sessions with a therapist - building trust, increasing frustration tolerance, containing emotions, strengthen your attachment, and more. 16:27 - Having a thorough and comprehensive intake is key for finding a treatment plan that is best suited for your child and your family's unique needs. 19:10 - It's okay to speak up, push back, and be an advocate for your child if you feel the support your receiving is not properly helping them. WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT PARENTING COACHING AND INDIVIDUAL THERAPY? 👉🏻 Click here to lean more about support options at Upshur Bren Psychology Group and to schedule a free 15-minute consultation call to learn more about the available resources for your unique needs. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Get ready for an enlightening conversation with Dr. Jessica Plancich Shinners as we explore the importance of cycle syncing, the science and art of care, and holistic health. In this episode, we delve into: Whole Mind-Body Health: Insights into the importance of caring for our minds, bodies, and spirit in an integrated and holistic manner. Biological and Evolutionary Perspectives: The natural caregiving instincts biologically hardwired in women and how leaning into these evolutionary traits can enhance our well-being. Menstrual Cycle Awareness: A comprehensive guide to aligning care practices with the phases of the menstrual cycle, harnessing its power to enhance physical, emotional, and relational health. Parental Guidance: Tips for educating ourselves and our daughters about the significance of our natural rhythms. This episode is packed with wisdom, compassion, and actionable advice for women and mothers looking to live a more balanced, intentional, and fulfilling life. SHOW NOTES: https://drsarahbren.com/222-cycle-syncing-restorative-practices-and-natural-rhythms-taking-a-holistic-approach-to-self-care-with-dr-jessica-plancich-shinners/ LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. JESSICA PLANCICH SHINNERS: www.fiercegraceconsulting.com GET JESSICA'S FREE CHART THAT SHE MENTIONS IN THE EPISODE: Cycle Syncing Workbook CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES: 🎧 The neuroscience of mindfulness with Dr. Dan Siegel 🎧 Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole Katz 🎧 Is fun the antidote to burnout with Dr. Mike Rucker