You Are Not Broken

Physicians get trained to be biased against overweight individuals - that doesn't help us feel great about ourselves which then can translate into the bedroom. I LOVE talking with Dr. Hart who a sexual medicine physician in Canada at https://www.sexualfunctionclinic.com Body positivity, mindset, myths about body size and sex The medical system and fat phobia – we are very judgy. You will “never be good enough to…” if you don’t change your mind. We discuss chasing “I thought I would be happy when” thoughts. “if you are having a sex life problem get help, don’t just assume it is your weight” We discuss black and white thinking when it comes to weight and hear Dr. Hart’s journey. “A sex therapist is always the answer” – but it isn’t always covered in Canada or the US – here are some tips if you can’t access a therapist. We discuss mindfulness, our ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) and the flaws in logic about our thinking about our body. “Body positivity is a journey, not a goal” “Muscles are associated with longevity and health – and they weigh a lot.”  “We can and should be healthy – we shouldn’t focus on the scale” --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We define what low sex and sexless marriages are We talk about two books that have the word "desire" in them. We talk about two papers discussing hormones and desire.  www.kellycaspersonmd.com to get on the email list to see when I go live! Reclaiming Desire Dr. Andrew Goldstein https://amzn.to/31VnArp Rekindling Desire Barry McCarthy https://amzn.to/3F80USX --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Sonia Wright joins me today to talk about your sex life. We talk about consent and safety. Adult play is supposed to be fun! What are your thoughts around kink? Different things turn different people on. We go over some definitions – sub and dom – and maybe be surprised who has the power in these roles. We talk about consent in a long term relationship – what is your reason for having sex “for you” sex described and how to start with pleasure If you don’t know what kind of sex you want, start with identifying what you don’t want. Tips for communication with your partner. What we can learn from the sub/dom/kink culture. And remember what the whole point is of all of this is – FUN! Connection! Growth! https://soniawrightmd.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-midlife-sex-coach-for-women-podcast/id1532337565 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is an IG live I did with Dr. Keira Barr, holistic dermatologist and expert in midlife transitions and hormones. We know good sex doesn't exist when we are stressed, anxious and full of cortisol and our sympathetic flight or fright nervous system, but what can we do about it? We talk about sleep, breathing, hormones, exercise and alcohol. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sex and hormones, sex and hormones, and life coaching. get on the email list to learn ahead of time when the lives are going to be recorded! www.kellycaspersonmd.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meet the Menopause Whisperer – Dr. Jim Simon My listeners want the truth!  And they are so hungry for it! Why did "we" scare everyone off of hormones, why are doctors so hesitant to be proactive on hormones.  What the "actual" risks of taking hormones are. Set me straight on "progestins" including progesterone and all the others Breast cancer and the Women’s Health Initiative – we get the facts about hormones and breast cancer risk. Hormones protect your heart and bones, especially between ages 50-60. The myth of “you need to stop hormones at a certain age” Risks of hormone therapy compared to other medications. How to get smart about hormones? In menopausal women, the risk of alcohol is higher than the risk of hormones. What men should know about menopause and menopause hormones. “Menopause is mid-life” Dr. Simon The role of testosterone in mid-age. How the “rules of the game” are stacked against women in regards to getting a FDA approved testosterone medicine for women. https://intimmedicine.com/ Article on prescribing testosterone for women: https://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/action/showPdf?pii=S1743-6095%2820%2930982-6 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome along with me and Dr. Laurie Mintz and a cohort of female physicians as we do a book club on her amazing book, “Becoming Cliterate” Why she wrote the book. Why the knowledge of female anatomy and pleasure keeps getting lost. Her new inspiration to educate young men.  And her informal poll on what the guys want. Learn who started researching the orgasm gap in the first place. How many different types of orgasms are possible and do they all come from the clitoris or from many different places – and why do we even care? The idea of “consent” when you have sex that you don’t really want to or do it as a “duty or obligation” Her wish for physicians to help their patients. Becoming Cliterate https://amzn.to/3n7nNyK A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex https://amzn.to/3n7nNyK --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Laurie Mintz is a feminist author, therapist, professor, and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives through the art and science of psychology. Background story - how she got into sexuality education and therapy? Everyone cares about a woman’s libido – but I want to ask – are women just having boring sex? Tell us the stats about orgasmic inequality and how this ties in to affecting a woman’s libido The orgasm gap is even worse for the hook up culture – can you tell us the data and why it is concerning. What is her opinion on scheduling sex? She talks about stress and overwork as top reasons for lowered sex life – my women say “oh yeah” but what should they actually do about it. She says that “empowerment in the bedroom leads to confidence in the boardroom” – please tell us more. In her “tired guide” book you say there is no pill for desire – that book was 2009 – now there is a pill and an injection – what are her thoughts about these? If someone asked me to re-do sex ed for our youth – I would include pleasure, vulvar anatomy, the lie that PIV causes orgasms for women – what would you add? I want to ask her about three women and hear her advice A 20 yo single, just starting out A 38 yo, married, kids, full time job – lost her libido, doesn’t enjoy sex A 58 yo, post menopause, kids out of the house, husband feels like a roomate What her opinion of us educators not being able to use or being afraid of saying certain words on Becoming Cliterate https://amzn.to/373dMe6 The Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex:  https://amzn.to/373dMe6 https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz https://amzn.to/3C9UelT --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed couples’ counselor and nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private practice in Seattle, WA. Over the course of her therapy career, she has focused almost exclusively on helping couples with their emotional and sexual intimacy. In her years of clinical experience, Zimmerman has treated hundreds of couples who have struggled to feel sexual desire and fulfillment. Her clients describe having a good relationship in other ways, but their sex life has become difficult to the point that they start to avoid sex. These are people who love each other but are struggling to have a sex life they both enjoy. She specializes in helping these couples who find that sex has become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 4 pillar experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life, guiding them to become easily intimate. How do you become “easily intimate”? How Hollywood messes us up. You have a video “no libido, no problem” tell us more Talk about how “low libido” is just desire discrepancy How can women be more engaged in sex? Top three mistakes of the lower desire person – believing you are broken, wanting partner to stop initiating, thinking that it is all or nothing How to create a sex life that has zero stress. “it’s neuroscience people, it’s okay” – Dr. C “Obligation is not sustainable” – Jessa Zimmerman Sex is a playground, not a football field Link to “Sex Without Stress: A couples guide to overcoming disappointment, avoidance and pressure” https://amzn.to/3vNPZda Instagram: www.instagram.com/intimacywithease Better Sex Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-sex/id1329973865 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Muscles and Menopause Advocate Amanda Thebe Fitness and women’s health expert Amanda Thebe went from barely surviving menopause to thriving, by making specific changes to her diet, exercise, and approach to mental health. I was following you on IG @amanda.thebe and you made a post about women and muscles, which I absolutely love! And here we are! And she was kind enough to send me her book, which I loved, and read and now I get to interview her! 1) Talk to me about your story – personal trainer to menopause advocate 2) Let’s talk about muscles 3) What’s with “balancing hormone” and “re-setting” hormones 4) She calls protein the “queen of food” 5) She says “being strong has transferred over to my everyday life” – discuss 6) You didn’t really scare me until “a woman’s risk of breaking a hip is as much as getting breast, uterine and ovarian cancer combined” – risk of death after a hip fracture is 21 % within a year after the fracture 7) Let’s talk about sleep tips in menopause – and how sex helps sleep amandathebe.com Get her book “Menopocalypse” https://amzn.to/2SA4hPJ “Estrogen Matters”  Avrum Bluming, MD and Carol Tavris PhD. https://amzn.to/38YjsHs --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices