

You Are Not Broken
Kelly Casperson, MD
Welcome to the podcast that rewrites everything you thought you knew about sex, hormones, and midlife. I help women—and the people who love them—reconnect with their bodies, their minds, and their partners through science, mindset, and a whole lot of humor. Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, rediscovering desire, or just curious what’s possible, this show will remind you: you are not broken. (No medical advice here, just truth bombs and good conversation.)
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Aug 27, 2023 • 57min
226. Sexual Health is an Equality Issue! – A Chat About Sex, Coaching and Hormones
Sexual Health is an Equality Issue! – A
Chat About Sex, Coaching and Menopause
This was a live chat that I did with Dr.
Ashley Winter. She is the Chief Medical Officer at Odela health!
We had a chat about my book and sexual health in general.
Is it true that women are “too complicated”?
Sexual Health is an Equality Issue
The clitoris doesn’t have a place in the traditional medical paradigm – Dr. Winter
We don’t teach people medically accurate language – so we can’t communicate with anyone and it ends up hurting you.
It is not informed consent if we don’t tell people that medications can cause sexual health issues.
Everyone needs to know about menopause.
The reason coaching really helps our sex lives.
The fallacy of “natural” and challenging the idea that natural is better.
We need to stop judging women for their decisions around hormones. We don’t judge men for being on testosterone.
The problem with the FDA label on vaginal estrogen.
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Aug 20, 2023 • 1h 5min
225. Boomers Should be Pissed: Menopause and Hormones in the Modern Era
Menopause and Hormones in the Modern Era AKA: Why the Boomers Should be Pissed
This is a lecture I gave for the Society of Women in Urology about hormones.
If you like this episode also check out number 197.
Genitourinary syndrome of menopause
Men at age 60 have more estrogen in their bodies then women
Why I don’t do a loading dose of vaginal estrogen.
The problem with the vaginal estrogen labeling by the FDA.
How the nation used estrogen prior to the Women’s Health Initiative Scare.
I explain why the WHI study was created and what question it was trying to answer.
Myth: you have to be a year without a period to be on hormones.
I break down the three concerns about progestin and breast cancer from the WHI
1) Was the placebo arm flawed
2) Was it the synthetic progestin and now we use bioidentical
3) Maybe progestin increases risk but it is small and perhaps benefits still outweigh
risk as breast cancer is so curable and all the other benefits are worth the
small increased risk
I discuss the “critical window” hypothesis and “healthy cell” hypothesis and why hormones are recommended to be started “early” in menopause which means less than ten years.
Why I think the Boomers should be pissed.
Vaginal estrogen for all and get an okay from your
Best practices
- If you have a uterus, with systemic estrogen you need a progestin
- You can continue hormones for life as long as your benefit > risks
- Vaginal bleeding after menopause is never normal
- If there is an FDA approved product use it instead of compounded
- Checking hormones is often not necessary
- One size does not fit all
What about hormones for prevention? On a national level the answer is no. But everyone needs their own analysis.
National guidelines on how to give testosterone to women for low desire.
Hormones: are we being equitable to all genders in regards to hormones.
NAMS 2022 guidelines: According to NAMS, “the benefits of hormone therapy outweigh the risks for most healthy symptomatic women who are aged younger than 60 years and within 10 years of menopause onset.” For women with primary ovarian insufficiency and premature or early menopause who are at higher risk of bone loss, heart disease, and cognitive or affective disorders, “hormone therapy can be used until at least the mean age of menopause unless there is a contraindication to its use.”
Where is the black box warning on alcohol?
What about lasers for GSM?
Where are we on removing the FDA black box warning on vaginal
estrogen?
My thoughts on online hormone companies.
Estrogen plays a role in the gut microbiome and may affect
the risk of osteoporosis.
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Aug 13, 2023 • 33min
224. The State of Sex Education - August Live Podcast
August Podcast Live – the state of sex ed
We are going to talk about Sex ed today in celebration of the Tex talk coming out!
https://femtechinsider.com/rescripted-sex-ed-report/
https://pleasurebetter.com/orgasm-statistics/
I answer a listener’s question about being stuck in a sexual script
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4035379/
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Aug 6, 2023 • 48min
223. BRCA Gene Previvor, Menopause Activist and Protector Against Corrosion – Monica Molenaar
BRCA Gene Previvor, Menopause Activist and Protector Against Corrosion – Monica Molenaar
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Monica Molenaar is a serial entrepreneur and an advocate for frank talk
and common-sense solutions around women’s health and wellness.
At the age of 40, Monica tested positive for the BRCA gene and elected to remove her ovaries prophylactically to reduce her risk of breast and ovarian cancers, thereby ending her natural production of estrogen and sending her into surgical menopause overnight. This began a multi-year journey trying to make sense of all the misinformation and lack of clarity around this phase of life. It was only after starting to
supplement with estrogen and progesterone that Monica found relief from the menopausal symptoms affecting her quality of life and was able to get back to work. She was inspired to start Alloy to make sure that other women entering menopause would have an easier time than she did accessing credible
information, doctors expert in menopause and women's health, effective and safe
solutions, and a supportive community.
What turned Monica into an estrogen
activist?
Why do you think it's important that women learn
more about their biology in order to take control of how they age?
Since when did it become ok to talk about sex
the way we are doing it now?
Alloy is combo menopause and sexual health – how did that
happen? – let’s talk about topical sildenafil
The stigma of testosterone in women
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Jul 30, 2023 • 1h 2min
222. Estrogen Matters with Dr. Avrum Bluming
Estrogen Matters with Dr. Avrum Bluming
Avrum Bluming received his MD from the Columbia College of
Physicians and Surgeons. He spent four years as a senior investigator for the National Cancer Institute.
He organized the first study of lumpectomy for the treatment
of breast cancer in Southern California in 1978, and for more than two decades he has been studying the benefits and risks of hormone replacement therapy administered to women with a history of breast cancer. Dr. Bluming has served as a clinical professor of medicine at USC and is the co-author of “Estrogen Matters: why taking hormones in menopause can improve women’s wellbeing and lengthen their lives – without raising the risk of breast cancer” with Dr. Carol Tavris.
Hear his story about how he became the advocate for hormones and hormones after breast cancer.
So many people think correlation = causation – case with E and breast cancer – just poor
education in our population?
“we don’t know what causes breast cancer” – can people handle a grey world?
Estrogen receptor positive doesn’t mean estrogen caused the cancer – discuss
Dispel the myth that early puberty and late menopause is a breast cancer risk – dogma – “lifetime exposure” – but women with lots of pregnancies have lower risk.
Should we just work on a re-brand? Go on HRT because if you do get breast cancer you will do better than if you weren’t on it?
How do aromatase inhibitors work? People call them “estrogen blockers” so people think estrogen causes cancer and recurrence.
Why only in post-menopausal women?
What’s with adipose tissue? People always say it is because adipose tissue increases estrogen – is it estrone ?? Or inflammation?
Doctors don’t want to be sued. Do you know of any doctor getting sued for giving hormones in general or after breast cancer?
If estrogen is FDA approved for prevention of osteoporosis – why did the USPSTF say no to prevention and why are we screening for osteoporosis so late (age 65?)
Do you agree with the USPSTF about no for prevention.
Your opinion of Progestin causing Breast cancer"
Is the placebo arm bad?
Is the risk not actually that high – from 2-4%
Is it the synthetic progestin?
Everyone’s talking about dementia now – Dr. Bluming’s take
There are 25 studies showing E is safe after breast cancer and 20 review studies– and the HABITS trial is the only one that shows local recurrence and is flawed – how many studies are enough?
Advice for younger physicians who care about this work?
Do you think the world is just crazy? How does Dr. Bluming cope?
We discuss the new Danish study in the British Medical Journal and dissect the data to dispel the fear.
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Jul 23, 2023 • 56min
221. Genitourinary Syndrome Of Menopause 101
Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause 101.
This is an interview I did with my friend and co-founder of a menopause clinic Alloy, Monica Molenaar.
Why I care about women and sex and hormones
The definition of menopause and how we aren’t educated about what menopause actually is and the symptoms that can arise
Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause
The types of bladder leakage and how
estrogen can help
The different types of estrogen –
vaginal and systemic
Why we need vaginal estrogen even when we are not sexually active
Why I have a cream bias with vaginal estrogen, and other options.
Vaginal estrogen will not help your hot flashes.
Myths about who can and can’t use
vaginal estrogen.
Biologic changes of the
skin of the vulva after menopause
How the clitoris works.
Scream Cream – what it is and does it work.
Favorite lubes and I explain why I like what I like
Gen X is the lowest users of vibrators in America
There are many papers showing transdermal estrogen does not increase your clot risk above what it already is.
I explain the Women’s Health Initiative study and how it hurt women by creating fear.
Vaginal estrogen is equivalent in efficacy to the common overactive bladder medications. Why not restore function instead of taking
the side effects of the overactive bladder medications?
When should you stop using
your seatbelt, sunscreen and vaginal estrogen?
Urinary tract infections put people in the hospital and kill them – this is not a hangnail.
Can estrogen alone help all pain with sex?
What do they new Menopause guidelines say about the window for starting systemic hormones and how long can you take them.
The role of androgens and testosterone in the genitals.
ACOG Position Statement of using vaginal estrogen in breast cancer patients
https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/clinical-consensus/articles/2021/12/treatment-of-urogenital-symptoms-in-individuals-with-a-history-of-estrogen-dependent-breast-cancer
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Jul 16, 2023 • 31min
220. Orgasmic vs. Hormonal "use it or lose it", Teen Sex Ed, PRP for ED, HPV jabs, Creating Desire, and more on July's Live Podcast
Welcome to July's Live Podcast
Orgasmic versus hormonal Use it or lose it
Studies on Teen Sex Ed, PRP for ED, HPV jabs, Creating Desire and more!
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Jul 9, 2023 • 49min
219. When Sex Hurts - With Dr. Krapf
When Sex Hurts – Dr. Krapf
Dr. Jill Krapf is a gynecologist specializing in
vulvovaginal disorders in Tampa, FL
Dr. Krapf is active in
research and has published chapters and peer-reviewed articles on vulvodynia, vulvar dermatoses, and hypoactive sexual desire disorder. She is Associate Editor for the Journal of Sexual Medicine, as well as for the textbook Female Sexual Pain Disorders, 2nd Edition.
Love Dr. Krapf? Check out my other
episodes #131 – National Lichen Sclerosis Day and #172 – Vulvar Itch
Why write a 2nd edition of
the book “When Sex Hurts”?
How common is pain with sex for women?
Often times with pain with sex there is
a physical cause, but you can’t always see it.
Pelvic pain and pain with sex is very
isolating and people feel very alone.
People don’t know how to talk about it.
What happens after the pain is fixed.
What does “all in your head” mean and
why people don’t like that.
“Those who perceive their partners as
kind and understanding report more intense pain than women whose partners have responses that promote adaptive coping.” – what! What is adaptive coping?
How to communicate your pain to your partner
and your doctor.
What if you are a partner of someone
with dyspareunia - - “best partner response is having a partner who engages in
what researches call facilitative responses – affection and encouragement to cope with the pain in an adaptive way, such as by focusing on pleasure, deep breathing or positive thoughts while experiencing the pain.”
We talk about stress, sex and the gut –
things like irritable bowel syndrome related to pain with sex?
The role of birth control pills and
pelvic pain and health. In her book, “When Sex Hurts” they talk about Yaz
(drospirenone) and pelvic pain – a prospective study of women’s genitals and sexual function prior to starting Yasmin – and then after three months-
decreased clitoris, decreased blood flow, decreased labia minora, decreased libido, fewer orgasms and more dyspareunia.
The role of testosterone in pelvic pain
– one study showing women with higher androgen levels have less work related neck and shoulder pain then women with low androgen and differing levels of Testosterone may explain some of the gender related differences in pain
perception
The difficulty in giving testosterone to women and the problem with pellets.
Recurrent Yeast Infections – Dr. Krapf helps
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Jul 2, 2023 • 1h 26min
218. The Best Sex Ed You Never Had
The Best Sex Ed You Never Had
We all got a sex education – it just wasn’t accurate.
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This was a talk I gave to medical doctors for a residency
program continuing education lecture.
Seasons of sexuality
Stress and sexuality
The importance of self-care in sexuality
Communication and sexuality
Sex as a skill that can be improved
Sexuality and gender equality
Stop Should-ing all over your sex life
If you got decent sex ed you were lucky
Sex is Complex – therefore so so interesting
Biopsychosocial
Your sexuality is not a fixed asset
Orgasms are good for us
Your biggest sex organ is your brain
Night shifts wreak your sexual function – any gender
Sex is dopamine, and we have cheaper dopamine in our current
society which competes with sex.
Defining heteronormativity
What Society tell us about sex (and is wrong about)
Pro tip: desire mismatch is normal
Pro tip: Why do you want to have sex? FEELINGS – list three
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If partnered: do you know theirs?
Orgasmic Inequality is real.
The Heteronormative Theory of Low Desire in Women Partnered
with Men
How Freud messed us up in regards to sex.
Do you actually “fall out of love” or does your brain
habituate and you are craving newness and dopamine?
Cognitive distractions are bad for good sex. Mindfulness and meditation can help.
How to improve sex as a skill
Relationship between sex and sexuality (sensuality) and ways to improve sex drive
How to have a balanced life, not put sexual health on the back burner
Stress effects on sexuality
Resources
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You are not broken book
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Becoming Cliterate
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Your body is not an apology
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Sex and Sexuality podcast
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How to find a sex therapist
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AAASECT.org
Take one action toward achieving a fulfilled life
Why does sex end when the male ejaculates?
The heteronormative definition of sex is not good for
anybody.
What we make lubrication mean.
How does your pelvic know that it is sexy time? Remember brain and pelvic arousal.
Our lack of ability to communicate to our partner’s about
why we want sex hurts us.
So many things about sex are aren’t actually about sex.
How to help post partum people and their partner’s
understand what is happening after birthing a baby. The biologic and psychosocial
component behind this
Even though we are not taught about sex, we are told things
about sex all the time.
Women: men didn’t get any more sex ed than we did….we have
to communicate our needs to them.
How to communicate about sex.
What does sensuality mean?
Don’t forget to desire things you already have.
What are your top three feelings you want to have during sex.
If you can’t turn off your frontal lobe you may have trouble with
orgasms.
Challenge your limiting beliefs about sex.
Figure out your obstacles to a good sex life – now you have the
pathway. The obstacles are the way.
Tips from people who have magnificent sex.
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Jun 25, 2023 • 26min
217. Medical Issues Of The Clitoris – 2023 Clitoris Summit Talk
This is my talk I gave at the 2023 Clitoris Summit
https://clitoris.io/summit2023
I discuss the bias that women’s sexual health is all in her
head.
We can’t neglect the “bio” part of all bodies.
9% of urologists in the United States are female – which is
about 1,000 surgeons.
Orgasms are good for us, but so often are considered “bonuses”
Don’t forget the “psychosocial” part of sexuality.
Clitoral Adhesions
Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause
Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder
What to do about blunted orgasms? New guidelines on female orgasm coming soon!
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