The Way You Show Up

What can make you happier in life? It isn't more money, fame, or success. It's not a perfect body, the best Instagram pictures, or the most followers on any social platform. It's none of the things that we go crazy trying to achieve on a day to day basis. What really can make us happier in our lives, is how grateful we are for what we have. To bring it a little closer to home, it's how grateful you are in your life with the things that you have that can ultimately make you happier. In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to be grateful and express gratitude.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow being grateful can make you more attractiveActivities to help you create an attitude of gratitudeHow to be joy-filled NOW, not later.Ep 036: The Science of Gratitude, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Stress isn't just a feeling you feel like you might feel sad or happy. Stress is actually the result of a hormonal change that occurs in your body, especially from cortisol. In today's episode, I am speaking with Christa Biegler, an award-winning dietitian nutritionist. Tune into this episode to gain insight into things you need to start changing immediately in order to decrease your stress, decrease the cortisol in your body, and decrease your inflammation in order to better your health.Today’s Speaker - Christa Biegler, RDN, CLTChrista Biegler is an award-winning dietitian nutritionist, online educator, and host of The Less Stressed Life podcast. She specializes in helping health-conscious high-performance women overcome bloating, fatigue and food reactions. She is also the owner of Eczemanutritionist.com and author of The Eczema Relief Diet & Cookbook. She helps listeners and clients with unique ways to improve the inflammation causing stressors we inevitably have in life by sharing science that enlightens and inspires. Website: https://www.christabiegler.com/You’ll LearnThe definition of stressHow to implement breath-work into your daily lifeThings that build stress resilienceFoods that help manage symptoms of stressIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 035: How to Live a Less-Stressed Life with Christa BieglerI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

How do you actually take the concept of working on your PIES into stride and start doing it? Today, I am interviewing Kelly, a member of one of my PIES University classes. Kelly has had a year and a half journey of working on her PIES. In this episode, Kelly shares with us what finding out about PIES meant to her, how she started working on her pies, and the difference it has made in her life to actually implement the PIES principles. Listen to hear what "working on your PIES" looked like for Kelly, how she has done it, and the amazing changes she has seen in herself and the changes others have seen in her.Today’s Speaker - Kelly FlintI am 48 years old from upstate New York (Western upstate actually to be more specific). I am a wife, a mom, an aunt, and the oldest of two brothers and a sister. I have raised two children that my husband and I adopted in 2005 they are now 19 and 21. I have been married for 28 years. I also love dogs they are my or have been my identity for many years. I raised for guiding eyes for the blind out of Yorktown heights New York for guide dogs and other service dogs they partner with. I currently have 5 working Labradors as either guide or other service. I have worked as a teaching assistant for 24 years at a local career and technical school. My focus has been working with 10th through 12th graders to learn a skill in order to enroll into the career and technical program. My current position is working more closely with academics teachers within our alternative education high school program on the campus. Some things about me: I am a ChristianEnjoy campingEnjoy watching moviesMotorcycle rider (yes I own my own bike)Belong to a Christian Motorcyclist Association Chapter Solid Rock Riders (secretary and Run for the Son NYS Lead)Love being with my familyHave been involved with many committees throughout the years as Secretary or ChairpersonEarrings are my downfallGot my first tattoo at age 46Have 2 yellow labradors that brighten my days, Eliza Mae and Parker JonYou’ll LearnHow to start working on your PIESHow to make changes within yourselfThat it is okay to take the time to work on youHow to be there for othersIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 034: PIES Success Story  with Kelly FlintI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

I used to think rest was for the lazy. What I ended up experiencing was burnout, adrenal fatigue, complete demotivation, and depression because I had overworked myself.Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith has identified 7 different types of rest of which we should be aware. In this PIEScast, she shares how rest in each of those areas works. As I was having this conversation with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, I had many "Aha" moments and started immediately making changes to how I was interacting with things in my daily life. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith shares her new book Sacred Rest and her key tips to recover your life, renew your energy, and restore your sanity. Take a listen to today's episode as I uncover some amazing things for you to know about rest in this conversation with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith.Today’s Speaker - Dr. Saundra Dalton-SmithDr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a Board-Certified internal medicine physician, speaker, and author. She is an international wellness expert featured in numerous media outlets including Prevention, MSNBC, Women’s Day, FOX, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and as a guest on Dr. Oz show. She is the author of numerous books including her new book Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity, including ground-breaking insight on the seven types of rest needed to optimize your productivity, increase your overall happiness, overcome burnout, and live your best life. Over 100,000 people have discovered their personal rest deficits using her free assessment at RestQuiz.com. Learn more about Dr. Saundra at IChooseMyBestLife.com and DrDaltonSmith.com.You’ll LearnThe 7 types of restHow to rest and rejuvenateHow to end burnoutIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 033: The 7 Types of Rest with Dr. Saundra Dalton-SmithI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

How would you describe a perfect day?What you think is a perfect day now and a perfect day 20 years from now probably have a lot of similarities. Both of them probably come down to the fact that you want more free time, more joy, less stress, and you want to be doing more of what you love doing and less of what you really don't enjoy doing.Right now you may be sacrificing your ideal day in order to obtain your ideal day 20 years from now. But what if you could have both now? In this episode, I am going to be talking about work-life balance, and how to get the life that you want 20 years from now today. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll Learn3 Keys to having work-life balanceHow to prioritize time in your dayHow to identify what mattersThe importance of disconnectingEp 032: 3 Keys to Actual Work Life Balance, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Are you feeling unhappy with your life? If you feel unmotivated or disheartened, this episode is for you. In today's podcast, learn the four key elements to creating a happier and healthier life.  Learn how to shape your actions and perspectives to align with your goals. Sometimes all that is needed is a change of perspective. Listen to this podcast to hear Dr. Pamela Hays share wisdom about cultivating a happy life.Today’s Speaker - Dr. Pamela HaysPamela Hays holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Hawaii, and served as a National Institute of Mental Health fellow at the University of Rochester School of Medicine, followed by 11 years on the graduate faculty of Antioch University Seattle. Her research has included work with Muslim women in North Africa, and Vietnamese, Lao, and Cambodian people in the U.S.  In 2000, she returned to her home community on the Kenai Peninsula of Alaska, where she lives in a town of 4,000 humans and several thousand moose. She has since worked with the local health center, for the Kenaitze Tribe’s Wellness Center, and in private practice. She conducts trainings for therapists and organizations nationally, and the American Psychological Association has produced videos of her work conducting therapy with clients. She is the author of several books including Connecting across Cultures: The Helper’s Toolkit, and Addressing Cultural Complexities in Practice. Her most recent book is Creating Well-Being: Four Steps to a Happier, Healthier Life.  Website:  www.DrPamelaHays.comYou’ll LearnThe four steps to a better well-beingHow to change your perspective to reach goalsHow to reframe what self-care means1 BONUS key to happinessIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 031: Four Steps To A Happier, Healthier Life with Dr. Pamela HaysI'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

How do you sleep the night before you are about to meet your children for the first time?The answer is... You don't.  We couldn't sleep because we knew our lives were about to fundamentally change. When we started our process of adoption, we had no idea the trials and tribulations we would face and the patience we would learn. It literally changed my life. Going through something your heart desperately wants and you have no control over is something that changed who I am now as a person. If you are in a season of waiting for something to happen that your heart is yearning for, and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, then this podcast is for you.I'm going to share my story of adoption, what my season of waiting looked like,  how I saw answers to my prayers, and how I grew into a better person through the grueling and treacherous process of waiting.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow to keep trials from stopping youHow to be sensitive to your callingHow to grow in seasons of waitingEp 030: In The Waiting (Our Story of Adoption), with Kimberly Beam Holmes.I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Lust kills love. Porn and sex addiction can wreak havoc in an intimate relationship and it can affect someone personally when they are entrenched in the addiction. In our culture, it can be easier to chase after lust than to find real love. In this podcast, Nate Larkin shares how he overcame his twenty-year struggle with sexual addiction. Even if you are not struggling with sex addiction, this podcast can help you know how to run free from feelings of guilt and shame.Today’s Speaker – Nate LarkinNate Larkin knows the pressure to live up to a public persona. He knows what it's like to have a secret that can destroy a career. He knows what it's like to quit. And He knows what it's like to find healing, deep friendships, and hope. Nate has a story that unfortunately too many people can relate with. He was the perfect role model growing up. Everything looked great on the outside. But inside Nate, a battle was raging. He married Allie on his graduation day and soon enrolled in Princeton Theological Seminary. He graduated from Princeton with a major in Preaching and was awarded the Preaching Prize. Within two years, Nate was the senior pastor for a new non-denominational church in South Florida. Observers saw a wise and godly man of God, dedicated to church and home. But Nate’s religious persona was crumbling from the inside out. After just five years in the ministry, Nate made the choice to quit. An obsession had developed into a virulent addiction to pornography and commercial sex. His decision to abandon vocational ministry was driven primarily by private despair about his moral failures and the fear of public exposure.Eventually, Nate and Allie moved to Franklin, TN. After years of praying, fasting, pleading, and repenting in private, Nate finally found help for his sex addiction—in the form of authentic friendship and the safety of a 12-step recovery group.  As he worked through the 12 steps, Nate began to see life differently. Nate finally understood why a 12-step group had accomplished what solitary prayer and fasting could not. God designed the Christian life as a team sport! As he began to live in this new model of Christianity, Nate’s circle of friends expanded to include a large group of men with different weaknesses, addicts and potential addicts of every description, united by a common faith and a need for real companionship.So in 2004, several of these friends formed a mutual aid society for Christian men called the Samson Society. Within the safety of the Samson Society, honest friendships have taken root and men are finding new power in their faith. Nate, who drafted the Society’s charter and designed its first meeting format, has written a book about his experiences entitled I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

There are smart and not so smart ways that you can communicate with the people in your life. Unfortunately, the majority of us end up defaulting to a type of communication style that only causes frustration, anger in relationships, and disillusion. These types of communication do not seek to clearly communicate and listen to identify core issues and move forward in the best way possible.Instead, learn how to communicate with people in your lives in a smart way. The principles of SMART Communication should be implemented in the important relationships in our lives in order for the best, most efficient communication possible. With SMART Communication, learn how to communicate clearly and effectively while strengthening your relationships. Join me today to learn about part 2 of smart communication.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhat SMART Communication isHow to have healthy communication in your relationshipsHow to move past feelings of contemptFind ways to connect better with people in your lifeEp 028: SMART Communication in Your Relationships: Part 2, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

You have probably seen many people communicate with others in a way that you thought, "Oh my goodness. This is a disaster."There are smart and not so smart ways that you can communicate with the people in your life. Unfortunately, the majority of us end up defaulting to a type of communication style that only causes frustration, anger in relationships, and disillusion. These types of communication do not seek to clearly communicate and listen to identify core issues and move forward in the best way possible.Instead, learn how to communicate with people in your lives in a smart way. The principles of SMART Communication should be implemented in the important relationships in our lives in order for the best, most efficient communication possible. With SMART Communication, learn how to communicate clearly and effectively while strengthening your relationships.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhat SMART Communication isHow to have healthy communication in your relationshipsHow to move past feelings of contemptFind ways to connect better with people in your lifeEp 027: SMART Communication in Your Relationships: Part 1, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.New episodes every Tuesday.Don't just exist. Show up.🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes