Sari Swears

This week's episode is a little different. Raw. Real. And one of the MOST powerful stories we've ever shared on the podcast. I sat down with the incredible Kim Valentine — a powerhouse trial attorney who went from being homeless… To someone who now walks into the courtroom fully expressed, fully embodied, and fully herself. 💖 Her story WILL move you. Because it's not just about becoming a lawyer. It's about becoming the version of yourself you were always meant to be — before the trauma, the chaos, and the noise told you otherwise. We talk about: 👉🏽 Why dissociation and success often go hand-in-hand 👉🏽 The grief no one warns you about when you start healing 👉🏽 Reclaiming your voice, your body, and your right to be seen Kim doesn't sugarcoat anything. She swears. She cries. She tells the truth. And by the end of this episode, you'll be reminded that you can rebuild too — no matter where you started. Tune in NOW! 🎧 Love, Sari 💖 Quote: "I used to think being strong meant not feeling anything. But the truth is, strength is being willing to feel everything — the grief, the shame, the regret — and still get back up. That's what makes you powerful in the courtroom. Not the performance. The presence." - Kim Valentine Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@SariDLM Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Welcome to the very first episode of Sari Swears — the podcast that FINALLY sounds like me, looks like me, and says the things I've ALWAYS wanted to say without editing myself down to fit in a box. We ditched the old name. Rebuilt the studio. And YES — there's a theme song now that SLAPS. This episode is the start of something completely new. 🚫 NO more staying in my lane. 🚫 NO more "shoulds." 🚫 NO more tone-policing myself so people don't get uncomfortable. And if you've been doing the same — shrinking to fit, waiting to be "ready," pretending not to be the badass you actually are — then this is YOUR episode too. Tune in NOW! 🎧 Love, Sari 💖 Quote: "I don't stay in my lane—and neither should you. Because guess what? There are no lanes. It's all made up. The rules, the expectations, the labels—they were never yours to begin with. So why the hell are you still playing by them?" —Sari de la Motte New theme song FULL Version Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@SariDLM Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

This week's episode is your blueprint for setting the bar (and the boundaries) before the case ever starts. We're talking SYSTEMS that protect your time, your team, and your peace. We're getting into: 💣 My 7+ Point Case Filter: the BS-proof checklist every case goes through 💣 Three-Strikes + Deal-Breakers Rules: no more back-and-forth with on-the-fence cases 💣 How to Redesign Mid-Case: reset expectations without burning the bridge 💣 Ideal Client + Case Profiles: filter out red flags before they pop up 💣 The Case-Slot Mindset: calendar space is currency — allocate, don't accommodate 💣 The Design Intake Conversation: save future-you (and your staff) from endless backtracking When you start designing your caseload on PURPOSE, you don't just avoid nightmare clients — you attract the right ones. The ones who energize you. The ones who remind you WHY you do what you do. And because your calendar should FUEL you, not FRY you. YOU are the gatekeeper. FUCKING OWN IT. — Sari 💖 Quote: "Three strikes and the case is out. For example: discord between heirs, geographic remoteness, and small damages—three issues, we decline. Deal breakers include clients who are rude to staff, hang up, or insist on speaking only to me. Lying is another: false heir status, hidden criminal history, faked POA. If I can't get a basic design of mutual respect, we're done. It's collaborative and democratic. Any attorney on the team can raise a red flag. If we reach three, we don't take the case—no debate. That clarity prevents 'I told you so' later." — Jody Moore * * * * JOIN US FOR COMMAND THE COURTROOM: 2-DAY IN-PERSON OPENING MASTERCLASS WITH SARI DE LA MOTTE * * * * 🗓️ Date: September 11th – 12th, 2025 👑 Train, LIVE, with Sari 📍Location: H2H Headquarters (Portland, OR) 💰 Investment: $10K - Expense it to your case! ONLY 12 SPOTS AVAILABLE *spots are filled on a first-come, first-served basis. Register here: https://sariswears.com/courtroom-master-class-opening/ Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Ever wonder what you're REALLY communicating in the courtroom? Your posture. Your tone. Your presence. It ALL lands with the jury LONG before your words do. This week, I'm talking about something I call Nonverbal Intelligence and WHY it's one of the most overlooked (and powerful) tools in your trial arsenal. Here's what we get into: 👉🏽 WHAT you're unconsciously broadcasting in court 👉🏽 HOW to actually see what you're doing (and shift it) 👉🏽 WHY awareness is the first step to showing up like a damn leader You don't have to be loud to lead… But you do have to be intentional. Tune in NOW! 🎧 Love, Sari 💖 Quote: "Most trial lawyers think if they just get the words right, they'll win. But your nonverbals are saying more than your opening ever could. The jury is watching how you walk, how you breathe, how you hold space and if you're not aware of what you're communicating, you're not in control of your message." —Sari de la Motte Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Your brain's job? To keep you safe. Your job? To lead anyway. Most of the fear you feel in trial is fake news — just recycled thoughts about losing, judgment, or not measuring up. But here's the kicker: Your thoughts aren't facts, and you can rewrite them. This week's episode hands you the tools to: 💣 Ditch the vague labels and call it what it is: dread? shame? rage? Name it to tame it. 💣 Sit in the suck and breathe. Stop numbing out and start showing up. 💣 Trade panic-fueled prep for power-fueled presence. Jurors can feel your shift from frantic to fierce. Confidence isn't something you find, it's something you create. 🎧 Listen now and learn to lead the jury like a force they can't ignore. And remember, your clients didn't hire FEAR.. THEY HIRED YOU. Time to show up, Sari 💖 Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

There's this quiet habit so many of you have… AND it's costing you in the courtroom. You're waiting. Waiting to be liked. Waiting to be approved of. Waiting for some signal that it's safe to lead. But here's the truth: Nobody hands you authority in that courtroom, you CLAIM it. In this episode, I'm diving into what I call the Permission Principle. So many of you are holding back without even realizing it. 📣 You don't need to be louder. 😇 You don't need to be nicer. 💸 You don't need to earn it. You just NEED to SHOW up like you already belong… BECAUSE YOU DO. Tune in NOW! 🎧 Love, Sari 💖 Quote: "You don't need the jury to approve of you before you lead them. You don't need to wait until you've earned the right to take up space. You are the authority in that courtroom — not because someone gave it to you, but because you showed up ready to lead." —Sari de la Motte Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Jurors DON'T need a show. They NEED a leader. In this week's episode, I'm handing you the entire back-of-house blueprint, so you can finally STOP faking confidence and START generating real influence — WITHOUT THE BURNOUT. Ditch the fear-based prep. Drop the performance act. And lead the hell out of your next trial. 🎧 Hit play. Your real influence starts BEFORE the opening. Love, Sari 💖 * * * * JOIN US FOR COMMAND THE COURTROOM: 2-DAY IN-PERSON VOIR DIRE MASTERCLASS WITH SARI DE LA MOTTE * * * * 🗓️ Date: July 24th - 25th, 2025 👑 Train, LIVE, with Sari 📍Location: H2H Headquarters (Portland, OR) 💰 Investment: $10K - Expense it to your case! ONLY 12 SPOTS AVAILABLE *spots are filled on a first-come, first-served basis. Register here: https://sariswears.com/courtroom-voir-dire-master-class/ ONLY 12 SPOTS AVAILABLE *spots are filled on a first-come, first-served basis. Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

People always ask me: "How do I get big verdicts using the H2H Method?" Well… this episode breaks it down. No fluff. Just the real, step-by-step story of how I used H2H to help secure an 8-figure verdict in a REAL case. From the very FIRST consult to the moment the jury DELIVERED the verdict — this is exactly what went down. In this episode, I walk you through: 👉🏽 What I focused on FIRST (before strategy, before storytelling) 👉🏽 The moment we THREW the closing in the trash (and what we did instead) 👉🏽 How we MADE the jury feel — not just think 👉🏽 Why "we don't win cases, jurors do" has NEVER been more TRUE If you've ever wanted a behind-the-scenes look at how the H2H Method plays out in the wild, this is it. You're closer than you think. Tune in NOW! 🎧 Love, Sari Quote: "We didn't win because we had the perfect theme or the flashiest visuals. We won because we trusted the jury. We built a story that made them feel something, we showed up as our full selves, and then we got the hell out of the way. That's the work. That's H2H." —Sari de la Motte Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Waiting to feel confident before stepping into court is like waiting to get in shape BEFORE hitting the gym. Cute idea, but that's not how this works. PLEASE, for the love of voir dire: ❌ STOP rehearsing defeat. ❌ STOP letting fear run your case. ❌ STOP pretending some "big name" lawyer is better for your case than you are. 🎧 Push past panic, polish your prep, and prove you've got what it takes — because you already do. Your clients hired YOU. Don't you forget that. 🎧 Hit play now. Love, Sari 💖 Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Let's be real… life's heavy right now. Trial? Even heavier. So I'm bringing back one of MY favorite episodes… Because we could all use a reminder that joy is part of the job 💖 Yep, I said it: If you're not having fun at trial, you're doing it wrong. ⚖️ Trial is serious. 💗 Trial is emotional. 🎢 Trial is a rollercoaster. But most importantly… It SHOULD be fun too! You can be a badass in the courtroom and have a good time doing it. It does NOT have to be one or the other. Come back to what made you love this work in the first place. Love, Sari 💖 Quote: "When I say have fun at trial, I don't mean act like it's a joke. I mean be in it—fully. Let yourself feel the fear, the pride, the anger, the joy. That's what fun really is. It's not clowning around. It's being alive in the courtroom." — Sari de la Motte Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/