Shameless Leadership

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is an author, speaker, and board-certified physician. She has an active medical practice in Alabama (near the Birmingham area). Dr. Dalton-Smith is a national and international media resource on the mind, body, spirit connection and has been featured in Women's Day, Redbook, and First For Women magazine. She is the author of Set Free to Live and Come Empty (winner 2016 Golden Scroll Nonfiction Book of the Year and 2016 Illumination Award Gold medalist). She is a member of the Christian Medical and Dental Association and a repeat keynote speaker at their annual gathering. She has shared her tips on merging faith and medicine with over 16,000 health care professionals to encourage the current and next generation of doctors to treat the whole person.I wanted to Dr. Saundra to come on the show to talk about her new book Sacred Rest. This is a really eye-opening conversation that provides a ton of insight into 7 different types of rest and why each is important. Dr. Saundra’s work goes much deeper than just the need for sleep. I think this conversation will be just the permission you might need to incorporate more types of rest (and joy!) into your daily life.Listen in to hear Saundra share: How ⅔ of the population is sleep deprived The truth behind highly functional, high producing women (hint: low joy, low quality of life) The difference between sleep and rest and why you need both The 7 types of rest - sleep is only 50% one of the types! How to use flow break cycles to have the work rest ratio to recover the energy you need to have energy during all waking hours How to have rest periods even in the midst of family/kid chaos, as well as model rest to your kids Links mentioned:Quiz: Rest QuizWebsite: I Choose My Best LifeBook: I Choose My Best LifeTwitter Handle: @DrDaltonSmithFacebook Page: Dr. Saundra Dalton – SmithInstagram: @DrDaltonSmithPinterest: @DrDaltonSmithThank you to our sponsors:Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger.KiwiCo.: Visit KiwiCo and get your first crate free!My Intent: Go to My Intent and use code SHAMELESSMOM for 30% off until May 31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lack of true connection in our lives is a verified epidemic - meaning there are actual studies that show that we (women especially) are feeling more isolated, lonely, and depressed than ever before. The most beautiful I have witnessed since starting the Shameless Mom Academy is the connection between so many of you. It started in our free private Facebook group. It carried over into our MOMENTUM Mamas membership community, and it was the most magical part of Shameless Mom Con.Connection with other women is what saves us from ourselves. Yet, we often really struggle to find connections that are true and deep and meaningful.In this episode, I share 6 symptoms of lack of connection - everything from jealousy to low worth, to holding on to secrets. Then I walk you through 6 ways you can implement and integrate more conscientious connections in your life. Lastly, I give you 5 ways to take the first step toward more meaningful connections starting today.If you feel like you need to find “your people”, this episode is for you. Links Mentioned:Save $50 on my Bubbles & Blueprints WorkshopGet on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Wait ListThank you to our sponsors:Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout.Free fly apparel: You can get 20% off when you visit Free Fly Apparel and use promo code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bonnie Mae is a Shameless Mom to two sons ages 10 and 12, as well as a survivor and warrior of an abusive relationship that spanned 10 years. She has a passion for advocating for the needs and safety of her children as well as herself. She has an associates degree in human services. She used to think she wasn’t using putting her degree to good use - until recently. She recently took the bold, brave steps to become an educator and speaker to youth and young adults - teaching around all issues related to domestic violence. She teaches the warning signs of abusive behavior, offers advice on how to safely get out of abusive relationships, and coaches around the impact of abuse on one’s life.  She speaks at various organizations, as well as middle and high schools.Bonnie reached out to me a few months ago when I said I wanted to broach the subject of domestic violence on the show. I’m deeply honored that she took the brave step to share her story and her lessons with us all. Her story will have ripple effects that she will never see - that may well save lives of other Shameless Moms.Listen in to hear Bonnie share: How she internalized emotional abuse and believed she as worthless as her husband told her she was Why she stayed with an abusive partner for 7 years - and how abusers manipulate their victims Her rock bottom moment and how she finally got her kids and herself safely out of her husband’s grip The steps leading up to her terminating her ex-husband’s parental rights How she talks to her kids about their family’s abusive past The impactful new direction her past is giving to her current life Her top recommendation to women currently in abusive relationships Resources mentioned: Connect with Bonnie on Instagram Connect with Bonnie on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Open Fit: Join the Open-fit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Open-fit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Cheers: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Swanky Badger: You can go create your own personalized Father’s Day gift today by going to swanky badger dot com, forward slash SHAMELESS and you’ll get 10% off your first purchase. That’s Swanky Badger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the themes I’ve been seeing repeatedly in our community recently is around feeling stuck in roles that feel out of alignment with our core values. This shows up in our jobs when we see that companies we work for don’t truly stand behind their mission statements.This happens in our families when we see our siblings, parents or in-laws not acting in high integrity. This happens in our friendships when we see the women around us judging and gossiping and putting other women down.This is hard to watch and even harder to be a part of when we feel we are right in the middle of it all.  It often feels like a massive breach of our own integrity - which feels confusing and really conflicting. I want to challenge you to step back from these situations for a moment to get a better view of what’s going on and consider the ways you can RISE UP when you’re in the middle of situations which feel our of integrity and out of alignment with your personal and professional core values. Here are 7 ways to start to RISE UP in work and life: Position yourself as a leader Unapologetically own your strengths, gifts, and ZOG Unapologetically own what you suck at Know what you stand for Know what you don’t stand for Know the difference between tattling and documenting/reporting Be humble and gracious, while still standing in your power (rather than shrinking in gratitude) Listen in to this full episode to hear the deep dive on these 7 techniques. Links Mentioned:Get on the WaitList for Shameless Mom Con 2020Thank you to our sponsors: Katie the Cookie Bee: Katie the Cookie Bee Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Bioclarity: So go to Bioclarity and get 40% off skincare routines PLUS an additional 15% off EVERYTHING on their website when you use my code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I had the honor of talking to two powerful leaders who love to talk politics - even though they are on opposite sides of many issues. If you struggle to have compassionate conversations around politics with friends & family who have differing beliefs and belief systems, this conversation will be really eye-opening and helpful. Sarah Stewart Holland (from the left) has always loved politics, although her political opinionshave changed drastically over the years. She worked in politics and on Capitol Hill beforemoving back to her hometown of Paducah, KY, where she served on the PaducahCity Commission. She is happily married and the mother of three sons. Sarah likes her bourbonon ice, her romantic dramas with a British accent and her iPhone fully charged.Beth Silvers (from the right) owns and operates Checking In with Beth Silvers, a life andbusiness coaching practice. She has been recognized as one of Ohio’s Most Powerful andInfluential Women by the Ohio Diversity Council, a Human Resources GameChanger byWorkforce Magazine, and one of Cincinnati’s Forty Under 40 business leaders. Beth lives inUnion with her husband, Chad; daughters Jane (8) and Ellen (3), and miniature schnauzer, Lucy. She loves people, politics, poetry, and watermelon.Listen in to hear Beth and Sarah share: The typically strongest values on the right vs the left How your family of origin impacts your politics The power of observing vs judging The value of getting curious instead of confrontational The power of acknowledging and addressing shared concerns and shared values Why people of privilege need to have the uncomfortable conversations How to navigate difficult conversations with grace Why it’s important for moms to be politically engaged Links mentioned: Podcast: Pantsuit Politics Get Sarah and Beth’s Book: I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening): A Guide To Grace Filled Political Conversations Book: The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt Instagram - Pantsuit Politics Pantsuit Politics Twitter Pantsuit Politics Facebook Twitter - Pantsuit Politics Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Rothy's: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shameless Mom Con was last weekend and the power, momentum, and magic that came out of 3 days of Shameless Mom togetherness is enough to light my life - like forever. I had no idea how overwhelmingly powerful this event would be until it started. And from the moment it started - when 30 MOMENTUM Mamas descended on my hotel suite, shortly followed by another 20+ Shameless Moms - it was very clear that this was going to be a life-changing few days. Within our first 10 minutes together I felt like we were all long lost friends - and maybe we were??? Maybe we had all been looking for each other for a very long time. I know many of you could not attend the event, so I wanted to bring some of Shameless Mom Con to you. In this episode, I’m going to share some highlights from the event, as well as share 6 major Shameless Mom Con takeaways with you. These 6 takeaways have the potential to shift your life in big ways. Take notes!Links mentioned:Get on the Shameless Mom Con 2020 Waitlist shameless Mom Con.Thank you to our sponsors: AVA: Ladies, it’s finally time to understand your body. Visit avawomen.com to learn more. You can receive $20 off your order by going to AVA and using my code SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Susie Pettit has been helping women live lives they love for over 10 years. She is the host of the podcast Love Your Life Show and owner of the Wellness Company Strength: Mind & Body, LLC. She is a certified Life + Wellness Coach and a mom of 3 teenage sons.Susie is passionate about helping women live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. She spent more than half her life living a life she did not love; as a people pleaser, codependent perfectionist, trying desperately to win an award for ‘Martyr of the Year’.Luckily she hit rock bottom and now has the breadth of experience to teach first hand about setting healthy boundaries, beating your inner critic, conscious parenting, and how to use mindfulness-based tools to beat overwhelm and anxiety. She uses two foundational frameworks: Her 5 Pillars of Wellness and the Thought Model.Listen in to hear Susie share: Being raised by my controlling and manipulative parents and building a life based on their standards, not her own identity How she stopped looking for external validation All her worst fears came true, she hit rock bottom, and she rose from the ashes How people pleasers are actually people deceivers The thought-model around the think-feel-act loop that gives you control in the most challenging moments in your life and how to use the “power pause” Why having no contact with her parents and siblings is the most loving relationship she can have with them How to increase your emotional intelligence and emotional literacy How to get out of your own way during challenging communication with others When you should treat your parents like toddlers - yes, really... Links Mentioned: Connect with Susie Susie’s Podcast: Love Your Life Show Sara’s interview on Susie’s show: Love Your Life Show com: 10 Day Consciousness Cleanse use the code SHAMELESS to get 50% off Check out Susie’s Thought Model Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace. Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get your first week free and show your support for this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I talk a *lot* about perfectionism and how it shows up for me. The more I talk about it the more I hear you all saying, “ME TOO!!!” If you tend to be a perfectionist and or high achiever and/or Type A kinda gal, this episode will speak to you. It might even scream at you…There are three BIG mistakes that I see perfectionist/high achiever/Type A women make over and over. These are mistakes that we make even when we think we’ve overcome our perfectionism. I mean, let’s be honest, we’re all works in progress and old habits DIE HARD. Here are the 3 BIG mistakes I see a lot of us (yep, including me) make over and over: We’re constantly waiting for the “right time” to take action in our life We listen to fear instead of embracing resistance We don’t give ourselves space & grace we truly need to evolve If any of this speaks to you - this episode is a must listen. Make sure to let me know how this conversation landed for you. I always love hearing from you!Thank you to our sponsors: Openfit: Join the Openfit 30 day challenge and get a special extended 30 day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, my listeners get a 3-piece cleaning set from Mrs. Meyer’s spring scents, a free 60-day VIP membership, and a surprise bonus gift just for you when you sign up and place an order of $20 or more. Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and Shameless Mom, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. They are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress.Kate recently birthed her second book into the world, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms.  I’m telling you, you need this book in your life. Kate’s name has been on my 2019 Dream Guest List - and as luck would have it, her team reached out to me before we got around to reaching out to her. When I told her about this, she said, “Oh yeah! That’s called egg wisdom.” To which I replied, “Huh?!?” She told me all about egg wisdom later in the interview and it was simply fascinating. Kate is going to open your mind up in a few new directions today and I can’t wait to hear how this resonates with you. Definitely let me know!Listen in to hear Kate share: Why it pays to pay more attention to your period and how to tap into the ways it gives you renewed energy and productivity How to tap into your “egg wisdom” to attract more of what you want without working harder How mother’s brains are rewired and how to use this to your advantage The power of doing less to accomplish more Links mentioned: Kate's Instagram Facebook Youtube Kate's new book, Do Less Kate’s Podcast: The Kate & Mike Show Thank you to our sponsors: Hylands: For more information about Hylands, visit Hylands. Cheers Health: Visit Cheers Health and Enter promo code SHAMELESS at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dear Perfectionist Friend,I SEE you.I see you stuck in your mess. I see you holding all those dreams, but crippled by analysis paralysis every time you think about taking the next step. I see you waiting until just the right time to take the next right step - yet never actually finding just the right time. I see you wanting more and feeling nervous, sometimes even terrified, about going after more. I see you worrying about what others might think if you flop. I see you anxiously stuffing your dreams into deep hiding places because you think you might fail. If you want to know how I can see you so clearly, it’s because I AM you. I know what it’s like to desire perfection so deeply you cannot make a decision or take any action - because... FEAR. I know what it’s like to spend inordinate amounts of mental energy on a decision because you think making the wrong decision could ruin everything.I know what it’s like to stay stuck in your head full of worry and doubt, while parading through the world with a big cheesy grin that screams, “I’m fine. I’m even better than fine. I’m GREAT. #EVERYDAMNDAY. SO GREAT!” - but actually, feel not great at all. Probably the most valuable lesson I’ve learned in motherhood and entrepreneurship is that perfect sucks. In fact, perfect is paralyzing. And imperfect action is ridiculously liberating. If you fancy yourself a perfectionistic kinda gal, this episode will open your eyes in all the best ways. Listen in - maybe more than once. And take notes on the beautiful, life-changing gifts of imperfect action.Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices