Shameless Leadership

It’s ok if you’re tired.Over the last I have had many conversations with clients and colleagues and loved ones who are just tired. We are tired of being home with everyone everyday. We are tired of shifts and changes to job status. We are tired of constantly worrying about health and safety around COVID. We are tired of adapting to uncertainty and unpredictability. We are tired of distance learning (bless our teachers!). We are tired of having no personal time or personal space. We are tired of politics. We are tired of social media. We are tired of feeling disillusioned. We are tired of trying to just get through it. The just get throughedness of 2020 is wiping us out, if we’re being honest. I’m giving you permission to OWN & HONOR your fatigue.You should feel tired. Bone tired. But, in spite of your fatigue, you do have to keep going. Listen in to hear 8 ways you can own, honor, and even recover a little from your fatigue.Links mentioned:Get updates about our upcoming Gratitude Challenge: shamelessmom.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stefanie Wilder-Taylor a Shameless Mom of 3, the author of 5 books, and the host of 3 podcasts. She has also been a stand up comic, a writer on various TV shows, and the host of the NickMom show, Parental Discretion. When she’s not hosting one of her 3 podcasts (For Crying Out Loud, Bored AF, and Rose Pricks), she’s teaching writing classes to people like ME! Stefanie co-hosts her podcast For Crying Out Loud with Lynette Carolla. Their show was the first “parenting” podcast I ever listened to. I have not missed an episode in 5+ years. Stefanie and Lynette and so brilliant and so funny. Stefanie has been on my Dream Guest List for years, so I’m fired up to finally have her here with us. Listen in to hear Stefanie share: The power of writing and sharing your stories in order to own your truth and do your own therapy How she managed postpartum life with Postpartum Depression and no mom friends/mom network Why she decided to leave home at a young age to parent herself How her worry about her child being depressed opened the door to her child coming out as transgender How to decide what stories to tell and how to consider who you might offend Why we might have to stop watching Real Housewives Why you might want to consider being the parent who doesn’t email your kids’ teachers Links mentioned: Podcast: For Crying Out Loud Podcast: Bored AF Podcast: Rosepricks Come to Stefanie’s Virtual Storytelling Show (I’m one of the story tellers!) on Friday, October 23rd Get the free replay of my Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop: email us at info@shamelessmom.com Thank you to our sponsors: com: To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit Care.com/SHAMELESSMOM Orgain: Go to tryorgain.com/SHAMELESS for 20% off your first order PLUS extra savings when you subscribe!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a huge difference between being connected and actually connecting. Most of us are very connected. We are constantly tapped into social media, news outlets, our inboxes, TV shows, games & apps on our phone, and online shopping. So many opportunities to be connected each day, right?! How are these connections making you feel? Being connected in so many places and spaces that don’t allow for deep connection and vulnerability with other humans can leave us feeling drained, exhausted, frustrated, hopeless, powerless, depressed, and anxious. Being so constantly connected can instill self doubt, fear, and anger. Being constantly connected can feel so constricting.On the other hand, actually connecting in deep and meaningful relationships feels restorative, regenerative, freeing and joy filled. Meaningful connecting can instill hope and power and gratitude. This feels expansive instead of constricting. Connecting positive impacts our physical, mental, and emotional health. YES!Can you see the difference between being connected vs actually connecting? It’s pretty profound. Listen in to learn how you can spend less time being connected and more time actually connecting. Links mentioned:Get the free replay of my Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop: email us at info@shamelessmom.comThank you to our sponsor: Cove: Go to withcove.com/shamelessmom for 50% off your first month of medication and free two day shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra Owensby is running for the Congressional seat in Kentucky's 4th district. In addition to that, she's working at her local hospital during the pandemic. After leaving an abusive marriage, Dr. Owensby put herself through nursing school as a full-time single mother of two, utilizing student loans. While working the night shift to make childcare more affordable, she was able to minimize time away from her children. After graduating and earning her RN S\status, Alexandra obtained a position as an ICU nurse. Though still struggling to make ends meet with a salary below $40,000.00 annually, she was able to make it with assistance from the Children’s Health Insurance Program, due to their zero-dollar co-pays for medicine, dental care, and clinic visits. Dr. Owensby believes strongly that this type of Healthcare is what all American families deserve access to. Alexandra’s journey through hardship and the American education system has inspired her to run for Congress as Kentucky’s 4th District Representative. She is not a politician born into money, nor is she a millionaire business owner looking to boost her image. Dr. Alexandra Owensby’s story is the spark that moves an average American citizen to ask for the opportunity to lead in a city where most do not. Listen in to hear Alexandra share: What inspired her to get involved in politics after being in the medical field The unexpected gifts of running for political office (and why you should do it) How moms are always dropping multiple balls and why it’s totally ok Why being a single mom who put herself through school to get multiple degrees makes her uniquely qualified to be a congresswoman How you can coach your kids to be more resilient during COVID Links mentioned:Connect with and learn more about Alexandra: Alexandra Owensby Thank you to our sponsor: Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As a mom, mentor, and voice for the community, Kelly takes pride in standing with those who are fighting for a better, more compassionate world.Kelly and her husband Steve live on a farm in McDonough, GA with their two elementary age children, two horses, one pony, three donkeys, three dogs, and four cats. Their home is Kelly’s favorite place to spend time with any spare moment usually spent out in the barn visiting with her animals.Together Steve and Kelly own and operate a successful local business, Studio 48, an acting studio on McDonough’s Square. Independently they each are still working in their longstanding careers in the television and film industry, Kelly as a Post Production Producer and Steve an actor.In taking this step to run for Senate District 17, Kelly hopes she can inspire the next generation to get involved and prove that you do not need a specific background or look a certain way to take an active role in politics. Kelly believes that as laws are made for us it is now time to show everyone they can be made by us.Listen in to hear Kelly share: Why she decided to run for Senate after moving from CA to GA The trigger around women’s rights that pushed her to go all in on her Senate run The impact of her campaign and activism and hate mail on her family How she handled it when her male colleague told her she should “tone it down” if she wanted to win What it’s like to run for office as a progressive in a traditionally conservative district How we can restore trust in politicians after such a massive erosion of trust over the last handful of years How she’s allowing herself to take imperfect action while parenting and running for office Links mentioned: Connect with and learn more about Kelly: Kelly Rose Kelly on IG & Twitter: Kelly Rose and Kelly Rose Kelly on FB: @kellyrose4GA   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have to tell you something scary... In September 2020, 865,000 women left the work force.  In September 2020, 216,000 men left the work force. When women are leaving the work force at 4 times the rate of men, big things are bound to happen.   There will be fewer women in corporate leadership. There will be fewer female voices at board room tables and around any meeting tables. There will be fewer women to advocate for women's rights in the office. There will be fewer women to point out inequities across the board in corporate culture.   Let's be honest, the inequities work in men's favor, so it's unlikely they will highlight them and change them with fewer women at the office. I'm afraid it will be quite the opposite.   While this is scary - really scary - I also have a lot of hope.  Because I know that many of the women who walked away from traditional/corporate jobs in September are not ready to walk away from their power & purpose. They are just shifting it.   I predict a massive shift in the way women lead over the next few years. Instead of trying to hold space in someone else's company and live by someone else's rules that just don't fly if you're homeschooling/distance learning in a pandemic, we will see women build their own companies.   I am SO HERE FOR THIS.   Let's BUILD THOSE COMPANIES.  Listen in for inspiration to get bold & brave in order to BUILD. Links mentioned:Join my final (free) workshop of 2020, Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop: shamelessmom.com/tenacious Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Deborah Porter is the ultimate list maker, system creator, and investigator of anything that will make things run smoother at home and in life. From new mom to working mom to at home mom to empty nester, she's seen it all. Deborah has been married to her college sweetheart, Clif for 30 years and they have 3 adult children, Chanel (NY), Christian (NY), and Clif (DC). During the early years, she worked hard at not losing sight of her purpose and goals beyond motherhood. Having systems in place allowed her to make room for herself in every phase of life. Deborah believes that motherhood may be the only job you put your absolute all into, knowing that the goal is to work yourself out of that job and provide your children with all they need to successfully launch into their future. Deborah is a Mom Coach with Moms Mentoring Circle where we believe mothering doesn't have to happen alone.Listen in to hear Deborah share: The hope she is seeing in young during this cultural revolution - especially among her own adult children What it was like to meet her father for the first time at age 21 Why she decided to forgive her father and the gifts that came of their relationship as a result What is the biggest foe of forgiveness (naked vulnerability) How you can lean into forgiveness to expand your perspective into order to move forward in your life The 3 gifts you can give your kids to launch them into adulthood The ultimate goal of parenting The importance of collaboration over comparison Her 2 powerful universal messages for moms Links mentioned: Join my Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop Connect with Deborah Moms Mentoring Circles on Facebook Moms Mentoring Circles on IG Deborah on Facebook Deborah’s FB Group: Habits of a Confident Mom TED talk: Melody Hobson - Color Blind or Color Brave?   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I don’t need to tell you there is a lot of noise right now.So. Much. Noise.I want to encourage you (while I’m also encouraging myself, lol) to step back from the noise to become a better critical thinker. It’s easy to let the high emotions of this election season (and the pandemic and the cultural revolution) cause us to react in knee jerk ways. But that is not effective or productive. Instead of knee jerk reactions, the best gift we can give ourselves and those who might benefit from the value of our voice, is to LISTEN. Rather than adding to the noise, listen for a moment before you speak. And then, when you do speak, speak in a way that creates space for others to listen and be in conversation with you. Speak with well formulated thoughts that can actually have impact. Speak with your authentic voice that will allow others to learn and grow with you.And after you speak, sit back and restore your head and your heart in order to get back to listening. Listen in to hear me walk you through this 3 part process LISTEN-SPEAK-RESTORE to see how you can escape the noise, add value to the conversations that matter, and sustain this climate that is bound to remain heavy and heated for quite some time.Your voice has value. Become a better critical thinker to use it to the very best of your ability.Links mentioned: Join my Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop Podcast: First Name Basis    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Becky Mollenkamp is a certified coach who believes everyone deserves to feel powerful and fulfilled. She owned a six-figure content marketing agency for a dozen years before becoming a coach in 2017. Through her one-on-one services and courses, Becky has coached thousands of women to dream and play bigger, while also finding contentment in the here and now. Learn more about Becky at beckymollenkamp.com.Becky joined me on the show to talk about how her life fell apart at the hands of her brother’s death from addiction and her own infidelity, and how she picked up all the pieces to rebuild a life that brings her simplicity, joy, and peace.Listen in to hear Becky share: How she looks on her brothers death from addiction with gratitude How she came to forgive herself for her brothers death and for infidelity in her marriage How she actively worked through the 12 steps of AA/NA to work through layers of forgiveness How she rebuilt her life after everything fell apart and how she clarified what she wanted every step of the way How you can make empowered choices without falling into the “should” trap The contrast of her picture perfect (fancy) life that didn’t fulfill her vs her life today How she gives herself permission to not love all the parts of parenting Links mentioned: Join my FREE Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop LinkedIn: Becky Mollenkamp Facebook: The Gutsy Boss Instagram: Becky Mollenkamp YouTube: Becky Mollenkamp Thank you to our sponsors: BetterHelp: Special offer for listeners: get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/shameless    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I found myself gutted the moment I heard.I felt a familiar sinking feeling wash over my entire body. It was the same feeling I had on that fateful day after the election in November of 2016.I texted a girlfriend: Omg. RBG.She replied: I kind of feel like the world is ending.I felt the same. A few minutes later, I saw this RBG quote on social media, "I would like to be remembered as someone who used whatever talent she had to do her work to the very best of her ability." I texted this quote to my friend and said: This is giving me solace. I feel like we are doing this. She replied: That is true and a good reminder.I've spent the last week reflecting on the gifts RBG gave us. Here are 3 lessons she taught us that will serve as my inspiration to keep working to the best of my ability #everydamnday. I am sharing them with you in hopes they will inspire your life and your legacy, as well. Speak up loud and proud - even when (especially when) you have an unpopular opinion. Trust that your voice has value. Be persistent. We have a massive responsibility to SHOW UP right now. We need to show up for this election season like we have never shown up before. Black lives, women’s rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and the health of our planet are all in imminent danger right now. The loss of RBG and the implications on the Supreme Court and the future of our country are monumental, to say the least.Listen in to get inspired and fired up to SHOW UP and SHINE for the next 6 weeks. Links mentioned:Join my FREE Tenacious Mamas Business & Leadership Workshop   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices