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For the entire month of June, I have been talking about how you might be getting in your own way, why you might be getting in your own way, and how procrastination & perfectionism are keeping you stuck. This week we will wrap up the month by talking about 5 steps you can take to get out of your own way.Look, we all get stuck. We all struggle with self doubt, analysis paralysis, and perfectionism from time to time. We overthink, over worry, over research, and over plan because we want to do things well - we want to make the BEST choices or make the BEST decision. When we are stuck, sometimes we cannot see our way out. We cannot see the next step. This can feel scary and stifling and can even shut us down completely.Today, I’m going to share 5 steps you can take to get out of your own way and stop staying stuck. These simple strategies are tools that will get you moving and KEEP you moving as you take action in the direction of your dreams. I’m delighted to be wrapping up the first month of my Summer Series. In month 2 (July), we will dive into a new theme: Retrain Your Brain. You definitely don’t want to miss this content! Link mentioned:Help us help you by filling out the Shameless Summer Survey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Irina Gonzalez is a Latina, bisexual, sober Shameless Mom. She is also an editor & freelance writer covering parenting, recovery, and Latinx culture. Currently, she is the Content Marketing Manager at Tempest, a membership program that empowers you to live alcohol-free. She is also the creator of the Pandemic Mama podcast, which brings you real conversations about having a baby during COVID-19 times. Her work has appeared in over 50 publications, including The Washington Post, O! The Oprah Magazine, Parents, and more. She is a new resident of Denver, where she lives with her husband, spunky toddler, and their fur babies.I recently heard an interview my dear friend Laura Cathcart Robbins did with Irina and I immediately knew I wanted to ask Irina to join me in the Shameless Mom Academy. She is brilliant in so many ways and extremely generous in the ways she shares her stories. I think this conversation will open your eyes and inspire you to look at some of your coping skills to assess what’s working and what’s not - and what coping mechanisms might help you the most.Listen in to hear Irina share: Why balance is a “damn bad idea” How she’s juggling being back at work full time, caring for her 14 month old, and finding a sense of self The unique intersections of her identities as a Latina, bisexual, sober, mother and writer Her journey into sobriety The labels of “alcoholic” vs “alcohol use disorder” Why the 12 step recovery framework doesn’t resonate with her How moms are not being supported by Mommy Wine Culture The connections she made between her alcohol use and anxiety 8 coping mechanisms she’s using to deal with anxiety and managing her mental health in a pandemic How she’s taking pride in “showing up as who I am and being vocal about it!” Links mentioned: Download my free Shameless Motivational Coloring Book Connect with Irina Irina’s Podcast: Pandemic Mama Book: Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker Book: Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker Podcast: Forever 35 Irina on Instagram and here Thank you to our sponsor: Thrive: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to com/ThriveCausemetics.com/shameless for 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A couple years ago, I had a major AHA. I was reading Jon Acuff’s book, FINISHED, and he was talking about perfectionism and the connection between perfectionism and procrastination. Society tells you that procrastination is a sign of laziness or a lack of commitment. Society makes procrastinators feel like crap. But Jon pointed out that procrastination can often be a form of perfectionism. We already know that perfectionism keeps us in our own way - BIG TIME. It prevents us from starting and even more so from finishing.  Same with procrastination. We often procrastinate because we are spinning in perfectionism:What is the next right step?Should I go with option A or option B?What if I can’t finish?What if I can’t even start?What if I fail and other people judge me?What if, what if, what if????Any of this sound familiar? All of this month, we are talking about getting out of your own way. Perfectionism is a huge way that we get in our own way and procrastination is often a major symptom of perfectionism. Listen in to learn more about how perfectionism and procrastination might be keeping you super stuck in your own way.Links mentioned:Download my free Shameless Motivational Coloring Book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laura Cathcart Robbins is an author, writer, podcast host, mother of Miles and Justin, Hon’s GF, dedicated inclusionist, disruptor, thought leader, ally, volunteer, storyteller, public speaker, and often the only one in the room.She is also a freelance culture writer and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room, living in Studio City, California. Her recent articles in HuffPo and The Temper on the subjects of race, recovery, and divorce have garnered her worldwide acclaim. She currently sits on the advisory boards of the San Diego Writer’s Festival and the Outliers HQ podcast Festival.This is a super special conversation from inside the Shameless Mom Con Collective. I invited Laura to come have a conversation with me about sharing women's stories, as we have collectively shared hundreds and hundred of womens’ stories over the last few years. The power of sharing our stories is so significant and I knew Laura would have a lot of insight into this. I hope this conversation inspires you to share your stories in the spaces you feel safe to do so. Listen in to hear us share: What inspired us to start making space for other women’s stories What we’ve learned after sharing hundreds of women's stories over the last few years Some of our favorite stories that we’ve shared on our podcasts Why we are all more powerful when we start sharing our stories How to create safe spaces for women to share stories Links mentioned: Download my free Shameless Motivational Coloring Book Podcast: The Only One In The Room Connect with Laura: theonlyonepod.com Thank you to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless12 and use code shameless12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! Happy Dance: Right now, SHAMELESS listeners get 15% off their first Happy Dance order. But only when you go to Doahappydance.com/SHAMELESS. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week we kicked off our June theme, Get Out Of Your Own Way, discussing 7 ways you might be getting in your own way. This week we are digging deeper to explore WHY you might be getting in your own way. The WHY matters! If you can recognize why you’re getting in your own way, you will have the power to see patterns and threads that you likely repeat throughout your life - likely keeping you feeling stuck at times.In this episode, we will dig into everything from social conditioning to self limiting beliefs to self doubt to trauma - all of which can play a major role in keeping you stuck. In looking inward at your WHY, you will begin to see how you can heal some of these patterns and start to build new, more functional patterns - which will ultimately propel you forward. Links Mentioned:Download my free motivational coloring book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Known for her raw, honest, and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality, Elizabeth DiAlto specializes in helping women embody self love, healing, wholeness, and liberation. Her body of work has evolved out of 12+ years of experience across several fields including: Fitness, Self-Help, Wellness, Spirituality, Coaching, Personal Development, and Healing -- the last seven of which she’s spent helping women untame themselves.Everything she does is also informed by her own healing and education around embodiment, energy medicine, self love, collective liberation, boundaries, body image, trauma, healthy relationships, and identity. Elizabeth is the creator of Wild Soul Movement and the Wild Soul Archetypes Quiz, founder of The Institute for EMBODIED Living, and host of the EMBODIED podcast - which has been downloaded over 3 million times.I’ve known Elizabeth for over 10 years. Watching the evolution of her work has been incredible. She shares her growth in such beautiful ways - that allow you to grow within her. You’re going to love this conversation.Listen in to hear Elizabeth share: The importance of listening inward to gain self knowledge and expand your perception of what you think you’re capable of The energetic exchange that is an archetype Why learning about your Wild Soul Archetype will help you lean more into who you already are but might not be able to see yet The importance of healing, wholeness and liberation for all moms Her 5 part framework for self love Why it’s important and LIBERATING to identify what you suck at Specific practices to get grounded and get out of your mind and into your body Links mentioned: Connect with Elizabeth Take the Wild Soul Archetype Quiz Listen to Elizabeth’s Podcast: Embodied Download the Embodiment Bible: Embodiment Bible Elizabeth on Instagram Elizabeth on YouTube Elizabeth on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Lovevery: Free shipping at lovevery.com/shamelessand use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Ana Luisa: Go treat yourself and your loved ones and use my code SHAMELESS to get 10% off at https://www.analuisa.com/shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

EEEK!! This is the first week of our Summer Series: Lead Like A Mother! Every Monday this summer, I will be sharing content around how to help you lead in bigger, bolder, braver ways.For the month of June, we will be talking about how to get out of your own way. We will kick this off by talking through 7 ways you might be getting in your own way. From playing small to getting stuck in analysis paralysis to being the gatekeeper of all.the.things., we all get in our own way - on the regular. This episode will open your eyes to the ways you consciously and unconsciously get in your own way - which will be the first step in starting to GET OUT of your own way. Let’s dig in! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stephannie Weikert is a Certified Yoga Therapist who teaches smart, capable men and women to manage stress with some of the most fundamental, yet little-known principles of yoga.She’s been teaching therapeutic yoga for stress in studios, hospitals, businesses, and with her 1:1 students since 2005. And now she’s on a mission to make meaningful personal growth doable and practical with her signature Make Peace with Stress method so more people can get unstuck from patterns of stress and be more present, calm, and confident—all without becoming a die-hard yogi.When not mentoring people who struggle with stress, Stephannie can usually be found under a pile of books or working on writing her first book about how to take charge of your chaotic mind and focus on what’s really important to you.I asked Stephannie to come on the show to talk about how she helps people manage stress, but also to share her own stories around mental health and sexuality that have guided her coaching over the years. Listen in to hear Stephannie share: How compartmentalizing different parts of our lives leads to hiding and shame How she used numbing habits (esp drugs & alcohol) to cope How her compartmentalization led her to struggling with Trichotillomania to the point of pulling out all of her eyelashes and eyebrows The moment when she finally and truly saw herself and decided to start to change her habits How she was able to create an entire new set of coping skills that served her throughout her life How her she noticed shifts in her sexuality in her forties and how she responded How we all have a inner compass that is exactly right How to use self study, surrender and intention setting to manage stress and your life Why you should pay more attention to discomfort and stress - and what it’s trying to signal The gifts of yoga that carry over into all areas of life Links mentioned: Connect with Stephannie Stephannie on Instagram Stephannie on LinkedIN Stephannie on Facebook Thank you to our sponsor: Gemmist: Go to Gemmist.com to get your personalized recommendation and enter SHAMELESS at checkout for 20% off and free 2-day shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is your summer planned all around your child(ren)’s fun? When I look at everything we have planned for the summer, it’s clear that this summer (like all summers) is the Summer of Vinnie. Camps, camping, beach trips - all for the kiddo!And what about YOU?What are you planning for your summer fun? If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I’m a big fan of Summer Bucket Lists. Every year, we create a family summer bucket list that includes all the fun family activities we want to pack into the summer. AND THEN, I create my own Summer Bucket List - the things I want to do just for me this summer. Some of these things are small, some a bit more luxurious and indulgent.It’s funny that whenever I sit down to create my Summer Bucket List, I have to think through, “What is even fun for me anymore???” If you’re like me, this episode is for you. Join me to tap into how to make fun for yourself this summer. I promise you won’t regret it.Let’s make Summer 2021 one for the books, shall we? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sabrina Torres stands out in a crowd. With her unique point of view about the power of organic growth, engaging content, bold colors, and coffee (lots and lots of coffee), she started Be Truly Social, a social media marketing and sales company that helps business owners around the globe by making their social media pop in a busy online world. From her home in Nashville, Tennessee where she lives with her soon-to-be wife Jen and four children with autism, she puts her caffeinated energy to good use for her clients who range from solo startups to multi-million dollar organizations. They, together, also own a boutique ecommerce site, Great Democracy Tees.I’ve been following Sabrina online for awhile now and as I’ve seen her share different layers of her story, I knew I wanted to have her as a guest on the podcast. She is a force and a giver. She is going to open your heart and mind as you hear her story about coming out and leaving her marriage in order to become more fully who she has always been.Listen in to hear Sabrina share: Her process of coming out as a pastor’s wife How she’s coparenting with her wife-to-be, Jenn, and Jenn’s ex husband, all under one roof How she discovered she was gay and decided to leave her marriage The losses she experienced with coming out Why she thinks she would not be alive if she had not met Jenn and the dangers of denying one’s sexual orientation What it’s like parenting 4 children on the autism spectrum How her children's disabilities inspired her to become an entrepreneur Her lack of fear around sharing her identities around her sexual orientation and race vs her fear around building her sex toy business Why she’s so passionate about her new sex toy business Links mentioned: Connect with Sabrina Sabrina’s tee shirt company Boxx Bar on Instagram Sabrina on Instagram Sabrina on LinkedIn: @sabrinasocial Thank you to our sponsor:Gemmist: Go to Gemmist.com to get your personalized recommendation and enter SHAMELESS at checkout for 20% off and free 2-day shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices