Shameless Leadership

Julie Lewis, a 38-­year AIDS survivor, was infected with HIV in 1984 but not diagnosed until the early 1990s when she was given three to five years to live. After years of silence about her disease, she found an unlikely community of friends to fight alongside and began using her story to make a difference. Her experiences as a woman living with AIDS offers insights about grief and loss, caregiving, spirituality and the importance of community in the midst of tragedy.In 2020, Julie completed her 30/30 Project in celebration of her 30 years of living with AIDS. This resulted in 30 new healthcare facilities serving women, girls, and families in 9 countries. These facilities have allowed for over 715,000 patient visits, 127,000 HIV tests, and the safe delivery of over 9,000 babies.  Jenny Koenig is a writer and Grammy Nominated Music Video Producer. She’s passionate about channeling her creativity into ways to raise money for nonprofits, including the 30/30 Project. She was a co-creator and Executive Producer for All in WA: A Concert for COVID Relief, which raised over $110 million for COVID related causes. She’s learning how to juggle life as a new mom to her 6 month old daughter. Jenny is a longtime friend of Julie Lewis and jumped at the chance to help her tell her story.Listen in to hear Julie and Jenny share: What it was like to receive her HIV diagnosis as a mom of a 2, 4, and 6 year old - and be given only 3-5 years to live Her decision to tell her 6 year old, Ryan, about her HIV status - knowing full well that he would not be able to keep the family secret How Ryan shared Julie’s status and broke the seal on “going public” with her status What it was like to feel like she was parenting on borrowed time  The moment when she realized she had lived to see all the things she thought she would never get to experience The reality of Julie’s survivor guilt as she has outlived so many friends from the AIDS community The African women and moms who inspired her 30/30 Project to build 30 hospitals for 18 organizations across 9 countries The sweet, unlikely, and incredibly special friendship of Julie and Jenny (Julie’s daughter’s college roommate) Links mentioned: Connect with Julie and Jenny Book: Still Positive Still Positive on IG Support the 30/30 Project The 30/30 Project on IG Julie on IG Jenny on IG We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I want to tell you that I’m a few steps ahead of you and I don’t ever compare myself to others. But that would be a bold faced lie.  The truth is, I do compare myself to others. Sometimes I even get angry when I see others who seem to have it all, or folks who seem to have all the good things just randomly and effortlessly fall into their laps out of nowhere.  But, here’s the thing. At the wise(ish) age of 47, I’m starting to know better. I know to always look past the surface. I know things are never as picture perfect as they seem for others. When I find myself spinning in the that “she has it all and you don’t” inner talk, I have to catch myself and (loudly) remind myself:  That’s not true. This lie is holding you back. In this episode, I talk you through 5 Ways to Get Out of the Mom Comparison Trap in order to see your own power in every instance, acknowledge what is true and what is NOT, and ultimately find more mental ease as you navigate a world that will always present you with picture perfect aspirations.  Link mentioned:Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and wellbeing of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am bringing you this short form podcast, a mini-sode if you will, as a part of a mini-series. If you love this 3rd shorty episode each week, please let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts, dropping a comment, or DMing me. If I get great feedback from you, I might just continue sharing a 3rd ep each week :)ONE SHAMELESS THING is created with one thing in mind - to give you ONE thing - just ONE thing - to make today a better day. My purpose is to give you the hope, optimism, and POWER you need to make today whatever you want to make it - even if life is throwing you one curveball after another. This week I am giving you ONE SHAMELESS THING to Release Self Doubt. Enjoy. And know that I am in this with you. Always. Link mentioned:Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and well-being of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

May 9th was National Fentanyl Awareness Day. When past SMA guest, Brenda Zane, reached out to ask if we could have a conversation to raise awareness around this day, I knew I had to say yes. Talking about drugs, especially fentanyl, is scary and uncomfortable for sure. But if this conversation can help one family or save one child it’s well worth it.  Brenda Zane is a family advocate, certified parent coach & facilitator with The Partnership to End Addiction, host of the podcast Hopestream, and founder of a nonprofit organization, Hopestream Community. She’s passionate about serving parents of kids who struggle with substance misuse and mental health. Brenda's oldest son struggled with an addiction to a high-risk lifestyle and illicit drugs for over 5 years. After nearly losing him to multiple fentanyl overdoses, Brenda left her marketing career to serve other families dealing with the fear, confusion, and feelings of helplessness of having a child who's misusing drugs or alcohol.Listen in to hear Brenda share:  How her teen son overdosing on fentanyl twice in 3 days in 2017 informed her work today The 3 things you need to know about fentanyl as a parent Myths and truths about fentanyl and its various forms Where kids are quickly and easily getting pills online How to talk to your kids about fentanyl and what age to start the conversation How to keep open communication with your kids about drugs over the years The connection between neurodiversities and addiction What to do if you’re worried your child might be experimenting with drugs Links mentioned: Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and well-being of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com Connect with Brenda and her community: www.hopestreamcommunity.org Podcast: Hopestream Brenda on SMA Episode 454: Parenting Your Teen Through Addiction Book: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you feel like you are carrying a lot all the time, you are. The mental load of motherhood is so much. Too much.  You become somewhat numb to it over time. You don’t realize you’re chronically tired, overwhelmed, anxious and emotionally drained because it feels normal. Because it is normal, sadly.  This is motherhood. That feeling that you don't recognize yourself, you can’t remember who you were before kids and you’re not sure who you’ll be when the kids no longer need you? Normal.  The whiplash from the rapid changing of hats from mom to professional to family project manager to community caregiver that has your head spinning? Normal. The realization that you’re always making trade-offs that come at a cost to your time, energy, and joy? Normal.  I’m not saying this to make you feel worse - only to point out how normal this is. You are not alone.  What if in acknowledging all of this, you could see that change is necessary and possible?  In this episode, we talk through 4 ways you can navigate the mental load of motherhood in order to find more mental ease, more joy, and more comfort in your daily life. Links mentioned: Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and well-being of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com Other SMA episodes about the mental load of motherhood: Ep 305: 4 Ways to Manage the Mental Load of Motherhood  Ep 411: How to Create More Mental Space in Motherhood We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to ONE SHAMELESS THING! I am bringing you this short form podcast, a minisode if you will, as a part of a mini-series. If you love this 3rd shorty episode each week, please let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts, dropping a comment, or DMing me. If I get great feedback from you, I might just continue sharing a 3rd ep each week :)ONE SHAMELESS THING is created with one thing in mind - to give you ONE thing - just ONE thing - to make today a better day. My purpose is to give you the hope, optimism, and POWER you need to make today whatever you want to make it - even if life is throwing you one curveball after another. This week I am giving you ONE SHAMELESS THING to Practice Forgiveness. Enjoy. And know that I am in this with you. Always. Link mentioned:Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and well-being of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Amy Conrad is a board-certified pediatrician, founder of Kinder Digital Pediatric Clinic, host of Ask Doctor Amy (Youtube, podcast), anthropologist, and believer in good information that empowers modern parents to raise healthy kids. As a working mom, she understands the struggle parents face today with an overabundance of conflicting information. Instead of adding to the noise, Dr. Amy cuts through the clutter to pave a more natural, instinctive path to parenting by putting the focus back on the child and family.Dr. Amy and I had a fantastic conversation about how to support your child’s physical and mental health.  Listen in to hear Amy share: 3 things parents can do to give their kids a healthy foundation in life The importance of modeling health, not just preaching health The significance of modeling imperfection - that it’s ok and normal to be imperfect in your habits How to help your kids make positive choices around their physical & mental health as they get a little older How we can nurture our kids’ mental health and give them the “anchors” they need to feel supported and connected The current culture of parenting in Western culture and how we can choose from a variety of options and alternatives rather than accepting the Western culture status quo What modern working parents need to support their kids in a society that offers them so little time & resources to support  The importance of your child having multiple attachment figures Links mentioned: Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and well-being of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com Connect with Dr. Amy: Askdoctoramy.com Dr. Amy on Youtube: @askdoctoramy  Dr. Amy on IG Dr. Amy on LinkedIn Podcast: Ask Doctor Amy  Book: Hold Onto Your Kids by Gabor Mate and Dr. Gordon Neufeld Book: Bringing up Bebe We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For 750 episodes (750!!!) I have been preaching to you about shining.  “STOP SHRINKING and START SHINING”, I have said over and over again.  Today, I want to acknowledge there is a cost to the shining if we don’t keep an eye out for our own physical, mental and emotional regulation and restoration. We need to give ourselves time and space to rest and recover after we run all over town shining like a mother.  What does shining look like to you? Perhaps something like this: Trying something new that is physically, mentally or emotionally taxing Stepping into a new level of visibility or exposure in your community or work Being vulnerable in front of your peers Having a hard conversation  Doing something you’re scared of Showing up for intense work Holding space for others When you challenge yourself to show up and SHINE in any of these ways, it’s equally important to show up and REST afterward. Today, we talk through 4 ways you can recover from your extra bright, shiny (and awesome) endeavors, so you can keep going without burning out on shining.  Link mentioned:Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and wellbeing of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tanmeet Sethi, MD, is a board-certified Integrative Family Medicine physician who has spent the last 25 years on the frontlines locally and globally practicing primary care and trauma work with the most marginalized communities. As a mother, she has received the impossible news that her youngest son has a fatal degenerative disease. She weaves together the expertise of both acquired knowledge with lived experience and translates them accessibly through the blend of ancient spiritual traditions and modern neuroscience. She is trained in Psychedelic Medicine, Integrative and Functional Medicine, and is a clinical researcher of psilocybin at the University of Washington.Tanmeet and I had such a fantastic conversation here that we immediately scheduled a time to meet in person following this interview. A couple of weeks ago, I got to go on a walk with her and her dog (who is the cutest thing in the world - don’t tell Piper). It was such a fun and inspiring conversation that brought me so much JOY. Tanmeet radiates joy in so many ways and I’m so grateful to call her a new friend.If you’re in Seattle, please come meet Tanmeet, Ijeoma Oluo, and me in person at her book launch at Elliott Bay Books on May 3, 2023.Listen in to hear Tanmeet share: How she came to embrace joy as an act of resistance and self-identify as a Joy Activist  How she has navigated mothering her son, Zubin, who was diagnosed with a fatal degenerative disease at age 3 The expansiveness of joy vs the narrow path of suffering The important difference between happiness and joy What her joy practice looks like when every day she sees there is something new to lose as her son’s condition worsens How to fight against whitewashed wellness (“looking on the bright side” or “finding the silver lining" and how this dampens our power) How to show up for people in your life who are going through grief - and things to avoid saying The role of our nervous system in joy How can we all step into joy activism and make your joy revolution your own Links mentioned: Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and well-being of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com Meet Tanmeet, Ijeoma Oluo (and me!) at Tanmeet’s Book Launch on May 3rd: https://www.elliottbaybook.com/events/20230503 Connect with Tanmeet: www.tanmeetsethimd.com Tanmeet’s Book: Joy is my Justice Tanmeet on IG Tanmeet on FB We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if you could carry around all the hard things you’ve done in your life as little stones of courage in your purse/backpack/fanny pack/back pocket?What if you could hold the hard things you have endured in reverence as a means of honoring how they have informed who you have become up to this date in time?What if you could see the hard things you have achieved as proof and evidence of all the incredible things you are capable of from this day forward?I want to invite you to collect hard things as proof, as evidence, as defining moments, as resume builders that give you power each and every day as you step into all the possibilities that are stretched out ahead of you.In this episode, I talk about what it means to “collect hard things” and all the benefits of collecting hard things when it comes to building resiliency, tenacity, and self-trust.  Link mentioned:Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and wellbeing of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsorInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices