Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn

As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts.  From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship? For more on this topic Listen: ADHD and dating Listen: Is it love or is it dopamine? For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy.  Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything. For more on this topic Listen: Managing expectations in relationships Read: How to Keep House While Drowning (KC’s book) For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you! We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD.  For more on this topic Listen: Analysis paralysis Read: ADHD and analysis paralysis For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause.Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating.For more on this topic: Listen: ADHD and hormonesRead: A guide to hormones and ADHDRead: ADHD and periodsExplore: The Menopause SocietyFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Monica Johnson, clinical psychologist and ADHD specialist, offers clinical insight into rumination and mood spirals. She explains why ADHD fuels overthinking and how to tell productive thinking from stuck loops. Short, practical strategies are discussed, including values-driven action, brain dumps, timers, and physical disruptions to interrupt thought cycles.

In this engaging discussion, Jessamyn, a producer and recurring contributor, shares her insights on navigating the chaos of ADHD in relationships and work. They dive into Reddit stories about workplace panic lies and the weight of emotional spirals. Jessamyn reflects on how pattern recognition can lead to lingering resentment in marriages. The duo offers practical tips for preventing future mistakes, like establishing systems and holding regular emotional check-ins, all while recommending helpful resources for fairness at home.

This discussion dives into the challenges of sensory overload during intimacy, particularly for those with ADHD. Cate provides actionable tips for communicating sensory needs to partners and suggests practical solutions like white noise and quiet intimacy styles. She then explores the hyperfocus cycle, explaining its potential downsides and how it can lead to neglecting essential needs. Emphasizing self-compassion, Cate shares strategies for managing momentum anxiety and safely transitioning from focused work. Tune in for relatable insights and expert advice!

We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence. For more on this topic: Listen: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetenceWatch: ADHD and people-pleasingRead: What IS weaponized incompetence?Timestamps:(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnoutFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Ari Tuckman, a psychologist and ADHD expert, joins for a lively discussion on impulsivity and intimacy. They explore how ADHD influences sexual decision-making, detailing the risks of saying yes too quickly. The conversation dives into consent, emotional regulation, and how vulnerability can lead to regret. Tuckman emphasizes self-compassion and the importance of learning from experiences. Strategies for managing impulsivity and fostering curiosity in relationships are highlighted, making this a thought-provoking listen for anyone navigating love and desire.

The holidays are here — and so is all the food, family, and sensory overload that can come with them. Host Cate Osborn sits down with Aleta Storch, dietitian, nutritionist, ADHD expert, and founder of Wise Heart Nutrition, to talk about food and ADHD. They cover what disordered eating looks like (and how it’s different from a diagnosed eating disorder), why sensory sensitivities can make meals stressful, and what it’s like not to be believed when you say you don’t want to eat something. Plus, the dopamine rush of holiday treats — and how to navigate it all with more compassion and understanding.(Note: This episode does not dive deeply into diagnosed eating disorders — we’ll have another episode in the future focused entirely on that topic.)For more on this topic: The National Eating Disorders AssociationADHD and eatingUnderstood.org’s “Neurodiversity and the Holidays” surveyAleta’s website, www.wiseheartnutrition.comAleta’s Instagram, @the_adhd_rdTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(02:05) Aleta’s personal story with ADHD and eating(05:48) What’s the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating? (07:46) What about ADHD can affect our relationship with food? (13:39) Sensory challenges and food(18:11) The consequences of ignoring our own needs(20:12) Good food practices to support ourselves and the neurodivergent people in our lives(26:23) Aleta’s parting advice for the holidays(28:23) Outro and creditsFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.