The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Welcome to the podcast. In case you're new here, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host. Before we jump in, I am going to ask for your help. We have been really lucky to get some amazing guests, and I have a whole list of dream guests that I would love to invite. Experts that are in psychology, trauma therapy, spirituality, but also high profile guests like in sports, movies, and other podcasts. But in order to get certain guests, we need to have a significant following and a lot of 5 star reviews. It's the first thing they look at. So if you could take a moment to either leave a review on Apple Podcasts if that's how you're listening, or just follow me on Instagram @arlinaallen it would then allow me to get a better response rate. Or shoot, if there's someone you know who would be a great guest, you can reach out to me on IG for that too. Reach out to me anyway and say hi! I would love to hear from you! And as always, there are several free resources at soberlifeschool.com including the newsletter where you can get episodes delivered right to your email inbox. Today I'm speaking with Bob Stark. He is a combat vet, an author, a family man, a person in long term recovery. Bob shares his story of growing up without a Father, his Mother's multiple marriages, and the one that altered his identity and how all of this set the stage for substance use disorder. That along with 2 tours in Afghanistan and the inevitable resulting PTSD, took him down a dark path. His mother would warn him that it looked a lot like his grandfather's path who was a vietnam vet and died tragically young of cirrhosis of the liver. He's going to share how he was able to heal from PTSD through yoga, meditation, writing and the 12 steps. I liked Bob immediately when I met him and I love how he has transformed his life. I know you will too. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, with Bob! Connect with Bob here: Website: https://secretgardenalaska.org

"I think when we get in that victim space, like it makes so much sense and certainly some people have had such horrific experiences, I can see why they would feel that way. But the truth is, that only holds you in that place." Jason VanRuler Today I'm speaking with Jason VanRuler. He is a licensed therapist, Coach, Speaker and Author of "Get Past Your Past, How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection". I had so much fun talking with Jason, he's actually really funny, but we also covered a lot of ground in terms of finding practical solutions to the challenges a lot of us face in recovery. We're going to talk about why we replicate our family of origin, how to forgive your parents, and how to build confidence. We also talk about relationship dynamics and how to move from dysfunctional roles like being the rescuer, the victim, or the bully to being the coach, the survivor and the encourager. The framework is actually very practical and can shift your perspective very quickly. There were so many gems in this conversation, I know you'll walk away with something you can apply to your life today. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Jason and please feel free to reach out to me on social media, and let me know what you think! Be Sure to Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!

Hi Friend, Welcome to the podcast. In case you're new here, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host. This episode is brought to you by Sobriety Reset, an online, self paced 30 Day Bootcamp designed to help you get through your first 30 days of living alcohol-free. Using evidence based practices, you will learn the skills you need to not only reduce cravings for alcohol but tackle all the challenges that come with developing a new lifestyle that you can feel proud of. Challenges like how to handle social situations, changing relationships, dealing with the root cause issues that may be compelling you to drink in the first place, and so much more! So if Dry January is proving to be harder than you thought check out sobrietyreset.com. Give it a try and if you are not fully satisfied you can get a full refund, no questions asked. Today I'm speaking with Samantha Lander. She is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, Certified Personal Trainer, and Holistic Lifestyle Coach. Samantha has a pretty incredible story. She shares how she started using drugs and alcohol in her teens like a lot of us do, but also how she endured domestic violence, addiction and ultimately prison. We talked about the unlikely path she's taken to pull herself up out of her former lifestyle and into a life that she loves, helping others to heal their bodies through functional nutrition. I really appreciate Samantha for her transparency, vulnerability, and her ability to help her clients achieve their goals. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Samantha Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!

Welcome to the podcast. In case you're new here, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host. I think this episode is a long time in coming. Today I'm talking with Jake White, a young man who has dedicated his life to talking with kids about prevention. And he does it in a way that is fun, inspiring and he's actually reaching the kids he's speaking to! Jake is the co-founder of Vive18, an author and podcast host of Party Talk- Where they focus on empowering leaders in youth drug prevention and he travels around the country talking with kids about how to have fun without drugs and alcohol. We're going to talk about the stresses kids face today, what inspires them and Jake's unique and effective strategies to keep kids off drugs, even before they start. But before we jump in, I want to share some of the resources I have to support you on your sober journey. If you are just starting out, I have an online self paced course for you called Sobriety Reset. This is perfect for you if you are in the exploration phase. You might be in the process of taking a break, or experimenting with the idea of complete abstinence. Either way, this self-paced class will address the most common challenges from how to socialize without booze, how to prevent cravings, what to do if you get them, and self-care practices that strengthen your willpower so that you can take back control and feel great again! To find out more, just visit, sobrietyreset.com Also, if you find that you have been struggling to stay sober, and you want private one on one support you can visit sober life school and check out my private coaching program. My approach is to do the deep work that addresses root cause issues, not just the symptoms. There is a complete outline of the 3 phases are, what work we do together, and the evidence based practices that will help you achieve sobriety. If you're tired of struggling and feeling defeated, and ready to break free, then visit Soberlifeschool.com. You can book some time with me to ask questions to find out if private coaching is right for you. Keep in mind this is the busiest time of year, so if you're thinking about it, do it today before all the spots fill up! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Jake, and message me on Instagram to let me know what you think! Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!

On the surface you would think my guest Kimberly Berlin had a fancy life of privilege growing up in the south of France, attending Juillard studying ballet, and traveling all over the world. But behind the veil, was a life of abuse, abandonment and addiction. Today she will share her personal story of addiction, her moment of clarity and how she recovered. We get into some of the problems she encountered with someone at the first 12 step meeting she went to that kept her away for 7 years, but how she ultimately found her way back. Kimberly is now a licensed integrated psychotherapist and IFS practitioner to help people overcome addiction and trauma. We're going to get into what IFS is and how it works as a modality for trauma therapy. I've been doing it myself as a client, and I can personally vouch for how productive it can be at resolving long standing negative behavior patterns. Before we jump in, as usual, I have a couple of announcements. The first one is there is a new guide at Sober Life School.com for those who are just starting their sober journey called "How to quit drinking: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days". It has advice on how to prepare your environment, how to navigate social situations and practical tips on how to prevent cravings or what to do when you feel tempted. If you get it, you'll also be added to my newsletter. I have a lot of big plans for 2024 and I can't wait to share them with you! This includes partnerships with other well known teachers, including some NYT bestselling authors! The newsletter is where I will be providing early access links to all the new classes and the Self-Help Junkie online meetings as well. I'll announce it to people on my email list first, so make sure you get on it for early access and special bonuses. That's all for announcements, so without further delay, please enjoy this wide ranging conversation with Kimberly. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podcast Addict, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, or on your favorite podcast platform. You can watch the interview on YouTube here. Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Connect with Kimberly here: Website: https://www.kimberleyberlin.com/

"Ambien, when taken as prescribed works great. But basically when I took it, it did something I really liked and I immediately wanted more. My first thought after my first night of Ambien was 'more please'... I couldn't wait to go to sleep and that went on for years." Laura Cathcart Robbins is the best-selling author of the Atria/Simon & Schuster memoir, Stash, My Life In Hiding, and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room. She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School's nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Justice. Her recent articles on the subjects of race, recovery, and divorce have garnered her worldwide acclaim. She is a 2022 TEDx Speaker, and LA Moth StorySlam winner. Currently, she sits on the advisory boards of the San Diego Writer's Festival and the Outliers HQ podcast Festival Hi Friend, Welcome to the podcast. In case you're new here, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host. Before we get into it, I have a couple of resources for you. On my IG account @arlinaallen I am sharing tips from my new guide: How to quit drinking: 30 Tips for your first 30 Days. So be sure to follow me there if you are just starting your alcohol-free journey, share it with a friend, or just follow for daily sobriety inspo. You can also download the whole guide at soberlifeschool.com If you need a little extra support during the holiday season, you can join the free women's facebook group, just search "The one day at a time Private Women's Group". And I'll look forward to meeting you there!

My guest today has been sober for a whopping 37 years, which by itself is absolutely amazing, but it's his practical approach to success in business that piqued my curiosity. His approach is really centered on winning the day using sobriety principles. It's a combination of intention setting, habit stacking guided by a higher purpose. Doug Fleener is the author of a book called " The Day Makes the Year (Makes a Life): Transform your work and life with One-Day Success. Doug is a professional who has developed a way to apply recovery principles to business that he shares in his book. But before we jump in. I'm excited to share that Sober Life School has been re-launched with a fancy new website! It's a lot cleaner looking and has a new resource guide for you that I know will be very helpful for those wanting to quit drinking. The guide is called "How to Quit Drinking One Day At A Time: 30 Tips for your first 30 Days". These tips cover everything from how to prep for alcohol-free living, how to avoid cravings, what to do if you feel triggered, how to manage your emotions, how to talk to friends and family and a lot more. You can get a free copy just by visiting soberlifeschool.com This episode has a lot of really practical advice, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Doug and let me know what you think! Connect with Doug here: Website: https://www.dougfleener.com/ Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen On: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify Amazon Music Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo

We're doing something a little bit different today, which is to look at addiction through the lens of the family. I can't tell you how many times I've talked to the family members of someone struggling with drugs & alcohol who just want to know how to help and are feeling scared, angry and confused. Shoot, I've been there myself! It's a really tough spot to be in. So today I'm speaking with Dr. Carrie Wilkens about the outdated messaging that is currently being circulated, what actually hurts, and what to do instead. We are going to review solutions provided in her book Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change and the accompanying workbook with the tagline Evidence-based Skills to Help A Loved One Make Positive Change. To give you a little insight as to what you can expect, I'm going to share an Excerpt from her blog about the myth of rock bottom: "First, it promotes a belief that the change process cannot start until bottom is reached. It also implies that people won't change unless they are "punished enough" by their own behavior that they see the light. Both of these assumptions could not be further from the truth and they have contributed to many treatment providers sending patients away and telling them to "come back when you're ready." It's also contributed to family members and friends feeling like their only option is to step aside and watch their loved one suffer. Many opportunities for change and lives have been lost due to this flawed belief and culturally loaded statement." So good! I will leave a link in the show notes at odaatchat.com The Myth of Rock Bottom - https://motivationandchange.com/who-needs-to-hit-rock-bottom/ I do have one quick announcement: There is a new resource available on my website called "How to Quit Drinking: 30 Tips for your first 30 Days". It has practical strategies for getting started, how to avoid cravings, and what to do if you get a craving, and simple mindset hacks to get you through the day. You can download it for free at soberlifeschool.com. I know this is going to be a great episode, so if you find it helpful or know someone who will, please share it. Connect with Carrie here: Website: https://cmcffc.org/ Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen On: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify Amazon Music Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo

My guest today is a 2 time Grammy Award winner with 3 platinum albums, an Author, and Sober Advocate. I'm speaking of none other than Jim Sonefeld, drummer for Hootie and the Blowfish! In this episode we talk about what it was like to ride the wave of fame after they got their big break on The David Letterman Show, and how he used alcohol to cope. We also talk about the pain of losing fame and his moment of clarity when his 4 year old daughter said 4 simple words to him. But before we jump in, I have some resources for you. First is the bi-weekly podcast newsletter where you can get a digest of all the episodes, links to the show notes, and other resources that will support you on your journey to heal and thrive. To sign up, just visit SoberLifeSchool.com today! And if you enjoy the podcast, please share with a friend, it's the easiest way to support the podcast and I appreciate it more than you know! I'm really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Jim and let me know what you think! Connect with Jim here: Website: https://jimsonefeld.com/wp/ Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes! Listen On: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify Amazon Music Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo