The Blueprint

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to the latest episode of our The Blueprint Podcast! This time, we're excited to have a special guest, Cloetalk from TikTok, joining us for a discussion on some juicy topics. https://www.tiktok.com/@cloetalk?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc In this episode, we dive deep into the world of dating and relationships, exploring the nuances of attachment styles and the challenges of finding love in the fast-paced city of Los Angeles. Cloetalk brings her unique perspective to the conversation, drawing on her personal experiences and insights from her popular TikTok account. From navigating the complexities of modern dating to learning how to overcome insecurities and build stronger connections, this episode is packed with practical advice and fascinating insights. Whether you're a seasoned dater or just starting out, this episode is sure to offer plenty of food for thought. So sit back, relax, and join us for an entertaining and insightful conversation with Cloetalk on all things dating and relationships! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to this insightful video featuring the renowned speaker and mentor, Graybeardactual. In this video, we dive into the themes of personal growth, relationships, and masculinity.Graybeardactual will guide us on a journey to becoming a better version of ourselves. His unique perspective on these topics will help us to identify the areas in our lives that need improvement and give us practical tools to achieve our goals. The video begins by exploring the concept of personal growth and how it relates to our overall well-being. We will learn how to identify limiting beliefs and behaviors that hold us back from reaching our full potential.Graybeardactual shares his personal experiences and insights, giving us the motivation to start our own journey towards personal growth. Moving on, we discuss the importance of relationships and how they play a significant role in our personal growth.Graybeardactual provides us with valuable insights on building strong relationships, identifying toxic relationships, and cultivating healthy ones. Lastly, we touch on the topic of masculinity and how it has evolved over the years.Graybeardactual shares his thoughts on what it means to be a man in today's society and how we can embrace our masculinity without falling into toxic behaviors. In summary, this video is a must-watch for anyone who wants to become a better version of themselves.Graybeardactual's practical tips and profound insights will inspire and motivate you to make positive changes in your life. So, sit back, relax, and get ready to embark on an enlightening journey towards personal growth, relationships, and masculinity.Disclaimer: Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary.The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Support the show

Bri Larson, a clinical counseling psychotherapist and certified trauma coach, discusses topics such as overcoming avoidance, the impact of social media on personal development, understanding complex trauma, recognizing self-sabotage, and exploring the spectrum of narcissism with a focus on empathy and self-reflection.

Send us Fan Mail Today we have Charlotte from Welcometothepeasantparty on Tikok and Instagram. Charlotte makes informational charts and diagrams on dating and relationships but Charlotte is NOT a coach but she does create relatable and authentic content that will bring clarity to the modern dating scene! Especially those of you in Austin! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of "The Blueprint," host Jason Smith welcomes guest Matt Phifer, a licensed therapist, life coach, CEO, and relationship expert, to discuss the topic of healing insecure attachment styles and improving our relationships with ourselves and others. Matt begins by explaining the different types of insecure attachment styles and how they can impact our relationships. He emphasizes the importance of understanding our own attachment style and how it affects our interactions with others. Jason and Matt then delve into practical strategies for healing insecure attachment styles and building better connections with others. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and mindfulness in this process, as well as the role of therapy and other resources. Matt also shares his insights on building stronger relationships with romantic partners, family members, and friends, emphasizing the importance of communication, vulnerability, and trust. Throughout the episode, Jason and Matt provide valuable insights and actionable advice for anyone looking to improve their attachment style, deepen their connection with themselves, and build better relationships with others. Whether you're struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, or relationship issues, this episode has something for you. Tune in now to learn how to transform your relationships and your life. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to today's episode of the Blueprint podcast I'm your host, Jason Smith, if you haven't already make sure you click the subscribe button and share the podcast with your friends on social media and tag me in it @jbirdfit.Today we're going to delve into an important topic: Redefining Masculinity but we are going to talk about it minus all the additional labels like toxic or positive. I think that we have overcomplicated the topic of masculinity and that we already inherently know most of the answers that social media is asking but we are afraid to say it out loud for fear of being judged, rejected, or ostracized on social media.   There is a “victim mentality” culture out there that is growing on social media BUT it’s only on social media. When you go out into the real world these same discussions aren’t happening. The past several times I’ve gone out to dinner I’m seeing more and more men in community and supporting one other.On my dating content you all keep asking, where have all the good men gone. Welp, they are apparently having dinner with each other, building, growing, expanding and learning from each other. When I go to jujitsu, we are focused on connecting the dots, completing reps, cultivating friendship through sportsmanship, and doing something difficult, something that many of us have never done before.You have people from all different backgrounds, skills, and abilities who are there to complete a mission. We have an hour together where we work, we sweat, we challenge ourselves and each other, and we learn. No one puts anyone else down because at some point, we all started out as white belts and I’m one of them.So, do we need to redefine masculinity so everyone feels included or do we need to display what masculinity looks like in the real world so others can be inspired by the work it takes to have self-mastery. After watching a YouTube short from @vice on YouTube They had a group of men discussing some key points about the “masculinity crisis” and what that actually means to them. Fully believing that masculinity has to be redefined and that none of them really had any idea or direction how to do so. Side note: If you aren’t reading books on personal development, psychology, finances, and spirituality. You will find yourself in the same spot as these guys. You give yourself the things that you know that you lack. This is self-mastery. No one can do that for you nor will they.One man stated we are just our here trying to be whoever we are. And there it is. You don't know who YOU are! This group of men brought up the concept or experience of generational trauma (the be a man / big boys don't cry) and this trauma is being exposed and healed which is a key element to healing the greater collective and is work that we should all be exploring on different levels, and I say different levels because we are all going through and experiencing things differently but in real time with our own levels of awareness and understanding. When you understand that, you can begin to step back and realize that what someone else is experiencing doesn't have to be a fundamental threat to you or an attack on your world view but that's a conversation for another time because it's deeply nuanced. Another man stated that we don't know how to define where we are supposed to be. This comes from parents being taken out of the homes, constantly working to provide and consume, but not able to meet the emotional needs and support that each child requires. I know, in good faith, all the parents are out there doing the best they can, but we often compensate with material things when in reality your child needs a deeper connection with you. Not as a friend, but as Support the show

Send us Fan Mail 5 Tips to Overcome the Fear of Rejection Practice mindfulness and breathwork to take control of your nervous system and reduce the fear of rejection. Challenge and change your limiting beliefs about yourself and rejection. Start small by initiating conversations with people you're comfortable with, and gradually building up to more challenging interactions. Take ownership of your emotions and understand that rejection is not a reflection of your self-worth. Learn to detach from the outcome of a situation and focus on the process of what led up to it. We all have a fear of rejection in some area of our life, but we can overcome it by taking control of our nervous system through breathwork and by not being so attached to the outcome of a situation. It's important to remember that rejection is not a reflection of our self-worth, but rather a result of our attachment style and limiting beliefs. To practice overcoming the fear of rejection, try starting small by striking up a conversation with a cashier or someone you find interesting such as a mentor and take those interactions as a win even though it made you feel uncomfortable! As you do this more often, you'll feel empowered and gain confidence. Additionally, it's important to understand that rejection can be an opportunity for healing and growth, and it's not your job to convince someone of who you are. It's also important to remember that when someone leaves a relationship, it's not always a reflection on you, but rather an opportunity for them to heal their own unhealed trauma. How to overcome your limiting beliefs Start by becoming aware of the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that are holding you back. What are they? Write them down. Once you've identified your limiting beliefs, take a step back and ask yourself if this is even true? What supporting evidence do you have for that? Once you've had the opportunity to digest your self-evaluation you can reframe the limiting belief of "I'm not enough" and reframe it to "I'm capable of amazing things." Be kind...to yourself! Give yourself grace and practice self-compassion. It's time to wire in new beliefs by counteracting the old ones with positive self-talk. Inventory your friend group. Who is in support of your goals, dreams, and desires? Do you feel supported in your friend group or with your family? Do you need to limit time with the people who bring you down? If you would like to learn more about 1:1 Coaching or how you can be a part of the 21 Day Self-Love Challenge just head to the link below and make sure you get all your freebies while you're there! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit Support the show

Send us Fan Mail The concept of the Law of Attraction, as presented in the movie "The Secret" and the book "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, suggests that our thoughts and intentions can influence the experiences and outcomes in our lives. It's the idea that we are like a magnet and attract into our lives what we are currently being. It's the way we think, act, and feel or our emotional setpoint. It the difference of seeing things as happening to you (Victim mindset) or happening for you (Take the lesson.) It's the words that we use with ourselves daily and how we tell the story of our lives to ourselves and to others. Although this idea may be seen as unconventional, it can still have a positive impact on one's mental and emotional well-being. Just like a magnet, our thoughts, actions, and emotions can attract or repel certain experiences. When we have positive thoughts and good intentions, we are more open to receiving what the world has to offer. This can lead to a happier, lighter vibration and a greater chance of attracting the things we want in life. However, many of us tend to focus on what we don't want, leading to negative emotions such as doubt, worry, and anxiety. To overcome this hurdle, it's important to focus on the lessons of past experiences and to ask yourself "Why not me?" instead of dwelling on negative outcomes. Keep in mind that the Law of Attraction is not a linear path and there will be ups and downs. It doesn't make you immune to negative experiences but by doing the work you certainly become more resilient. By responding positively to difficult situations and asking how you can do better next time, you can open yourself up to new opportunities and better outcomes. Remember that the universe may have something even better in store for you, even if it's not exactly what you had planned. Allow yourself to be focused more on the moment than a particular outcome that you desire. If you focus too much on the outcome and it doesn't work out the way you wanted it, you may miss the gift that particular moment gave you. To stay connected and sign up for the 21 Day Self-Love Challenge head over to my Stan Store below. There are also tons of freebies to get you started! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit Support the show

Send us Fan Mail All we need is love, right? In modern dating things have gotten really interesting. I recently scanned the dating apps and saw A LOT of really familiar faces. I very quickly deleted the apps because that style of connection doesn't resonate with me and never really has. As I've done the inner work and took the deep dive into personal development and relationship dynamics, I quickly had a realization that changed the way I viewed starting relationships or rather it brought me back to my goals, values, and standards for a relationship with me and what that actually looks like. I was a teenager in the late 1900's and we did things like talk on the phone and had to wait a week to see each other with no conversation in between. Can you imagine!!! Not having any connection from the time, you set a date to the time you had the date??? That's unheard of today. Instead, we text 24 / 7 and have whole conversations all the while creating the meaning behind those messages in our heads. You don't even know this person yet. It gives a false sense of intimacy and closeness, but it's built off of your own emotions and meaning. We have lost the art of connection. So many people now will avoid a phone call because it makes them feel a certain way but THAT is connection! They prefer to text, private message, chat, or snap but the emotion that brings up isn't real. That's emotion you are assigning to that experience and that person based on your past experiences. They make you laugh via a meme that they didn't create or put any effort into, yet we will create the story about that person in our heads that they are funny. The meme is funny, they may end up only being slightly funny, or even not funny at all! They just know what makes them laugh and thought it would make you laugh as well. So in a way, you are connecting, and they acknowledge what is funny to you but still there is low to no effort being exerted. I've said it before, and I'll say it again. Do you know your goals, values, and standards for a relationship? Have you taken the time to write down what you are looking for? Have you take the time to do the inner work so you can become ALL of those things yourself? A few key takeaways to remember Your attachment style isn't fixed. You can heal your attachment style Professional help, coaching, and other modalities are available to help you heal Take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't The key to healing is Self-Love, learning to trust yourself, and learning to let go of what no longer serves you! Make sure you check out my links below for all my other content! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit Additional Resources: Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller The Power of Attachment by Diane Heller It's Not Me It's You By John Kim The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest The Origins of You by Vienna Pharaon Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Letting go is a process that can be difficult, but it's necessary for growth and healing. It's important to understand that letting go does not mean forgetting or dismissing the past, but rather accepting and moving forward. Understand your pain is a message that is often never confronted. We tend to ignore or suppress the emotions and situations that we believe is causing the pain. However, pain also keeps us safe, think about touching a hot stove with your right hand and you'll have a physical response just from me talking about it. Try seeing your pain a guide in your life that is there to help you navigate difficult situations. It's a warning sign that something isn't right and needs to be confronted, challenged, changed, or overcome.  It's time to start letting go of what no longer serves you. It's time to acknowledge the pain exists and where it comes from. It's time to accept that you cannot change the past but you no longer have to live there. It's time to embrace the present and co-create your future. Make sure you connect with me on all platforms here! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit Support the show